Domestic Violence Message Board

I am 62 and still am faced with the bias stigma and get back the credibility to be protected from ongoing abuse. Please help me get back on my feet after over 13 years of blow after blow and completely disregarded as unworthy of support and healing. WEAVE was who helped me back is 2011-2013 and since then I have been silenced and never given proper restitution. I do not understand why this has and continues to be such a very painful and traumatizing road. I did the right thing by leaving a horrible narcissistic emotionally traumatizing relationship of 24 years and have been punished for it? Please help me get support to get my life and transparency back so I can heal from the continued abuse of being avoided and allowed my civil and human rights to quality of life. I am a good person who has not been allowed to live free.

I have done more than one person should to be an awesome wife and change things about myself my husband put me down for like being a bartender because I thought his respect was something I could earn I have never disrespected or gone outside of my marriage and I am ashamed to say that from the very beginning even when we were dating he did very disrespectful things but he would apologized and I would want to believe him so I did. Fast forward almost 10 years we have been married 2 years when I met him he was a forklift driver for Costco in firefighter School I have nursed him through surgeries move to the other coast left everyone I know and loved so that he could start his career and that is when it all started.

tonight he got in my face told me he was going to put a gun to my head and pull the trigger and because he was so close to my face and he has hit me before I lifted my arm up too kind of cover my face and accidentally touched his chin a little wasn’t a hit nothing like that from there he proceeded to choke me so hard that I practically had to gouge his eyes to out to breathe. I am not worried about proving that he choked me because not only do I have the marks on my neck I have petechiae in my eyes which only comes from strangulation and lack of oxygen the thing is he is a firefighter thanks to the support he pretends like he never got from me and he tells me that he will get away with it because he knows all the police officers and I will be the one who ends up in jail I want to go get a protection order and have him removed from this house when it is he said she said and he has marks on him from me trying to get away from him are the police smart enough to see what those marks are and how they would happen or am I going to end up in jail for being stupid enough to marry a piece of crap who would rather hurt me then make me smile. I am divorcing him that is what the fight was about me getting half of the house. At this point I don’t care anymore and will never love him again but I have never been in trouble in my life and do not want to jeopardize my future because he destroyed any future he got to have with me. He is a very cruel very mean very vindictive person who would have no problem lying for his own benefit I honestly believe he is a sociopath is definitely bipolar. I just need some advice on how to go about staying safe in this house why my lawyer gets me half of it and half of his pension to.

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When my husband was recovering from a tree stand injury he told how he was remembering things that happened long ago that I needed to know what the truth really was, that what I thought was not what really happened, so he tells me this BRAND NEW version that is horrific, saddistic, sexually violent, and with no emotion or second thought he insisted that I agree with his new memory that totally 100% cleared his own guilt and victimnized in a very scary scenario told that I am this secret sexual deviant that asks for and forced him to use physical violence, he has maintained this version and even after telling this to his coworkers, bosses, and those who were somewhat aware of the actual event thats over 15 years old, they all said NO and they would definitely not forget IF he had told them that version back then

So I’m wondering where, who, how, or what would this possibly even come from? Who would think things up like that to begin with? The worse part is since that time he suddenly changed drastically toward me, and he has been calling me horrible names, he shows out by abusing me outside so others see how he is punishing me for being whatever he decides that day, liar, stupid, crazy, gold digger, lazy, disgusted and tired of supporting me and my family (untrue) every word of it, he shows off and complains about me and hes been doing the complaining since day one! Hes saying other nasty degrading dehumanizing things about me that are evil. Then he shows up with new friends much younger and the girl is all over him in our house, making me cook and clean,

So is there a connection? Who is doing this to our family? What is the best thing for dealing with this? I’m still in shock daily, and there is much much more……..

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My husband has locked me out of the house more than once and turn off all the lights. Is this considered abuse? 

My boyfriend tortured me for months with not allowing me to sleep. Then he manipulated me into using meth to get to work because he said it would help me feel better after an injury. I tried turning it down over and over again, but he pretty much made me do it. Now I am addicted to the drug and afraid that if I go to rehab he will hurt my 19 year old daughter. He took my car apart yesterday which is mother’s day. He has threatened my life on multiple occasions and he even kicked me in the ribs. My family and friends have abandoned me because he’s so terrible. I moved an hour away from my old home because he said he had a job. He never helped with any bills and has prevented me fr 

He made sure I did not have a car to drive for over a year now. I’m really scared of filing a restraining order because he threatened to “bury me 6ft under the ground” if I did. 

Hi I have been married for 20 years, we have a 16 year old daughter, a 9 year old son & I am currently 8 months pregnant. My husband and I have always had a bad relationship and he has always gaslighted me and been emotionally abusive to me. About 10 years ago he started being physically abusive also. Things like slapping me, grabbing me by my throat, spitting on me & dragging me by my hair. He has done these things in front my kids numerous times, but its the worst when no one is around. Most everytime he is angry he kicks me out of the house. This has been going on since the beginning of our relationship. 

 I have tried to leave him several times over the last 10 years but I have failed to make it on my own everytime. He would never let me take the kids though & I would miss them too bad. He is always reminding me that they will always choose him over me. I love them so much.

 Everyday since then he spits on me, calls his unborn baby names, threatens me, calls me fat & stupid & last week he blacked my eye during a physical altercation that started because he tried to take my phone & keys out of my hand. This is the second time he has physically hurt me since I’ve been pregnant the first time he choked me. I have called the police to have him removed from the apartment we live in (his name only on the lease) & they said there was nothing they could do.

 If I retaliate it becomes a huge fight in front of my kids & they end up mad at me over it. I don’t know what to do. Please help

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I was a resident in a shelter for victims of violence I was involuntarily admitted to the hospital for a mental health eval this past Friday oh I returned today and I wasn’t able to get in and then when I called they said they were kicking me out and I asked for my personal property including my dog and they told me it wasn’t a good time the dog is my therapy dog the police aren’t helping what do I do.  

There’s a reoccurring problem at the shelter they like to force people out in the last month and a half there have been out and other people willing to choosing to leave because of unsafe unfit her on ethical practices. It’s not a safe place is actually causing a lot more trauma and it’s not right. 

I have a toxic family and would appreciate not having to constantly feel weak at my parents words. Emotional abuse. Nothing physical. My whole life emotional abuse. 

I’m 21 now and I’m mentally exhausted. 

What can I do with the Washington County police didn’t help my daughter and grandbaby with the man that beat her? 

I called the cops after hearing the boyfriend beat my daughter? With the baby in the home. The boyfriends mother did the same thing to and didn’t help her. I was in a decent relationship for 20 years. I’m at a loss that they did put the abuser im jail!! She’s tried to leave he don’t allow it. The police have been a few times. I don’t care how many times. U never ever leave a child and and mother in the home with a abuser!! If they was to lazy to do the paper work they don’t need to cops. 

My question is how long do I stay? 
 
Why does she treat me like this? 

Back-round time; 
My Fiancé and I have been together for 15 months, at the beginning her life was a mess, and mine was not in much better shape if not worse. Both of us have very different kind of issues. They have been caught talking to old flame of which has an active order of protection against them. Truthfully, I did take it upon myself to look though the phone. Invading privacy sure, but I feel that once we have been sexual privacy kinda becomes shared. I am very open with my phone and anyone I chat with even in passing. Upon asking her about it she turns the blame and makes me feel at fault. 
 
we fight about a few things here and there, I am not the greatest at sticking to my word from time to time, I feel like I don’t want to upset people by sticking to my guns so I tend to lean on just agreeing that I’m the bad person. I know I could be better and I actively try to correct my faults before they happen and then when they happen trying to learn. 
Cut to recently she has been talking to some guy on snap for a month and is still calling victim. Guy lives in Florida so even if it is cheating, I love this girl and want to figure it out. 
she has hit me a few times, threaten to kill me or herself.

My husband and I have been together for just over 3 years we have two kids together (our oldest, 2, was born out of wedlock). The abuse at first was very minuscule seeing as we live with his parents for the first 2 years of us being together. At first it was just manipulation, he would manipulate the circumstance to best suit himself even if that meant contradicting himself. And if I called him out on it he would just say that I was crazy and that he never said that. For the longest time I couldn’t see what he was doing. He was slowly building thing up to the point where I started questioning my own sanity. Even simple things like events that never took place or even whole conversations that happened, he would try to convince me they hadn’t. At the time I was very heavily influenced by the way that I was raised. That being that the woman is to submit to the man and the man is in charge of everything and anything and everything the man wanted, he was supposed to get. Whether I wanted that or whether it was wrong or not. That leaves a lot of lead way for the man to do whatever the fuck he wants. He then started to use that against me whenever he wanted sex but I didn’t. This happened quite a lot. He frequently tried to make me feel bad and guilty when I said I didn’t want to. He would tell me that it’s my responsibility as a wife to give him what he wants. Because I had given my body to him and that I belonged to him so if he wanted sex then he should have it. He would make me feel so guilty and bad half the time that I complied. And when I didn’t comply he would blame me for his actions.

About two weeks ago now, we got into an argument about the house is never cleaned and that I’m lazy and a fucking slob and how nothing ever stay cleaned (we have two children age 2 and 7 months in a tiny house. No shit) and how I don’t do my job (btw I’m a stay at home mom). He told me me everything better be cleaned by the time he got home or else. I said, or else what? He said or else I’m going to tie you up and take you to Alabama where I can beat your ass (we live in Florida). I was in total disbelief and didn’t really know what to say. I wouldn’t put it passed him at this point. I try to act as if what he said hadn’t shaken me and tell him he will do no such thing. He then goes into our bedroom and proceeds to take our laundry basket full of clean, folded clothes, and starts throwing them all over the room, he knocks down a couple of things that are on the dresser while he’s throwing clothes everywhere and then throws the basket on the floor. He walks out and tells me I better have this shit cleaned up before he gets back home. I broke down in tears after he left.

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I was abused by narcissist who has had me falsely arrested for DUI because I tried to kill myself the morning before on a Saturday that’s Sunday evening I finally I was fed up and tried to escape. It was really bad weather and I flipped my car because I overcorrected when I hit a puddle. I’ve dealt with this man’s abuse emotional and intimidating me by hitting walls next to my head. I’ve been falsely arrested and now come to find out I probably will violate my probation because he canceled my SR-22 without my consent and I am being treated like crap I’ve had to pay the ultimate price for being emotionally abused and intimidated and treated like crap I have lost everything thrown out on the streets being disabled the cops told me to leave and go to a shelter.

 I think that narcissistic abuse since it’s one of the worst types should be considered domestic violence but every time I call the domestic violence hotline they tell me there is nothing they can do for me because I was not hit or physically abused. What is wrong with the situation I know how both feels and like I said I’d rather be physically abused than what I have just went through and I have to pay the ultimate price for being abused and cannot get help being the fact that I was disabled and abandoned. This is a messed up situation and I believe something needs to be done about it because people like me are just left to deal with it and put in jail for nothing like we’re not already traumatized enough

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How can I get help I just called the police on my husband but they didn’t do anything 

Please help me 

Does your company help someone who is going through an emotional abuse?, where there is a woman who live with a family, & she is mm of blood related but is used for money the family is being control by her bank no rest hardly. She has a pacemaker & is really trying to avoid stress from struggling to survive. Emotionally she is filled with a lot of anger & sometimes harm herself to feel good. Do you help women like that? 

She use to live in her car for 8 yes & is deciding to go back & live in her car just to have peace again. She is going through an emotional stress thats gone to harm herself or others 

I am in the middle of a court battle with my ex girlfriend. We ended up becoming mutually toxic and abusive to each other. I ended up with pending charges. This is going to sound surprising, but I genuinely want to be able to support victims of domestic violence (which psychological abuse has a long term negative effect on your brains functioning) but that’s not an easy case to prove. 
Anyways! I was wondering if you could provide me with some tips on how to support and volunteer for causes like these with a pending record. I am having so much trouble finding jobs and now I found a passion for helping kids like i was who suffer from long term ACE. 
If you have any advice on how I can still support my community, please respond! 
P.s. soory I didnt know how to email you directly. 

My circumstances seem highly questionable but I am finally ready to become a better person than I was before. I had a weak value system and didn’t stand up for my boundaries when I needed myself the most. I refuse to let my past traumas continue to hinder my future. And I know my purpose is to help young adults or kids prevent themselves from walking down the same path I had to in order to find my purpose. To help those who have no voice, learn that they do matter and their voice was made to be heard. Proud Supporter of ACE programs. 

If I hit my girlfriend and no cops were called and then a few days later she spit in my kid’s face and then the cops were called would I still get in trouble still I think yes someone else said no 

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I am a victim of domestic violence and unlike many before me I am a survivor. Back in October 2020 I was physically assualted by my boyfriend and I finally told him that I couldn’t take it anymore. I said look these bruises all over me are from your hands. I asked him to please get help with his drug abuse which fueled his abusive behavior towards me. He says to me so what are you saying that I abused you. Then he said I will never stop using marijuana and if you don’t like it then get the f out of my house. This was the home I’d lived in and took care of him and everything in the house for almost 4 years. Two days later he served me eviction notice and told me I had 7 days to get out. 90% of everything in the house belonged to me. I responded to the notice in time just asking for a reasonable amount of time for me to find a job and a safe place to go being I have no family to help. Once he realized he couldn’t just toss me out in a week he began his mission to destroy my life. He just served eviction but now he forbid anyone from coming on his property to help me pack and get out. For the next month I endured his abuse emotionally, physically and was sexually assualted. I made a appointment to meet with the judge to file a TPO on him but he managed to get me served first literally 24 hours before I had someone coming with a moving truck and my neighbor had rented a storage unit. My world was turned upside down as I now became homeless and broke. I had to seek shelter in a Domestic Violence Shelter that my own mother founded. [Shortened for length]

This has been the biggest battle and fight of my life. Please help before I become a Casualty of Clayton county Ga Courts. I might die trying but I will not remain silent anymore and MY VOICE WILL BE HEARD. [Name redacted for privacy]

what can i do i was assualted with a baseball bat by my next door down neighbor fractured t11,broken right hand ,concussion,and right eye was gouged pretty bad, i just was told that the prosecuting attorney is not going to press charges . I had a friend who saw the whole assualt begining to end vwhat can i do im fricken furious 

he had a loaded AR- 15 and a glock loaded with safetys off laying on his couch 

Hi. I am a landlord. I warned the tenants if I hear any more domestic violence I will boot them both out. 

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I warned the tenants if I hear any more domestic violence I will boot them both out. I do not mean to be callous, i was assaulted over 50 times, and now that I have been reading about domestic violence, its upset me, because I realized I have had domestic violence. I never even condidered it even when my lover said he kill me and held a gun on me, and all the men who verbally abused me. So wake up call. The violence I hear is shouting really loud, enought for it to travel to my home and wake me up at 2 am. Cursing, smashing the door shut. She turns out to be a piece of work herself, a grifter I just found out, conned her way into my rental with the Fires in california, but turns out she did not lose her house and is scamming FEMA, gofundme, so not a nice couple and it triggers me horribly. I gave them a 2700 off a month to help them thinking they had lost everything, but now I see they played me as a fool. They were opportunists. I am scared of the man. I am small a elder and bed ridden, so I feel in danger. Thank you for this site. 

 I left an abusive relationship over 20 years ago after careful planning. I have gone to therapy for the resulting PTSD. My abuser died 9 years ago, I still hate him. How can I get over it? I know we are supposed to “forgive” people, but, I don’t know how to do that. In fact, I want to go spit (or worse) on his grave, and I think I would if I wasn’t 1800 miles away. Any suggestions are greatly appreciated. Thank you. 

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I consider the abuse I suffered as domestive violence, although it was not physical, it was emotional, psychological, verbal, controlling, demeaning. It was awful. 

If my ex claimed when he hit me it was an accident and he claims it wasnt out of anger bc he wasnt yelling and i reported it would they believe him? 

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We are going through custody case bc i wanted to move out and make my own money. I recorded him secretly for my lawyer as evidence im not the person he told judge i was…he hit me one month later and i got it on video and audio. Lawyer said if i cant prove it to be anything but accident ill lose my kids its been almost a year and i havent reported it and just moved out w our kids in sept 2020 but im still scared of him 

My fiance gets mad at things and they can be minor things like a fire alarm beeping or a sink that leaks . when this occurs he yells F%$&! God , I hate my life , he pounds his fist or he throws bottles or objects . he slapped me and pushed me a long time ago . when he starts yelling I can feel my anxiety going up a lot . the other day he was mad at his 7 son and he started kicking him . is this normal ? 

Additional comments: He does this a lot , has pushed me before and slapped me a year ago for no reason . he drives the car super fast when he is mad or throws the Christmas tree on the ground . 

I’m a bit lost and I find myself hurt, terrified, and confused. My wife spent nearl 17 years Finacially abusing me and has spent the last 14 months making me sleep on a floor while verbally and emotionally abusing me. She wants to randomly move on now but I’m making things worse because I cannot stope talking about my feelings, begging, annoying her with very serious matters. I’m not aloud to talk about the past and I’m expected not to talk to here because all I do is complain. I feel broken and I know I do not deserve all of this to include constant public humiliation. She has already longed threatened to take everything from me and kick me out on the street. She has made up lie after lie to deface my nam, take all of my money call it the family’s money while she took money from our account and has her own. 

I am so depressed and lonely I have never felt nor expected this I just can’t take it anymore. I ask for counseling she says he’ll no. I explain why she replies she doesn’t care and I am sick to my stomach when she uses our children as weapons against me one minute then acts like nothing happened the next. I am scared and need help. I do not know what to do  

I can’t talk to my family or friends about this because they will most definitely hurt him. So here it goes. 
I’ve been with my now fiancé for 7 and a half years. I suffer from EXTREME social anxiety and depression, as well as diagnosed PTSD. He knows this and he is very supportive of me. Until he drinks. My fiancé is an alcoholic and sometimes his drinking turns to anger and that anger is taken out on me. 3 years ago he put a cigarette out on my stomach and tried to choke me, held my nose and mouth shut while he pinned me down, and gave me a black eye. I forgave him. 2 years ago he got very drunk while driving so I told him I wanted to get out, i would call someone to give me a ride home. He took that as me going to cheat on him. He sped up, ran red lights, ran stop signs, cut people off, we almost wrecked more times than I can count. he locked my door and held my arm so tight to where I had bruises. I managed to dial 911 with my free hand without him knowing. I didnt say anything on the phone directly, I held it by the seat and kept mentioning where we were, hoping the police could get the hint. Luckily, they did.

he uses my past trauma against me and has even told me I deserved it. Just last night he called me a “stupid fucking piece of shit bitch” (slurred of course) because I asked him if he would slow down drinking. It led to an argument that lasted for 3 hours. I talked calmly and never raised my voice, I cried and begged him to stop but it only made him more angry. its like he was looking for a reason to be mad at me. and it made it worse when he couldn’t find a reason. this morning he woke up and acted like nothing happened. and I forgave him.

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My husband of three months has threatened to move out with his 20 year old son because I “bitch” all the time about his son living at our house for free and smoking weed all day. He puts his son first because he feels guilty about his divorce. But why is he not putting me first? 

Please help me. Does this mean he really does not love me anymore? 

I’m in a really emotionally abusive relationship. I want to get away but every time I try he threatens to get involved in my custody case with my exhusband. He’s Jewish and I recently told him I’m getting my faith back in Christ and he told me I was mentally sick and going to tell people that I’m on drugs and my kids are in danger. I have court in 5 months for my custody case. I broke up with him before 4 months ago and in the time we were broken up he contacted someone my exhusband new and said he had concerns over my drinking and parenting with the kids to try and hurt me. I got back with him before I found this out. He recently texted all the threats about him needing to “protect” my kids again from me. When I told him that is extremely wrong and he would be hurting my kids he said, “the world is a scary place” I think he had a low IQ and is extremely selfish. I don’t know what to do. My temporary hearing for my boys is next Wednesday with the permanent hearing 5 months after that

How do so get away from this man without him endangering me winning this case and protecting my children? My exhusband is not a present father. They cry every time I drop them off at his house because only the nanny is there.

Is it possible to fix a really bad domestic violence situation between a man and women’s relationship.i truthfully am not sure what level the situation im in might b concidered. Is it posdoble to have emotional and mental breakdown and not really b aware have and caused by abuse.. if all kinds n severe injuries inflicted? Thank you 

Im not sure as far as arxuak abuse goes. Not educated enough toknow. Im thinking probably sexuality abused in domestic situation too. But not sure. Ty 

What should I do? I’m home recovering from Emergency Open Heart Surgery. I’m a Senior male and my older brother that lives with me) He physically attacked me this afternoon about 1:00Pm in a rage of anger. I suffered a bloody ear (expected I’m on blood thinners) and couple three facial scratches, some bruising. He didn’t hit me but had his hands about my head and ears jerking my head around while I was on the steps. Since I’m recovering from two surgeries the open heart and one surgery from last weekend it’s been a rough time here. (I will try to hide this event today from my wife). Tonight I feel some chest pain, it’s mild but is noticeable. I’m wishing tonight I had died during the surgery this so ridiculous. 

I know he’s worried about the outcome of the election he watches it daily, he’s worried about his Soc Sec and the democrats are going to steal it. He’s worried about the stock market and the economy and he’s aggravated about the whole pandemic scene what the new restrictions are bringing. I will NOT report this, I don’t want him in trouble for anything. I don’t even charge him for living here but he does buy his own food and personal needs. He told me during the verbal argument, Quote: “You are not the same person anymore, I don’t know who the “hell” you are anymore!” “But since your surgery this all has been building up!”

I don’t want a reply of: “You don’t deserve that”, “You shouldn’t be treated like that”, or”You should leave” etc. All of the obvious things you’d hear upon telling someone what’s going on or what’s previously happened. I am in a marriage in which i am infrequently (once every 6-8 months) physically taunted/abused whatever you’d like to call it. My husband does not control or restrict my daily schedule or who i see, I have unlimited access to all of our money, I could go back to work if I wanted to but don’t have to work. He makes me a snack at 11pm at night after working hard all day, he’s a great & patient father to our children, he stands up for me, if i ask him to do something/anything he does it. However, he infrequently becomes very scary and has hit me, spit on me, spanked me, smacked me… sacred the living shit out of me. I have ran from him. I do not fight back or it will get worse. etc. He has put me down emotionally (obviously)

I guess my question is…. How do I move forward to a positive manner trying to salvage my emotions because I do want to stay married? How to do navigate through the trauma’s so i can enjoy life?

6 years ago I moved my boyfriend onto my boat. He had the engine hatches open saying he was working on something. since he was sitting on the couch and doing nothing I tried to close the hatch and he yelled at me and told me to leave it that he would do it. I said okay and went out for a few hours. When I came back I random stairs fell into the enclosed hatch and ruined my life. I went to the gym twice a day and had a job. Now I can barely make it to the bathroom. He still lives here and daily he calls me a stupid effing seaward every time I ask him for a glass of water. The hot water heater went out 5 years ago and he has left me laying here filthy and dirty and unable to take a shower. I don’t know what to do. 

He has never hit me, yet. But last night he got half an inch from my face with his fist balled up because I asked him not to walk my dog after he drank a pint of 100 proof schnapps. I’m terrified.  

Hi. I stupidly signed a lease with a new boyfriend. I paid for move in costs, deposit and I even had to pay his past due electric bill in order to get my service transferred to the new place because he was on the lease. (I lived alone prior). After the 1st week of us living together he would pick arguments with me and he even threw a tv remote at me which hit me on the eyebrow and cut it open. 3 weeks after living together, he was in another bad mood. He didn’t want to go out to dinner so I went alone. When I got back home, he started throwing things at me. Change that was on the counter, a lighter that struck my face under my eye and something bigger and heavier that I blocked with my hand. I was yelling at him to stop. And to leave! He called the cops and I went to jail.

 It took 18 months for my attorney to get this to a simple assault (which reads as didn’t touch anyone but someone felt threatened). I stand by my innocence

It has been over 3 years. This guy for this entire time sends me text messages. Love notes. I miss u. I love u. I have blocked him on social media, email and even his phone number but he got a new number. This guy owes me so much money even prior to this going down. 
What is your advise? My attorney said if he isn’t sending threatening texts there is nothing I can do about it 

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What should I do ? What can I do? 
 
My live in boyfriend has started becoming more and more physically aggressive towards me … again. 
 
A year ago, he beat me up and crashed the car we were driving into a tree, ending our relationship and sending him to jail for 6 months. 
 
After getting released he came to find me , apologized, and I didn’t take him back at first, but after a lot of talking , I decided I loved him , maybe it was the drugs, etc ect lots of factors right , 
 
Fast forward to now a year later , and he’s begun displaying violent actions toward me, and I don’t know what to do. I could call the police, and put him in jail for another 3 years but , I REALLY don’t want to do that. The first time was hard enough. 
 
But now, I don’t know what to do. Everytime I try to break up with him, we end up back together. My suspicion is that he doesn’t want to leave because he doesn’t have anywhere other than his parents house to go, so he’s trying to make the relationship work until he can figure something out and then leave me.

I know the answer is leave him. But what if.. he won’t leave ! Now what ! And more importantly. What do I do? I feel lost and alone. And defenseless. And alone. 
 
I also fear that if we do break up he’s just going to tell everyone that I’m a b*tch or a liar and make up a bunch of stuff to everyone to discredit me because he says I ruined his life by sending him to jail that first time . 
Ah. 
Sorry if it’s too long. I just .. yeah. Thanks for anyone who response

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How can I unravel 5 years of mental and physical abuse from my narcissistic sons father so I can be okay mentally 

Is bum rushing me and then chest bumping me an example of physical assault? I have dealt with years of mental abuse, but not he is escalating to this. He is in federal law enforcement, so he is well known in this tactic. Can I charge him with this? 

Can I accuse him of it a while after it happened if it is assault? I was not aware that that is abuse.  

My huaband often discredits me to other people as “a joke”. He told me today about doing it again today. i called him on his ass for it this time. here’s the scenario: 
Yesterday, I had an eye exam. I have not bought new eyeglasses (I need them to actually see) for about 5 years. It was time. So in picking out frames, I saw an attractive comfortable inexpensive frame. And i like how it looked on me. My husband saw one that he also liked. It was designer and yes, I like them as well but I didn’t want to pay the designer price in the frame since I usually sink the majority of my eyeglass expense on the lens. (i also wear contact lenses but I’m in a quest to drastically reduce that usage) 
My husband persuaded me to purchase the designer frame (I really did like them) and he paid for it (we both work, are both good with our money and financially able to make these kinds of purchases). 
 
Well, he called me from a break at his job today to tell me he was telling two female coworkers how I made him spend $1000 on a designer frame (it was actually hundreds and hundreds less than that and I mean HUNDREDS LESS + I got a 40%, discount).

I never even intended to talk about an eyeglass purchase to ANYONE, let alone MY coworker. And if i ever mention my husband AT ALL, i always mention him in a good light. But lateley he’s taken to discrediting me. So now, if i ever meet these two coworkers for whatever reason, they already have a bad image if me and an image of him as the suffering husband.. i swear to God that is enough to make me divorce him. am i making too much of it? i just think that’s a slippery slope 

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I’m not sure if I’m in an verbally, emotionally or abusive relationship. Could you help me figure that and maybe what I should do? 

My boyfriend of 6 years gets really upset anytime there is a slight inconvenience. We could have the smallest argument and it’s all my fault. Yesterday he was yelling in my face, spit at me, threw my stuff out the window, shoved me. He’s never physically hit me but he pretends like he’s going to. He says I make him so mad and that he just needs to stop caring and worry about what I’m doing to not make him upset. I always try asking what’s wrong but he never talks so I eventually stop asking and when I stay quiet it makes things worse. 

Is my husband abusive? 

When he gets mad, everything is my fault. If I disagree or tell him he’s wrong about anything, I’m being a b*tch or pushing his buttons. Last time we fought he told me I was gonna push him and make him do something to me he couldn’t take back. 
Then when I said he was suggesting that he was going to beat me or hurt me, he said that I was making sh*t up he never said that or insinuated that. 

My verbally and emotionally abusive ex boyfriend of 6 years called me earlier this month to tell me that he was getting married. We split in June, he got with his girl in August, now in October he tells me they’re getting married. He told me that it could have been us getting married, it could have been me with a ring on my finger. He constantly berates me for not moving on, he talks poorly about the new partner I’m with and tried fighting him when he tried to get my things back for me because I didn’t want to see him. He and his girlfriend would talk horribly to me and about me as well as my partner, and now they want to be friends with me. I don’t understand and I feel like I am going crazy. 
 

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Is this the end 

How do I leave my husband who abuses me in every way possible to make me feel like nothing when he has custody of our daughter and has drug problems h he has drug me through the mud and ruined my life and reputation and still has a hold on me now I can’t leave because I am afraid he will abuse my child and would become homeless again how would that help me out there is no way out 

For months i feel that I’ve been mentally abused by my current partner and I can’t leave eith fear of her doing something bad to me. 

We have been together for nearly 3 years but in the past year she has become very controlling asking where I’m going and what I’m doing. Even if I tell her where I’m going and what I’m doing she doesn’t believe it and gets angry to.the point I’m to scared to leave the house just in case she will do something bad. 

She seems to take advantage of me when I’m at my most vulnerable such as return from work after a long day, coming back from visiting friends or even after drinking a beer with my friends….this she chooses this time to try a provoke an arguement with me. 

I don’t know what to do because it feels like when there is an arguement I’m always the one to be blamed by her and made to feel like it’s all my fault everytime and i have to accept all responsibility for the way that she feels. 

Please! Any advice 

I am in an abusive marriage with 2 kids the abuse is getting worse,itbis verbal with threats to shoot me and kick me out of house,take my 2 boys,I work,pay all bills most of rent,but he is an MFT, inappropriate, abuses me verbally while on phone with clients,sells prescription bdrugs out of our home,gets his mom ex drug addict to help him abuse me and kids,carries a gun on him at all times ,has at least 2; others in house, threatens me day and night,degrades me in public, in front of kids,yells me I won’t be believed and tells me to get out, you ain’t taking my boys and he has filed several.lawsuits and won,he has over 65,000 in bank ,makes me spend my whole check everyonth 

The police have been called twice ,the do nothing and I am afraid my kids will be taken while I am trying to save them,he beats the dog,he beats the kids, he teaches them to fight each other, his mom helps, 

After 12 years with my girlfriend and two children we have together ive been arrested for domestic. For three years I have been attacked physically by her and would leave/ run to avoid altercation, it has been getting progressively worse and even in front of our sons. We broke up but she has it in her head were still together, refuses to leave our home and still wants to fight so I moved out

. She has stopped letting me see our sons. 

After trying to visit my sons and regain balance in my life an argument via phone took place about a babysitter at our once shared home to watch children who have a father. I expressed my hurt and emotion and went to leave, while leaving my house on bike she caught up in a car and hit me, as I was getting up she proceeded to attack me so I defended myself without unnecessary force. The police were called and she said I was the aggressor with false claims resulting in my arrest. I have pending charges and understand if your unable to speak on it but she has since spread rumors to friends and family stating I’m lost to drugs and had an affair with a drug addict resulting with me cutting ties with them, dhs and cps contacted her regarding the d.v to explain the victim’s role and to check the well being of our sons,

My question is pending trial and dismissal of my pending charges am I obligated or subject to abide by and defend myself against said allegations? 

And can an ex g/f who is involved with cps make claims true or false of child endangerment/ neglect on my new g/f in lieu of her children? 

4 children run the risk of being taken and put in the system as well as criminal charges and jail for party’s involved please take this into consideration, I hope to hear back from you and thank you for your time. 

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My ex wife is trying to kill me & police won’t do anything about it. I cannot afford a lawyer to take her to court. 

She has falsely accused me of indescent exposure to my child and said that I sexually molested her, they have done multiple exams on her and nothing was found. 

After months of her making accusations about things the judge and my probation officer now know she falsely accused me of the charges against me. Later today my niece had found a post on Facebook of her trying to sell my property, there was a post from a man who is in law inforcment asking if there property was big enough to dig holes undetected and my ex wife replied “ to dig many holes, dig one big enough and I’ll throw in the body” this guy had also said that he was going to take me to the canyon up the mountain and shoot me. I have brought this to the attention of police and they all says they couldn’t help me and that it was a civil dispute any tips

I’m confused with my relationship and I don’t know whether I should stay in it, find help for me and my partner or leave it. In the beginning of our relationship, he wouldn’t hit me physically, but he’d find a way to harm using objects and try to play it “cool” in other words, try to convince me that I was crazy or that I hurt myself and I couldn’t ever explain to myself how I would get pain in my body. My body doesn’t usually bruise up quickly as others ,but that doesn’t mean I am not tolerating any pain. To better understand this, I was in the front seat of his friends car, and he was in the back seat. We were angry at each other, so we weren’t communicating as much, he would conversate with his friend and then me and his friend would conversate. Within that moment, he used the little storage behind the central console, to hurt me. My hand was resting on it and he closed it while my hand was there and hurt me, I didn’t move at all thinking maybe he just pushed it down by accident, but he did it again 2 more times. I started screaming at him and he said ”oh I didn’t know there was something there” He would do other things such as that and it got worse to the point when I started responding back in such ways and eventually it became physical abuse. 

I am convinced at this moment that everything is my fault because i bitched slapped him and threw his phone across. But now, I’m thinking what the heck happened. I’m confused as to where if it was all my fault or if he had all right to hurt me back. 

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My fiancé emotionally abused me in the last month and then left and blocked me with no contact. I’m in depression, have had frequent anxiety attacks, went to mount Sinai too where I was injected to relax with my fiancé only and then he just vanished. 

Our culture is different and hence we weren’t sleeping/living together but he was staying at my place every other day. 

I finally have the courage to leave a verbally and emotionally abusive marriage. My husband is a narcissist and he has choked me out to the point that I had to go to the ER. Ive lost myself to this relationship mentally, emotionally and physically and now my health is being affected.We argue all the time and he’s told me to leave. And I also need to leave for my peace of mind. We discussed shared custody. Now that the time is approaching he’s acting irrationally and using our daughter to control me. I live in NY and can’t afford a place there so I intend to move to NJ. He said I can’t move anywhere that he can’t get to our daughter in 30 minutes. Can I get some advice on what my rights are and what he’s is. Also because I’m moving to another state can he say that I’m kidnapping our daughter. He said I’m 

Not going anywhere with her. 

He’s currently unemployed, I take care of 90% of the expenses so he’s losing that support and giving me a hard time. Help pleas 

My partner of almost 5 years and I got into a argument and she had left with almost all her belongings. She the comes back and gets her clothes and I asked about the hiegen products she had taken everything I asked her for my stuff back she said fine I’ll bring it back if she can. Then grabs the laundry soap and bleach and started to walk out I said no your not taking all that she said yes she is and I noticed that she had the mace I had bought her and I said no you can put some in a couple of empty water bottles

and leaves 20-30 minutes later to guys show up with a long heavy pipe and the other has a knife the one with the pipe crouches and started swinging hard for my legs and the one with the knife starts swinging yelling you hit her in the face not her face I’m like what the hell is going on backing up yell I didn’t hit her get the fuck out the one with the knife See’s the broken shovel handle I’m defenseless and then I see white for a minute I’m holding up my arms like a boxer trying to grab the things swung at me I see white again but I fall to the ground the guy with the pipe screams not her face this is for her and hits my left leg so hard my teeth hurt I know I’m done for my knee and leg or broken I can see it by the way my leg is laying the one with the knife pushed me back and said not the face and I keep thinking what the hell why do they keep saying that but that’s what I need advice on and how long do I have to fill charges 

Please help me yes I’m a man who is the abused ok help me 

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Been with an abusive man for 11 years now…we have 3 kids. I’ve been suicidal for a while but now I’m starting to feel like it’s my only way out. I’ve called the cops on him at least twice and they have never done anything about it. I have no family here, they are across the country. I’m too poor to take care of the kids on my own. I just feel I will never be happy again and I’m ready to end myself soon. 

 I finally have the courage to leave a verbally and emotionally abusive marriage. My husband is a narcissist and he has choked me out to the point that I had to go to the ER. Ive lost myself to this relationship mentally, emotionally and physically and now my health is beingaffected.We argue all the time and he’s told me to leave. And I also need to leave for my peace of mind. We discussed shared custody. Now that the time isapproaching he’s acting irrationally and using our daughter to control me. I live in NY and can’t afford a place there so I intend to move to NJ. He said I can’t move anywhere that he can’t get to our daughter in 30 minutes. Can I get some advice on what my rights are and what he’s is. Also because I’m moving to another state can he say that I’m kidnapping our daughter. He said I’m 

Not going anywhere with her. 

He’s currently unemployed, I take care of 90% of the expenses so he’s losing that support and giving me a hard time. Help pleas 

I can see it by the way my leg is laying the one with the knife pushed me back and said not the face and I keep thinking what the hell why do they keep saying that but that’s what I need advice on and how long do I have to fill charges 

Please help me yes I’m a man who is the abused ok help me 

My abusive NOW EX-BF refuses to let me move out of the apartment becAuse he quit his job (to no doubt run around with some chic,) and needs me to pay the rent. 

How do I get out? 

I’m not leaving him all of my stuff, no way. 

He has stolen $4,000 worth of music gear from me and now is just going to sit here and make me pay all the bills. 

What do I do? 

He sleeps on the couch every night and is only nice to me when he wants something. Other than that, I am a piece of shit. He is so mean. It’s almost like I feel like I’m being held hostage. 

I’m afraid to do anything in fear he’ll just literally beat the crap out of me. 

He holds onto the keys to the apartment like the place is his but yet he doesn’t pay any bills and the apartment isn’t even in his name. 

I’m literally just wanting to move my stuff, including the music gear he claims is hisbut I AM PAYING FOR. And then just leave but he’s not letting me. 

What do I do? Seriously. 

We do not live together, I asked her to engage me but now all she says is i am acting weird and that I’m cheating every day. She threatened to take a restraining order if I break up the engagement. Can I do something to protect myself before she does anything? 

I’m 26 but she just sees me as her source of “happiness and non bordem” 

I’m a man, my kids mom is physically and verbally abusive to me. She has threatened many times that if I try and take the kids, she will tell them that I am abusive. Small town will 

Most likely believe her. She also threatens to keep the kids from me. She’s technically primary, but I have them more. She also had a child after we split with someone else that is not in the picture. I am raising him like he’s mine. I don’t have any legal rights to him, so she would for sure be able to keep him from 

Me. What do I do? 

He slapped me in the face I fell to the ground. He kicked me between the legs. 4+X’s before that he punched holes in the wall, threw a glass on the floor, over turned furniture and called me demeaning names even the C word. His adolescent nephew was diagnosed with IED. I think he may have it as well or is it abuse ? It’s been a week and just now I’m feeling mad at myself for staying , scared and confused. He hit his X In the face 23 yrs ago. He says this is only the second time and he “says” it will never happen again. Do I leave him ? I’m in counseling and I told him we wanted to stay together , and he is going to counseling. I am so confused and sad. 

Will he do it again?? 

I’m 17 on October, close right? Well, my stepdad is mentally abusive to me and only me out of 3 girls. I have a friend with an apartment and want to move in and get away from my stepdad. Am I, a 17 yr old, allowed to make that decision on my own?  

I have a dad but don’t want to live with him right now. His place is too crowded. 

My fiancé loses his temper during arguments. It seems to be getting worse since we’ve had our child. He has thrown shoes at the back of my head, grabbed me by my throat and pinned me, threw our son’s rocker chair at my back, backed me into corners, slammed me into walls, left bruises, and called me awful names. I have been told I am nothing & I have started to believe it. He has told me that if I leave him I will have nobody. I didn’t realize I was being abused until recently, as I was severely depressed after the birth of my son and thought that it was something I was doing wrong. When we aren’t arguing we are happy, and I love having my family together, but I feel like I don’t know the severity of my situation because I haven’t told anyone that these things are happening to me. He would never hurt our son, he loves him more than anything, but I still feel like I need to protect him and leave.  

If i leave how do i know things won’t get worse? I’m worried what he could do. 

My boyfriend started hitting me a couple months ago, it started as a “joke” as he would put it, that he does with his friends. This was his way of justifying it, which made me feel like I should be okay with it. He has hit me multiple times, most slapping in the face or back of head. I would not consider this a playful action as it often hurts and/or leaves marks. I also would never as a joke actually hit someone/my friends so this seems weird to me. But i let it happen and I started/do believe it isn’t “abuse” because he was joking, am I fair to be hurt from this?  

This behaviour also started to take place during sex and would be his kink, but I have the same feelings towards it.  

He has cheated and lied to me multiple times and I feel so devasted and drained from this whole relationship. 

I have been with my boyfriend for a bit over a year now, and please don’t get me wrong I love him with everything and he is a great guy. His mother used to beat him, neglect him, threaten to kill him, etc so he does carry a lot of trauma. When we got a cat together, he swore she would be both of ours and we’d make the decisions together. Well then she started having a problem pooping outside of her box. I Everytime she does this He punishes her by “spanking” her which the more she does it the more it turns into literally beating the cat. It’s so scary when he does it. 

. But yesterday while I was driving he was yelling at me and saying how I ruined his life and he’s going to kill himself and I will have to tell his family it was my fault. He said he hates me and that we should just break up (which he says almost every fight.) but then as soon as these fights are over he is the sweetest most loving guy I’ve ever been with. He is good to me and generous and kind. He is always always looking out for me. But yesterday he hit me in the face with my notebook. It was the first time he’s done anything like that and I was very very upset. He apologized and told me he would never hurt me, And that we just need to drop things before it gets to that point. And he might be right. He is a wonderful person and has never done this to his past partners. And I know who I am I am aggravating and downright cruel sometimes. I don’t want to lose him but I don’t want to keep going on like this
 

My old boyfriend is in the military he tried harming himself a couple times the other day and in the process had pushed me and I had to explain that to the cops. The state pressed charges when I said I didn’t want to. He now might be getting dishonorable discharge. How can I prevent this? 

I specifically said he didn’t mean to and that it wasn’t assault, I was only worried about his safety for himself. I can’t afford a Lawyer and I’m not sure how to help him fight thisBut since he’s in the military and with everything that has transpired they are looking to send him to prison. 

My friend a stay at home mom with 3 young children resides in the state of Washington a no fault state was in an abusive relationship where her and her children was verbally, emotionally, and physically abused by an abusive husband. Husband didn’t earn much income to support the family but managed to control the community money. Her parent was affluent. They were kind enough to let them stay at one of their property rent free.  She filed a domestic violence restraining order when he got extremely violent towards her, accusing her having an affair. He threaten to kill her many times throughout the marriage if she cheats on him. He gets extremely jealous and controlling even when a male waiter smiles at her. Small things like that results in big arguments and the husband threaten to kill her if she ever cheated on him on the drive back home with their young children in the car. Make long story short after a long delay due to the pandemic they finally met in court. Despite all the evidence and testimony from the police officer called at the incident that leads to the restraining order, child protective service worker summoned by her husband, and the husband admits hitting the kids. The judge found no signs of sensitivity violence and dismissed the case. The husband and his lawyer assert a claim on her parent’s asset accusing her of hiding assets during the DV hearing. Me and other friends trying to tell her not to give up and try to settle with him. She is clearly dealing with a narcissist that is set to hurt and destroy her at all cost including sacrificing the well being of her children. Especially after gaining the upper hand beating the domestic violence case. What can she do at this point moving forward? How can she defend against frivolous claims he had against her mom’s LLC Just because she was the agent taking care of her family properties they own in America

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My ex husband keeps calling the police and child services on me for insignificant things. How can I stop this behavior?  

I know he can legally call whenever he wants, but I am a professional and I feel like he is trying to ruin my life. It involves different reasons, but mostly invokes my youngest son who is his dad. We have been divorced for a few years and I remarried. He recently called on my two sons fighting. In which the younger boy started. It’s ridiculous 

Please, i have no where to turn. My husband and i have 2 kids he’s hasn’t been acting himself he’s so hostile and volitile, he abuses me mentally and verbally andPhysically abuses me. theres holes all over this house i have no where to go my dad just died and g he ridiculed my father who just died in front of my kids who dearly loved yheir papa. I’m awreck. He’s also just obtained his contractors licence he has been screaming at me get out of his house i had to leave the house recently because he locked me out then told our smallest child 5 that i was dead and she’s never going to see me again. He’s awful to my 10 year old she’s not biologically his. He said he’s taking my kids because I’m nothing and he has s business i have nothing i asked him is he on steroids he says no, after leaving today i went searching and found all his drugs, needless ect. He needs help idk where to turn please. 

I went to my friends house i had to leave i took my kids but i have to go back their home schooled i have nothing. He says what’s wrong with losing some weight. He’s not normal i have to go back home 

1.Why do I keep on going back to my abuser after he has hit me? Am I scared of him or do I care for him?    

2.I told him I called the cops on him and thought that would scare him away but it did not. He told me he will pay bond out and he will only have a misdemeanor. He says he will hit a cop if he has too. Did I increase my chances of danger?  

3.He has a warrant for his arrest and has not been caught. He does not know he has a warrant for his arrest but I told him I called the cops on him. 

4.He still harassing me and I still go see him and answer him even though I called the cops on him.  

5.He seems to not care about going to jail. If I still see him after he gets out of jail did I increase my chances of being killed?  

6.What would happen if I stay with him even after a restraining order of if he does not care about a restraining order?   

7.He just wants to over power me but will he eventually leave me alone and get more jail time if he keeps on testing the waters? 

Its been almost a year to the day my ex was sentenced. One year into the restrianing order and he started texting.  

Can I sue someone for emotional abuse? I reported my X for a strangulation attack. He was given 1 yr probation as long as there was no other domestic abuse – and had to complete a compulsory 8 mo. Domestic abuse program – this was in 2018.  

He recently smashed my laptop – terrorized me in his home – threw my belongings out the front door – refuses to let me dress – poured vodka over my head while saying he ‘could’ smash the bottle over my head before he let me leave — half dressed — and without my purse that he followed me to give it to me before I drove away.  

He apologized & paid for a replacement laptop the next day.  

Can I sue him for emotional distress/abuse? 

If I have an abusive husband already have a dv case on him .he left home but everything in his name . But he came back and now Is stressing me and my kids out beating on side trailer want leave what are my rights if I call cops. Help I dont know what to do make him leave 

If two partners are cursing each other, & one partner says go & look at the abusive messages I have send you, since you want to perform rudeness, maybe you will choose to call 911 or commit suicide. 

Is that a criminal offense and a chargeable offense? 

 I’m in a marriage since 1975 I’m 63 yrs old and he used to physically and emotionally abuse. Now older the mental abuse keeps getting worse I was abused by my mom as a kid and he knows how I feel about that she is deceased now but he constantly calls me marilyn which was her name for me this feels awful because to be like her well I could not live with self he knows this. He never hears what I’m actually saying he twists it all around and swears I have a tone at times he dont like and says I said things I did not. He also says I’m on him all the time abusing him tells me I need help. Tells me I’m a user a c word a looser who never accomplished any success which is far from truth as I have succeeded in many things in my life. He tells my I’m sick. Fat I’m not fat either just not skinny. He tells me hair looks good then cuts it down with comments. My daughter 42 yrs old is living here for 2 yrs now we helped her get help for serious drug problems. She literally now repeats things he says but when he isnt around she agrees he is wrong I’m in a very odd situation here if I leave I have nowhere to go but my car to live in I’m disabled now. His moods are like diff at times I never know what’s co.ing next I can have no opinion he tells me to stfu. 

His eyes are scary and empty towards me how can I get out of this without having to leave my home he says I can and I can have my car that’s it. And if I take anything else he will have car turned off so I cant drive it by missing the next payment which isnt very many more. Its christmas but he keeps saying I’m ruining christmas and he will never forgive me I feel like he is crazy. Yet he tells me I am and tells everyone I am. After 6 hours I came home cause I had no money and nowhere to go and gas was low

My boyfriend has an anger problem that has only gotten worse throughout our three years of dating. I honestly don’t even know where to begin. He is extremely liked by everybody and nobody knows this happens so I don’t know who I could ever go to. I also recently moved 16 hours away from home with him because he is in the military so it is just us living together. 

He has always done really awful things when we have argued – whether that be mocking my face, calling me names, yelling at me, throwing things around me, etc. As far as deescalating the situation, nothing seems to work when he gets like this. I used to argue back but that only made things worse, sometimes I will cry or walk away which doesn’t help either. 

I also have a part to play in this. I was in a very toxic, abusive relationship before him which has made me a little paranoid in this relationship. On top of that, my current boyfriend has problems with lying to me. He has lied to me more times than I can count. What happened tonight was I caught him in a lie from weeks ago, and instantly after catching him in this lie he made everything my fault. He started yelling at me, cussing, throwing things around me, getting in my face, following me when I walked away. He told me he hates me, I’m controlling/suffocating, etc. 

This is honestly the worst it has ever gotten. I’m not sure what to do- besides the obvious is to leave him but I know I have a role in this too. Can you please give me some advice? 

I am in a emotional abusive relationship with my husband. He is an alcoholic and abuses me drunk or not. I know that I have to leave for my own well being. I am attending group counseling at Weave, but I feel I need more help. 

Though I may not show it but I am very broken inside. Years and years of abuse and keeping everything bottled up is really getting to me. I know I need extra help. Like a 1 on 1 therapy. How do I go about getting this kind of help. My first husband was also very abusive. He used to beat me, rape me and body shame me almost on a daily basis. After 8 years of abusive I ended up in the hospital, then floodgate of help came to me. At that time WEAVE came to my assistance and really helped me. Now I have been married to this guy for 30 years. Though everything was ok for the first 10 years or so then things begin to change. Emotional abuse, body shaming, belittling. Think, no, I know that I have begun to believe him that I cannot live without him. If I leave I will come crawling back to him. Another part of my brain is screaming that this is his way of keeping me in his control, under his thumb. Please help. I want a divorce, but I now know that I need help with my self sabotage before I can think of divorce. Sorry to have written so much. Any advise or help you give me will be very appreciated. 

How can I get help before he is released I AM IN FEAR FOR MY LIFE!!!!!!!! He will and he will murder me. When he is released from prison!

Hello, my boyfriend of two years just told me that he feels if he doesn’t “shut himself down” he would get violent in a way of breaking things but not violent towards me? i just need help understanding what this means.

The man I was with for 11 years . 3 years ago we broke up and during our break up I asked her if he wanted to have sex it started out consensual then got ugly . he was saying I’m going to hurt you like you ! then he got off me watched me cry and he said that’s what you get ..was this rape ? We are now separated but this was a root of our break up years later because I held this in and got back with this monster [Edited for content]. 

How to deal with emotional abuse when you have no one to turn to, it’s like power and control and that’s what he has and he has me where he wants me.but I want to make it clear to him that I’m nobody’s property Im not a child I can do whatever I want basically how to get him to realize that u have had enough?

I have an eviction on my record due to leaving an abusive situation. Can weave help me get the eviction off my record so I can leave an alternate living place?

I want out of a relationship and because I don’t want to be with him he wants to take my daughter from me and make it a huge fight. What should I do? It not a physical domestic violence its more of a mental.

I slapped my boyfriend first because he was in my face yelling(CPTSD) . He grabbed me by the shirt and threw me across the room. I hit my head(I’ve had 3 brain surgeries) and I’ve now started having seizures again(I got a TBI due to a different domestic violence incident years ago). I don’t know how to feel because I hit him first. What do you think?

Help. My boyfriend is harrassing me and he’s high on Meth he called the police 24 times and my landlord said no more police so I have” by called but they did not arrest him even though he’s abused me before and broke my foot.

I suffered in an abusive relationship for for almost 20 years. I am now out of that relationship and have found an amazing spouse and we have a beautiful daughter. I had thought that that part of my life was over. Recently my abuser contacted me. It has spread a debilitating fear through my life and I feel like I am spiraling out of control. I do not have insurance and can’t afford therapy so I feel like I am just trying to keep my head above water while floating closer and closer to a cliff. I just don’t know how to get my real life back. How do I stop reliving all of the trauma? How do I stop being triggered?

I over heard my co-worker talking about hurting there adopted daughter. I see the little girl with bruses, and hear her crying many many nights. I am scared that something might happen to this girl and don’t want it to be on my conscious for not speaking out for her. I am in fear for this girl’s life

I was married to a police officer for 15 years I am physically damaged and now physically disabled I left him and ran for my life with my only child and took relocation from the Florida Attorney General’s office they gave me $1,500 to relocate and start my life over I was bloodied everything in my apartment was broken and was always swept under the rug cuz it was that good old boy police thing I am so damaged it’s now 2019 we divorced in 2004 after he used judges that he knew and that his sister was their assistant to steal my daughter from North Carolina where I already won custody I couldn’t afford a lawyer so I was my own lawyer while his parents had several lawyers in both States hired for him in North Carolina I did get a court-appointed lawyer that was awesome that’s why I won custody his first visitation he took my daughter basically kidnapped her no one helped me it’s 2019 I now have seizures because I guess if the choking out here he always went for my throat it’s done some type of damage to a blood vessel in the right side of my brain I suffer in pain everyday I have been diagnosed with PTSD from several different psychiatrist in doctors throughout Florida North Carolina he continues to victimize me today. In 2004 he won custody in our divorce he lost his criminal justice certification in the State of Florida for a positive cocaine test I was denied any evidence or Witnesses I’m not a lawyer they that Court and the judges I was told by a judge after having injuries and Witnesses I have no idea who they were they called the police for me signed statements they arrested him it was another another city I’m suffering more than I probably did I’ve never been able to let my voice be heard and he’s never been punished the judge didn’t even give me half of his penchant he was trying to get alimony from me I had a great career he’s destroyed my life and I want to know if his Police Department that he worked for which is obviously no longer police officer and can I sue the county the court system is in I can’t seem to get my life back together again I I’ve tried everything I have a business plan in the future and it’s a wonderful plan and it’s a way I can earn a living and also give to this cause and a charitable way and educate Law Enforcement Officers by telling my story and educating them on what to look for I need someone to help me I need punishment I need something I feel like I’m getting all the punishment for marrying and I’m sticking it out of them as I did I’ve never been able to close it he still get at me through my daughter my daughter he’s got my daughter hating my guts I can’t have a relationship with her she’s dangerous for me too and she put her hands on me. I’m lost this is taking my every waking moment of my life I I need to feel better I want my voice heard the judges were so rude to me and honestly I want to write a book and say hear my voice. They told me I was poor them stump they refuse to let me leave the state of Florida so I lost my job in North Carolina did nothing but punished because I married a very abusive man what can I do to get my voice hurt and what are my rights to punish him whether it be a civil suit a federal lawsuit I’ll go after County Court Police Department I don’t care what can I do?? I need this I can’t get past this I can literally lost everyone in my life oh and all the witnesses were all threatened by my ex-husband and his dad if they testified they would make sure they lost their jobs I mean I heard everything wouldn’t I just ask them just tell the court the truth is what you see no sorry and they didn’t mean sorry I was like a hot potato when I knocked at the door they weren’t friends they didn’t care if my daughter was safe now my daughter it’s a monster just just like her dad I’m sorry it’s such an open-ended question but just tell me what I can do our laws haven’t gone very far and I’m curious I feel like someone is tied my hands my feet gagged me it has taken me over I can’t heal until I can get this done. Thank you. [Edited for length and content]

What if a woman is taken to jail for domestic violence and her husband let them take pictures of wounds that had been there due to his work. But he told police that his wife did it. What if the one claiming to be abused is in fact the abuser. What if one judge through the case out and then she sat in jail for 4 days without any charges. Finding out they were trying to keep her there because the following Monday the state was going to enhance the charge to a felony. She is just about at the end of her rope. He wants her to be in jail. He has done this at least 15 times. She just wont learn from the past. I guess she thinks she deserves this. Or it’s happened so much that it become the normal to her. What’s are the chances that the abuser can make the cops believe his spouse is the one abusing. What kind of judical system puts an abused woman in jail when she was telling the cops she didnt do anything to him. Wow! Wake up people our court system need to be checked on big time if she has to go to jail over something she didn’t do. Her husband is a big fat LIAR. 

Should I report rape/aggravated sexual assault that occurred 10 years ago to the police, if I know the perpetrator and their whereabouts? It was in the context of an abusive relationship. From 2009-2016, I lived out-of-state to avoid the perp. I moved back home in 2016, and have since married and had a child. I’ve also since started therapy, but my therapist is supportive regardless. Was hoping to get the opinion of others – perhaps those who have experienced something similar. 

My boyfriend of 6 years , who I live with in his house, told me he wanted me out. I found a good job close to where I’d be living. Gave a 2 week notice at current job near boyfriend’s house. Went there and he said sorry I want u to stay. 3 weeks later I quit good job cause over 500 miles a week on my vehicle, and staying with boyfriend so continued working at original job near boyfriend’s house. Well I’m now unemployed do to job near boyfriend is seasonal. Been there for 6 years. Cant find work near home, and now he kicked me out again. I’m so mad. I had a good job that I quit, due to being so far from boyfriend and now he wants me out again. This is the 5th time he wants me out. This is abuse right?

I have been with my boyfriend now for almost 3 years… we knew each other back in elementary and middle school to high school. I have always wanted to be with him and he me. But in high school he quit school and we both moved on with other people. Never seen him again till 3 years ago.. in school he was so quiet and shy . But since living with him for 3 years. He sure has become a devil but only when he drinks alot. Which is everyday. I left him a few times and he kept texting and calling begging for another chance. And said he stop drinking he did for a few weeks. He has pushed me down broke my tail bone so bad. Wouldn’t take me to the hospital. I drove myself. He has pulled my hair out and kicked me in my ribs. He keeps telling me I cheated on him but I haven’t and can’t as much as I love him. When they point the finger at u. Isn’t it the one pointing the finger at is usually doing the cheating,???? Please tell me what I should do. I love him I do. He has a kid that’s 18 and never has anything to do with her.

My husband and I have been married for 3 years we have a 7 year old from his previous marriage and then now have a 15 month old. Since I found out I was pregnant this may be about 3 mths into the pregnancy he started telling me how to spend money even though I work and then gets on to me about spending here and there for a drink or snack. He now wants me to get two weeks work of food at work then also I found out recently he got 3 more credit card besides the only 2 that I thought he only had. Keeps saying he will put my name on them so I can have one but never does now he has like 5 or 6 credit cards and a loan that didn’t tell me about or discuss with me. Also when he feels that his daughter is being slighted over her baby brother my son, he threatens that he will send me to my mothers and insist that he will get him a week and I will get him a week. No discussions nothing about that but I am tired of being threatened over and over of him divorcing me. Also he is verbally abusive if I don’t do the things that he feels is right about our son and then he will apologize later for the tone of voice but not what he is stating. I don’t know what to do anymore I am not happy with him anymore and I know from experience that it is emotional and verbal abuse. I don’t think he will ever hit me but I just don’t like how he is especially when it comes to our son and my step daughter who is 7 by the way.

My ex invited me to a party tonight. I went and we got in a fight. I went to his room to talk and he wouldn’t let me leave and was shoving me really hard and blocking the door. When I finally got out he followed me to my car. He shoved his body against mine and squished me up against my car to the point that it hurt my back. I was yelling for help and he was cussing at me. When I got my car door open he shoved me inside and slammed my door. Is this domestic violence? Can he get in trouble for it?

My husband has been calling me terrible names, degrading me in front of people, intimidating me, scaring me, on a daily basis for years now. I know I should leave him but I feel so weak to do anything about my situation. I used to be a very strong woman an RN for 25 years but after working 25 years I had some medical problems and had to leave it and I was since I did he has been so abusive. Controlling to the point where I’m not even allowed to talk to anybody and his family and barely anyone in my family. It’s crazy that I let somebody do this to me for so long but it’s weird how it’s very insidious and becomes worse and worse over time at least with me. Now it’s daily basis of abuse. My question is about I don’t have any money. I only have my house that we have paid for together and we both own. It’s not quite paid off but a lot of it is. My question is how do I get him with no money on my own to, I want to file for divorce and make him sell the house is there any options in Fort Lauderdale Florida for help financially with Filing for divorce and having him made to sell the house because I won’t be able to be in the house once he knows I’m filing for divorce in other words it Has to be him selling the house because if I tell him I can’t live in the same house because it would be unbearable even more. So I’m trying to see if there’s any help to file for divorce and make him sell the house that doesn’t cost a lot because I don’t have any money right now and also the logistics of how does it work? if I’m not in the house and I have to go stay with someone Who lives in the same state but very far away, like what is the process I guess is what I’m saying what is the process please and how long does it usually take and do I have to be going to court around my house to do something like that?. I know I was an RN for many years but I did not work with adults and you would think I would know these questions and would be stronger but I’m not at this time because I’ve been beat down for so long. Thank you so much

Is it possible to begin the process of reaching out for help via email, rather than over the phone or in-person? I live in Sacramento and am hopeful to reach out for support with what feels like a situation of something like domestic violence. However, I cannot easily leave my home and I’m afraid that he’s tracking my phone calls. Is there a way to possibly connect with someone, initially, through an email address?

I’m very mentally broken I feel. I’m dating a man who’s 18 years older than me and though its seldom physical violence, everyone years its constant mental abuse, gas lighting, passive aggressive behavior, and without telling me not to do something , has some how isolated me from the world.i use to know… Is it ok to still maybe get help or counseling from somewhere? I’ve become financially and in all ways codependent on him. He wouldnt chase me if I left he’d just let me go.. but I dont know where to go. Am I just being pathetic and weave and other programs are for serious real abuse..or is mental abuse a real issue as well? We physically fight sometimes but its rare..and he never actually yells or raises his voice at me..

Im from canada alberta and i have lived in a hotel for 3 weeks and paid daily..my husband and i got in a fight which caused the cops to be called and we both got taken to lovk up.. i went back to the hotel the next day and they had my car towed and impounded, they kept all my belongings and his and said i had to pay 800 dollars for damages done to room which was blood on mattress and carpet. They never charged me damage deposit or asked for visa..i paid cash daily. Is this legal for them to do this ?

i live with my mother and she overdoses on her medication every month and fall down and hurts her self and calls the cops and says that i hurt her she takes blood thinners and she bruise very easy so the cops take me to jail she call the ambulance on her self and says she took to many pills and fell down when im not there she is 67 years old and takes too many pill at once what can i do please help

My abusive ex-boyfriend/ex-best friend I just finally stood up to and said goodbye, but I’m scared he will. He has a sealed record for assault on someone and carries both a CCL and a gun plus I know he has old pictures of me and messages of mine that I do have a reasonable expectation of privacy regarding by law. I stayed friends with him after we broke up though I never realized how he was abusing me, and it got worse when I met someone. After I got married to that someone else, it worsened even more. Again I was oblivious to all of this, but I’m not now. Sometimes he would force himself on me sexually prior to our break up and he did physically assault me at least once that I can remember that wasn’t sexual in nature. What do I do? There are laws against spreading things with a reasonable expectation of privacy and against what some could be deemed non-consensual imagery. I’ve issued him a warning not to contact myself or my loved ones nor dare to harm or attempt to harm any of us in any manner otherwise I will pursue legal justice. Do I wait and him potentially wreak havoc on my life? Also how do I get out of this depression it’s spurred and how do I stop trying to find things through way of viewing social media and more? I’m absolutely devastated right now along with angry and scared. I don’t want to go back. I don’t want him back in my life. How do I stop fearing, ensure we’re protected, and truly move on from this?

I have two adult sons that are using drugs in my home punching holes in my walls just destroying my home throwing objects at me one son moved his girlfriend in and she is on drugs as well the police won’t do anything I’ve called them three times what can I do please help

I have been married to my husband for 11 years. I am currently pregnant with our 5th child together. In the past, he has been rough with me on a few occasions in anger. He would grab me usually, and once (the first time) held me down and pressed my face sideways telling me to stop saying the things I was saying. I was so scared on that occasion as he had never been rough before. But also told myself, well he did not hit me or actually hurt me. It was a long time before he lashed out physically again. Last last year I found out he got someone else pregnant and they now have a baby. I decided after some time if trying to make it work that I wanted a divorce. I have been telling him I want to divorce amicably and every time he resisted, and has been showing remorse, trying to show a lot of kind gestures towards me. However, a few days ago when we were discussing again that I want a divorce, he became enraged after I started speaking angrily towards him. He attacked me in my recliner I was sitting in, grabbing me and pinning me painfully into the chair… At this point I am wondering if this is real. This man has been a good husband. I said what he wanted me to say to stop him from hurting me further. I cried and prayed after he let me up. He calmed down and told me I made him do it and should not have hit him in his face. He also me chilling words, now I see that he is serious about not losing me, and now I see what he would do if I try to leave. Am I paranoid to take that as a threat to my life? I have considered making a plan to leave, but I am terrified that he would fulfill his threat and hurt me badly or kill me if he found me. Just hours later he was embracing me and whispering how much he loves me, needs me, and will do anything to keep me.

I want to leave but I know my children will be so sad if I took them away from our home and away from their father. I don’t want to hurt them. So I am also considering just staying and making sure I don’t ever lash out at him with angry words as that seems to trigger him. For the most part we have been able to have tough conversations without any kind of fear of violence. So this change over the last few years has been a shock.

I just need some advice. He is a good person and I feel he is in some kind of crisis as he inches towards age 50. I feel perhaps he fears losing me and felt the only thing to stop me would be to scare me like this. However, I don’t love him anymore and I do feel truly scared. I do care about him but I don’t want to underestimate him

Is there a place for men to go who have been in abusive domestic violence you guys plan places for women to go is there a place for a man to go in that situation

I’m not sure what kind of situation I’m in but I feel stuck. Only married a couple of year and have a 9 month old (too smart and big for her age) but recently my husband keeps starting arguments even ones we’ve fully discussed but he pushes and pushes to the point that I start yelling and defending myself and trying to make my voice and what I have to say herd but when it escalates he pulls out his camera and records it in my face saying “you should see yourself, do you know how you’re reacting, you need help”.after already argued for 20 minutes. Even after I tell him to leave or go away or I try to walk away or close the door to the room with my kid or sit quietly, he’ll push it open and contining the argument and record me to the point being hysterical. I don’t feel comfortable leaving my child with him but I don’t know how to get out of the argument and out of the camera. And now I feel like I can’t leave cause he has videos of me yelling in front of our little one to use against me.

Is a gaslight relationship the same as fb

my abuser is in prison for the third time. this time he beat me in the head and i have serious damage and i leave next month to cleveland clinic for more testing. he began emailing me from the prison and hasnt even been charged for any of the other violations he did, i am at a lose here and my town wont help my family and he only got 18 month. he blamed his drugs on me so i got indicted at 36 for my first felony or drug charge and i need serious help or this man will kill me. who do i contact for serious help?

Before we were married my husband (boyfriend at the time) blacked out on me while he was drunk and his sister thought he was going to kill me that night how he was acting he never laid a hand on me but broke other things She drove 2 hrs to come get me. I went back. After our first son was born he blacked out on me smashed my phone and took the car keys. I had to call the cops to leave that night. He said he was done drinking. He has blacked out a few more times where he said he was going to hit me and his buddies stood up and said if your going to hit any one it will be me. I warned him the last time if he ever blacked out on me again it would be his last. Well he did it again and this time he told me id be lucky to see the light of day again. I told him that I want a divorce it was your last chance. He says I am tearing our family apart and going to break the kids heart. He said things will change and he’s done drinking. I don’t know what to do.

Who can I get in contact with about gaining help in child custody family law cases? 

What organization can get some laws changed for domestic violent victims and their children – for more protection over the abuser?

Women are all able to escape but what happens when the children cannot because of court orders, what about the protection of the innocent children ? How are we supposed to help our children have a better future and break the cycle of abuse if the courts allow the children to be placed in the abusers care? 
This is not justice nor is this going to help the children have a better future. We need to do something to help the children. Please.

My partner put their hands on me once and I left.
I filed for and am getting a divorce.

[Yes, as it turns out, there was much financial abuse which I didn't recognize and didn't find out how much until my attorney discovered a secret bank account].

I have domestic violence counseling and a supportive boss at work.

In my new city, people have been telling me things like, “You are beautiful. Are you married? I want to go out with you…”

I have zero desire to date anyone right now, and zero desire to date anyone who thinks shallow flattery will get them anywhere with me.

I have been doing all the things to take care of myself but how do I stop giving off signals to creeps that I am vulnerable?

I have become more assertive so that is great. Something in me must still be shouting “victim” and i want to stop that.

I also didn’t know that being violent in front of me– even when not directed at me– is also domestic violence. This part of the message is not getting communicated to the public.

Hi I live in Iowa I’m new to Iowa after a divorce I took a chance and started dating someone I had been talking to my social media this guy is the most psychotic dangerous person I’ve ever encountered he is friends with a police officer in the nearby town I have told the police officers everything that he is doing and because he sells meth to an officer he’s Big Man on Campus and they wont do anything about what he’s doing he’s on probation he stalks me he abuses me threatens me if you saw my face right now I could provide proof of abuse he has tried planting drugs in my car in my home last week he broke my door I don’t know what to do I cannot go to the police this guy is a daily use user of methamphetamines and I’ve even contact us a probation officer and they have not tested him I am so scared out of my mind. I’m moving next Saturday. He’s already on to my location.

i overdosed on pills to commit suicide and i went to my boyfriend for help and i passed out. i awoke to him sexually assaulting me. can i press charges? It happened over a year ago but I have text messages where he admits it

My soon to be ex husband has said to me multiple times that the motorcycle club he is a part of is watching me. That even if I move out of state they are a nation wide and I will be safe no where.
His girlfriend who is also in a motorcycle club has said she will kick my ass and I’m being watched.
I just want to be left alone.
Suggestions?

My friend is super quiet and talks about sex when she does talk. She limps when she walks and talked to a large man and then had to leave. She always wears black and sometime wears long sleeved shirts. Something just doesn’t sit right… Is she being abused?

Who do I call when 911 Sacramento sherrifs dpt fails me? I’ve called 911 2xs now on my neighbor for throwing his wife to the ground. As I was on the phone with 911 he was outside hiding his gun. I was telling the 911 operator this. Sherrifs dpt came out done nothing. A month ago he called 911 saying she was having a seizure. Zero history if seizures. He beat her up pretty bad. She wasn’t able to say what happened due to her condition. We know the fear and issues that come with why the abused stays. I just called 911 on him for hitting her and they showed up said we got a report of fighting going on here, the abuser says nothing going on here and they left. So when the sherrif dpt fails u repeatedly what other option are there before shes dead. Btw he punched her in the nose and try to chock her today. Took cops 45 min to get here. From what my x-cop sister says if we dont show up right away we dont care.

I am the youngest of 3 daughters. I’ve been helping my elderly parents. My oldest sister 53 was homeless and moved in with us, along with her 23 year old daughter. My Mom has some Alzheimer’s. She is verbally, physically and psychologically abusing me and my Mom. Although she does not get physical with my Mom..she still screams at her. My Dad abused my Mom and I growing up. He lives with us too, but does nothing to protect us. I am in my 40’s but am afraid to move out and leave my Mom. Social services were ” anonymously ” called. My sister says shes going to get me kicked out. She is psychotic and unstable. What do I do to protect my Mom and myself ? My Psychiatrist knows all about my sisters abuse, as does many of my friends. I gave the worker all of that info.
My Mom is 81 years old. Her and I cannot take much more. 
As a result I’ve developed heart problems. I’ve always been so healthy. Help !!!

My sister is 8 months pregnant with a boyfriend that checks off all the boxes for emotional and mental abuse. Most recently he’s threatened to physically hurt her, or wait until she gives birth to their child and then hurt her and put her back in the hospital if she doesn’t give him money. Is there anything we can do as her family legally to make him reconsider his words and potential actions? I’ve asked her to report him and she breaks down into tears saying she doesn’t want him to go to jail, but I’m concerned for her safety and in the future, the baby’s safety.

I have a friend, who has a friend, that has been married to her husband for 30 years. From my knowledge, he’s never physically abused her, just mentally and emotionally. She has brought up divorce and he has threatened her. My friend has opened her home to her friend, if she ever wanted to leave. Her friend is afraid of what her husband may do to all surrounding people who help her. She’s afraid to leave him. Is there a report the wife can make? What can she do? Can I call to see if PD is willing to make a home visit? I don’t want the day where something does happen and it’s too late.

I had enough of his mental abuse telling me my home is not mine everything is all the money in the bank is his and I can’t touch none of it and that’s why he took my name off of my savings joint account with them he forged my name and I was never aware of that until now I want to know what I have to do and is she going to go to jail is the big picture because I am tired of being abused and neglected by so-called husband that cares about me but he doesn’t kiss about the money he doesn’t want me to have nothing he says everything is not mine but I know half of everything is mine I just don’t know how you go about the forgery of the joint account savings account I need to know what to do next. He had no right to forge my name to take me off of my savings account with him a joint account all that money in there is not mine says it’s his she has nothing and when my name was on the joint account I barely went to the bank to get money she did that when I took out $100 so I can pay my bills and that’s what he was up to set about and that’s why he forged my signature to take me off of my account with them

Hi I was bullied into signing my divorce papers almost 3 years ago . I was thrown out of our marital home after being married for almost 3 years I was threatened and blackmailed into signing the divorce agreement without representation . I was emotionally and psychologically abused by a narcissist for the week that I was moving out of state . I feel that the divorce agreement was very weak and I’m still paying debts from the marriage on a very meager salary my ex will not help me with any credit card debt anything like that. I was a domestic in the marriage I didn’t have a job he is a very well-off owns his own home I’m living in a trailer . He came down here on a week vacation with his new girlfriend without telling me and was in establishments that I visit frequently I almost walked in on them . What the hell I’ve been through emotionally the past 2 1/2 years I don’t know how I would’ve reacted to a surprise and shock like that so I’m thinking of getting a restraining order to.
I was suicidal when he threw me out and totally traumatized and in shock . I didn’t recognize the man who is used to be my husband it was frightening !! I had all the neighbors on high alert because I didn’t know what he was capable of his anger was off the charts . I have a little money now that I feel I could sue him for emotional damage and for breach of contract and to get some of this debt.
I just want to stand up for myself in the way that I was not able to at the time . Is it too late to get a lawyer and fight him he’s in another state our divorce is final but I was thinking of opening up a new case with all of my mental health documentation.

My husband of 10 years is probably having some mental problems, since from time to time we fight over the fact that he “works”, and he hates to work or at least what he says. He is normally very shy, and not so capable person. I was forced to open my own company and have him a job 8 years ago, since most places he went people abused his kindness. He should be happy that i did so many sacrifices to have him work, and days off without concerns. .. [edited for content]…He jumped and hit me in the head really hard two times. I was on the sofa, and the slaps where so hard that I collapsed sideways. My face got red, and I told him I’ll call the cops. He jumped again and started to choke me, i was gasping for air, and he said that he would kill me before I call the cops. This is the 2nd time he is hitting me like that, only this time is harder. Last time my mom was on the phone with me and called 911, he got arrested.Me, being stupid cleared him out from all records, since I am ex- law enforcement, and have my ways. This time he was very violent and threatened my life by choking me. Its so ironic, I have sacrificed so much for this person to be productive in society, and this is what I get. I could’ve called 911, but I have upcoming law enforcement job opportunity and hold on to it because of that. Ultimately, my face is very swallowed and I feel really low. I do feel abused to the point where I question my safety. I have 2 small kids and everything that we own is under my name so I do not worry about this.I do believe he has other ways to fulfill his intimate needs, and punish me for the reason why he provides for the family. That to me seems mental issue. 
Not sure what to do. 
By the way, NOBODY hit me in the head that hard throughout my entire life.

My neighbor is constantly screaming at his six year old cursing and using the n word .Is there anything I can do to help?

My wife left me and me and her have a son together how i have with me at are home and she has her son im was step dad to but i found out that why wife wantd full custody of my son and i want full custody because the perosn she is trying ro be with is ready for this the othere baby daddy who is a convited felony child abuse naglect child indangerment and it was her other son that was besten by this man at age 3 and she is running back to him this can not ve legeal for her he has no right and i cant see how goting back to that man that almost killed your child is ok there has to be something i can do to stop her from makeing this desition i dont want my wife back but i dont wanna have to keep my son from her but my son will not be put in that type of postion ant advice would be great

I am the victim of domestic violence when my 20yo step son stabbed me several times puncturing a lung where I spent nearly a week in the hospital. He was incarcerated immediately for attempted murder. 
His mother/my spouse immediately started supporting him. She retained an attorney that is the best in the state, tried mitigating the extent of the injuries, has constantly called him, the mail is always gone and seems that her concern is not for me.
I communicated my feelings of betrayal and insensitivity of the actions I endured. After our conversation/argument about the situation there is no resolve. I guess I would expect full support. Is that not possible due to the incident being her child?
I now have to fight for my rights as a victim since the state prosecutor is too busy to do anything with my case. The defense has hired a special investigation team to mitigate the damages.
What should I do?
It was all caused from drugs, he has threatened to kill me previously, very unstable person. I walked in the house, asked him to leave since my wife called me due to him being crazy throwing things around and being violent. I asked him to leave where he immediately began stabbing me.
What do I do in this case?!?!

I’m very uncomfortable with my counselor and there has been violation of my confidentially domestic violence issues and problems with family and imtimate partner of about 10 years ago harassment sexual abuse how can i get away from falling victum to their..everyone knows each other conflict..slander too want to press charges 

My boyfriend and I have been together for two months and he found out I cheated he was upset we separated for a while then he found out I had a male friend which was only that, a friend, and he got angry and hit me twice he held me down to keep me from screaming and calling the police but I love him but now I want to press charges what should I do I’m still sore from the entire thing

My husband and I have been together 8 years. Throughout our relationship we have had periods of time where he goes from being loving and a considerate partner and father to being abrasive, distant, eventually escalating to the point where he is short tempered with me, our children, even our pets. It happened again last night, it’s been awhile since it happened so I guess I didn’t see it coming or I was just stupid in handling it. He was being very, mean…short. Yelling at the kids, the dog. Once I put our kids to bed I asked what was wrong. He screamed and shattered a plate over his face. He calmed down and apologized, seemed almost normal. Then he woke up this morning being cruel again, screaming at the children. Putting me down. I don’t know what to do or who to turn to. I have no friends anymore, years ago my friends wanted me to leave him and he said it was them that was the problem. I don’t even have social media of any kind. The few people we interact with all think he is great, kind, friendly etc. I guess I don’t know what to do, or if I am overreacting. I don’t know if it was my fault for asking him what was wrong. I have thought about leaving, but worry over how it will effect my kids and also financially keeps me here.

My brother has always had a temper. He blows up at the littlest things and blames my parents for basically everything. One time during an argument he said my mom blamed her having cancer on him. Still the main point is that he has set fire to this bridge once he bought his new house with his fiance. We do not like her because she dose not pick up a dish, help out or even pretend to be in a good mood. At one point she told my mom to “grow up” and my mom then got mad and told her she was the parent and not to disrespect elders. Well she tattled on my mom to my brother and he went nuts on my mom. Shouting all these things to her that come from nowhere, when he gets like this nothing can calm him down. Here’s my problem, I was talking to the fiance and she told me how he blows up, should get help, that the group therapist told her to avoid predatory people like my brother. She then asked if I can keep a secret secret. I say yeah and the yellow and green bruise that she claimed was from “yard work” was him. They got into a fight about ant traps and how he kept asking where to put them. She didn’t care and he got upset and punched her leg. That bruise that my mom told her to get x-rayed because it may be broken was from him. I am angry at him, angry at her for staying with him, and angry at myself for not warning her enough. I told her my brother had that mean side from the beginning. It wasn’t enough, he is so cheap that he doesn’t want to get help unless it’s free. I am afraid his free anger management may be from jail. He hasn’t hit their dog. He has put holes in the wall from when he lived with us. Cut up shirts mom got him just to get back at her. What do I do?

If I was charged with DV 1st if my step daughter is the one who help lie to get me put in jail what can I do because I really didn’t committee this crime but the law enforcement is the one who pushed it and it’s been 3 years almost.

I got a public defender but he works for the state a free lawyer how much would it cost to get a good lawyer

I just need to vent. I am my aging husbands caretaker. He needs assistance getting dressed, getting using the restroom etc. He falls constantly because his legs have become weak. It is a frustrating situation for both of us. Lately he treats me like I don’t know how to care a wound he has on his ankle and repeatedly tells me what the nurse said about dressing the wound. I get upset because I feel he thinks I don’t know how to dress the wound. Tonight he called me a name, something he never does and told me to get away from him because he doesn’t want to hit me, again something he never does. He is almost 73 and his outbursts are increasing. Could he be getting dementia? My first instinct is to get as far away from him as possible but then reason takes over. I can’t leave him. Who would care of him? 
Besides this is my home too and I have no money to move. Second our family would never forgive me if I left him. I am hurt by the name calling and threat of physical abuse. I just don’t know what to do. Can you give me advice. I need to hear a voice of reason. Thank you

My boyfriend is also the father of my twins. Before we had the kids, he was okay just a little particular but I never really minded it. He never really did anything that I considered abusive or even scary. After the kids, he became a lot more on edge and yelled often enough, but I thought it was normal. He was just stressed cause we’re young (I’m now 25 and he’s about to be 28) but now the kids are three and yells at me every single day. He baites me into arguments and after I explode he tells me I need to control my anger. Every day he curses at me, yells at me, and complains about everything I do wrong every single day when he comes home from work. I’m a new stay at home mom because we can’t afford daycare even w both of us working and I don’t own a vehicle so I can’t drive. With that being said, I depend on him for most things I And our kids need and he always throws that in my face. “I do everything for you you do nothing for me” and when I bring up that’s its me that takes care of our kids (and one of them has special needs) he says “so what.” And when I tell him I don’t like how he speaks to me or treats me, he says “I can talk to anyone however I want. You need to stop having such thin skin.” I feel trapped and I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to be with him anymore but my family lives in another state and I have nothing and no one here. I don’t know if this is even abuse I just need advice.

If the department of CPS gave custody to the father of my granddaughter and he got charged with PMFA and she was there wouldn’t it be that CPS has put my granddaughter In harms way what can I do about it to get them out of CPS custody because I’m worried about their well-being

As a man and father to my children about a year ago next month my ex assaulted me and my now girlfriend. My ex has a charge against us. She did not let me see my kids for almost a year I just seen them about 2 weeks ago but now she say of I don’t give her a phone number nor address I can not see my kids. Due to her no contact order do I have to give her my number and address to see my kids. All she does is harass me and my girlfriend.

I have an ex I wanna report I don’t want him to know and he’s very scary I’m 17 n he’s 46 what do I do I need help I messaged the hotline they are not accepting any messages I guess and I need help I wanna put him where he belongs back to prison. I had a rough situation he said if I work for him he’ll give me a lot of money he’ll buy me things but then I got involved with him like love and he had me living with him every other day cause I didn’t live there permanently he would hit me when he thought I was staring at a guy he’ll hurt me until he’ll get my phone from me he made problems he would make fake accounts and say I did this and that and I didn’t . I wanna report him help

Can I press charges against my husband who choked me 2 years ago

I have an ex who was sexually and physically and financially abusive. He grew up in gangs and has a family member in the dmv to track down people who don’t pay. I know hes had dropped assault charges. And I’m scared because he threatened my family when I left. He wouldn’t have to lift a finger even in jail. I’m not sure what to do because i would never be able to have an apartment job or car or get married and him not knowing and possibly hurting me. What am I supposed to know if I only know the guys nickname.

My sister just found out that her boyfriend used to (6 years ago) beat his ex girlfriend/mother of his son. (We saw 5 different police reports with dates, etc) My sister is 10 weeks pregnant with his child, obviously she never would have started a relationship with him if she had known of his past- he has never laid a hand on her, but this news makes her extremely uneasy and paranoid. What should she do?

My Sister Husband punch her in the head and Jaw she had a concussion, there is a standing criminal order in place. He is reaching out to her neighbor getting all of her whereabouts. P.O. gave him a gps monitor so he can come into the city where she is but when he is off of probation he will track her down, he never return keys we change lock to apartment but he does have key to get inside of the building what can we do? she needs help in finding another apartment to live where he can’t find her

Does anyone know if you live in Pennsylvania if your husband abuses our dog is this domestic violence. He also broke my arm previously. He has bad anger issues and is making me scared.

He never hit me. And it was years ago, when I was in high school (I’m in college now). I dated this guy who completely isolated me from my friends because they were “too goody-goody”. I would go to concerts with a guy friend and he would send me pictures of his self-harm. He would fake panic attacks so I would spend time with him. We had sex all the time, even when I didn’t really want to. He would constantly punch walls when we were fighting. He would send single letters in strings of texts so my phone would blow up with notifications. He smoked around me all time and escalated to other drugs even though I was visibly and verbally uncomfortable with being in that situation. I feel awful saying I was in an “abusive relationship” because he never hit me and so many women and men have been through worse. I also feel like I should be over it by now. I still have some self-harm scars from that time and I feel like that might contribute, but I still feel off.

My ex from India is blackmail me to send my nude photos to my family and friends.. What should I do? Pls help me..How can I report a blackmail?

I don’t live in the area but I feel more comfortable discussing this through a platform like this. You might still have insight that is helpful. I have a 19 month old daughter, her father and I split when she was 5 weeks old. This split happened a week after he got drunk and went into a rage. He pushed me while I held our baby, then held my face and screamed preventing me from moving away, I was holding our baby the whole time. He then followed me through the house and attempted to kick down a locked door and then proceeded to grab my face and threaten me, again with our child in my arms. The whole relationship was emotionally abusive. A year prior to this incident he slapped/pushed/hit me and I fought back. I didn’t file a report when the incident when my child happened because I was scared of retaliation and trauma bonded to him so deeply. He reported his anger was due to PTSD from being deployed (which I now know he never was). He has an extensive history of anger and lying. We share custody of my child and I’m worried bout the potential of his anger becoming explosive (if not towards her) in front of her. Basically my question is since I didn’t file a police report when it occurred and he’s been a part of our child’s life (I only allowed this because he said he was in counseling) can it even be seen as valid? I have recorded phone calls, texts, and emails of him admitting to the incident. We even went to co-parenting counseling and I tried to talk about it, my ex admitted it, and the counselor said “we don’t need to go into the details”. I felt so invisible in that moment. That the trauma and abuse I faced was brushed off by a professional that is supposed to report such things and protect me. If I spoke to an advocate and they were in court with me (if that occurs) would that be beneficial even if there is no police report?

My sister just left her now ex boyfriend a few days ago because he was very abusive (He even beat her while she was asleep with her 2 year old daughter beside her on the bed). She went to bible study yesterday around 7pm and we have not heard from her and her daughter since. We know he has them but we dont know what to do. We dont know if they are hurt, okay, dead, alive, or even still in town. He blocked our numbers and if we call from another number he hangs up the instant he realize its us. What should we do, I’m so worried?

My daughter moved to New York with her boyfriend in December. He signed a contract with his parents to lease with option to buy a second home that they have. He is verbally and now becoming physically violent with her and continues to threaten to lock her out where she cannot get her stuff. Police have not been involved yet except for the time i seen the sheriff over there and i am in Arizona trying to mediate. He has now taken her key and says she has no right nor do i to enter the home to collect her belongs. Can he by New York law lock her out and obstruct her ability to collect her items so she can move out and come back to arizona with me

My friend just busted my window out he a friend but he likes me should I call the police

My significant other’s father “promised” to break my face in. While I was visiting my SO (he lives with them to help financially support them), what do I do if this happens again? Can I call the police if he threatens me in his home? how does this work if I live with my SO? He was verbally abusive, called me a “liberal bitch” a narrcassist, a psychopath. Never calls me by my actual name because my real name is Spanish, so he calls me Jonny even through I am a woman. Has also called me racial slurs.

im 16 and my mother is not in the picture but my father is abusive to my mental heth but never dose this to m 5 year old sister. i have a frends parents who would love have me live with them except my father is vey cotroling and i have no idea on how to get them the legal custady of me and live with them. how would i go about doing this with out CPS getting involved?

Who can I turn to to help me with attorney since there was fraud in my divorce case. I’m an older woman now with diagnosis of cancer. And my husband was ordered to restore my spousal military benefits he diverted to his ex-wife and was arrested in divorce court and got out of jail as indigent, even though he makes over 15,000 a month in government retirement. And we’ve been married since 2004, and are currently in a pending divorce case here in Georgia. Legal aid will not take my case as they said they heard of my case I assume, his attorneys or my attorney contacted them… [edited for content] A fraudulently entered final order in a divorce matter and recovering government benefits that were ordered as a part of the pending divorce case. It’s my health has been irreversibly compromised, because I never received my spousal military benefits that were diverted to my husband’s ex-wife of only 3 years my entire marriage and she is still receiving my benefits in perfect health. Would someone please represent me in Georgia, the home foreclosed that he was ordered to pay the last thing that was put in was by the judge a few months ago and with my health and the Foreclosure of our home of 10 years I put in a motion to transfer and I need help completing the transfer, income deduction, contempt (the restoration of my benefits ordered etc. ) And the legal final decree.

my husband put lying order protection on me can I file iied claim on him

my husband had hit me and I’m currently 3 months pregnant & he was arrested. His visa is expired I was wondering if he could get deported for this type of crime & if I will be informed if he is, with a baby on the way I’m a little concerned about this.

Hi, I confronted a man that has been making sexual comments and verbal aggression towards my girlfriend. I confronted him at his work and now they wanna press charges. No violence happened. But now he is telling her that the only reason she has a job is cause of him and still makes it seem like if she doesn’t side with him that he will press charges and jeopardize her future job. What can I do?

My Husband and I argued and he came up in my face. I panicked, pushed him away with one hand and slapped his arm with the other. He picked a knife off the kitchen side and held it towards me. I ran and hid outside for a few hours until he had gone to bed. He had been drinking, I hadn’t. This morning, he said he was going to the police cos I had hit him. I am worried I will get into trouble. Should I go to the police first and tell them what I did.

If I’m in an abusive relationship and I take our pets (registered in my abuser’s name) and flee town, can I be arrested or sued?

My husband and I have heated loud and physical arguments on a weekly and sometimes daily schedule, around our 4 month baby. I’m scared that this is having a negative impact on her and that I’ve day these violent shouting matches will get our baby hurt. I ask him to lower his voice he gets louder on top of our baby. I want to leave this apartment with my daughter by I seriously fear him.

My husband and I were both charged with domestic violence we are not pressing charges against each other we just want to go forward and forget this terrible night ever existed we waved our rights for attorney did we do the right thing our bail was set at $40 and they only held us for 6 hours I’m going to live in Massachusetts

I’m curious if this would be considered domestic violence …………I have 2 teen children 16 and 19 and I’ve lived with the same man for 17 years he has never been physically abusive to me but it seems to be emotional abuse and he has made me feel like I’m not good enough for him and my children have told me if I leave they will either stay here or move with their father because the man we live with is their uncle and he has made promises more times then not he has told me many times I’d have nothing if it wasn’t for him and if I leave I’d be on the streets and he’d make sure that if I live in this county I reside in he’d make my life hell I’d rather move to a different county and I’d hate to say it but if I take my kids they will tell him and his family where I am my son 19 has yelled at me and told me to leave shit the way it is and stop being such a cry baby ……my bf has made promises of marriage but yet he jumps when his wife calls and they have been separated for over 18 yrs way before we hooked up and when I bring it up he becomes verbally abusive and makes me feel like I’m crazy like I should just deal with how things are or just leave I know my case isn’t as bad as others but I still feel like I have no way out

Wife has what appears to be bi polar episodes. She goes from being sweet- needy- to worried- angry – saying violent things and often making violent gestures or minor whacks on me and children that are not directly related to the kids behavior, but more related to her personal preferences at the time…. Should I file a restraining order? If I file divorce she will turn it into a total wreck inflicting as much damage as possible on us. She is very smart and talks a lot. What should I do? [Edited for length]

Me and my fiance got in a fight and it got physical nothing bad but I called the police and now he has a felony domestic assault charge he should not be in trouble for us fighting I just got mad at the moment and called the cops we have a great life together 3 kids 2 of which lost their real mom last month to meth and we are very happy just got stupid whiskey drunk and got dumb from it what can I possibly do to help him get out of this and get our life peaceful again???????? I’m desperate!!!

My boyfriend and I got into an argument. I started hitting him first because I was so angry. Since I wouldn’t stop he grabbed my hair and started pulling it. Then he started slamming my head against the counter and window. This was in a car. I wanted to report him but he said I would be the one to get in trouble because I started hitting him first. My question is does this count as domestic abuse on his part since he’s the man? Was it wrong for him to put fight back?

I been married for almost 2 years and my wife has a son that’s 13 yrs olds and ever since we got together and married he has changed to worse. He smokes marijuana punches walls on our home and has pushed her mom and has kicked me. He is super aggressive tours everyone including police. He is trying to become a gang member and is doing every thing that’s is wrong. He don’t come back from school unless we call the police and report him as a run away kid. He has told police and a juvenile detention officer that he is going to do anything that will put him in Jail for life. He has no regret of what he does and I’m afraid he will hurt or kill someone soon..

my soon to be ex husband got arrested last year for domestic abuse against me. I finally had the courage after 8 years of dealing with his abuse to call the cops and have him arrested. he got deported to mexico but came back two months later after his mistress smuggled him back into the country. He just got arrested again for domestic abuse against her and is in jail and will be deported again once he serves his sentence. my question is when I file for divorce will I be able to request full custody of my three girls and get his right terminated or will the court try to set up a visitation schedule once he is out of jail?

My BF of 7 years was arrested for assault with a strike and had a no contact order until his court date. This was the worst case as it progressively got worse. However I feel guilty because it only happens when he drinks he doesn’t remember and is a marine vet. If charged he could lose his job. I didn’t get him arrested however since we can’t talk I feel like he hates me while I still want to be with him. How do I not feel this way? And should I drop the charge and go back with him?

I have MS, my husband is my primary caregiver paid by the state we live in $2300 a month. Recently I found a video of me on the floor not breathing. The video lasted 4 mins my face was purple I looked posed like a frog. He says I fell off the bed n he tried 6 hrs to get me up then just gave out!! We were on a USAF base but he never called 911!! He didn’t intend me to see.. I have $400,000 in life insurance and just prior to this he was trying to get me to get more. I live in an extremely small town I took video to “MAYBERRY OFFICERS” they looked at me like I was crazy even though he has a prior DV conviction.. what kept me from dying my cat!!
Now same husband just walked off left cleaned out bank to the negative flew 2000 miles away to be with his online Whore.. he made no arrangements for me and I’m 100/% dependent on him is this not abuse!!

My girlfriend and I got into an argument. She was intoxicated I was sober. She ended up calling the police to try and have me removed from our home. Instead during her rundown of events she indicated that she knocked a cigarette out of my hand because I lit it in the house which we don’t smoke in. They immediately said she was being arrested for domestic battery, even though she didn’t commit it against me. I had no marks, I didn’t call, and made no statement that she hit me. I simply agreed that she knocked it out of my hand with the intent on putting my cigarette out. How can this be? She never hurt me. She is 27 and never even had a speeding ticket, she has been in jail for 2 days since it is the weekend, will they release her on her own recognizance tomorrow at her hearing? I don’t see how they are trying to charge her with battery when she did not.

Hi. I am a male, i have being with my fiance for the last 17year living with her for 15ish years. Up until now i haven’t even thought of it as abuse. She was drinking every night and she would say things about me and my family that she wouldn’t say if she didn’t have a drink. The next day she wouldn’t remember anything. If i was at work the next day when I get home she is acting like nothing has happened.

My ex-boyfriend was very emotionally and then physically abusive. I never reported it to the police out of fear that he would retaliate. It’s been about 2 years now, and I’m worried that he could still be looking for me, or even do this again to his next partner. Should I still report it? I think it’s past the statute of limitations, but I feel like it should be on record somewhere. What should I do?

My ex best friend of several years and 1 year more than friends, inseparable, he did everything for my son and I. Years went by and I was still never anything other then his friend or neighbor. He found someone else and had me arrested multiple times and jailed. All over false allegations of domestic violence via cyberstalking. Of course it turns out to be refused in court no charges were filed and that was that. But got arrested multiple times. Ruined my life. He was the abuser who got away with it because he is as cop. How can I ever ruin him like he has done to my life my future my sons future.

Are domestic abuse charges dropped from defendant when victim dies

My question or comment.. I am looking to get help in getting some things out and in storage. I attempted this afternoon at 130pm and unfortunately the ABUSER I live with started going off cussing aggressively. I had to call the person I found on Craigslist for moving help and warned him about my situation. BUT I STILL NEED HELP.

I AM SCARED BUT I HAVE NO ONE REALLY.

My ex had gotten charge with hitting me now over a year later now their wanting to charge me as well for hitting him too. Can they really do that when I live in a other state now and it’s been over a year and I was never change with anything or now went to jail for anything.

I need Advice I dont Know what to do.. I’m in love with someone who is sweet but he gets mad quick I get Scared sometimes. If my significant other gets mad quick because I asked Him the same question 3 times.. because he wasn’t clear in my opinion & then he chokes me & squeezes my face & points at my forehead really hard is that a sign of him not wanting to tell me things & being violent ?

In order for me to get an apartment after being in an domestic violence shelter do I have to file an order of protection for the person who abused me?

In 2014 -2016 me and my brother moved in with my dad and his girlfriend and kids and her daughters who are older than us and as the time went on we saw a side of my dad’s girlfriend that we never knew .She verbally and physically abused us, for me when she whooped me 30 times one day for coming home in my gym clothes because she wanted me to come home in what she sent me in an I was sore for about two weeks my lower part was purple and while she whooped me I was screaming and she got tired of hearing me so she slapped me and told me to shut up or she would put duct tape on my mouth …… But I regret it every day knowing that she is still living her life and doesn’t think what she has done was wrong but she would just say it was discipline and I would hate for her to do it to someone else I wonder what I could have done to put her away besides getting evidence since are bruises were gone. (Edited for length)

If I call the cops on my abusive boyfriend and he’s not on my lease or any of the bills at my house or anything will they for sure be able to make him leave. Cause I sure Wud hate to the call the cops and there’s nothing they can do because it’s a “civil” matter ! And that Wud make it so much worse on me if they can’t make him leave and I called them

I really need help. I’ve been married for 5 years now. The first 4 years was good. Last year it all went bad. My husband has broke my rib busted my nose and put a knife to my throat. I tried to leave and he treated me saying if I make it out he will hunt me down and I’ll regret it that’s if I make it out or I can leave but it will be in a body bag. He has never hurt my kids ever. Tonight my daughter didn’t wanna go to bed. Out of no where he hit the heck out of her back with a belt. I called the cops but he lied to them and they left. Idk what to do. Am such a worthless mom. Help

About 7 to 5 years ago i was emotionally and sexually abused by my ex fiancee. Is there any way i can file a lawsuit without having to confront him. It gives me the chills just thinking about this and i dont ever want to see him. I saw him around november of 2018 while I was on my way home from work in Berkeley, CA and i got a panic attack just seeing his face. I never went back to work since that day because i didn’t want to cross paths with him again. He use to buy me alcohol. He cheated on me several times when we were engaged and he use to make me smoke marijuana so that i can be “relaxed”.

How can we as parents address plausible accusations of violence against our son who is middle aged. We are aware of his controlling behavior and his verbal abuse but up until this time we weren’t aware of any violence. His father has had conversations with him in the past regarding this behavior trying to get him to understand the damage he is doing to his all of his relationships with no results. This last weekend it became physical and we are heartsick and frightened. We live in another state and considered traveling to confront him but became concerned that might just make matters worse.

The other night I called the police on my husband who suffers from PTSD and he choked me until I could not breath after an angry argument we had where initially I was irate in text messages and calm when I got home he got violent when I got home and I fearing for my safety called for help with the police. My husband fearing he would be arrested made a statement that I held a knife to him and they arrested me they said because I through text messages looked like I was the aggressor and we both told different stories. His lie has brought fourth a felony arrest for what occurred and if charged I will lose my career, my education and my future potentially. My husband wants to stay married but he doesn’t see that he had the control of his bx not to allow it to physically escalate and he had not care for my safety and that is why I called the police. My life was more important than his inability to self-regulate. I hired a lawyer and I hope the charges are declined by the DA, my husband refused to press charges and pleaded to the police not to arrest me. Over the years I’ve endured so much abuse and trauma with this man and the day I call for help the police make him the victim. I’m seeking support in my church, my family, and friends. I don’t want to be married anymore to this man and now I have a criminal lawyer when in should have hired a divorce attorney months ago. My only question is where should I go from here when everything feels stacked up against me.

My mother in law told my husband to put order protection on me with all lies. I want to call her church and report her.

My husband put lying order protection on me actually this is the second one. He stole my clothes and won’t let me get them should I call his lawyer?

My friend said she was beat by her ex-husband 10 years ago and he is still trying to control her life won’t let her have any friends what is the best way to help her get her life back?

My husband has been verbally abusing me, sometimes hitting me and threatening to hit me or kill me. Just found out I am pregnant and the abuse and threats got worse. He wants an abortion and threatens to kill me if I don’t have one. I have told him several times I want a divorce and he needs to leave the house, which I have bought it. What should I do with a person that wont leave my own house and is being abusive and threatening? Have not told a soul of my situation, I am afraid and don’t know what to do.

My mother hit me as a child. I never saw bruises because I never thought to look, not because they were not necessarily there. I was sore for days after sometime though and one time u could see her entire hand on my cheek from where she had struck me. My brother told me it wasn’t physical abuse because I never saw a bruise. Was it abuse or no?

My wife had a mental breakdown that was also alcohol fueled and became belligerent. She was causing a huge, loud scene outside of our home. She ended up falling down into something and injuring her face pretty badly. Our neighbors called the police due to the loudness of the situation. The police arrested me for aggravated battery on her. Her police statement to the police on scene was that I absolutely didn’t hit her and that she was acting crazy and fell down and hit her face. We both got attorneys. A declination of prosecution was filed by her attorney. I’m terrified and embarrassed by this perfect storm of coincidences that have me falsely accused. Do I have a chance for the charges to be dropped? This is my first run in with the law and I have no history of any violence what so ever. Thank you

My wife had me arrested saying I drove by her house Monday night violating the order. Now, I was at home with my roommate and talking to my mom as well. How can I be arrested for this violation when she cant prove the allegation? Now I have to fight that too.

I called the police on my girlfriend she was arrested for domestic violence i didnt press charges she was released i recieved a letter from the domestic violence unit 19 days later i wasnt home to recieve it and i didnt make it to the post office in time to pick it up what could that letter be about

My daughter who is 16 was in a relationship with a boy she met at her High School. They were both 14 when they met and started a relationship that became sexual by the time they were both 15. She hid most of it from us. About a year after they started dating, her dad and I came across evidence on her phone that he was abusing her. Long story short, it got worse to where we went to court and she was granted a restraining order for 18 months. They have lots of mutual friends and we hear about him. Recently he was put into juvenile hall for assault with a deadly weapon unrelated to my daughter’s restraining. Do we have the right to know when he is released and his whereabouts? We feel so nervous and scared that he might just turn up when we least expect it.

elderly father with dementia threatens to beat disabled ill daughter to death & keeps threatening to throw her out of the house. constant verbal, emotional abuse, terror, & constant hostilities at home. hopeless, dispaired. Death is only escape? I am very isolated. No friends. No money. Disabled. Ill. Can’t stand or walk very much. I am sick of life long systematic mental abuse. Now unbearable because I cannot live in this beaten down broken mentally & emotionally disabled from systematic mental torture all my life long. God. Save me.

My husband & I had gotten into a financial argument in his car. He pulled over & told me to get the fuck out of his car. I got out took the 2 mile walk home. I made it safely back home. Now he can’t even look me in the face. Is this abuse? Is he “trying” to be remorseful?

can I kick out of my house my son of 19 if he hits me, doesn’t comply with house rules, breaks things around the house

I have a friend who needs help with filing for his divorce, he is ex navy seal with many health issues and has been dealing with his ex-wife who has frozen his bank accounts , locked him out of his face book account. He has suffered enough, the harassment and mental abuse is too much for him he needs some real help. Is this a place he may come to for help?

My ex boyfriend and I would occasionally socially do drugs. One day he wanted to go the beach with our friends and do LSD. I refrained from doing the drug even though he tried to persuade me to join his trip. After sunset at the beach things went terribly wrong. he sped off and started talking crazily. He made me start driving after stopping the car in the middle of the road. He threw our phones out the window, thus loosing directions and causing us to end up on a deserted dark road. Where he dragged me out of the car and as I attempted to flee he tackled me and punched me. He ran away and the cops found him. where he was then baker acted. His parents sent him off to rehab where he calls me begging for a second chance. He swears something took over his body and that he would never ever hurt me. He swears he had no control and hardly even remembers. Do drugs really have this much power over someone? Should I believe him? Is he not at complete fault? Should I consider taking him back?

I’m in love with a man who began the mental and emotional abuse when we first got our home together . Got so bad I told him my son and I were leaving . He got angry said so your leaving me hit himself with phone charger had me arrested but sheriff new and the DA said not picking this charge up. Tossed out court. I did get a CPO grated then 5 year restraining order. He still contacted. After 6 months he never stopped harassing me threatening my job then one day everything change. Said he’s getting help wants us to go to consoling and I let him back got order dropped and the court rep. It’s not just emotional, and mental it gets physical bad. I went into work with a messed up face arms all be used up and he’s grabbed me by my throat just 2 weeks ago he had his hands choking me I could breath was barley hitting his chest and almost passed out. When released I gasp for air. I LOVE THE SOBER MAN I FELL IN LOVE WITH NOT THIS ONE HELP BECAUSE I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO [edited for length]. 

My aunt lives in Mexico with her husband and she isn’t allowed to go out nor come and visit the family ; she is expected to stay home cook for the husbands mom and clean and she isn’t allowed to work . Years back he had laid hands on her . She ended pretty badly. She went back because of the children . She got kicked out the house today and she wasn’t allowed to take anything and had to leave without her children . She’s really scared and frankly I am too. What should we do?

My boyfriend has pushed me twice now to the floor while we were both drinking and fighting, I know I can be really mean while intoxicated and he has been under a lot of financial pressure (that’s why we are fighting) and the next day he doesn’t even talk to me about it or try to apologize or anything. I am concerned that it has happened 2 times and it might happen again or if I break up with him he might snap even worse. What should I do. How can I talk to him about this?

My 24 year old son has been arrested for domestic battery and endangering the welfare of a child. His daughter is 2. Evidently he was drunk on tequila and Lord only knows what else. The little girl is black and blue on her legs, bumps on her head and bruise on her nose.
He has been in trouble with the law. Unemployed.
I don’t want to turn my back on him but his behavior has reached a new low.
Should I hire him a lawyer? Do I accept his calls from jail?
My wife is very mad with me as she thinks I should cut him out of our life forever.
I am sick all the way around and don’t know what I should do?

Where to get help post divorce 4/14/15, where I was abused and continue to be abused, by my X-husband, and our family courts in El Dorado County, California. I am 70 years old, lost everything except my homeowners exemption, working as nurse for 50 years, through garnishment must pay my X, $2200.00 monthly till he dies, plus $140,000.00 more. I have worked my whole life and helped others. My X-Husband had nothing and took everything from me – over $1 million. I was only married to him for 11 years-no children together. There was a trial due to his undisclosed assets-he never disclosed.  There were court documents that went missing, delays in court processing, talk of judges and attorneys being paid off. This is a travesty of justice. My X-husband has committed fraud, forgery, perjury, divorce trial in Superior Courts, El Dorado County, California, and no one cares [edited for length]. 

I’m interested in receiving counseling from Weave but curious about how you typically conduct your counseling sessions? is it typically in group therapy settings or is there also one-on-one counseling available?

I’m afraid to leave my husband because I think he will try to pull the while suicide stunt again or start throwing things. How do I leave?

My wife was grabbed by arm and thrown down by neighbor whom was drunk and also slung childs riding toy at our heads. Intent to harm or worse. All the way to Chief. Did Nothing. Approx. 9 months later I accidently touched neighbors fence and Sheriff’s deputy shoved my wife by her breasts for trying to talk. The next day I was arrested on $3000 dollar bond. Neighbors continue to harass me and my family going on over 4 years. Seeking contingency Civil Lawyer. I want Justice, compensation, charges filed against everyone involved. Same Commissioner saw my wifes bruised arm. Need a Lawyer. Have very little money. A lot of documents, reports and pics. [edited for content].

I have been abuse mentally and verbally abused. After 33 yrs of marriage my husband is using my Mental Afflictions to bring charges against me. I broke down and socked him. I was arrested, never been in trouble. After release I called WEAVE immediately and was told “You are the abuser we cannot help you. I had no place to go. I was told because he did not batter me physically I have no rights. I cannot comprehend the fact that an individual can abuse you mentally but because no hands were put on me, I have no rights. I have no record, I’m female, 70 yrs old with many ailments and now this man will once again wIll walk away. He is an abuser. Was found guilty in 1986 for child abuse and also was abusive to his first wife. I’m lost, I’m scared and I’m repressed by a Public Defender and to this date, months, he has returned only two calls and no other communication to this point. I have pre-trial on January 24th, court on March 5th and 6th. I feel I’m going to be chastised without any facts. Please help and Thank You.

I got out of a toxic relationship two years ago and finally opened up to dating again. 
Long story short I gave the manchild my key we are no longer dating and he refuses to give it back. 
Aside from this triggering my trauma I really would like to know what measures I could take to protect myself and have him pay the consequences but I don’t know how or what to do and would hate to have to change my locks 
Any advice greatly appreciated

If I die(left abusive 20 year marriage 3 months ago) even though we are still married, can I have my sister handle my affairs?

I got out of an mentally abuse relationship. So know my ex started to threaten me. We both was living in a house where I paid everything (rent, utilities and food). I had enough and moved out. I couldn’t get all my belongings out in one trip so I came back the next day and the locks where changed. The lease is under my name only. I still have important belonging in the house. I texted him and he called me all kinds of names. So I turned off the utilities. Now he starts threatening me with lies. I’m a Manager and deal with money every day. I’ve been doing this Typ of work for over 20 years. He said that he will call the company I’m working for now to tell them that I stole money from my old companies. I never stole a penny in my life. I don’t know what to do. Can I call the police because he is trying to blackmail me?

I left an abusive relationship… he is doing everything he can to make my life miserable. .. I’m staying with a friend but can only stay a couple days. I need a place ASAP! My ex took all the money I had and I don’t get paid again until next Friday… I’m desperate if anyone can help I would appreciate it!

If my abuser leaves can he come back and take stuff out of my home? We have 3 kids. He wants to leave and in two weeks get his stuff after.

I am in a negative, abusive arrangement made by my brother/family without my permission or consent. This person is verbally abusive and absurd behavior, pranks,hacking, humiliation and I have the Atlanta Police Department,officials and Mayor involved surveillance, bullying and harassment, death threats, intimidation, unkind. I have been terminated unfairly and filed with the EEOC. My family members spearheaded by my brother are also watching me. I cannot retain any lawyer anywhere because of people who influence are huge. I am looking somewhere for shelter and help in the the Southern California area. I am hoping for some help from somewhere. This city is corrupt on every level and I am in dire straits.

My daughter is in abusive relationship. Her boyfriend a bum uses her car as his house and sex place for them. My 18 y .o daughter went to jail twice for domestic violence due to he is controlling, abusive they fight a lot and her bf got battery misdemeanor when he healed at her. The 1st jail time of my daughter was dismissed. The 2nd time she still in jail waiting for arraignment but the day she got pick up her bf got pick up too and book him is arrest warrant for burglary, resisting arrest, giving false name, and battery towards an officer. I’m bailing my daughter if arraignment will not be on her side. Her bf will stay in jail for sure. Is my daughter case will be drop since her as accuser is in jail too?

I am chronically ill and therefore disabled and cannot work. I am financially dependent on my abusive parents for medical care, health insurance, medication, and all of my living expenses. I don’t know how to escape this situation because my medical care is so expensive. They sabotage my attempts to get on disability income and punish me for trying. They also sabotaged other attempts I have made to leave in the past. They blatantly want me helpless and under their control forever. It feels like the only way out would be if someone decided to just pay for everything for me. How can I get out of here when I need so much money just to live but I can’t work?

The first message got sent as a text message (instead of iMessage – not sure why), then a few hours later it got sent again as an iMessage. My boyfriend asked me why I sent the message again and said that I “f***ed up”, basically implying that I probably sent it to some other guy and told me to “just be honest if I’m cheating”. He always asks me if I’m cheating on him, and I always reassure him. I have friends and family that can vouch for me, but he refuses to reach out to them and confirm my whereabouts. He knows he has insecurities, but we always seem to have little fights here and there about his suspicions. I’m trying to keep the relationship together, but I’m not sure how much more I can handle. He has taken photos of my texts and sent it to my friends. The photos didn’t imply anything, and my friends are not on good terms with him any longer. He’s been better since, but now it seems like things are just repeating itself. I love him dearly, when things are good, he is lovely to be around. He is an alcoholic and has been doing fairly well, but recently he went on a binge over the weekend. I’m ready to give up.

 Who can help me when my husband is being mentally abusive towards me?

My son and his wife live in my mobile home and he’s mentally abusive to her and she runs to me I live next door in a camper. she here lately has done it once a week my husband is sick of it and told me to take her to her mom or dads or back to trailer. he works hard 6 days a week and my son and his wife don’t work and yesterday my husband couldn’t find his air gage and a tool in shed was not put back where it goes so I go and tell son he goes off saying that’s his trailer and screaming n I heard him slamming doors. He is losing his mind and getting worse he’s 36 years old and his wife is 34 and she has 3 boys but she can’t see them and my son has 3 he can’t see he cusses me like a dog. I’m getting worried about him going to get kicked out not really but still I do he is my son and cops all they do is put someone in jail and fines and stuff that’s not necessary. [Edited for length]

I live in an apartment building and suspect a neighbor is being physically abused by her boyfriend. I have reported my concerns both to management and security patrol as soon as I hear what sounds like abuse: yelling, cursing by the boyfriend, the female screaming and crying and items being thrown and smashed against the wall. I don’t know the young lady and I don’t feel comfortable approaching her about it. What else can I do? They have a baby and I can’t bear the thought of him/her losing its mother or growing up and either being abused or being an abuser.

What’s considered domestic violence. My boyfriend an I got in an agreement because he called me stupid an retarted after I couldn’t remember a password I use a year ago. I told him that was not ok to call me that and he said it again. So then I said your stupid and retarted if I’m at. Basically letting him know that it doesn’t feel good to be called that. He said leave him alone and he don’t want to talks about it. He left room and went in patio and close sliding door. I went to open it and he push me twice while it was half way open and close it when my thighs was still in between. I don’t think he realize my legs was still in between the door. He said leave me alone when he push my twice. This never happen before. I did not put my hands on him. He said if I just left him alone then it would of never happen. He said he had a bad day at wrk and not himself today. I know his human and humans get emotional and make mistakes. He said it will never happen again.

My girlfriend of eight years and I got into an argument I pulled her phone out of her hand, she had me taking off the premises by the police. Now she wants me to come back and I want to make sure that is legal because they told me don’t go back there until they say it’s OK, is there something she can sign?

My neighbor, a single mom, has a 40 yo son living at home with a drug addiction. She has attempted to seek help for him but the doctors are taking him off all his medication and he is threatening to burn her house down, drag her out while on fire so authorities can identify and bury her. This man is crazy and a danger to our community. The Miranda act only removes him for a short period. What else can be done?

My abuser pressed charges on me for domestic assault. Now I’m on probation. The abuse has continued and he has made threats to call my PO when it was self defense. I’m also scared of retaliation if I file order of protection.

I believe my son.was hurt and.his.mother and.my family have hidden it from my self and the police?I started having thoights.my son was being hurt, his.mother and her mother his grandmother came to drop him off and he had a cut on his right hand palm his.mother&grandmother were crying shaken in tatters, my son wouldn’t look at anyone or speak he was pale as aghost,my mother&sistersat wile I over herd that ,(*******)had went to my work to “RUIN MY LIFE &do something BAD<-her words,”And some body hurt Him!! after words I immediately had ahead time trying to get my son to talk or play he was scared of everything,I walked back out,and they refused to tell.me because I over react abput.my son being fucking !!molested,I went into a deep depression in relized the had been stalking me at work and with a hypowerd Drone!!! to and from home and broken into my home , i.am.relixe who Nd what has happens my family refuses to help his.mothrr and there family do not care I need answers or guidance on who to call people around.me know but won’t help

June 2013, my son almost died, beaten by his dad (X). I was 5 months pregnant with his 2nd son. My entire world collapsed. As a result of my Xs abuse to my whole family, I lost my driver’s license, my van, my home and my reputation. The court took Xs parental rights and gave him 10 year jail sentence.

During the past five years my son has healed and grown up to be happy and healthy. With minimal lifelong physical damage. I carried the pregnancy and am grateful his brother never had to know the abuse.

I have worked with every agency I could think of. Trying to rebuild my life for me and my kids. 5 years later and I am still struggling every day. Still no driver’s license and we are still homeless. I am working, which barely covers our hotel room. I am desperate for a real home. Is there help available? I hate that his abuse still haunts us. I am working as hard as I can to provide. But it is not enough. We need help. I don’t know who to ask or where to go…. Any advice will be greatly appreciated.

My husband is threatening to leave and take our 6 month old baby. He is mentally and verbally abusive to all of us. Can he take our baby?

It has been about 2 years since I left my abusive ex husband . and when I left I kept everything bottled up inside and never talked about it . I can’t talk to my family about it cause there first question is why,did you stay,for so long that was stupid on my part ! I have have horrible anxiety and nightmares …. I,work at the hospital in my town and they offer councling and I,went twice and did not go back I was so,embarrassed to,talk,about what happen to me ! That was a year ago …. Im,ready to,break my,silence and tell someone what happen to me … And to,help,other women out that is going through the samething how do I,go,about doing that ????.

I guess I’m not even really sure what to call this…..I’ve been with my boyfriend for a little over 3 years, he’s always been really caring, with a big heart and has been my shoulder and best friend. We just recently moved in together and some things have started to seem really off. So, here’s the thing that has just started that is really baffling me. He wakes up at least 2 or 3 times during the night, usually around 1 a.m., 3 a.m. and maybe around 4 a.m. and I have to get up for work around 5:30 a.m., and each time he does he wakes me up but not with kisses or trying to snuggle, he jabs at my chest and ribs with his fingers and grabs my hands and says he’s tickling me but it’s painful, it’s always the fingers jabbing at me and sometimes causing bruising. When I tell him it hurts he says I’m not being fun or saying I’m just making excuses for him not to tickle me. I tell him to please stop so that I can sleep but he says he was missing my company and continues. He then crawls to his side of the bed and starts asking me to massage him back to sleep and if I start falling asleep before him (mind you at 3 a.m.) he starts saying things like, “I guess you didn’t mean it when you said you’d always take care of me” This has been going on for the last two weeks (the tickle thing) and I just don’t get all this new erratic behavior. Something just definitely seems off. We’ve been living together for about 3 or 4 months and he’s making more and more comments that seem unkind and tells me I’m really starting to be a complainer if I ask him why he’s being so unkind. I’d love any feedback, because I’m confused and hurt [edited for length].

Can my ex date his probation officer before and after?? He was on probation?? I was recently in a very bad domestic violence case that has been dropped already, my ex was facing 20 for aggravated assault but by his mother having money during the case..he was able to beat the case. I’m drained drained should I contact her supervisor in have her phone in media data screened??should I file motions with the court of Clayton county Ga, I was abused by both my ex in the system has failed me I have so much pain in anxiety depression… homeless [edited for length].

Is it possible to obtain a domestic violence case and go to jail for accidentally scratching someones ear due to their own actions?, lets say you and your significant other are at a family members house and shes feeding your child and the two of you get into a quarrel about litterally the Weather and you grab with not enough to hurt her but slight pressure by the top of the ear (like im sure a lot of peoples parents or grandparents have done at some point due to childish behaviour), you do this not meaning to injure her in anyway shape or form, now keep in mind its been like a month to a month and a half since you clipped your finger nails, and your significant other decides instead of asking you to let go, to jerk her whole head away (almost headbutting your child) and leaving a small scratch on the inside of her ear, a neighbor has called the cops by now due to the volume in which you were arguing about the weather, they show up and they see that she has a scratch on her ear, that looks way worse then it actually is because anything open above the the neck bleeds profusely, and the police book you on domestic violence, you spend the night in jail and get out on o.r. bond and…how likely is it your going back to jail?…Am i doing everything that i should be? Is there anything that could maybe help my situation or any advice? [edited for length]

I left my narcissistic abusive ex with our son who was at the time 3. We lived in DV shelters for a year until I got a house. He sued me for joint custody and got it even though he lives with his parents who are as horrible as he is. He makes between $70,000 and 80,000 a year but can’t move out because of his drug problem. I found out he has been on drugs since the day he got joint custody. The drugs are getting worse and the meth is eating his brain. I have become terrified enough of him that I feel like I need to get a will in place and make sure my son, now 8, is taken care of. Am I overthinking this or should I be afraid? My boyfriend and I took a break for two weeks in July and experience narc was positive we would get back together no matter how many times I told him we weren’t. Things have gotten worse from there until tonight I am genuinely afraid. Any suggestions?

What do I do about my sister and her kid and her friends are coming over and breaking everything I have and hurt my dogs and wrote that if I didn’t leave they would kill them. What can I do? the cops won’t do anything????? I have no one, my mom just left and said that she didn’t do it and she don’t want to talk about it and starts yelling at me to go away.

I was recently involved in a domestic altercation with my ex. During this time he pulled a handgun out loaded it and then pointed it at my 1w year old son. On the police report it states that since he’s not my ex’s child they put him down as not a household member and did not press charges. My question is shouldn’t charges be pressed and why did they put him down as not a household member. And shouldn’t child neglect charges be pressed against him

Question is can I sue the state for not ever contacting me on 2 parole hearings for the guy who shot me in the back of the head on valentines day? They never once did and from what the court had sentenced him he was to serve 12 yrs without the possibility of parole and the 2yrs he had served while waiting 2 be charged and sentenced was not gonna count or go towards the 12yrs without parole. Do i have a good case to sue the state or sue who ever i need to, to get justice. I should have died that night but god carried me save my life. My face is scared where the bullet came out my mouth. I’m missing teeth. I have no left sinus cavity and my neurologist is tell me my memory loss is getting worse as well as my speech. Please help me [edited for length].

My boyfriend is verbally and emotionally abusive. He has been physically violent in the past, but its been almost a year since the last time. However, this morning I woke up to him yelling at our 4 year old for wetting the bed. I went to the bathroom to check on her and after getting her clean clothes, she wanted the door closed for privacy. So she was standing behind the door and I was in the hall on the other side of the door. He comes in the hall yelling and slams the door open before I could tell him she was on the other side. Door hit her and busted her mouth, top gims bleeding. Is this abuse since he was angry and yelling at her? Or just an accident? I’m not sure what to do here.

What if you have a argument with your boyfriend through a text and you tell him your ending the relationship and he gets upset and say bye?

Ok, I have a sister, she called the cops on her boyfriend for hitting her and now he’s in jail for domestic violence and now she wants to go and visit him in jail. Can my sister get in trouble for visit or not?

There is a lady that has threaten my unborn child and me and I need to know what I can do to make sure we r safe even after child is born

So in my house my mom and my uncles girlfriend got in a big dispute nothing physical,I went home because my mom sounded very agitated when I got home everything was fine so I left to spend time with friends and when I got home at midnight I found my uncles couches all ripped up and torn and I found knife in the table and a couoke in the counter and the couches were destroyed, and now I’m kinda worried that if that lady was capable of such thing what can else can she do? can my mom take that as a threat and if so what should I do?

My 20 year old daughter said I pulled her hair can I be put in jail for that? The cops read my rights and told me I can get a lawyer and gave me court day! Can I go to jail for that even if is a lie?

Asking for a friend. She broke up with her common law husband. After 1 month he thinks she’s seeing someone so he calls 911 said she pulled a knife on him & took his bike

She took her bike home. Now she’s going to jail but he wasn’t marked no bruised no witnesses just his lie

HOW IS THIS POSSIBLE? He said to me & others he lied. What can she do? She’s unemployed & broke right now

Can a police officer rescind the warrant because he lied A he wasn’t touched B

NO PROOF OR WITNESSES SHES SCARED TO DEATH!

Is there any place someone in a domestic violence shelter can get help with a car payment the abuser said she paid and didn’t ??

I’m in a marriage and its unhealthy I know my flaws and someone erased what I had wrote so here I go again hi… I’m in a marriage where my husband says hell get a job when I leave or hell clean when I move out or if you said it I’ll be it over anything negative I say but if I said you’ll love me etc. he’ll say no no to anything positive he’s even allowed his @the time 17and 1\2 year old daughter involved herself In an argument we had by attacking me and I defended myself just to have he call the cops and she lied to them saying I attacked her hurt her arm etc. I got told i couldn’t come to my home my own home but I did because my husband said to and it was the worst mistake because I had one drink with him and he started an argument and then call the police and so I then got a felony but he know how to test me he doesn’t care about what makes me happy sad nothing he’s like dogging me out plain and simple right in my face he complains about my cat and this for therapy me I react or and repeat the names or things ive been called… this marriage to find out why he’s so fake and hateful and so intent on my reaction on things I know that’s playing with fire I just wish I knew the purpose of things I literally don’t desire drama but it seems to have followed me everywhere since this marriage its like I gotta put on my big girl pants with the acceptance that he is happy the way he is I’m not I just wish I was in a pain management for the physical pain I’d feel good I really want to be sober …I got no where to go but I’d rather not move to fast because I believe I may make the wrong one and I can’t afford to be homeless [Edited for length and content]

Can someone be arrested for physical abuse that has happened within months prior to the report being filed? (Example: let’s say an altercation took place within a relationship & months after the relationship ended, one of the individuals gets mad about it ending and threatens to show the police a photo of a bruise on her arm, and cries domestic violence)… can the other person be arrested? And if so, what if that person that is being arrested, now lives in another state?

My grandson and his wife live with me, they have no other place to go. His wife ruins my clothes with paint when I go out. Today I went for a walk when I got back over 100.00 worth of new makeup ruined. Splattered all over my dresser, contaminated. My grandson didn’t believe me, he can’t deal with stress . I don’t know why she does this. I’m afraid she might try to poison me. Help.

If my spouse told the police that I didn’t touch her and I have a warrant in Kansas over a month later, can they legally issue the warrant?

My aunt was assaulted and the result of her injuries she died. The police dept. refused to get a statement from her only daughter and after her death they did a report. Can the police dept. get into trouble? The police dept. did not setup a crime scene and no DNA was collected.

I live in Pinellas County Florida my fiance owns a mobile home and I have been living there for almost a year with him he invited to people to move in and they have paid no rent or anything but they have stolen and robbed me verbally abused me threatened me pushed me threatened to rape me and I have a post that the wife put on line saying she was going to beat me with a baseball bat my fiance and I were forced to leave the residence because of the violence and now the police say we have to evict them and in the meantime pay the rent and the electric and the gas is there anyway I can get a restraining order on them and have them removed from our home please help I’m scared for my life [edited for length].

I might be in a abusive relationship and I need to keep the abuse phone number somewhere so he can’t find it. I don’t know where to keep it. Can anyone give me some Ideas?

If I can’t go home because of a restraining order do to a domestic violence. Now I’m homeless, no family or friends in the state we live in. So I move another state. Is that ok and if I have to do domestic violence classes, can I do the classes in the state that I moved to?

I live on a rental property where my spouse attacked my son (a minor) with a butcher knife. He was arrested. He had been physical in past but I never reported it. Now the 2-rental women in the office are trying to evict me & use intimidation to make me move. I lived @ this property for 8yrs. without any problems. These 2-women have not been with the property very long. I am very stressed out where I live & they’re adding to traumatizing incident of my son & I. Can I take legal action regarding this?

I was taking a shower and my enraged husband steps in fully clothed and corners me in the shower ? Is that assault, domestic violence ? His burst of angers are escalating from first grabbing my arm and putting pressure , to walk in the closet and try to knock me off the stool while standing and Sunday Morning while taking a shower he steps in and cornered me while threaten me . Is that assault, battery or domestic violence !

My live in girlfriend did not call the law on me for CDV3 charge. The neighbor did. I have never been arrested before. She did not want me arrested but the state had to. She is in dire medical condition and has no friends to help her and she can hardly walk. And my car was our transportation.so she has no transportation. She sincerely wants the no
contact agreement dissolved. I have applied for counseling and she has no way to get to my trial. I live in Richland county. SC. Also we have to move from our rental room and she cannot move because of her ongoing medical condition.

Has anyone had trouble with their jaws and teeth after the abuse my jaw is getting so bad and my back teeth are deteriorating from the breakage he caused

Is there a free texting counseling I can reach out to?

My husband kicked me out on false lies on order of protection now I can’t pay my credit cards.

We have a friend in another state who has been in an abusive relationship for some time. He is constantly telling us how she beats him up and has even threatened him at gunpoint. He has begged us not to call the police or tell other family members because he says he’s afraid she might kill herself (we are afraid she might kill him). What should we do and if we don’t tell someone and something happens would we be considered complicit? We don’t want to betray his trust, but don’t want to see him injured or killed.

I am a battered and abused wife, my husband kicked me out on false order of protections. I need a pro bono attorney.

Me and my boyfriend got in a huge fight. He started by calling me names and I blew it off at first. It got worse and I started hitting him. He grabbed me twice and threw me up against his truck door and one time had me by the neck. He slapped me in the face after I slapped him. He didn’t hit me hard enough to hurt me but it still stung. He kept repeating that I needed to leave because he did not want to hurt me because he has anger issues. Will this occur again or can he fix it? He’s never done this before.

I have reported domestic violence against me …emotional.. Verbal..bulleying.taking my vehicle…leaving me with no way to get groceries….i used ti have a protective order three years ago and one years before that…the police refuse to help me do anything but give me a card for the domestic abuse and ive already called the domestic abuse hotline and there is nothing they can help me with…what do i do????

If a 60 something year old woman threatens to kill a 21 year old over and over can she get put in prison or something?

I called 911 on my husband. By the time they were home he left the house so they didn’t take any action on him that’s what they said. He took all the money and asking me to leave the house. I am an immigrant and my husband is on H1b visa working for state department as a contractor. He blocked my friends number on my phone. He holds my h4 documents and mailbox key. It’s been 3 months since I called 911 and he is not coming home and not answering my calls after that. Instead he is asking me to leave to India.

I am in a separation situation where I live in one state and my husband lives in another. I cannot afford a divorce attorney because my husband controls all finances still and gives me a meager weekly allowance. He is living with another woman who wants him to stop all support– he has taken my car away and I have no way to get anywhere unless I can beg a ride from a friend. I just recently finished grad school and am trying to start a business on my own with little or no money. I called my husband three times at work to ask for my car back and he threatens to get a restraint order on me if i ever call again. I do not know what to door where I might find help. I feel like I am losing my mind. He has also forged my signature on various legal documents including bank loan applications. He has maxed out credit cards in my names among many other things.

Husband and his mistress stole a child and I belongs for drugs. He admitted it all in the text. I caved saved. He then beat me in front of the child as well as tried to rape me. I left. Made mistake after his rehab to go back. He ripped me out of daughter bed. Charged with battery and child endangerment. He wants to get back with me.. I am not going back mistress and he had twins. How do I charge her as well as him? I have proof of stalking as well.

My husband put lying orders of protection on my son and I. Can I have him prosecuted if it is dropped?

My husband is physically abusive. I am afraid. He has a firearm (legally), and that scares me. Will I be in legal trouble if I put the gun in my safe deposit box without his knowledge? Florida.

My ex husband smashed
my 14 year olds cell phone because he called me looking for his soccer gear.

My husband threatened to sell my car if I file for divorce. He wouldn’t let me work for 8 years so I don’t have any money. He keeps me on a very short leash. He’s extremely abusive. But he makes hood money but he said that he’d rather kill himself than to help me and his daughter. Can anyone help me.

I am trying to evict my ex and we both have lawyers. I overheard him on the phone saying he was going to break things in my house to hurt me financially, but also that he hopes I die when I have surgery. My friend thinks I should report it to the police? Is this something that should be reported? I am torn if this is any kind of threat to me and if I should be afraid he would harm me. after that he followed me around the house acting like he was doing stuff and listening to my call. I don’t know who else to ask and understand my situation is not as serious as others if you can’t give me advice I understand. Thank you for your time.

My dad threatens to kill me a lot and he has one tried to suffocate me with a pillow.

My adult son is in an abusive relationship. They have split up many times but he always goes running back to her. He has even shown me video that he took of her with her knowledge where she slapped him across the face numerous times. He tells me all the time how much he hates her and wants her out of his life then he gets rid of her for a month and then next thing you know he’s back with her. Is there anyway that I can make him see what he’s doing to himself? If you tell him he’s in an abusive relationship, he will deny it to the high heavens and sometimes even accuse you of being the abuser because you’re not seeing things his way and putting her up on a pedestal. I might add she has been charged with domestic violence before by a former boyfriend. I worry for my sons safety [edited for length]

My grandsons dad’s girlfriend assaulted me. she bit me and choked me. this was done in front of the child, she had him pinned down in his car seat with her body as she bit and choked me. she has never been arressted nor charged for this, am i a victim of domestic violence and also my grandson

Question is can I file a civil restraining order for my seven and a half year old son on his behalf against his dad tomorrow in the county I live in the are dropping a child endangerment and battery case in which my son was a witness to the violence I cannot file for a t r o I already tried and they took him off of it because a family law case of hours is it down in another County they are feeling to protect my son what do I do.

IF I NEED TO GET INTO A SAFE HOUSE CAN WEAVE PICK ME UP IM HAVING RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS WITH PAST DV AND I THOUGHT AFTER HE CAME HOME IT WOULD BE BETTER ONLY WORSE IS IT GETTING IM NOW GETTING AFRAID TO EVEN BE IN SAME HOUSEHOLD. HE CONTINUOUSLY TO PUBLIC PLACES STANDS OVER ME CONTINUALLY AND ALSO IS VERY VIOLENT HE SAYS HE BITTER AND MAD IS THERE ANYWAY TO GET AWAY AND NOT CALL COPS?

Thank you for reply “What you are experiencing sounds very scary and a definite violation to your body, no one has the right to force you to marry anyone, even if you were and/or are in a current relationship with him. Have you thought about contacting law enforcement and reporting the harassment and blackmailing from him and his sister-in-law (cousin)?”. I haven’t filed any complaint against them. Also, I wanted to know being relationship, in initial phase everything was good and we promised each other that we will be together and can go ahead with marriage but everything started to fall apart. Does it mean that I have to forcefully marry him for the promise?

My bf and I bought our home together 10 years ago. We were fine then, but now the mental abuse is got me to almost breaking point. We also have an 8 year old son. I want to leave him but know I can’t afford rent +bills as rent in my area is 400+ more then the house payment is. Is there anyway for me to keep the home and get him out?

My stepfather abused my mother and my brother and I for years. My mother molested my brother most of his life. In 1990, my brother started beating me on a regular basis. 2006 and stayed away from my brother until 2017, after he was able to find me and I was so foolish that I moved in with him and his wife after they requested me to. But after about a month, they “changed”, and my brother started assaulting me again, then on February 14th, when I had became homeless. I was desperate, so I called my brother to pick me up. He did but when he started verbally abusing me, I demanded to be let out of the car. He refused and was able to keep the back doors locked. He back handed me in the car from the driver’s seat over and over, I was messed up and I knew I had a head injury. Is the violence from my brother considered domestic violence? Do you know anyone who can help me? I’ve been told that it is not domestic violence and I’m really scared and I don’t know who to speak to about this. I now rent a room and am recovering and seeking trauma counseling. I feel very responsible for what happened to me. I have so many questions and still so much fear. Please let me know if you can help me.

my boyfriend hit me on the face,before he was chocking me,and i thought it was last time but it happened again but i never called police because he owe me money plus we rented apt on both names and i want to leave but afraid he wont pay the rent and then i ll have collection in my good credit score,i dont know what to do.

**The victim in South Carolina that used the baseball bat** he also has a prior prison sentence of two or three years due to cdv. And other charges previously for other crimes if that means anything. Still worried on the outcome of me defending myself.

Want to report my partner for domestic violence in the police station put they are many issues and I am afraid they will not understand and see the problem has the police force in England officers knowing Narcissism or can I ask for one?

My ex husband stalks me and our children. He even came into my home when we were asleep and opened windows and the back door that I would always lock up before going to bed. I woke up to those items wide open. He is on my phones, iPad, kids iPads, and has even tracked us on his phone from another city. I had a prior RO for 3 years that was gone in May 2018, and I’m scared to death he’s going to hurt my kids on his visitation weekends, and further more kill me in my home.

My boyfriend beat me up last Friday he basically just body hits me so I can’t really prove the abuse anyway he threw me over the couch and my back it really bruised and I can’t think straight could it be something internal??

If my ex waits to long can she still put restraining order against me?

So it’s going on about a year and a half almost 2 years since I left my child’s father due to the domestic abuse and violence that he caused during my pregnancy with our daughter and after. There were many times I left with my daughter and went to live back with my mother but he always was able to talk me into coming back and that he wouldn’t fight with me anymore. I was so back and forth that my family said if I was to continue to take my child with me to be back with him at our apartment while knowing violence was still occurring they would have no choice but to contact CPS. That was the wake up call I needed to reflect one last time on him and the situation and know that it was literally coming down the choice of him or my daughter! I’m done feeling like I have to stay inside to avoid him popping up somewhere,I don’t want to feel uneasy and anxiety when he texts that he is coming to my home and demands to talk to me and my daughter or he will have to handle things the hard way that I will not like or want. I want to take this up with court,I’m just not sure how or where to go what to say or ask for.. that is my question ,where can I get proper legal help? I’m just afraid with all I have to back me and my child up I will be told he is not a danger to us. Thank you [edited for length]

I obtained my 3rd RO in 2016. My soon to be ex is a felon w/assault w/a deadly weapon w/firearm from the 90’s. During this divorce he submitted documents in the discovery process stating he had 2 firearms and purchased ammunition. These documents were signed under penalty of perjury with his signature. They investigated, found reasonable cause, took them to a Judge for a search warrant served the search warrant and found 4 guns and over 1000 rounds of ammunition. He is being prosecuted in criminal court but agreed to a plea deal. I am trying to have my victim impact statement heard and the Judge is stating that I am not a direct victim to the crime which I don’t understand how due to the fact that it is my RO that got the search warrant and that is how they found the guns. The Judge also decided not to hold his prior conviction against him. This is his 5th arrest that has pertained to me [edited for length].

My friends childs mother uses drugs. She believes people are after her and thinks people are poisoning her child. She has damaged his property many times. Openly threatens him in texts and on social media. She has been arrested multiple times. He has recently got a restraining order on her. But she still messages. My question is…HOW does she keep being released from jail? I understand she needs help. It is obvious she is not in her right mind. Her child has witnessed all of the things she has done. A mother in her right mind woukd never want her child to see these things. I do not understand how she is being released over and over again. She is a threat to herself and others. My question is WHY are HER rights thought to be more important than the safety of him and thier child??

There is a bus company that has a video surveillance taping of a domestic abuse act that happened to me for my ex-husband which is still employed there. That company is denying that they have any video of the incident. I know for a fact from the vice president who told me that he was very sorry because he watched the video he’s lied to the detectives and said the video does not go back that far which I know for a fact is a lie what can I do about this? I want to see this company they had sent my ex-husband to several rehabs they could have prevented this I had no way out of that bus companies parking lot do 2 hours on foot there was no way out unless you were in a vehicle for the gates to open please help

What is the law on husband and wife are having a Domestic argument shots were fired no gun was found. , do they separate the children from the parents for certain length of time? The police were called at that location

My ex was arrested and charged with domestic violence and we are no longer together but he keeps calling me blocked or texting me hateful messages and as of today he’s threatening me he won’t say exactly what but he knows I know what he means. How can I get him to stop and leave me alone ? How can I get the cops to believe me ? There is a peaceful contact ordered by the judge .

My ex boyfriend recently grabbed my arm violently and raised his fist at me, he also calls me incredibly terrible names like cunt, and bitch. Should I report this, make a statement to my local police or is it to minimal to report.

I was married to a violent man (he was arrested in 1999 for assault and domestic violence but of course I was stupid and didn’t press charges….we even had to go to court regarding this matter and I felt so bad and scared that I dropped the charges) The physical and mental abuse continued until he walked about questioning my values after going to an old friend’s same sex marriage. Coward waited until I was 4 hours away and did it over the phone. Our children are now 19 and 21. They were too young to remember his being arrested. They’d never testify against their own father. Do I have any legal right now to sue him? This whole “Me Too” movement has me wondering. He also had gone back to work, and stopped paying me child support from 2012-2017. He had the kids lie to me saying “they didn’t know if he was working or not”…and I was afraid to upset my teens by taking ex back for Child Support. I then grew a set last fall and took him back. He only had to pay for my daughter who was then 20 for 7 months and my son, who is now 19 for the next year and a half. I know I can’t sue for back support, as I never petitioned him until July 31, per NY State law. My question is about the past abuse….mental and physical. There is record of physical abuse from 1999, where I dropped the charges. Any thoughts? Please let me know. I’d like to sue him now for pain, mental anguish and my current anxiety, for which I am medicated now. Thank you.

How do I get a man sent back to prison and stay away from his wife after threatening to chop her head off and cut her face so no one would ever look at her and they have two sons together both sons do not like their father they cannot stand him she was in fear for her life so she got a gun but now she’s secretly seeing him behind the kids back what should I do

I’ve known a woman for 7 years. When first met via work she was single (divorced) and she definitely grew a crush on me. For many months we kindled a friendship and it was immediately comfortable like we were boyfriend/girlfriend, in contact in person or through text morning to night. At first I wasn’t sure I wanted a relationship, but she got to my heart and then I started to feel weird that we only had this “pseudo” boyfriend/girlfriend thing at work and via all day long texting. So I tried to get us to go out with each other outside of work. So we did a few times and one time she kissed me (she initiated it). But, I knew she had a history of abuse (every man she’s ever been with has abused her emotionally and physically, as well as childhood sexual abuse, and she’s been raped a couple times). So I didn’t take it any further than kissing because I wanted her to see a man could respect her and love her for more than just her body. Then, suddenly, she got with another man, who ended up being abusive…Then, unfortunately she went back to the abuser. While she was here I did some studying up and knew this might happen, so wasn’t surprised. However, since she went back she has come by my house a few times and we’ve been intimately involved (kissing and making love). She never should have gone back to the abuser…Also, since she’s gone back to the abuser, she makes excuses for his bad behavior, or puts him on a pedestal, saying how many good things he does…so it’s like my good deeds don’t measure up. Anyway, what I am mostly wanting to know right now is, if she says she feels nothing for me but a friend, but then engages with romantic physical contact with me, what does that mean? Should I believe her that she really feels for me as only a friend? It seems she is just in denial about me the good guy as well as the abusive bad guy. Also, any general feedback to help me understand her experience. Thanks and sorry this got so long. [Edited for Length]

my boyfriend and I recently got into an altercation and the police was called and the police decided to take pictures and I told him I didn’t want to press charges he was arrested at his job 4 days ago which is the next County and now he has no bond in that county and I’m concerned about him losing his job what can I do to speed the process of release for him because we honestly beat each other up

Hello I have a question I had an incident with my husband on February 2017 where I accidentally call the cops and told the cops that he had broken to the house, kick the door down not only one time that I call but a couple of times. I didn’t press charges, they took pictures but I told him specifically that I was not going to press charges, one investigator called me a week after and asked me if I wanted to proceed, I said no, I said I wasn’t going to it because I lied, this was February 2017. Protective order didn’t appear on till September 2017, now we’ve been going back to back to court, I’ve been showing up at court but not to be the victim I go to support him, he is my husband- they won’t drop the restraining order, I told the judge I lied and my husband is going to trial if he were to loose what are the consequences?

I’ve been with a covert narcissist for two and a half years. He threatened me and strangled me two and a half years ago I did not make a police report what can i do.

Ive was with my boyfriend for 5 years. 4 of those years he has been addicted to Meth and now Crack. H also very recently was diagnosed as being bipolar and prescribed medication. Up until this year he has become very hostel and physically abusive. This occurs only when wanting to get high and maybe also caused by his condition. Yes he definitely has an anger management issue as well. H gets clean for a couple of weeks and falls back and that is when he becomes extremely scary. One of his episodes he poured gasoline on me while in my car as he forced me to withdraw money and drive him to his dealer and got very angry at me for refusing at first. [Edited for content]

My ex is threatening to expose pics we took that are sexual he is in another state what can I do

Hello; I have a DRVO for my ex-husband. He’s violated the order 4 times in 2 months. He’s been arrested once and has had 3 Requests for Warrants sent to the DA. The DA has not yet pressed charges. He lives in Sacramento and I live in Elk Grove, Elk Grove PD always seems to have “priority” calls over mine, and except for once will not go to Sacramento to arrest him. I swear I’m close to my end. What is the point of a DRVO if the police and DA do nothing about it when it is violated? Is there anything else I can do so that this man stops his stalking and harassment of me? It never ends.

My boyfriend used to spank his kids a lot. I, as the stepparent, used to as well. A couple of times (I’m deeply ashamed to say), I’ve left tiny bruises on their butts. When I realized, I stopped spanking completely…At the time, I told him that I would like for him to agree to never spank any of the kids, in any form ever again, and that I didn’t trust him to be alone with the kids. He agreed at the time, but a few days later was upset with me for that. He said that I’ve hit the kids just as much and have left the same manner of bruising, also, and that if I reported him, he would say that some of the marks were from me…he’s been completely different around all of the kids ever since. He has not spanked them, yelled at them. He’s taken far more time than ever before to sit with them when they’re having a rough time and talk them through tough emotions. He’s a completely different father, for the better. And yet, he said (at the time) that he would report me for the abuse that HE did. I don’t know how to justify the two – the lie on the one hand, and the (now) involved, loving dad that he’s become. Add in that he’s the only one with parental rights (I have none and their other parent has waived theirs), and it seems like the best option is to wait until they’re older and try to protect them as I can in the meantime. Are there other options? [Edited for length]

If my ex-boyfriend breaks my car windows and slices my tires does that mean he hates me?

I am a 54 year old abused girlfriend, I have been called retard, stupid, liar, loser, you name it. I have been warned and warned about taking action again, we have been to court twice, he was removed twice, yet when he comes back he flares up and starts again. I am always the blame for his anger, the finances, his debt, it never stops, he controls the shopping, the laundry soap, tells me to slow down on the cream, the bread whatever. I feel like a nobody and am craving to get out of here, he threatens to sell the house, go into foreclosure on a regular basis and breaks things I adore. He goes through my things and after 10 years I am not allowed a mailbox key.  He is killing me inside, he will wake up at 3 am and disrupt my sleep tells me to shut up and doesn’t want to hear me his scares me at times. What are my legal rights? We bought this house together yet it is in his name only. What are my legal rights? Please answer me.

If someone gets into a heated argument with their significant other and as usual nasty words and empty threats get thrown around, can one call the cops and have the other actually arrested for saying, “ I’m gonna kill you” to the other?

My husband of only a year got mad at me the other night. He was drinking. He tried to get amorous with me and I told him calmly that I didn’t want to and didn’t like him when he was like that. He blew up and threw his wedding ring in my face. Then told me to leave and go into the other room. I went to the bathroom and he busted in, he wouldn’t let me out. I kept saying let me out. I tried to get past him and he pushed me back in. Bu the then I’m upset and crying stating I can’t believe it doing this. He kept blocking me and but I eventually managed to get out. He normally is calm and respectful and not controlling. It messed me up because of what I went through with my ex-husband. I called his bf that came over and calmed him down. I feel withdrawn and angry. He says of course he is sorry and kind of minimalizes it and Hope’s just to move on, well I can’t forget about it, is this abuse should I be concerned?

My 68 year old home owner brother offered a woman he knew from high school (she was in a bad living situation) to move into his guest room, in return she would clean the house, cook meals, etc. His health declined rapidly (he is now able to take care of himself though after 9 months of chemo etc) and he is still inclined to help her out with this arrangement. She became abusive (she has a former record for DV) and he tried to go to his room to get away from her. He is 6′2″; she is 5′0″. He claims she jumped in front of him and he phoned the police. The police arrested my brother for felony ADW/Force Possible GBI. I would like to get her evicted for both of their sakes. She decided to not press charges. I have POA for him in the event of his death or health decline again…what should I do? She took very good care of my brother when he needed help but she is relentless with her mouth, points of view, etc. and when we have been around her, my polite husband has had to step up and say, “enough, end of conversation and tell me we are leaving”…I don’t see my brother much because of her presence…please advise what you think would be best for all parties concerned? I am very stressed out and not sleeping over this…thank you.

I was in an on and off relationship for 3 years with my ex boyfriend, who i met in college, I got pregnant. Throughout those 3 years i didn’t realize I was being mentally and emotionally abused. (i.e. telling me nobody will want after having my child, trying to make me get an abortion, quitting his job or getting fired on purpose to force me to pay his half of the rent, and now asking for full custody of my daughter and threatening to have the Judge (that his attorney knows ) throw me in jail.) He’s living a very unstable life (i.e. struggling with substance abuse, squatting, not having a vehicle or license) and when I complained to the court they did not even give me the chance to express my issues to keep my daughter safe. She’s 6 months and this has been going since she was born. She always come back from him different or uncomfortable. I’ve been letting everything pack down inside and praying that he will one day leave me and my daughter alone to live a peaceful life but it’s doesn’t seem to be happening. I don’t know what to do and i don’t want my daughter to feel like or experience I did when I lived with him. I feel like no one understands what i’m going through… it’s like someone took my heart out and is forcing me to chase it while saying stay alive. He is still trying to treat me like a slave or the weak person who didn’t leave earlier. what should I do?

So we don’t know how to take my stepdad out of the apartment it’s under his name and my moms he’s drunk right now screaming calling us names and punching walls and breaking stuff the cops came and said they can’t do anything but tell us to leave. How is it fair that he can stay here doing things and be cops say they can’t do anything about it

My husband hit me in the breast last night in anger I am still in pain. I finally got an apology of sorts, however it is accompanied with shifting of blame on to me and questions like – What do you want me to do I’ve said I’m sorry- I just don’t know what to do?

I live in a triplex. The neighbor in the middle with whom I share a wall beat up his live-in girl friend. I heard the whole thing and I’m the one who called the police. He was carried away in hand cuffs, but came back in about 6 weeks. I can still hear him yelling curse words at her everyday just like in the days leading up to when he beat her up. I didn’t call until I heard her say, “get your hands off me”. I knew then that it wasn’t just yelling. Now, I don’t know what to do. Shouldn’t he be under a restraining order to not be allowed to live with her anymore.

How can I leave this dangerous relationship I’m in with this man? He is a daily methamphetamine user and he is also on meds for bipolar. He is controlling and just plain weird and scary to be around. He screams and yells at me all the time and tells me I do and say things that are not even true. I think he is trying to make me crazy and I already have mental illness problems as well as in manic depression , anxiety and PTSD from child and teenage trauma. He does not hit me but I can’t take it anymore he is causing me to break and have panic attacks. When I go to leave he eats a bunch of pills or cuts his face or wrist and says if I walk out then I’ve killed him. I don’t want that on me because he is doing it to himself. Please help

I was in a relationship with a woman for 2 years and I was emotionally abusive. The relationship ended when my emotional outbursts, unrelenting anger and constant belittling of my partner led to her attempting suicide. Luckily she survived, and a few weeks later she realized she could not continue to share a life with me. That was at the beginning of this year, and we have remained no-contact since then, until earlier this month, when she reached out to me and we began speaking a bit before again deciding to go no-contact. I enrolled myself into an abusers intervention program and have stopped abusing benzodiazepines, which was another issue I had throughout the relationship. I guess my question is, is there a way her and I could ever be together again? We both share that desire but are terrified of ending up in the same situation again. Is it ever possible to “make things work”? And if so, does that require that we stay apart while I work on myself?

Thanks again.

I was in a very abusive relationship 13 years ago. My ex went to prison for parole violations after being released for serving time on 28 criminal sexual counts. He forced me to make a fake marriage license so I could visit him. He is now threatening to turn me in for making the fake license. I am wondering if there is a statute of limitations or if I could really get in trouble for this. He was so mentally and emotionally abusive, even threatened that his brother would harm me if I didn’t do it. I don’t know if he is just trying to stay in contact with me and trying to control me or if he really could get me in trouble.

I am in my mid-twenties, and I was camping with my father and family inside a travel trailer. After telling a family member about a panic attack earlier in the day, my father cornered me inside the trailer and would not let me outside. I had planned on leaving back to my house that night, but he said the only way I was going to leave there was in the back of a police car. After attempting to leave, he grabbed me and threw me to the ground and put me in a choke hold. I was unable to breathe as he was on top of me and he was choking me. I am 135 lbs and he is 270 lbs approximately. A family member yelled at him not to but he continued. The family member then called the police, and woke up the whole campground and the entire family and told them about my panic attack. The choking continued until my uncle pushed open the door of the trailer. At that moment, my father got off me and I went to my Uncle who helped me get out of there. Can I press charged against my father?

My boyfriend beat me up, I pressed charges against him, the officer that showed up didn’t lock him up, the trailer we both own no title but pieces is in his name we been there for 18 years they made me leave he’s been abusing me for 10 years, and every time we go to court I got to drop it cause he would lie and threaten my life well he has a warrant for his arrest and knows it but is hiding. my question is who do I talk to about getting help I want to testify but he threatened me saying he will get me in any way he can, he won’t let me have none of my belongings.

Can I press charges and will she be arrested? My daughter is very abusive. I have been protecting myself from her for years. Police have been involved yet I wouldn’t press charges cause she is my daughter. Can I press charges because she has beat me many times the last year. She is very strong and loves to choke and pull hair. She is constantly telling me she wishes she would of killed me or wants me dead. I’m saying the last time she choked me so much that I felt and heard a crunch in my throat. She choked me again and immediately I couldn’t breath. It’s still like that.

 How can I get my boyfriend of 13 years help for his anger issues? I love him very much, we have 3 children together. However, he is always angry About 11 years ago we had a terrible physical fight that he tried to claim to be the victim however the courts saw through it; he went to anger management for a few weeks and then quit. About 5 years ago, we had an altercation and when the cops arrived he made me look like a crazy person. About 2 years ago, he kicked a hole in my mother’s expensive space heater we were borrowing and proceeded to choke me in front of our children. Now yesterday, he threatened to run me over with his car and was kicking and slamming things. I told him to stop or I would call the cops if he broke anything and get a restraining order. Today he tells me it was just words he shouldn’t have said and didn’t mean in the heat of the moment; and that what I said I shouldn’t have said too. But I finally stood up for myself by saying I wasn’t going to take it anymore and I did want to mean it…but now I’m sitting here wondering when does this end? How does this end? Will he just end up killing me? Because he won’t leave and I don’t have the heart to make him leave. I just want to get him help and have the sweet, kind man that adored me when I first met him back [edited for length] 

Why did WEAVE . . . tell me about resources that were available to me and why didn’t my counselor go with me to hotel [edited for length] 

I’m having flashbacks of my recent and extensive physical abuse from my ex. I have just been granted victims compensation and I really would like to use that and make him go to a counseling session so he can sit and hear my pain and what he did. Is that healthy? I really want him to just listen and be forced to listen with a mediator.

My ex-boyfriend and father of our 16 month old baby is in the process of criminal proceedings for domestic violence. This is his second charge in less than 5 years. I was unaware of the prior change (and apparent conviction). My question is- I have an approximately 1 inch scar on my face (just above and to the left of the bridge of my nose) as a result of the incident. Is there any precedent for suing an abuser for causing very visible permanent scaring on the face? I am a reasonably attractive woman, and this scar has changed the way I look. It is also a constant reminder of the abuse.

I have only been married to my husband for a little over 2 months. However, we have been together for over 13 years and within those 13 years, he’s beaten me up 5 times. The last time was in April of 2017. I decided not to pursue a case even though I ended up in the ER with brain injury. Even now that we are married, the emotional and mental abuse continue. He put me on allowance and took away the only credit card he ever gave me while his ex-wife continues to receive all benefits. He made sure I signed a prenuptial agreement waiving all my rights to claim or else there wouldn’t have been a wedding which according to him could’ve led to my deportation because of my immigration status. In over 12 years, I supported myself, paid for school and my expenses while the ex-wife received all the spousal benefits and support. I was referred to as the babysitter and maid in some reports filed with the police department and he had me arrested after trying to defend myself but was later dismissed. Please. I need help. Do I have other options immigration-wise? I feel so trapped

Hi, My boyfriend of 2 years physically hurt me Monday 813/18 night. I was scared and not sure what to do. He was drunk, he is 6′7 and I am 4′11. I went to the neighbors and they advised me to call the police. I was so shaken up and I feel bad now and guilty. I love him he is the only person I have ever been with and honestly I can’t say I see myself without him. Now I don’t know. His mother has contacted me saying its my fault and I ruined his life. His friend called me the next day saying he’s is getting a lawyer for him and that he doesn’t believe me that he hurt me and that I just made a mistake. His sister sees it from both sides knowing he has anger issues. My main question here is if I were to reach out to him because Im hurt sad and worried, would it look bad on my part. Would the prosecutor think I am lying too. I am so confused and I feel alone and don’t know what to do. I just need to hear from my best friend and make sure he is ok and let him know I never meant to hurt him this way but he hurt me and thats not ok. I just want to know how he’s feeling. I know its pathetic of me but I love him

I was in an abusive relationship for close to 4 years, I was finally able to get out a few weeks ago but am still being harassed almost constantly. One of the biggest issues is that we have a car that is financed together, but I cannot refinance with our lender because I have poor credit and not a lot of money. I was curious if there were financial resources available to DV victims that could help me sever this final tie with him. I am constantly in fear of him showing up at my work or finding where I live and trying to take my car, or worse.

I was married to my ex-husband for roughly about 5 years 2 of The Last 5 Years we were legally separated so that he could have a tax write-off basically we divorced I asked him for help to buy a vehicle I couldn’t get it cuz he ruined my credit during the divorce so now the vehicle is in his name and now he wants to can he do that is that possible?

If a father slaps his daughter (8) upside the head into a metal corner of a wall putting such a dent in her head that she has to go to the hospital to get stitches, is that abuse?

Why won’t the police put my daughter’s boyfriend in jail for kicking in her door 3 times, breaking in daughter’s window and stealing the baby’s television, cutting her tires on her car, stealing her car keys and periodically moving her car here and there. She is pregnant, at my house, he comes over and is fighting her, he even threatened to bust out my windows and kick in my door! I call the Travis County Police, all they say is we can’t do anything unless she files and we can’t do anything about him threatening to bust out your windows. Why are the criminals more protected than the abuser? As soon as an abused person defends themselves, here comes the police to arrest them on the spot and letting the abuser go free! Never fails.

What to do when your girlfriend grabs you by the balls and threatens you I told her if she grabs me by the balls like that again I was going to punch her in her face I told her I was going to punch her in her face because I think that would be the fastest way to make her let go I don’t know why she keeps fighting me over almost anything…when I first met her about 5 years ago she had a drawer with little cups and little spoons that were filled up with Comet cleaner and after I questioned her about it she got rid of it but I can’t find a little cups here and there around the house never seen her use Comet to clean anything but would always be cleaning When I’m Gone and it will smell like comet 

She also has other issues like she has been eating or washing her mouth out with comet cleaner and whenever she does this I feel like she is more aggressive somebody please help

My mother lashed out at me and ripped some lights i had hanging up off the wall. The lights and some wood from my ceiling fell on me and i got really cut up but my mom just stormed out yelling she was leaving my family. Would that be considered abuse?

What do I do when my abuser is here on my front sidewalk but says he just wants to say hi to my kid. and the police say he’s not doing anything wrong, which now is worse.. my doctor has been documenting it but still.. I’m scared to leave my house

Am I being abused by my fiancé? I worry that he might be emotionally abusing me, but he makes it out like I’m the bad guy and I feel like I’m going crazy. He always tells me that my friends are horrible and how much he doesn’t like them…He won’t let me go anywhere without him because it’s “dangerous”. He yells at me if I don’t drive the way he wants me to or goes the direction he wants. I think he might be guilt tripping me a lot too…The few times I’ve directly told him no while he was guilt tripping me I’ve been yelled at. One time he told me he was going to buy me a gun and make me wear it. I told him I didn’t feel comfortable doing that and he continued to say how he was going to make me. When I finally told him no with a stern voice he yelled at me for making a scene in public. He hates it when I cry and will yell at me for it if he makes me cry, so I started going to the bathroom. He’ll follow me to the bathroom and yell at me for not telling him why I’m upset…he’ll scream at me and start naming all the bad things I’ve done. Sometimes he’ll even make stuff up. He often likes to tell me what I’m thinking and when I tell him that’s not what I’m thinking or what I meant he won’t believe me and will yell at me. He frequently punches walls, tables, fans, basically anything he can get his hands on when he’s mad. The few times we’ve had dogs he would literally beat the dogs if they did something that made him mad. One time he beat our German Sheppard with a power chord because it peed in the house. He says he’d never hurt a woman though, but he has slapped me a few times and told me it was because he was trying to calm me down because I was too worked up. I didn’t really see it as psychical abuse because my grandfather did it to me once. He’s only slapped me twice, but it hasn’t happened in a long time now. He’s also put a gun to my chest and the back of my head a few times when I’ve tried to stop him from killing himself. One day he told me I was ruining his life because I wouldn’t get a job… Meanwhile he had no job and wasn’t even applying anywhere. Now I have a job and he still isn’t applying anywhere or calling anywhere…He says he has anger issues and he just can’t help it, but after a bad fight he’ll usually come apologize and say he didn’t mean it. He can be the sweetest guy when he’s not yelling at me. He’ll call me the most beautiful girl and tell me how much he loves me, but it never stays like that…I just feel so depressed and lonely. He makes it out like I’m doing this to myself and that I’m just a negative Nancy, but I’m really questioning myself. I just want to know if he knows what he’s doing and is treating me like this on purpose or if he really just doesn’t have control, but wants to. (Edited for length) 

Are boyfriends with charges of domestic violence allowed to move into girlfriend house with a small child not relative? 

Please I’m asking for help not so much of myself I only have a few scrapes and possibly braces but I’m fine I’ve been through worse when I’m mostly worried about is my boyfriend’s mood and how it’s been up-and-down lately and I figured out why after reading his taxes I was pretty calm but he wasn’t as I was reading them again getting violent I don’t want the police involved I don’t want to go through court again I just want to leave I won’t know how to get him to leave so that he’ll be safe if he can go on with his life and please let me go on with mine every time they go he means to get it he manages to get a lawyer which I can’t afford I’m the person with the brain injury so I was look like I’m lying in its immediate both people go to jail which is my biggest fear because of medications that I’m on for a TBI I’m not even upset at what I wrote I’m upset at While I was reading it maybe I didn’t have a ride but I had a bad guy and I was right about most of what I read all I wanted him with do was to be honest and he can’t buy means that we’re not meant to be together and I want to leave and move on with my life it’s been nothing but trouble since I’ve been here and it was a mistake moving back here please help. Please help He controls everything as I am trying to put in my phone number right now and he will prevent me from doing everything and everything just to control my life and you read a psychopath use the exact example of it and then the other path I think he is the nicest person in the world I am confused and I don’t know what to believe but I don’t know what I just read and he is a complete liar I want nothing to do with him and I want him out of my life. 

I’m pretty sure my husband’s trying to kill me and then make it look like anything but murder…the gas lighting is over the top…He belongs to a group of business men who have their own way of…looking victorious in court with no alimony to pay…I moved away from him in 2014. I let the cat out of the bag and it only turned up the heat…1,000%. He’s ruined my credit. I had impeccable credit for over 30 years. You’d be shocked at the lengths this man will go to not have to pay me a dime after 29 yrs…he kept a few boxes of sodium chloride in syringes. And other things. I also found adrenaline in liquid form in tiny vile. My feet are so swollen and I have a rash and he is going to walk in here any minute…He gets money from VA and county but he hides it from me. He told me to go say I’m crazy and get money too. I don’t have health insurance. In 2013 or 14. He accidentally poisoned people at his job with drain opener he got from a plumber in small amount. We didn’t have any clogged drains at the time. In 1997 he was arrested for solicitation for murder…I sat through the most painful court trial. He was given lesser charges. I was never apologized. He is a car salesman/manager 48 yrs in the business he knows a ton of shady people. I’m scared… I have so many pets… he says he won’t leave. What do I do? I moved here and have no friends. He chased my friend off who helped me with my rescued animals. I have no income right now. My husband made way more money and he hides his money with guys in same business. I have to get away because he will kill me or get me in some legal trouble I feel him getting more and more desperate every day.  Please help me. (Edited for length.) 

Where do I get real help to get away from my abusers if the police don’t do anything no one listens and the shelter said they would help and do all of these things to ensure me and my daughter’s safety yet he is still abusing me and has now taken my children? I’ve reached out so very far what do I do?

Please please where do I look to help he’s gonna kill me he already has taking everything and beating me into the ground so far emotionally he is a physiological murder please help me before I die

My husband is a mental abuser. He plays head games, and dangerous if he doesn’t get what he wants. There has been no separation, or divorce papers filed. He has cut off money to help support the household. He buys what he wants to eat and nothing else. We have 4 small dogs, one with a heart condition and on an exspensive medication, he will not help feed them or care for them. He feels this is a way to control me. Would I be in trouble if I sold some of our household items to get the money for these things? Please help!  I need to get out, but only recieve a small amount of Social Security, and could never support our animals, or myself on it.

Hello I don’t have a phone right now because he took it so this is the only way I able to contact you. I’m in a terrible situation and I’m on permanent disability. I need to find myself some shelter because I have no place to go because of my domestic situation. I need to get out asap. So can I or do you have anything available for me to go for a while or cheap housing available because I’m on limited income. I’m want to file for a divorce my life is a mess and I need help. Thank you.

My ex cut his arm in a threat to get back with me. He admitted himself to the ER and told police I did it. I have messages of him threading to harm himself and a picture he sent to me after he did it. Am I liable or can I get into any trouble for this?

Hi, I have two children with my ex boyfriend. He’s never actually hit me but has always had a terrible temper and been very degrading. I wonder if he has a psychiatric issue that causes such violent mood swings. I have sole custody of the children but I do let him visit; this week he was a no show and when I called he flipped out. He always says that wishing something bad would happen to me isn’t wrong, so I don’t even know if this constitutes abuse? So an example from this episode: cussing me out, calling me a b, c, hoping I get hit by a car, saying he will get someone to beat the s*** out of me, etc. (And this is tame compared to what he usually says when he’s angry) Unfortunately I’m used to it, but it’s just getting to the point where I wonder if text messages are enough to get a restraining order? He never uses the phone to avoid making “threats” and says texts can’t be used against him, so I feel like I’m stuck dealing with this for the rest of my life…

How do I make a call on my abuser who I know has a warrant and he just ran into me and I’m pregnant and he kicked me in the stomach

My wife is controlling to the extent of postulant superiority. As a result, she is verbally and physically abusive at times in order to get what she wants. Knowing I am physically superior, could face criminal consequence in relation, and will refrain from returning her gestures of abusive control. The physical abuse is not my main concern, as gestures of self-defense (Clearly but debatable not an offensive positioning to strike or inflict damage) in response are often seen as forceful and will end the attack. But her verbal abuse extends to using our children as weapons against me. She even calls them names, communicates her desire to want to kill in general as a result of their insolence. Often screaming, cursing, and making gestures of physical attack in my direction. She also tells them things that are offensive and untruthful just to hurt me. But in reality her words are detrimental to the children’s well-being, happiness, and sense of security. She has even threatened to end my life by personally killing me herself, having me killed, or the suggestion that my life will soon be ending while I sleep. I have recorded many of these conversations and she knows it. It makes her irate. Most likely because she realizes that what she is doing is wrong and she lacks the control to stop.

My ex fiancé has been abusive in every way. When I was at work he emptied out our apartment, threw all my things away, changed the locks and subletted to someone (I wasn’t allowed on lease). He took off with our 2 children (both under 4), filed a totally false restraining order for the 2nd time and has friends actively trying to kill me. I got my kids back and was living in my car with them but I ran out of gas and because the tags were expired the police impounded it. The car is registered to my ex and he would get it out or any of the few belongings I had in there, even when I offered to pay. I am on the streets, he has our babies. He got my cal works and snap canceled saying the kids don’t live with me. He told me he isn’t going to let me see our children anymore. I can’t let him take my babies away. He has said many times he never wanted them, is cruel and ignores them. He does drugs and so do the people he lives with. I have no money, clothes, shoes that fit or and id or way to get anywhere. What can I do to get my babies back and us safe?

I was wondering if my boyfriend has a no violent contact order with me, if he only makes me take my shirt and shoes off and has his fist in the air is that considered violent contact. Does the judge have to place a no contact order on us?

If a couple were in the shelter system, left out, then got a dv case, but it eventually was dismissed, can they enter back into the nyc family shelter system

I have been left homeless by my younger sister after moving from N.J. to ca to be with her and have a better life! I’ve been in shelters in nursing home right now but have to leave I’ve blocked my sister from torturing text messages! She promised me help then reneges! Her husband who is a dr 25 yrs older than her keeps her away from me and then she attacks me more! I’ve been physically and mentally sick to the point of almost killing myself! I want my belongings she took from me and help with the housing she promised! I have an income and looking for a job but you can’t do that in a nursing home! If I don’t get out pretty soon they will take all my money and my life is already bad but then it will

Be over! She even texted me the obituary of the molester that abused me and another sister when we were kids she is going to kill me mentally if I don’t get help!

Ive been trying to leave my abusive relationship but Everytime I call the police this is my third time I have taken him to court to get full custody of my kids they let him go I’m scared and I don’t know if I’ll ever be free?

I am trying to finish school and my husband physically hurts me. I literally have two semesters left and I am almost 50 years old. Tonight he grabbed me by my neck and pushed me down he threw dog toys at me from the upstairs hitting me in the head my question is if I go to the hospital do they contact the police?

My boyfriend’s brother is very abusive when he doesnt get his way or doesnt like how someone responds to his behavior. Yesterday he choked me and i filed a report with the police. I asked about if i can file a pfa against him and they told me to call a hotline for womens abuse or whatever. I called this morning and they didnt give me any information. I would like to know if i can file a pfa against him. I live with my boyfriend, his brother, and his mother but we are moving out on monday due to the way his brother is and the fact that his mom does nothing to help she just takes his side.

What happens if the victim of a domestic violence case refuses to tell the police their version of the story? My girlfriend and I got into a verbal argument that got physical. She hit me in the face the first time 30 mins prior to the 911 call. After the first hit she hit me again in the chest and out of instinct I hit her back on the arm. She freaked out and called 911. She talked to someone for a few seconds then continued to argue with me. I ended up walking away from it all and she hung up the phone and drove away. Days later while I’m at work the police stop by the house and talk to her about the incident. She told them the truth of what had happened and how she hit me first and where she hit me. She also told them how I struck her back in the arm. Now the police want to talk to me. I’ve never had a DV before either. Whatever happens I can’t afford to somehow get myself in trouble by not cooperating. Can I get in trouble if I refuse to talk to police when in her version of the story I’m the victim? What are my options here? [edited for length].

Does domestic violence only pertain to husband or boyfriends? Can it be a room mate and her boyfriend/brother? I am being mentally abused by her and her brother came at me in a jealous rage. He did not make contact with me but was enough to make me afraid for me and my girls. we need to get out as soon as possible but don’t have the means to do so. She wants us out in 3 weeks and I think her brother will get physical if I cant leave. Thank you.

I’m realizing I’m trauma bonded. Even though we are living far apart it’s affected me physical mentally and today for the third time I had symptoms of a heart attack. I’m embarrassed. My community doesn’t have this resource I’m too ashamed to ask for help, I’m just now realizing ….where do I begin?

My husband has grabbed me and thrown me to the ground during an argument – three separate times. Does this constitute as abuse?

Can my mother keep me away from my father’s funeral if she is the one who was no contact? My wife and kids were the victims not me

my son is located in Rancho Cordova, california, as far as I know… I was kicked out of our home with no income or employment. i have been living in my car… my sons dad and I had agreed on him working while I prepared our son for school and started school for myself. we were never married but we were engaged and had a marriage license. things just fell apart. I struggle with depression, and anxiety and PTSD due alot in part to this entire situation, but also 2 years ago my mom died and I was a wreck. The first thing my ex said was “oh great now shes gonna cause problems with us”

He was insensitive about the entire situation, my mom was my best friend and my son loved her so much. I got no support from him and it didnt take long before he complained that I wasnt tryna putting any effort into our relationship because I never wanted to go out to dinner, I had really no interest in anything anymore because of my depression. Everything has been snowballing for me ever since then. I lost my job. Got evicted. Moved back in with my ex with an agreement (oral, not written) that we would work together on our relationship with professional help. But he never followed through with his side of the agreement, he didnt add my name to our new lease, then he got me kicked out. Immediatel following my leaving our apartment, my dad who still stayed there told me that my ex had a new girlfriend and she was staying there at night already

That’s where I’m stuck now…I am at a point where I need an attorney to represent me by may 15th, I need help to get through the emotional damage the last 2 years have caused me. And I need to prove that I deserve to be in my sons life whether I am employed or not. He has the advantage and that’s mostly money related.. please help [Content edited for length]

My domestic partner picked me up and held me against a wall, because “I pushed him to the limits” and that “I made him have to restrain me to make me FINALLY listen” because, I went to my workout room to… tah dah… workout to try to make sense of what emotions I was feeling and why I felt so strongly. He pinned me up against the wall, a struggle ensued, and I got out of the room to get my phone. There were angry and defensive words exchanged he took my phone told me that, “I had no receipt for it, so it wasn’t mine”(this is the third phone he offered and did replaced because he destroyed out of outbursts like this), and proceeded to destroy it and my SIM card (for the service I pay for). He told me to get out of HIS house. I would have to wake neighbors up in the middle of the night in order to use a phone and leave my dogs with him. I was not willing to put my dogs in danger, so I refused to leave. He got physical again. This time, he knocked and held me down on the ground with his whole body on top of mine as I went into the master bathroom to gather some things for work in order to have some sort of contingency plan in case he opened the door for the dogs to run out to get me out of the house long enough to change the door code (we have a code that he puts in place instead of keys). He told me “I was luck that he didn’t smack the shit out of me. I was nothing but a stupid cunt.,” and, yet again, “I make him restrain me”(He records certain instances to try to make a case work out in his favor if I were to ever go the the police). What should I do? I only have a couple of fresh bruises and scrapes on me elbow, upper arm, and knuckle from him holding me down. I have a trusted person that has pictures from the last time he drank too much and poured a bottle of whiskey over me, while holding me down, and choked me out. I had to go to the doctor the next morning and covered for how I got the injuries, but they were confirmed in a report. They were so severe that I had to miss work for almost two weeks. Once again, I did not report either of these things, but he is kicking me out. I have already pre paid for next month, but he said I had no proof because I’ve paid him everything in cash. What should I do?

Hello I’m a Women Female since Yeats
Abuse this Husband cant and don’t will
Stop Holding me Here aganced Not my will I’m Not here with my Free will He thinks he got the right to great me like 
Shit he is mental and insulting don’t let me go

My husband and I have been together a total of 3 years, in January we split up for a weekend and I invited a friend over, well my expectations we to watch a movie but when I went to the bathroom he got naked in my bedroom, then my husband Face Timed me and saw a shadow and I told this friend to leave, don’t answer to me or call me anymore it won’t be me it will be a set up. He ask if we can talk I’m like yes I’ll meet u so he gets in my car we’re talking he said let’s just go home so on my way there he pulls the gun out and says take me to this man’s house. I have no idea where he lives and he’s blocked my number so he tells me to find him in Snapchat. When he comes over my husband want me to give him a hug make sure he had no gun and invite him upstairs so was compliant then he comes in the room pulls the gun, tells him to strip, beats him with a mouse bottle, a metal bottle of glass cleaner and the victim’s own belt. Meanwhile he has me record everything then I calmed him down after an hour and tell him let’s let him go home it’s done I won. A week went by I couldn’t go in my room I barely slept and my husband and his ex were calling my job he posted x rated videos of him and I on the internet and was giving my phone number out. So I left work called the police they took pictures of all the bruises on me. My room with blood in it and then I felt bad cause I love third man, I wasn’t supposed to call the police on him. I just feel like this is the only way I can help him. Was I wrong to call the police and get him arrested? [edited for length and content].

My sister in law began dating a married man who is separated, but is now divorced from his 2nd wife. The SIL has let him, his 10 yr old son from a 2nd marriage, all their stuff and dogs, move in with her and her 21 yrs old daughter. So, I met this new BF 1 time and he mistook me for my SIL’s BOYFRIEND and JEEZ, did his jealous temper come to the surface. After the SIL calmed him down, things quieted down. I suspected that her new BF “had a past.” So I checked with my law enforcement contacts…. that revealed that the BF had attacked his 1st wife, 10 yrs ago with a crowbar, injuring her arm. The 1st wife, finally made the call, and the husband was arrested, jailed and legally punished. Drugs and alcohol and temper were behind all of this.  I told my wife about what I learned and she and I are very concerned but reluctant to tell the SIL/sister about any of it. We fear, she will not believe us, take up for the BF, confront her new live- in BF with it and that could backfire in a bad way for the SIL and her 21 yr old daughter and that he’ll melt down and….. this bad boy may show up pissed, with his crowbar at our front door. Give me some advice here [edited for length].

I have been married to my husband 10 years and we were girlfriend boyfriend 10years. He has cheated on me 2x that I know of during our marriage. And blamed me for it. He gets mad at me for not being entertaining enough. He calls me boring lame request me to change my work schedule so he can get sleep. We have 2 kids. The last 2 days he’s been insulting over and over even. He’s been trying to be a better person but when I don’t do something he expects he gets mad. I told him I wanted a break so I can think about how to be better people. He just sleeps at the house he has an “office” he gets ready and has his clothing. Ugh I feel like I’m doing right thing and breaking it off or giving distance yet I feel torned perhaps because he told me I’m breaking up the family it’s me. But when he gets mad he leaves and doesn’t come home toll the next day. I’m rambling. I know I’m not perfect yet I feel distraught. I feel like it verbal and emotional abuse. He’s threaten to hurt me if I date one of his friends ugh need validation.

I came to Australia and i came to know that my husband has autism which is very seviour even when i m talking to him he doesn’t respond like he us in his own world and his mother is bringing it all on me she thinks that i m making this stuff up she has been shouting on me and stopping me from going out i dont know what do i do because my family is not being supportive at all

legally, if you have video evidence of what happens when a woman is abusing a guy and trying to get physically violent and making threats, are they then allowed to start fighting back just to stop her? or would the whole ‘guys can’t hit girls for ANY reason’ bias still screw them legally speaking?

What do you do when your disable girlfriend tries to use you in order to move under domestic family violence. If your girlfriend trying to use her disability against my will.

I feel like I have waited way too long… My ex was abusive our entire relationship ( 5 yrs) in every category. We have an almost 5 year old who I stayed at home with up until recently. I had a job for about a year in 2016 but my ex hated the idea.. he bullied me a lot using threats of abandoning me or aggressive intimidation. He has been physical with me on 3 separate occasions and I used self defense each time. +I’m desperate.. i have no family and no friends, i live in my car, i don’t want to look like I’m trying to play the blame game to get my son back, i already look bad in comparison to him, he took all my belongings and threw them in the trash and i have photos of that and of my wounds after the last incident of violence. I’m dealing with a lot of loss and confusion and fear and not seeing my son or talking to him has been slowly killing me… my ex is now refusing to let us stay in contact in any form and is using him as a sort of “pawn” in this. i don’t know where ot start and the fear of losing my son due to my lack of financial stability (because i was dependent on my ex as he had wanted me to be) is keeping me from doing anything, i feel literally stuck.. [Content edited for length]

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i know this was long.. i just feel its all necessary components to get the right help and i have a journal siting it all so i can explain it in the right order to my recollection. i just need to reach out at this point because my son needs me and i cant afford a lawyer, nor do i believe in my son getting anything less than a joint arrangement split 50/50, or even more time with mom because that’s how its been for so long and his dad doesn’t pay much attention or take care of his basic needs, like brushing his teeth, hair, bathing him washing his hair and changing/buying him clothes. i need a miracle,…

How do I tell my employer I need emotional help and support to leave abuser?

I believe my next door neighbors have a domestic abuse situation. They have lived next door to me for several years. They moved in before their son was born. Although the husband introduced himself when they moved in and has spoken to me a few times, I haven’t had much contact with the wife. She has generally ignored my attempts to say hello. Over the past year or so I have heard her screaming at her husband. I suspected that she was abusing him. Saturday, however, I heard her scream “I need help and you won’t let me get it!” I decided to call 911, afraid that things might escalate. My husband went into their yard and yelled at them to stop or we would call the police. I was already on the phone with the dispatcher when the wife came out of the house crying and asking me not to call. I told her I couldn’t ignore what was happening. While I was on the phone with 911 she took her son and left in her car. Because she was no longer in the house the police didn’t send a car. The dispatcher said that they would now be in their system. I believe that she returned home yesterday evening, but today both cars are gone. I am very concerned for their little boy. I really don’t see them much outside their house other than when someone gets into a car while I’m outside in our front yard. She used to have long phone conversations out in the driveway, but not so much anymore. 
What should I do going forward? Are there things I should watch for? Should I call if I hear screaming again?

My 18 year old son is in an abusive relationship. It doesn’t matter what I say to him. He was arrested over the weekend for domestic violence. His girlfriend is the one abusing him. But she turns it around and makes it look like he did it. He got out of jail and went right back to her. How do you help him?? When he doesn’t see that he is the victim. I am at lost on what to do?

I’m on parole in Kansas City Missouri IM Interstate compacted and I was told to report to Liberty check in to let him know that I’m in the batter women shelter I did so and I got a little scared of spooked and they told me to have a seat and I left am I in trouble or do I just go back and report again on Monday

We know our brother is being abused by his girlfriend; he has no money, no phone, just wants to drink himself to dead. His girlfriend had him convinced she’s going to die, he did leave for a few months but she convinced him to go back home. I’m afraid he’ll be dead within the next few months; she has him convinced we are dead to them, we have no way to communicate. She is taking away his medicine and had bruises coveting his body and we think she is slowly poisoning him to get sympathy, what can we do?

I’m a gay man, my husband filled a order of protection on me because I threw away his meth and his crack. There was no fight or argument. I was removed from my home.

Tonight, we got in huge argument. I was lying in the bed and she decides to jump on me choking me and scratched my neck all up. I threw the phone out of frustration and hit her in the head. She started bleeding and went to hospital and got stitches. I took pics of my neck. But never called the police. I won’t call the police in a woman. But the police went to the hospital and made a report from her. Does this mean I’m going to have a warrant? And how come they did not come arrest me after the police left the hospital?

I am a male going through a horrible break up. My Ex left me for her boss. Anyway she lied to the police said I body slammed her with my 9 month old in her arms. I was arrested without knowledge the next day her and the police conspired a plan that she would tell me I was getting the kids for the night. She showed up and her dad followed. They weren’t getting out of the vehicles to let my daughter’s out so I walked to the car when two policemen grabbed me and put me in cuffs. Asked me if knew why they were arresting me………………….

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My daughter is in a relationship with a very abusive man… He is physically, emotionally and mentally abusive to her and tries to control everything in the relationship… They have been together for about 9 years and have two boys age 3 & 5 and have both witnessed the abuse towards their mother… I have gotten involved many times most recent incident taking place 3/12/18 myself and the police were called. The police told her they have been on many domestic violence calls and it will only get worse. She packed up some stuff for her and the boys and came home with me. I thought for sure that was the end but I was wrong he began calling and texting her telling her he was popping a bunch of pills and was going to kill himself so once again she falls for his manipulation and went back. Long story short now he is trying to move her and the boys out of state away from her family and friends where she will then be totally and completely helpless… I’m trying to get her to open her eyes and see what he is doing before its too late and he kills her or the boys to make her suffer the rest of her life… How can I stop her from making the biggest mistake of her life?? PLEASE PLEASE SOMEONE HELP ME!!!! signed a Desperate mother and grandma.

My abuser had me arrested for dv. I have in the last two years put him in jail 3 times for dv. He will call message give a sob story I feel bad cause he is on drugs homeless and he call say he is Hungary or he is going to kill himself. This last time he asked me to pick him up bc he was in trouble and going to end his life I went picked him up he was high on meth and drunk he started to choke and hit me while I was driving I pulled the car over telling him to get out he hit me a few more times he laughed smiled and said now I got you bitch your going to jail. He had a scratch on his face from me trying to stop his hits . I took off went home he called the police I didn’t want him in any more trouble well I got arrested for felony dv. I’ve never been arrested ever! Now no victim advocates will help me bc I’m listed as the defendant . This is going to ruin my future and I also have a daughter not with him though. What do I do ? He said he has a black eye on his right side there’s no way when I was on the left. When the cops came they didn’t care nor want to hear my side my bruising showed up a few days later. What do I do I cannot go to prison nor should my future be affected by this arrest

My Mom just threatened me by saying she will stab me with a knife in the eye because i said why are you talking about me because she was talking to my aunt, My aunt didn’t even do anything to help

I just found out from a very close friend that my boyfriend, whom I have been dating for over a year, was once a wife beater! He is super kind to me and often goes overboard trying to accommodate my every whim. I have had some “red flags” when we first started dating, he would at times rage, & raise his voice when he felt offended, sometimes it would come out of nowhere. I am a very happy, wealthy individual who does not need anyone in my life who will bring me down so to speak. I caught him in a lie recently, and he denied the truth and went into a rage, yelling, ranting which scared me! Later crying and apologizing for his actions. Now that I think about it, it appeared like he had no control over his defense mechanism, he point blank stuck to his innocence even though he was caught in a lie!! Lol…. The question is, can a man who abused women in his past do it again? FYI: I have “ghosted” him out of my intuition, something about him doesn’t feel right. I have so much in my life and will not let anyone take advantage of me in the future!! [edited for length]. 

My best friend is willingly returning to her emotionally abusive ex boyfriend and hiding it from me and our other two best friends (we are all roommates). I have been in an emotionally abusive relationship before and can confidently say theirs fits label.In the past year that I’ve known her they broke up at least six times before she actually left him this past June. She recently contacted him and has been meeting up with him in private – lying about where she was going to me and other roommates. How do I help her and keep her from making a mistake without shaming or isolating her? [edited for content].

I live in Wisconsin. This was all i could find to be anonymous and maybe find help. I am 29 years old i live with my parents and 3 kids. My son 9 every other weekend and 50/50 summer break, my 7 year old daughter is the product of a rape so i sole physical n legal custody and my 5 year old who i share 50/50 placement all the time with. My father is very and i mean very verbally abusive. He threatens to throw me out at least twice daily if things arent done perfect. He yells at my kids then yells more at me if they leave one toy out. I live here because i am very sick. I have a rare disease which i take chemotherapy for to try to help calm my systemic inflammation. Recently they found a bone marrow abnormality in an MRI of my femur i need a biospy of my muscle n possibly a bone marrow biopsy as well. Ive lost most of the vision in my left eye due to my disease as well. I need to get out of here but i have no other family or friends. I would like to go to a shelter but im to scared ill lose my kids. Theyre all that i have and all that matter to me. Please can anyone offer insight. I need help this stress is making me sicker

I had a bad fight with my boyfriend. He cursed me out for no reason as ive been helping him financially and he put me out of his house. i still have pending bills on checks that haven’t cleared. should i stop payment. This was a sacrifice for me, but when you’ve done everything you can do to help but get verbally abused, what should happen?

My ex-boyfriend was charged with battery- family violence act and criminal damage to property in the second degree last week for strangling me and breaking my cellphone when I tried to call for help. His bond condition states that he is to have no contact with me. I would like to message him about a matter that needs no response on his part. Is this allowed?

Me and my spouse had a fight and it got out of hand I was trying to get him away from and just started biting and accidentally big off his top pinky finger .. after that I found out he was cheating with a few women my question is should I let the cheating get a slide being that I caused him a deformed finger should I just forget about the other women

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I’m just wondering if we should even talk about the other ladies or should I leave it alone because his pinky is gone

My boyfriend and i got into an argument and he said he wanted to punch me in the face and that he needed to get away from me so he wouldnt. This is not the first time he has vocalized that. In the relationship before me he was arrested once on a domestic call and admitted to me he punched his gf and gave her 2 black eyes once. Weve been together for 2 years and have a child together. He didnt actually touch me….what do i do?

My fourteen year old nephew has recently earned himself a criminal record as of yesterday 2/16/18 and today I witnessed him pick his mother up and slam her to the wall. After that I pinned the child on the ground. My question is can I go to jail for doing so?

My son’s ex-partner sends me messages slandering my son to me, is this abuse as she know it hurts me?

So my boyfriend hit me in November of 2017

We’ve been living together since then, he’s never been arrested for domestic assault but he is ordered to go to court for it. How do I request him to leave the house where me and my kids stay up until I move? He’s been nothing but verbal abusive towards me for the past 2 weeks

My brother hit me in the head with a pipe and he started an electrical fire at my house what can I do about it if the sheriffs won’t help me?

In Kansas law can a 60 something woman go to jail for threatening a 20 year old?

My daughter in law is letting her boyfriend spank with and without a belt my 6 Year old granddaughter and 10 year old grandson. my granddaughter told me and he does this every time they are bad, she said when her and father never did before this. moved boyfriend in while husband in jail for 6 months still married to my son.

My daughter is a product of a domestic violent situation… I think my abuser stole her identity, how can I check if that is true?

I just wanted to know if I’m overreacting but a boy at my school started touching me on the thigh and bum,when I was on a school trip to the theater, in the dark and I didn’t say anything at the time and I still haven’t but I let him touch my hand and I didn’t tell him to stop because I felt embarrassed. I just want to know if I’m overreacting or not or if this even is sexual assault.

My Wife and I have been married for over 20 years. Feb 2017 she was diagnosed with end stage renal failure. We’ve been doing dialasys since May 2017 so its still new. Shes scared & cant conduct the home treatment so as should be I’m taking care of her. 5 days ago she had been getting unusually agitated & was on our adult sons case. I defused it but was stoic the next day. We got into it again. She followd me around the house as we argued, getting lowder & lowder. It ended when she got me to the point where I lost it and spit in her face. She said “go ahead, do that one more time.” I’d three or four times. She was may be an inch or two from me. She punched me in the groin. I smacked her in the face. Open handed. I lost it, went into our bedroom and started breaking all the things i bought her… TV & vanity mainly. I then went outside & called 911. I went out into the alley to wait for the police. When they questioned her, asking if I hit her with a closed fist. She said she didn’t see. They took me to jail and put a restraining order on me for 7 days. Leaving her to fend for herself with nobody to help her. We’ve had our arguments in the passed and some pretty big but we never hit each other. Now with three days to go on the restraining order and court date before i can help. She’s in the hospital having a heart attack and I cant see her. I dont know what to do. I should have never called 911. I just wanted the situation to be defused but it has gotten far worse. I don’t know what to do.

Unfortunately I have been a victim of domestic violence by my legal husband but separated for over 10 years now. Hiding and running from him to keep my daughters and I safe , sacrificed everything for our safety including my right to self petition as a US Citizen battered wife as, at the time I was missing informed by a notario publico Who adviced me not to petition because since he had a criminal background I did not qualified, and that he would be advised of my petition . Now I am 33, time has past but things for me are even harder . Is there any way I could self petition or is it too late?. 

I’m in the process of divorcing my ex husband. Not only is he a drug addict, who’s currently in rehab, but he’s also been physically abusive through the course of our marriage which has resulted in two beautiful girls. To protect my girls and avoid the stigma, I’ve been largely silent on the topic of abuse particularly because his drug addiction has given me sole custody of the girls at least in the interim. In rehab, he is claiming to being treated for ptsd from the abuse I inflicted on him. He has told everyone and anyone that would listen that I’m abusive to him. I’m terrified that upon leaving rehab, he will try and take my girls from me by claiming me the abuser. Because I’ve been silent about it to this point, I fear that it’s too late to speak up, creating a he said she said scenario. The man is very charming and I come across as a bit of a nut. I went in for my own evaluation with a therapist just a few weeks ago and it was really the first time I acknowledged the abuse to anyone. I’m terrified I could lose my children. What can I do?

Hi my ex partner is due to get out of jail in June, he is in their for stabbing a man and gbh on me. He bit into my lip I had to have 15 stitches also he burst my ear drum I was bleeding from it knocked my tooth out and scarred my chin an made my whole face balloon up with bruises but when he went to jail I found out I was pregnant with his baby. I kept the baby due to feeling like giving up but baby kept me going he’s been in jail for 25 months my little girls now 15 months; I’m already getting things said about me by his friend’s and family.  Will the police or housing let us move away but help us with housing I do not feel safe round here and In June it’s going to be worse. I don’t want to leave my family behind but I need to keep me and my daughter safe.

So I was involved in a very violent relationship for 3 years in Idaho. I got away once all the way to Ohio and was kidnapped and taken back, across state lines. I filed report after report and nothing came from in. The town in Idaho always dropped everything. July of 2016 I finally got away again when my family from California hadn’t heard from me in so long they called the police to do a wellness check. My bf was arrested for kidnapping and I left. He was let out the next morning on a no-file from the prosecutors office. I came back to my family in California. He continued to stalk and harass me, coming here and threatening me. I tried getting a restraining order, but couldn’t get him served. He got into a new relationship and beat that girl up pretty bad and had yet another warrant for his arrest and decided to leave Idaho. I suffer from PTSD and not knowing where he was has impacted my quality of life immensely. I search for him to know if he’s close. Tonight I found an article online about him getting arrested in Washington. Its a pretty big deal. Resisting, drugs, ramming into fire trucks and cop cars, weapons charges. He’s got a court date on the 17th this month (Jan. 2018). Now for some background. In California he has a lengthy history going back to 2002 consisting of drug charges and assault on an officer, and he ran to Idaho where he spent 10 years racking up yet another lengthy history including kidnapping and domestic violence on a previous girlfriend, and then me and then the brief one after me. He has never actually gotten in trouble for any of it and I STILL fear I can’t run far enough. He never ends up locked up for long. So my question is since he has FINALLY been caught albeit in Washington now, is there a way and would it be of any use to somehow contact the courts or whoever to let them know of his history? I am relieved he is locked up but I am scared for when he gets out. I can’t keep hiding and using fake names online and trying to keep my whereabouts hidden. I am afraid to even have a facebook or sign up for anything online in case he can locate me. My family is tired of having everything in their name for me. They think I should let it go and forget and move on, but they underestimate him and don’t know what he’s done to me. I am VERY lucky to be alive. He almost killed me, he’s willing to track me across the country. I’m scared and just wonder if trying to make sure he stays locked up is worth it or even possible.

I just had a baby and did not know I was pregnant. He was a premie. I worked 60-70 hour weeks, my body looked like a refrigerator instead of like it was holding a watermelon, still got my period, and I even worked through labor. Well my bf and I didn’t want kids. Now I can’t afford to live because we can’t afford daycare and I need to be home with my son so I am on leave. We don’t live together so he gets to work but he doesn’t make enough to pay my rent. My dad lied to my face at the hospital saying he’s to pay my January rent and I didn’t find out until 2 days ago that he wont. My sister offered to have me take a cost free mini vacation and if I want free daycare with her in Tennessee to get back on my feet. I live in CA. Keeping mind my bf and I are super stressed about money, he is still in shock about having a baby, and his ex wife took their kids and left, he has never ever laid a hand on me. I told him I have no plans but have to find a place to live and Tennessee seems like the best option. That way he has the opportunity to help me find a better plan or we could make arrangements because I want to take our son with me. Not away from him, but I am also the caretaker of our son. He started getting extra frustrated and was like you are trying to take our son away from me I could see this from the beginning blah blah blah, but then he said maybe I should stab you and make it look like an accident wait on the corner when you walk your dogs and take my sons. It made me feel uncomfortable no I did not walk my dogs that night slept with the light on, but normally when he says jackass things I ignore it. I am hormomnal and stressed and want to breast feed so I had to stop my anxiety treatment. I told CPS but also told them I don’t want to file a police report. I think he is joking, but I don’t want to be naive. In our 5 going on6 years together he has never even attempted to lay a hand on me. I understand he is stressed and now is afraid of reliving someone taking his child away. He said he was sorry, he said I just don’t want you to go. I met with him the day after and he gave me cash for his son and I let him hold his son. Really awkward though because we were in a parking lot, normally we are at my place. He didn’t try to take his son or anything. I told him he just needs to work on his aggression that saying those things isn’t right. I honestly don’t think he wants hurt me. I do think he needs anger management. He doesn’t seem to understand that since he doesn’t hurt me saying nasty things still isn’t ok. he is also the one who taught me to stand up for myself when people say or do messed up things

Let’s say that we have someone that is dreaming about a old flashback of her ex-husband beating her and then it took me about all together about an hour to fully get her awake but the last 15 minutes I recorded of her but I’ve mounted her was shaking her and whenever she woke up she thought I I was really doing what she was dreaming and started screaming and I put my hand over her mouth and told her look I’ve been trying to wake you up for the last hour but stop screaming before your kids and my kids think that I’m freaking beating you and I told her I was going to let up and I got off and then she called nine-one-one so I took off and she pressed charges but I showed her the video a day later it’s a 15 minute video of what she was doing while she was asleep and it’s because they upped her dose on her antidepressant medicine and even on the bottle of says may cause severe nightmares but she called the law and told them that she wanted to drop the charges because it was all a dream and we have proof from a doctor to will it get dropped and not picked up by state.

My best friend is not here she is in Oregon going through domestic violence mage is running out of time and losing her place to live

I’m her only friend in the world and I have done all I can to help

She is safe for now but needs to get to Sacramento and help starting over

He is wanted by law nationwide

But she fears daily of his return

She has no income but has dependable vehicle

Is there help to relocate and get started? She is a hard working woman as well

But he made her quit

What can I do if I and my children was kidnapped and I was beat from Cali to Texas and I got away but he’s treating me and I never went to the police because I have no one to support me. I’m now in Cali and no one knows how bad it was I have no help and cps on my back I do what to do I can’t lose my baby’s I refuse to lose them after what we been through and I’m afraid they will take them like he said he’ll make happen. I’m just lost and can’t handle losing my only reason to live.

If I’m having trouble getting out of a situation that feels like domestic violence where Can I get counseling or support to help me make the steps to leave

What is you want to leave but your husband is ALWAYS home? I’m scared to do the restraining order while we are still living together. He will go crazy if I take our son. He will threaten to hurt or kills our pets, destroy my important things or even expose my past to my family and friends.

Am I able to report an assault committing to me when I was on HIS property?

How do you go from being a life coach living on the street and counseling against abuse 2 ending up being blackmailed in extorted and forced to stay and it’s due to neurological birth defect receipts by a gene and father and Agent Orange in Vietnam now my court order. You ain’t my setup has my ID every 6 months that I come down unfortunately it has been set back last year I returned home this summer to go do what I normally do I slept in the backyard I was there Wednesday there is no laws against the send BC. And here I was trying to avoid conflict but I’m going to need a domestic violence Asylum part I don’t know what’s going on my citizenship due to all the stress I have an autoimmune disease is very critical he has been here for 6 weeks beating me down verbally mentally aggressively left on the floor the yelling for my neighbor for help I look like a lunatic are used to be a counselor why am I a victim because I lost my Independence and where I come from has no rights and hear the property management company and I had to ask because I had nobody else [edited for length].

I have lost my job my confidence my home transportation and the few things I have left are in a storage locker. I am living with my boyfriend of almost 4 years who is an amputee and uses it as pity when needed. I spend every day sitting next to him doing nothing. He does not speak to me. I can not go outside because there is a construction crew building next door and they might check me out or I might look at them. I can go out front if the neighbors are not out working in their shop or I am out their just to be noticed. 
He has lied to many times. He looks at porn , text and emails other woman. Even woman from high school he still send sexual text etc too. At parties he ignores me unless someone is looking at me and he notices then gives ME a nasty look. I have watched him completely circle a woman twice checking her out in a store before he noticed me. It was creepy he was looking at her as prey. He watches them in mirrors. I have no one to talk to or nothing else do to do I watch him. I am not allowed to bring my belongings over to the place because it’s ” His house His stuff His life ” verbatim ! It has to be his way always. I wake up every morning surrounded by his things with none of my memories with me. But he says I love you. I want you to be my life partner. That is why I pay for your storage and let you live here. 
I have no friends lost all my self esteem, no income now so after 43 years I will have no contact with anyone soon There is no phone here. I am in the country. I have lost me. 
I have tried and tried to tell him how his constant lack of understanding to my feeling and my needs have hurt our relationship. I am told to get over it and move on. 
I don’t know what to do ? I feel so alone. I have reached out to friends and family and they are not used to me being so non independent they don’t understand my crys for help. I feel so dependent on him that I don’t even move far from the couch any longer because I don’t know what else to do. 
My self esteem is gone. I have lost myself but I am still worried about losing him and what he will think ? ?!!!?

my ex boyfriend cheated on me while i was in vegas for my bday and come to find out he got into a relationship with the girl he cheated with, well they had a rough time he started beating her and shes got pics but its been a month or two since it happened.. all she has is the pic no other proof. can she still report it?

After being in an emotional abusive relationship my husband left and after a month his girlfriend tried to keep my youngest and oldest from me can I press charges we’re now in a domestic violence shelter so he hasn’t seen the kids in 3 weeks which I’m worried he could use against me in court

Why did my boyfriend sexually assault and battery me and not his other girlfriends, who say he was gentle, affectionate and kind to them?

My boyfriend of five months is very controlling (not specifically – emotionally, cut my friends by “hating” them or demeaning them or telling me they are a threat to us) he has hurt me a couple of times, threatens to leave me, threatens he will kill himself. I have asked him to get help and I’m standing my ground and not giving up my right to be dominated by him. The last month or so, he’s accused me of cheating (daily) I have not cheated. The other day he received a message from a fake facebook about me cheating with on him with (fake accounts “friend”) he quickly dropped it and I know it’s not something he would have just “dropped” had it been someone else who sent it. I personally believe it was him trying to “catch” me cheating. When he did this it so happened that the person who was fake did have a real account with that specific name and that this person had a mutual friend of mine (whom I work with) I’ve never cheated though and I’m thinking this might be a tactic to make me quite my job because of the coworker to have more control since he feels he’s loosing control over me… could I be right? He constantly has a way of gas lighting me and always has me believing I’m the one who’s crazy. It’s driving me crazy!! I don’t know what to do. I’d like to help stay but I’m losing that initial fire we had due to the accusations and stopped seeing him the way I once did. I’m also pregnant with his child….

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I Just need some light shed my way

I am 21 years old and have been with my fianće for 5 years. We had our son very early, I was 18 and he was 19. Even before I met him he had a very intense drinking and anger problem. Although I saw him drink more than I had believed was “normal”, I didn’t take it seriously. He hit me for the 1st time when I was about 7 months pregnant and gave me a black eye. I forgave him and then it became a “normal” thing that I would expect when he would get angry. The drinking just continued to increase to an everyday thing and eventually earlier this year he drank a gallon of vodka and crashed our car which then caught on fire. Being in the state of mind that he was in, he dragged me by my hair through dirt and rocks, in front of my 3 year old. I guess my question is what can WEAVE help me with because I go to school full time and also work full time? Is there help with child care and housing? [edited for length].

I want to know what I can do about getting my son back. My youngest son’s dad choked me nine years ago and he was able to take my son even after he almost killed me. I have been trying to get him back and I am having a hard time because I do not got the money to get a lawyer. And not only that but after I left him for doing what he did to me he kept my son away from me and then we went to court and the judge did set the visitation the way it was set the first time and so he took him a few months down the road and never brought him back so he got away with kidnapping my son cause no one would help me. What can I do?

My daughter filed for a full restraining order but was only granted half of one meaning it says he isn’t allowed to harass her but no kick out was ordered and he won’t move out though repeatedly asked to he doesn’t pay rent nor is on the lease. hews been served restraining order but continues to harass her daily she is afraid to call the police to enforce the restraining order because cps said if police are called to this address again they will take her child so now she has to keep dealing with him. why should she get trouble with cps when she just wants the restraining order enforced isn’t that what she is supposed to do is protect herself and child from the abuse but how can she do that without police involvement to do so? help me to help her?

I’m from Canada and I live on the border of the US so I have a trailer that I keep in water state go down and stay 6 months here 2 months there now I was visiting here and was abused by my husband and left half dead in grave medical condition now he is returned to Canada I am Canadian abandoned but I have been working on immigration here well first and you’re my old citizenship but we don’t know what’s happening with that now I’m trying to go under this law from cuz I was abused in Canada but these are new charges they just happened 24 hours ago and I ain’t going back I’m in grave Danger because I used to have dual citizenship but I am Canadian right now and I am stuck here and I’m barely standing because I have a severe medical condition and I don’t know what to do how to get support counseling late charges and seek Asylum [edited for length].

hi me and my wife are living apart at minute trying to live together again but scared of what ss will say or will agree please help

My children live with me. My older daughter especially controls my life. Some things I kind of accept she demands, such as no cookies, cakes, candy, soda, chips, cereals, or other high sugar or high calorie foods either. My daughters even tell me when to go to bed. I have to be in my bedroom and keep the lights off after 10:00 pm. I have to pay for the apartment rent, rent insurance, utilities, mail, cars, car insurance, their medical insurance, and other family costs. I buy the greatest majority of their food, clothes, cosmetics, and even recreational things like their bicycles and gym memberships too. They sometimes are kind enough to put maybe $10 or $20 of gas in the car gas tank when I have no money left at the end of the month. My older daughter works but contributes nothing. She just put $10,000 in another personal S&P investment account while last month I believe I finished the month with $1.09 in my bank account. I haven’t purchased any new or even Goodwill/Salvation Army clothes or shoes for myself in years. I really live in some ways like a vagabond. Is it normal for parents to live like this? I’m wondering how to cope. What else to dream. I just keep dreaming of being dead. I lived worse (violence/abuse/captivity) so just say it could be worse. I’m emotionally dead already. Just venting out of sadness. Realize there is no solution. At least I’m not being raped or being punched around anymore [edited for length].

I’m trying to escape the father of my son who is verbally abusive, he has pushed me into walls a few times and threatens to beat me up or have his female family member do it. I move furniture in front of my door every night and walk to my car in fear. I’m tired of being scared for me and my son’s safety. Do you guys provide help with finding housing?

Released from prison almost 2 years ago and in that time he has physically hurt me 4 times. I tried to report one of the incidents but the da dropped the case and we just had to go to counseling but it got worse. He still drank excessively and we still would bicker, well last week it got bad and now he is back in jail. Looking at 3 felonies and one misdemeanor. I’m worried because he already has 2 strikes against him. And one more felony he can get 25 to life. Also his sister’s mother in law is a private investigator for his defense team. What if they have evidence of me verbally fighting with him? Can they use anything that she says against me in a court of law? 

If a partner rubbed his hands down his butt crack and then wiped his hands on my face when he wasn’t showered an assault? We were fighting and I feel so violated [edited for content].

I was held hostage, physically and mentally tortured. I escaped a year ago with a back injury, PTSD and a hernia. I have no home and no money. I still havent gotten any help in any way. He is in jail. I still cry every day and I have no idea how I survived this long. I am paralyzed by fear and pain. I am so tired of worrying about how I am going to eat tomorrow. I cant move on. I dont know what to do.

I had a ppo served on my ex for his 3rd DV against me. We have a 2 year old together. After a few weeks I tried to let him see our child and he became violent again. Since then he has continued to call and text me to “try and see our child” but I have not responded. What options do I still have to guarantee my safety and the safety of our child. He has no established rights to the child yet.

*wtmust ido?My boyfriend n I had an argument abt him cheating n he bested me n m pregnant afta few days he came with policeman with protection order saying I dnt HV to ssy anything to him direct or indirect is it fair for r unborn by de way cs I believe m fe 1hu has to lay assault charges on him

Hi I live in Texas I have a girlfriend that has lived with me in my house now she has gone crazy , very violent and always threatens me or to destroy my home if she don’t get her way she’s already destroyed parts of it in the past I need to know where I stand if she continues this behavior? She’s refused to move out as of now.

My name is Patricia, How do I go about having an ex boyfriend that lied in court on a domestic violence restraining order against me in which he abused me and convinced the judge to slap me with a 5yr restraining order because she was bothered by all the text, emails and phone msgs that he saved on my retaliation against all the lies and disrespect he has caused through out our on and off 8yr relationship, I don’t need a restraining order against him, but I’d like to see him take a battered woman class since he got away with abusing me and i verbally abused him but that wasn’t ok with the judge and she let him walk out of her court room laughing at the mess he caused and got away with it.

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I was told my ex is going around bragging about getting away with lying in court to have a restraining order filed against me when he knows he was wrong and I’m the victim.

My ex boyfriend broke my jaw. It’s going to be a year in 6 days that it happened. He broke it into 2 different places. We stayed together, I lied to my family because I loved him. A year later we broke up because of a different reason. Now that we are not together I still have a $3,000 bill to take care of he was helping me out with a place to stay and what not but I would like to get info about my options about suing him to help with the remaining bill.

My ex husbands gf told my 7 year old she was going to burn her clothes for bringing them to their house. What can I do as her mother? And there’s so much more.

My father chocked me and kicked me and this is the second time because I wanted to beat up his girlfriend but I never put a hand on her. This is the second time and this time I tried getting out of the chock hold he had me in and I started to hit his genitals to let me go but he did not instead he started chocking me more and dragging me. I don’t know what to do. If I call the cops on my own father this will be his second domestic violence offence. My uncle and sister saw him kick me and put me in a chock hold and dragged me into the room while I was yelling [edited for content].

My ex is a cop and he had my daughter with him last night, and I went to go pick her up he gave me a key so I can just walk in and get her as soon as he heard me walk in the house I got to the hallway. He then woke up pretty quickly and pushed me in the hall way my daughter is laying in bed with this lady that he refuses to tell me anything about. He then grabbed me by my arm and shoved me outside through the garage. I need someone to tell me is this something that I need to report?

I sold my car to my daughter and her husband so she would have a good reliable and dependable car for her and the children. They have recently separated. They are going through a custody dispute with their daughter.(she has 2 other children who are 18 and 19 from a previous relationship) My ex son-in-law put the car in his name only, which I did not know until they went to court for child custody. Now they are split up and he just had a friend steal the car (he had the extra key) from her house. She had just put all her laundry in the car to go to the laundromat, and he has the car. It is in his driveway (had a neighbor look) The police would not do a stolen car report, even though my daughter did not see who stole the car. We know we can not go get the car, but she needs all her laundry and personal items that are in the car. Her ex will not answer his phone (he has the child as of 6pm for this week) He will not answer texts. Should we get the police to go with us to get her stuff and if they won’t what should we do??? 

Why am I feeling so anxious, near panic mode, when after a particularly verbally abusive session from my husband where he said he was leaving. I’ve been with him longer than 15 years. Why can’t I just let him go, not that I think he will, but why can’t I just let him go?

My boyfriend beat me up and stole $500 dollars from me n cops arrested him they said that cause it was in his possession they couldn’t give it back to me how do I get my money?

I am stuck. My bf of 6 yrs abuses me. I have nowhere to go. We have a 3 yr old daughter together. I’m afraid that if I leave him, I will get in trouble with the police. I can only go to a motel and only have enough for 2 wks. Idk what to do.

If a person was saying they were raped and denied to press charges, and having a rape kit done, etc., was in the ER for being assaulted, Can the nurse badger and keep pushing that person to have the rape kit done? Saying things like her job depends on it and things like that, or is that illegal?

My sister lost her husband and got involved in a financially abusive relationship with someone. She has mental and addiction problems and seems confused alot of the time. She has some money coming from her husband of 29 years who died. He was a very good man. Whenever she gets any money her boyfriend who doesnt work takes it for his own needs and leaves her nothing. She is mentally ill and not dealing with a full deck. There seems to be no way I can protect her from this predator. He has some way of brainwashing and controlling her and nobody can get through to her because of her mental conditions. I was thinking maybe a woman with domestic abuse experience could call my sister and talk to her and convince her not to go back where he can get his claws back into her. I just feel like when he is done milking her for money and moves on to another victim she will become homeless or could even die. If a professional is willing to talk to her maybe I can give you her phone number and they can call her and convince her to change course. Whatever me and her daughter say to her doesnt seem to have any affect. It is so frustrating. I know where this is headed and I just dont know what to do [edited for length].

I hope this is ok to ask here. I want to meet new people but honestly still don’t know how to start. I’ve already been in two long lasting abusive horrible relationships. The first one started when I was @ 14. I don’t know things most people experience or do. It’s like I am truly socially limited. I am just lost, technically illiterate. Is there a place that teaches people things if they have essentially been shut off from the world outside of antenna television, books, and magazines for decades?.  I am just tired of being trapped in a technical world that I don’t understand, and I never used before. In my deprived and abused existence I just didn’t live like most Americans. It’s like every time it’s just more of the controlling same, just new bullies making me still feel sad in different ways [edited for length].

I moved in with my girlfriend when I just got out on parole and the landlord threatened to kick her out because I was on Parole is this illegal

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I’ve been out of trouble since 2014 and I am currently on parole working full-time and two beautiful children

My parents use to manage a few rentals on our street of Duplexes. They now only manage their own rentals they own. The duplex next door to my Parents Home My Parents had got this young man in for he needed help and since my Mom was managing the place at that time and had quit the job managing the duplex when it was up for rent, she of had a stroke, but still she talked to the owner of the duplex to rent it out to this young man. He is in living next door and our property butts up to his driveway and so when I blow leafs every week, many oak trees, some Leafs will blow onto his driveway. Can you believe his father has a large Landscape company in Granite Bay, our town and this guy comes over while I am blowing and yells at me to not get Leafs on his driveway? There is no possible way this can happen and so a nice man I am I blow the Leafs back into our property. This process near his driveway only takes like 10 min and it’s all clean and I’m away from his driveway. I try not to step a foot on the driveway, sometimes it is impossible when I am cleaning the yard of 3 inches of Leafs. one time he had called his dad and complained that I had stepped on his drive way and blew leafs on it. His dad came over yelling at me to stay off his property and to quit blowing leafs on his driveway, which I had alway blown clean in 10 min. His dad yelling at me on my property and he is chasing me with his fist and had hit me and so the sheriffs came. Again I was blowing leafs cleaning up our yard because it’s the day to do so, and the workers were here to put in our new driveway. The guys Father came on my property, again, chasing me with his fist, and drunk, and calls the cops on me because I was in his driveway, I had stepped on to blow our leafs towards my property. He was chasing me with his fist going to hit me and I had just had plastic surgery nose and mouth dental work, and he is trying to hit my head and missing, swinging at me, drunk, on my property because I blew Leafs on his driveway. Can I get a restraining order on the father who comes on my property and chases me swinging his fist to hit me and drunk all the time? It was so bad and scary because he is way stronger and bigger than I am I had to call the sheriffs. He was chasing me around in my garage and so I had to run into our house. Father does not live there, his son does. He is a Landscaper and understands how Leafs can blow on his driveway when our property butts up to it. 10 min and I’m out of there/ As I am blowing he had already called his Dad up and he drives over to chase me around on my property swinging his fist trying to hit me. He has done this 4 times already. can I get a restraining order on him. I should let him hit me.

I have been dating an old boyfriend since august 2016. We both ended long term marriages recently within the past two years, so it was easy for us to settle into a relationship of familiarity and comfort. We have been close friends since we were teenagers, I have always considered him a part of my chosen family. In April 2017 I let him move into my apartment so he could “get back on his feet”. To date he has not pitched in at all towards rent or utilities, he does not work, and he has an alcohol problem. Before he moved in he assisted me with a difficult situation involving my daughter and an online predator, but now he does nothing to help out unless it benefits him. I have asked to leave/move out several times, but he says he doesn’t have to since he’s already living here and is on the rental agreement. He claims he has 90 days before he has to leave. Whenever I mention that he needs to pitch in, he brings up the 90 day thing and verbally assaults me. Hours later he says he’ll get a job & leave within 30 days, but that once he’s working I’ll appreciate him and want him to stay. I feel used, I feel like I’m stuck. I love him, genuinely care about him, and I keep thinking that he’ll actually get it together because he feels the same way about me. Whenever I have to he courage to discuss my frustration & expectations he calls me crazy and tells me I’m off of my medication. I have been taking antidepressants since my marriage fell apart & I recently started take anti anxiety medications because of the stress cause by this man. Last night I spoke my mind, I called him a user & a mooch. He verbally assaulted me & made physical threats. Then he contacted the sheriffs department multiple times claiming that I was victimizing him. I want to leave, but the apartment is mine & is filled with my belongings. I don’t think it is fair that I should have to leave to resolve this situation. We have verbally and emotionally abusive fights. He frequently pushes me a point that instigates physical reactions from me, then he hides behind the excuse of self defense to defense so that he can physically retaliate against me. I feel like I am being controlled, manipulated, and heed. I feel as if I am unable to escape this cycle of abuse. He has two personalities, when we are getting along he is charming and loving, I realize that this is just another way of manipulating me.

My husband just got out of rehab and drank on Monday. I went through his phone and found that he connected with a woman in rehab. The last four weeks he’s been asking her to come meet him and he loves her. When I confronted him he grabbed me by my hair and spit in my face. When I read all of their messages I did punch him first and I punched in part in his back when he was passed out on the couch. He got up and was beyond mad and pull back and punch me in my stomach I fell to the ground and couldn’t breathe. He then kicked me and punch me in my back and grab me by the back of my neck. At some point he must’ve grabbed me by the side of my breast because it’s completely bruised. I am not sure what to do because I’m so in love with this man. This is not the first time he’s done this and we’ve been together for two years. He generally has only happened when he’s been drinking I am not innocent either. I have hit him before when and only when he’s put his hands on me first.

My domestic partner for over 8.5 years has physically and verbally abused me through out our relationship. I have pictures, audio, dates of his abuse which I never got rid of. Finally, I got him to move into his own place. 
I travel for work on a regular basis, so he used the entire month to take my entire home and belongings while I have been gone. On June 3rd, he came to my home while taking more items, he punched my face, breaking my nose and causing a massive discharge of blood. I finally called 911, he fled after seeing the blood and hearing the dispatcher on the other end. I filed a protective order against him and went to court on the 20th. He did not show up and my order was granted by the judge. I just had corrective surgery on my nose and the pain was unbearable after and during recovery. I now have been told, I will need further reconstructive surgery on my nose. I have had to take off from work for court, surgery and now for additional surgery. I need to work as I live pay check to paycheck. My ex makes a very good living and I would like advice on what procedures, I need to sue him for lost wages, surgery, and distress. I am so worried about my car payment, rent, surgery costs, etc. I want this nightmare gone, but I also want to be financially stress free from it as well. Please help, any advice will do.

Hi, I’m in the state of XX. Is it true that emotional abuse is considered domestic violence?

My mother and I are trying to help my elderly aunt who is struggling with dementia by staying with her so that she won’t be put in the system and spend the rest of her days being neglected in a nursing home. But it’s getting more and more difficult as her illness worsens and she doesn’t believe she needs any help with her condition. Not only has she been verbally abusive but she has gotten violent with us repeatedly. She attacked my mother while she was driving, almost causing an accident and tried to choke her at least once. She has also assaulted me on a few occasions, today being the latest with her slapping me, scratching my face and drawing blood, and trying to choke me. Directly afterward when I pushed her away, she immediately forgot what she had done and claimed I had pushed her for no reason. She has also kicked her dog a number of times as well. 

This may not be the best place to pose this question, but I’m unsure where else to ask. I genuinely don’t want her to end up in a nursing home where she will be drugged up and neglected. I want her to be able to spend as much time in her own home for as long as possible. But the abuse is getting worse.

I’m in a relationship right now with a man for two years but I’m currently living in a safe house because of our second domestic violence cases he has and I can’t be in the same house with him . I do love the his man but we both had a substance abuse addiction . I’m now clean of everything and I sign up for an out patient program for the last three months and have not used any kind of drugs and alcohol. I have 75 days . he had a couple of weeks clean and he is back to his old self and not using. But normally it doesn’t last long if we disagree on something he gets so angry at me and basically sabotage me.tonight he apologized to me and even paid off a loan I was struggling to pay off. He wants to get help and is willing to do any thing it takes to better himself. Where should I refer him to start beside counseling because he already has one but she keeps telling to leave me and we love each other we just need someone who’s not so quick to judge. Please help

My girlfriend hit me in the face in front of our son..and threw him on the bed..I tried to call 911 and didn’t go through not sure why..and I stormed out..its been two days and she is not good to our 11month..I need to know my options. .thanks

I live close to my brother who IS a pedophile who had sex with his own daughter. I know that, he knows that, his daughters know that, and every other family member knows that, even though he plead guilty to a lesser offense and only spent 10 years on the sex offenders list. Now his youngest daughter who he drugged and raped and had 2 boys by (she doesn’t know about that) also has 2 young girls (10 and 12) and she routinely brings them to his house for sleep-overs, swims, etc. My problem is, I’m not willing to be the one who has him locked up for life, but I cringe every time I think of what’s going on at his house, and his daughter is there at least 4 or 5 days a week with her young girls and her 2 boys who are actually her boys AND her half-brothers. What can I do to stop what is happening without being the “Judas” in the family and sending my brother to jail for the rest of his life?

I am pregnant and the father of the baby is fully aware. We were at a local 24 hr grocery store the other night to purchase one of those week indicator tests for pregnant woman. An argument started when getting ready to leave and instead of arguing i got out of the passenger side where i was sitting and opened the back door to grab my personal bags. With both doors open on my side and the back door opening like what is called suicide doors, he goes to take off while seeing me grabbing my stuff and well aware that the doors are open. With that, he knocks me to the ground so hard i actually slide on the pavement. He stopped and tried to help and wanted me to get back in the car but i wouldnt. The store has video cameras outside and we were right up front so there is proof to him doing this. What kind of charges could he be facing knowing that I’m pregnant?

I was in an emotionally and mentally abusive relationship; he would give me silent treatments then disregard any feelings I had about our relationship when it came to self esteem. He would also set limits on when I can see friends or family and had such fits about how long it was going to be. We are no longer together but continue talking as I try to get closure. He wants to get counseling with me, but now my family is stressed out to the point of taking action against him and me. How do I reassure both parties that I will be ok?

5 year’s of being together & I was provided for and told I was loved. There was always abuse. Not just words, ugly horrible things said. Not just a slap, hair pulling, or pushing, there were beatings, kicking, broke furniture over me, and then now finely a gun. I’m in a safe place now (I hope) it’s over for me & him. There is no future for us together. I’m 48 & still a little in shock I think, but I want to know is it possible that he ever loved me? Is he capable of caring for me at all if he made me beg for my life, beat me with the gun, choked me till I passed out, broke my phone and instructed me to leave. Is there any way he could of loved me? After all he’s done unprovoked?

needing legal help my daughter beat me up the shireff that day did not take my statement ,i need to know legaly what i can do about this

[EDITED POST] In the 1970’s I was repeatedly assaulted by a law enforcement officer. I believe he is connected to other crimes. Does Weave know of any way I can be assured to collect reward money? This man has made my life miserable and I have contemplated suicide.

I live in XXXXXXXXXX I had assaulted my girlfriend when I was 21 and she was on meth. She said rape but I plead guilty to what i did and that’s hit her pretty hard. She hit clean i did 52 classes we got married had kids. It was rocky off and on some mutual abuse but my was bad emotional. 13 years later tells me about a program to collect her restitution from that one time. I brushed it off and said its up too you. She kept picking arguments and told Me one night she was out with some guy I threatened both and then she slapped Me with a restrain order for her and kids. I never hurt the kids and I wasn’t what she said I was. Havnt spike to her since I see her around my neighbour hood needing underground railroaded from home to home. So that is part of program ive read even she mention out earlier the year before. Can she really just get away with this and why the kids I am a good father everyone knows. Now people won’t talk to me is my pic up some where? I miss my boys. I am bad with my mouth. And memorial dumbness.. Is this what it has to be. She’s not afraid of Me. She showed up to my nieces birthday party lied at me and said you need to go

Ten years ago escaped an ex that was violent for years with children and myself. Court case after court case, restraining orders etc. Children are college aged now. Over the years different harassing issues would occur. Now family members of the ex are coming to my job and house. It stopped for a year, now has started again. I am a professional in a medical practice, so I either have to leave my practice or …. any advice?

My daughter invited us from out of state to baby sit for her to work n go to dr she 7 mths pregnant because she wanted to tell me what to do and I would not babysit for her n boyfriend to go out mothers day she got mad told me I had to move in the short time we was there I seen miss abuse of 3 year old grandbaby so 2 days later she let us in I was outside listening to my music to keep problems down my friend. Went inside my daughter told her we had to move I went in told her she not a good mother she not careful GA will take them she threw my three yold grandson across room split my head open punched me a lot of times I thew my hands up not to hit her her boyfriend grabbed me and my 53 yold friend 100 percent disabled around living room some how I ended up outside head bleeding choke marks around my neck police came treated me like I attacked her now no where to live very little money till the third what happens next

My 60 year old mom has been dating a 32 year old/ felon for the last two months and recently messaged me telling me she was scared for her life. I told her to kick him out or leave the apartment that they share (she pays the rent) but she refuses because she “is in love with him” and she “knows too much” and he has threatened to kill her and her family (me and my siblings). I’m scared for her safety but she keeps making excuses and won’t leave the relationship because she doesn’t want to be lonely. Is there anything I can do or can I call the police? Or will that make things worse?

The guy I put in prison for felony DV is getting out of prison. I am worried he will come for me and our baby. Should I be worried?

My boyfriend’s elderly mother has gotten physically violent with family and friends. On one occassion, she pushed his daughter violently. Last night, she grabbed one of his friend’s by the throat. I’m concerned about the safety of all who come into contact with her, especially the grandkids. My boyfriend is not addressing the situation. I’m trying to find out the best course of action before I discuss it further with my boyfriend. 

Her violence is unacceptable and I, personally, won’t go over to his house anymore. I left a violent situation 22 years ago and I am never going back to that environment ever again. 

Who can I call for help, what will they do (APS?), and what is their process? 
My boyfriend has limited funds. She has insurance but also has limited funds. She has become irritable and unpredictable. Please help.

I cannot afford to move away from the abuse where he cannot find me. Are there temporary rentals until I save up enough money to move into and where I want to go?

Hi, I live with my boyfriend and his mom, and she had said that if she ever wanted to beat me up she could in her house and she wouldn’t go to jail cuz it’s her house. Is this true

I recently broke up with my boyfriend, I caught him cheating on me and confronted him and the girl in person. I threw drinks at them at the restaurant and now the girl has filed a police report against me. In response to that, he physically hurt me and destroyed my phone and followed me in his car back to my friends house where I am staying at. The apartment we used to live in is in his name and he has threatened to not let me in to get my personal belongings. He also has access to my car, he has the spare keys and alarm. What should I do and how can I gain access to the apartment to get the rest of my stuff? He said that he changed the locks and I do not want to go back there alone. What should I do…

I have been with my boyfriend since I was 19 years old. I am now 33. He is 20 years older then me and very controlling. I am not allowed to keep my pay check if he allows me to work. We have a 9 year old son together, who he does not abuse. Currently I am pregnant and afraid he will make me either lose my child or abort our baby. This is my third pregnancy and I want to keep my child. I have been pregnant one other time and was forced to have an abortion. Since the abortion I have dealt with depression in the past , so being pregnant feels like a blessing. Over the years I have been forced to cut ties with all of my siblings, family and even friends. The only person he has allowed me to speak to is my mother from time to time. He is constantly telling me what to eat, what to wear even what to think. He doesn’t hit me often , but has threatened to harm my family if I leave. Being pregnant I’m in fear for my child’s life because I don’t know what he will do he finds out. He moved us from my hometown of XX to XX where I know no one but some of his family members. He sent for my mom to stay with me and my son while he went to XX for a visit. His family is constantly at the house and drive by unannounced whenever they feel to keep an eye on me. I want to leave but I have no money and I’m very afraid to stay here. I refuse to call cops because I’m worried he will hurt my mother or me and I have a son to raise. Are there any options for help besides calling the cops? PLEASE HELP ME!!!!

Hello my friend has a mother in law that abuses him verbally and has his step children disrespect him and not listen to him when he is their father figure there real dad left them and my buddy took the father role when he did not have to its been years and she always has the kids acting up and she pushes them to the floor and grabs there hair out of anger from nowhere I feel she is sick in the head she says sorry and one month later acts the same what can be do its so wrong and sad

I go to a group for my domestic violence I have been threw and I gentleman does to he said he was beat up by a lady for my first time he came to visit me and out of the blue he wants me to massage him and get closer to his private parts then hugs me and says I am beautiful and have soft hands.What is this a sign of?

i called the police on my babydaddy because i got mad he hit me back… i dont even remember why or what we were arguing about in the first place but i feel bad now because he’s a great father & he’s been struggling to find a better job or do anything like join the military now that he has that charge on his background

me and my children are in a emotional and verbal abusive relationship with my boyfriend i have a place to go when i leave but im not sure how to leave can you help us?

I’ve been dealing with many types of abuse. Starting at 7 I was molested by my biological mother by her boyfriend she so desperately needed. I need someone who has knowledge to help with the positive feeling I need.

Why me. I think I’m cursed with abuse of many kinds.

What can I do if my husband’s nephew a 21year old man is threatening to kill my 14 year old? I’m scared he’s going to actually do this and I’m so concerned for my sons life. This man who is threaten my sons life is cruel to animals and has been since he was a child. . .That is a thrill to him.

My wife and I were getting in arguments all day for/ the past couple of days. Yesterday, at the end of the night I went in our room to take a shower. After I got out of the shower I laid down on the bed where my wife was watching TV and my newborn was as well on the bed in the middle of both of us. I laid down on my side of the bed like every night and I wanted to ask if I could go with them tomorrow for Easter Sunday since I do not want to spend the day alone especially without my newborn. An argument then again escalated from this and after a while I just told her that the argument is over and that I will be going with them if they like it or not because it is not fair for her to take our baby away and hang out with him and I cant. I covered my head with my pillow then she started kicking me off the bed with her feet and I started falling off the bed. Once I got of the bed she proceeded to push me out the door and I told her to let me go back on the bed and that she should not be kicking me off our bed like that especially with the baby on the bed. I then said I am calling the cops, which I did. The cops ended up being on her side saying that I am forcing myself on her when I believe that her physically kicking me off the bed is why I called them for to deescalate the situation. They believe I am forcing myself in that situation and what not. I just believe it is not fair that I get kicked and pushed out of my room and isolated from my baby and her. I also do not think it is fair that she gets to take the children on easter sunday and I get left home alone. I tried asking her if she can take my step daughter and I can take my son so none of us are left alone, but she did not agree. I feel none of this is fair and because I am the male in the relationship they are always going to take her side. I want to know what can I do so it is not that way. I do not want to lose my son.

My sister inlaw got smaked around by her boyfriend i dont know i havent seen her .im just curious why wont she go to the hospital or go to the cops .i think theres more to the story

Is there a way that I could file a police report against my sister’s boyfriend? She is 6 months pregnant and just told me that he has been hurting her for months now..

My husband and I have been together for 8.5 years. The first time he slapped me because I wasn’t spending much time with him, while I was obtaining my Master’s Degree. We got in an argument and he slapped me. That’s after 4 years when he told me he would never raise his hand on me. He started going to therapy and was genuinely working on himself. We got married the next year and a year after we had our son. Problems started coming again. We started fighting, mostly because there was a lot of misunderstanding, pressure, new adjustments to family life. We argued and fought a lot and he started to get physical again. He never hit, but he would grab me very harsh and throw me on the bed or couch and would be very hard pushing on top of me. He would yell very loudly and act aggressive. Many times he would go out drinking and come back very drunk and we would argue and fight, because he would act dumb and not leave me alone, then he would get physical again. He would also grab me hard or push me or once even kicked me, but lightly. Most of this would happen in front of our son. Once he also had him in his right arm and holding a chair in his left slammed it on the floor. He would be apologetic the next day and promise to resolve this, but it would come back every 3 months or so. Last time he was very aggressive again, grabbed my neck with both hands pushing hard against the sink. He would lift me and attempt to throw me twice across the hallways=, which would cause me to nearly fall, but I caught myself. He would tell me he would take my son away and to get out of his house, which is actually our house; we are both on the Title. He got so aggressive and I started to really feel humiliated, hurt and I wasn’t sure what to do, as I also feared he would manipulate me into custody or we would have these aggressive fights even during divorce, so I head straight to the police, because I felt like I had enough and this time I had deep bruises. I’m not sure if I did the right thing. He is on restraining order right now until we hear his penalties in a month and he risks jail for at least 6 month. His family hates me, his friends would not look my way. I do have support among my friends, but I don’t know whether it was the right thing to do to file or too extreme. He also comes to me with some history of violence and it diminished when we started dating, but then his aggression picked up again. He would be remorseful, but would do it again in a few months.

My bf and I was arguing about my sister moving in first he had agreed than all of a sudden he made it a big deal. So I told her never mind he changed his mind she was still setting at the bottom my driver way we’ll . My bf and I we agreed upon one of us to leave to cool down I’ve done told him all of a sudden he ask where you going I said leaving to cool down he runs to my car as I was barely rolling and jumps on my car rolls off . I got out to check on him and he grab my leg I got back into the car door closed he jumps in my window took my keys out. He calls the law but saying the neighbors did . I don’t trust him . I never lay a figure on him . Nor when the law arrived read me my rights. I need advice I didn’t try to run over him . Nor would I harm any body. I’m from a domestic violence relationship I knew what to do but the did not ask me any questions

(translated from Spanish) My ex wife punch on my daughter mouth, and want to take a report ; I should do it ?? 

Is it normal for my boyfriend to hit me like sock me in the face and then turn around saying I hit him first when I never hit him, he says baby I love you and I don’t wanna have to hit you?

I rent a room but basically stay with my boyfriend slash baby daddy, I am 10 weeks pregnant, after we found out I was pregnant the boyfriend told me I had to move in with him. 

I wanted a night of peace…I went to baby daddy’s house to drop his dog off, and get some things. While getting my things, he came home and wouldn’t let me leave, he told me to go lay down multiple time, like I was the dog. I said multiple times I wanted to go, he said no I wasn’t leaving. He said if I left he would come with me, I locked myself in the bathroom…and he threatened to take the door off…I called a family member and asked for them to pick me up. I came out of the restroom and the boyfriend kept cornering me yelling really loud how I’m a bad mom because I haven’t completely stopped smoking weed. He kept pushing me and cornering me, I started throwing things at him, my cell phone hit him in the eyebrow bone…which swelled up right away. I yelled for his roommate to get him out of my face or I would call the cops, I just wanted to leave.

I had a subchorionic hemmorage 2 weeks prior and do not want to lose his baby… since he wouldn’t let me leave I called he cops. 

The cops arrested me for domestic violence, he was not cited for anything. Practically I called the cops on myself? They did nothing for me, I don’t want this on my record, what can I do? 
Do I get a supena for the 911 call? The call that was made to my family member? The boyfriend wouldn’t let me leave, verbally abusing me…not putting his hands on me but using his body to push me and corner me so I couldn’t leave.
I want the police to feel stupid for arresting me, I’m a girl whos 5′7″ weighs 135 llbs and he’s about 5′11″ and weighs over 200llbs.
Please help me.

I met a guy on parole. I am on probation. We recently got married and he started showing signs of violence. We would fight and he would cuss me and call me names along with shutting us in our room. He grabbed me by my throat a couple of times and my arms had bruises as well. I filed a statement against him for domestic violence. Dfs ended up coming to my home to investigate. I had to sign a 209a. I ended up dropping charges against my husband. We want to work things out but my dfs case is still open and he cannot have contact with my children from other relationships. Once the case is closed, will getting back with my husband get my kids taken away?

A friend introduced me to a guy, we hung out for about a week or two and then it went south fast. He started sending me threatening text and to my friend threatening me. He showed up to my apartment with another man n i asked them to leave, didnt open door. I heard loud noise then my neighbors came to door to tell me he bashed in my windshield on my car right infront of them. I called cops n made report n they got the text messages n pics of windshield n said i need to file restraining order. so i went to court house n got paperwork but there are so many questions i do not have answers to about him, our relationship..? Is it harassment or stalking or domestic violence? I live in washington state and it makes a difference how it is filed n what court it goes to. He has prior sentence n did time for violations of no contact order with his wife n kids

Hello, my fiancee and I had a major fight last night… I got really angry and went to other room and refused to speak with him. He came in and grabbed my wrist really hard and dragged me to the dining room so we could speak. But, this happened once before and I sad if he touches me again like that, we are breaking up. So, he locked me in the apartment and did not let me out. I tried to get out but he did not let me (later he said he did that because we should talk when we are angry and he was scared to let me go alone because it was 3 am). I did slap him and he did not slap me back, but I still do not know what to do. Is this a domestic violence? Should I leave him? During this fight which lasted through the whole night, he grabbed me few times again. This happened because I tried to escape, even though I hit him when I was getting desperate to leave the house when few hours passed.

My girlfriends son is 35 years old he’s using meth and we have done all we can to help him! We pay his insurance on his car, buy him phones, give him money for gas and tobacco, buy his kids things, We have had someone he respects come and talk to him , to try and reach him, But two days ago he physically assaulted me, I ended going to be hospital , had a concussion two black eyes and face black and blue, please help I’m a strong man, But I never expected him to Assault me, my girlfriend is worried he will take his life!

Can my cousin get in trouble for dragging my brother off of bed all the way to the toilet so he can flush it??

My boyfriend of 3 years and I have a mostly healthy and respectful relationship. However, on the rare occasions that we do argue, he yells, calls me names, and will even put his hand over my mouth if I cry too much. In addition, he’ll often de-legitimize my feelings and tell me to stop “making myself cry” if he doesn’t agree with my feelings. These outbursts are rare (like, once or twice a year) but they concern me when they do happen. We are normally able to cool down and talk it out after an hour or so, but I was concerned when he put his hand over my mouth when I cried. I never touch or hit him ever, and it was out of character for him to do so. Would this behavior warrant pre-marriage/relationship counseling? Or is this normal?

My husband drove me to work this morning and he became involved in a very frightening road rage incident on a highway. I am already a nervous passenger and I was terrified. My dog was in the back seat and when he and my husband got home, the dog ran away. Do you think this behavior was abusive?

Happily, someone found the dog.

Is it domestic violence if your partner just breaks things and doesn’t hit you? Does WEAVE help women that are not physically abused? I need help and I’m all alone.

I am mother to a 21 year old daughter and grandmother to a 20 month old beautiful baby girl. Approximately 6 months ago my daughter got involved with a 28 year old male. This guy has quite the record to include drug possession and domestic violence. He seems to be able to persuade my daughter into believing anything. Example: his license had been suspended due to non-payment of childsupport. He convinced my daughter that he had addressed it and got his license reinstated. She allowed him to drive her car. They got pulled over and my daughter was fined 500 and ordered to appear. He then convinced her that she didn’t need to appear she just needed to make payments on the fine. A few weeks later she got pulled over and taken to jail for failure to appear. They were both put in jail and he did 30 days. She only did 6. My concern now is she intends to marry this guy and he wants my granddaughter to live with them. His prior domestic cases were dismissed. Is there anything I can do to get custody of my granddaughter?

I have a grandchild whose mother has been a victim of domestic violence and she has been hiding out from her boyfriend and my grandchild has been out of school as a result of her going from place to place they are not on a lease how can I help her get him back in school he has been out since thanksgiving break. She is afraid to put him in school because the boyfriend may be able to track them.

My ex-boyfriend is being harassed by someone. They are sending emails, texts, calls and posting personal pictures and horrible posts on online cheater sites. He is married and I met him on a dating site. I am sorry for what I did (being in a relationship with a married man) all I can do is change my life and never do it again. I wish this was my only problem, I tried to be his friend and help him with this, but he has turned his frustration and anger on me. He now accuses me and one of the other women he was dating, (In September I found out there were 4 of us, I know I should have ran then), of being the ones behind everything, I never had the photos that were posted, they were old and I didn’t even know about these sites until this happened to him. In August I started being harassed via text, finally I changed my number, after this happened to him I was harassed non stop. I just had to change my number again. Fake dating sites have been made and posted about me and a very old professional work picture has been taken off the web. I work in a very high profile environment and this could have cost me my job. Luckily my boss knows me and has had all of my information removed from the public website in order for this not to happen again and to protect me. I have locked down all of my social media sites, there is nothing that can be taken now. I have tried not to make contact with him, it just makes things worse, but when these things were put up about me, I did make contact, he said he didn’t do it and accused me more. I just decided to ignore it. I reached out to him a few days ago (I know I’m such an idiot) after someone actually posted a picture of his privates, a friend sent me a snapshot, I guess I still care. He accused me again and threatened to put very personal pictures, videos and texts of me on the web. On these sites that you cannot have posts taken down because they are protected under the 1st Amendment. I decided if my information was going to go up, I would tell my story and one very innocent picture of him and I and ask him in front of the world to stop as well as the person (I am sure it is an ex) to stop harassing him, his wife and me. Of course he is not mentally stable and he went insane, he accuses me of being bipolar and crazy, I feel close with all of this going on though. He posted a fake profile and an old picture from a dating website, a site he actually took over in October and started messaging men on saying he was me (I wish I was making all of this up I actually had to go their customer support and report him, he finally gave me the password and I was able to deactivate it) in the post he called me a whore who sleeps with men for money and even attacked my son. I don’t know what to do, I don’t know my rights, I’m scared to death. I understand he is upset about what has happened to him, but that does not give him the right to attack me. If this psycho person attacks him again I don’t know what to do, he has threatened to put up very bad pictures, videos and texts on the web, and have his friends say they slept with me etc… I am in terror, and I don’t know what to do. I have talked to local law enforcement and now I do have enough for an order of protection, but I can’t afford an attorney and in the state of TN you have to go to court. I am sorry for ever getting involved with him, I regret it everyday. I just don’t know what to do about this vicious cycle. I don’t know who is posting these horrible things about him and I feel stuck in the middle with no options. Any advice is so appreciated.

Hey there! I have an ex who was abusive in the past when we were together. I paid for everything in the past year-rent, utilities, food, pets, etc. When I decided to move out, she reacted extremely negatively and used her mental health against me. I still managed to get out , but I had an altercation going to pick up my dogs one night. She called the cops for domestic violence afterwards. For the past six months, she has been showing up at my work and yelling about how she is in the process of having a restraining order and a huge case against me and my partner for assault, told everyone in my community as well as my friends and made posts on social media and different forms of communication over it. She has told people I am emotionally and physically abusive and that night, I had beaten her until she was black and blue. She has gotten verbally and emotionally abusive in public to the point where we now fear for our safety. We called the precinct yesterday, and it turns out that as much as she did call the cops on me, the case was closed less than 24 hours as it was deemed not criminal and no restraining order was ever filed. Do we have a file for a restraining order with this information? There is , of course, more to the story but this would be the major points. Also, would this be considered defamation of character as well as slander in civil court?

Really don’t know where to begin,this is such a mess. I’m a woman that got involved with another woman at the trail or park where I was living. At this time my wife of 7yrs,left me. That’s when this woman kept coming over started coming on strong,I try ed to not have her coming around do to I was going through my separation from my wife. Needless to say she kept coming on strong after awhile I was ducked in like wow! She did the most all of a sudden I was consumed I that this is my soul mate. I did everything and anything she said needed etc. Then all of a sudden she started verbally playing mind games calling me names,yelling,going trail or to tralor talking about me. I would leave she would get me to believe in her and I would go back. Then she do all the same again then came physical abuse. On and on we kept this going. She would call the police on me tryin to get me in trouble. You know what I can’t finish this story because I did finally do the right thing did a domistic report,soon later she try ed killing me with my grandson in the car,ramming her car into mine. I called police again,she was charged with assault with deadly weapon. The judge put a no contact protective order for her to not contact me. That didn’t matter. She came over to my mom’s pounding on door. I called the police they got her put her in jail for an hour she bailed. She to this day has harassed me and phone,showing up here there. But the da and the whole system has failed me. I’m homeless with an eviction because of the drama of what my abuser was doing at park. She has been able to find me manipulate me,over and over,and the system has yet to help me there has been numbers more times of violence but they wouldn’t help me be safe,take the the reports of violet in no contact criminal order. To much to explain. Here is the bottom line. I stood up did the right things,the system help her put her in a program just resent,but allowed her to continue abusing me until she went there. They promised to help me protect me,and now I’m just standing here with with I’m so confused her life is being worked on. Im being abused. And waiting for when mine is coming. So you all say it’s not okay to be abused,the cops say help you for them to help you,da,says help us so we can help you. Bull shit. I help them all help there agendas. Me nothing. My abuser got a program she wanted (I’m grateful she may get better). Da,got what she wanted. The Das actives is I’m not sure maybe lays or just lied to me to help da get what she wanted,I don’t know. Either way,this I care about domestic violence is bull shit you all care about,I’m not sure but you all didn’t give a shit about me

my husband has hit me in the past when he was on drugs, and now as far as i know he isn’t on drugs, when he gets pissed he calls me names and belittles me. but today he threaten to bust my jaw, and i don’t even know what i did wrong.

Can you all help me. I know that I’m leaving my husband in a few weeks. What do I need to do? I’m so nervous. Do you guys have plans or checklists? We also share a child together; what do I do about him. I don’t want to keep my husband away from his son or my children; just me. I have been in the house for almost a decade, sad to say this I don’t know what to do, but I know it’s time.

Please someone give me advice on being set free. My boyfriend and I are having a baby together. At first he pretended to be Mr. Right. He promised that we would get a house together and that he would try to make me happy. He pretended to want all of the same things as me in life especially a baby. Soon after we met, I had lost my job for reasons beyond my control and it left me devastated both financially and emotionally, to top it off my mother was dying and has since passed from cancer.

My domestic partner decided to sell our home. I was totally against it concerned about being left behind with no place to live. He reassured me over and over that we would remain together that we would search for a new place and that he would return from working out of town to help me move when we found a new place. So I hesitantly agreed and signed the papers. None of his promises were kept and now I have no place to live. When I contact him he does not answer over and over to no end. When he does answer he belittles me as to why I am not looking for a place to live. He makes me feel that I am the one doing wrong even though he seems to not even care about me living on the street. I am lost and confused . Are there any legal recourse or of any kind I can take against him?

Can my boyfriend who is out on bond for harassment under domestic violence tag in Colorado leave before the court date to go on vacation in the Cayman islands?

Can you help think wife and son are conspiring to kill or set me up. They been telling everyone I’ve been losing my mind, say I been hitting her, all untrue think they’re plotting to kill me make it look like self defence. Yes we’ve had problems who hasn’t. Please help I’m not mental or a woman abuser. please do not contact law enforcement for me. Need more evidence I am a little paranoid. (Cut personal information for safety reasons)

my x husband is running away from police because i catched him molesting his daughter with fingers and mouth and i called police it was caught on camera too,it’s been 8 months i want to divorce him but i read that according to the law he is gonna keep half of everything including my house where his 3kids and i live, i don’t want that that will leave me homeless , can i still divorced him and not loose my house

i lived with my friend an her boyfriend moved in an 6 months later he was drunk an started to slap my friend around then he came after me so i called the police the police came an took him to jail an they put a no contact order but as soon as he got out he came back to the house an i had to move my stuff an find a place to live cause i didnt feel safe he is still drinkin an was very mean verbally so they wanted me gone i found a room to rent but i still need damage deposit an food this all happened at christmas time is there anyone that can help me as i am on welfare for a bit an 600 doesnt go very far please what can i do i live in edmonton would there be any help financially for me or am i gonna be livin outside in the cold

hope u can help me figure this out cause its not fair he has court in a couple of days an he will be warm i probably won’t be

I am in a strange situation. 1 yr ago my mother passed. I am 50. I had moved 800 miles to help her for the last months. My stepfather and I have always had an odd,difficult relationship. He’s been around for 40 yrs. I went home 3 mths after she passed when I figured he was ok. A month later he shows me a house he wants to buy me from my mothers money. I figured he’s a bit antisocial also 800 mis from his home (they had recently moved before she passed) he must be sad and lonely. I moved out to the house(which is in my name)and shortly after he moved in. I was working,cooking cleaning etc. Turns out that apparently wasn’t enough. All of a sudden he became mentally cruel and abusive. For the last 7 months I live in my room for some reason terrified of this 74 yr old man. I usually have no problems sticking up for myself but with him I just can’t. Now the strange factor. The last 2 months he’s having multiple hookers over all hrs of day and night. Also dealing drugs all hrs of day and night. I came home early from work about a week ago he was in kitchen watching porn at full volume naked and masturbating. Since then he seems to have “amped” things up a bit. How can i have him removed? He says even tho house is in my name it’s his. I believe this all is because I wouldn’t “play house” with him. He’s obviously a narcissist and believes he’s above the law his word is gospel and money buys everyone. Please help. I can’t leave all my money has been being spent on homeowners ins. Inspection and now property taxes

Me and my girlfriend got into an argument she left with her kids and filed a report saying that I beat her and her kids DHR is involved we are together but I am on probation can DHR get a warrant on me for the statements she made

I became romantically involved with someone who I thought was so amazing, sweet, and perfect for me. After about 4 months of dating, I found out he was bipolar as he started acting very strange and having random outbursts of anger over very insignificant things. He also experienced depression and manic episodes but the sudden anger scared me the most. I was willing to look past this until last night. Last night, he came to my family’s Christmas party and everything seemed fine. Once we left, he became very angry out of nowhere expressing that he was mad because I left him alone for 20 minutes to talk to some of my family members. Things escalated quickly as he started to call me names like “stupid” “fat” “ugly” and some horrible swear words I don’t even want to put on here. While I was driving, I told him I was going to drop him off and that I did not want to see him anymore. He started threatening me saying if I go home, he will come too, and if I try to call 911 he will break my jaw. It was terrifying as I was driving and was scared he may do something to hurt us, as he threatened to turn the steering while and “kill us both.” Once I got to his apartment to drop him off he wouldn’t leave my car. I was too scared to call 911 as he kept saying by the time they get there, my face will be broken. I screamed for help and he spit in my face and pushed me against the wall. He even urinated on my car. Thankfully, I was able to run away from him and lock my car and leave. It was the most disgusting, scary thing I’ve ever experienced- all from someone who claims I am his soulmate. My question is what do I do now? I would never get back with him, and I blocked him on everything. I wish I could have called the cops as he is dangerous and a bully. However, I was scared for my life. I really feel like he needs help and I can’t just let this go. Any advice would be appreciated. Thank you.

I contacted my ex abuser to get closure and he was being very nice to me after treating me terribly after I left him. I’m my mind I thought maybe there’s a chance for us still after he apologized for the abuse. I am married now but having trouble in my marriage (non abusive) I wouldn’t have had an affair but I did want to see him.I still felt needed by him for some reason.

Divorced. 5 years later im returning from Walmart. I park at my property I’m st and a car blocks me in and driver tells me to get in the car and has a gun. I turn around and run and hear shouts of Im going to kill you and see others are coming at me. I barely make it into the building and lock the door. I call the police as they are breaking in I’m describing what’s going on when they trap me grab phone and smash it and my glasses and robbed of $2,200, and hold me against my will, among other things. I begin getting punched in face and head, knocked out twice, shot with stun gun 3x, and face, back, head kicked then head stomped on and head slamming against the concrete all numerous times. After being knocked out or passing out from being choked with a foot on my throat being last i remembered I wake and find myself in the middle of the road and begin flagging the police down. Police arrive they don’t take a single statement for me but shake hands and high 5 the suspects of the 911 call which had to sound like a murder in progress. Because one was the EX it was considered a domestic dispute they say and would not allow me complaint. Instead told me to leave right then (literally )”leave now and never come back”.

Beat, battered, bloodied, bruised, in shock, and after being denied medical attention (3 time I called over to an officer for help he threatened me) I couldn’t get out of there fast enough.

They won’t leave me alone… they filed assault against me and I was told today by a lawyer who believes me… simple assault “I WILL DO SIX MONTHX IN JAIL” and nothing I can do about it because it’s in city court with no stenographer and no recordings and he’s never seen one dismissed from City court . If so I’m a dead person because two of the offenders are police officers.

This morning my husband kicked me and my things out of the truck. He started trying to grab at my bag and almost pulled me the ground. Luckily two men who work at the facility showed up and got me away from him. Should I report this? Not the first time!

I was attacked by my drunk girlfriend and when I left the house not to be attacked further I received a call from the police to turn myself in. Now at 56 years old I was arrested for the first time in my life. I had to turn in my legal handguns which are not at her house. They took my mug shot of my scratched up face. The police asked her if I was using drugs or alcohol she replied no. I was never read my rights at the police station. Why is it that the police did not ask her why she didn’t call them 3 hrs sooner when the incident happened? Why did they not ask her if she was using drugs or alcohol? Since then at the court she has admitted it was all her and she is an alcoholic the was completely drunk that night and has gone to AA. Now my perfect record will have a blemish. This should completely be erased from the system . Do I have any recourse ? I have been victimized many times by her but because I am a man the police tend to side with women. What can I do?

Last night, my husband slapped me across the face. He hit me so hard it made my ears ring. We had been at a Christmas party and I went back to the hotel room and fell asleep, when he returned he was furious with me, accusing me of cheating, etc. He tried to snap my phone in half and when I snatched it back from him that’s when he hit me. He’s never been physically violent before but has broken my phone, thrown & broken other things. I’m heartbroken. He said because I had smacked him in the arm twice before (months earlier than this incident) I had already crossed the line and made it ok. He has never been verbally or physically abusive sober and is truly a wonderful man, husband & my very best friend. I never in my life would have thought this would happen to me. I am not a battered woman! I don’t know what to do. I don’t want a divorce, but everything I read says it will happen again. Please help. Please.

Is it a felony to blackmail, to threaten someone sending them text messages saying. If you dont drop the court charges ill just say you raped me. And then still send many more text messages saying. If you dont give me all your money ill just say you raped me. then say you will never see or hear from you children ever again unless you give me the bank card. And all you money or i will say you raped me.

I have been in a abusive relationship for 2 yrs yesterday I got fed up and called the police,the police came but couldn’t find him what’s going to happen if they don’t catch up with him for months will they still arrest him or will it be left alone?

I am concerned about a young lady who is 18 years old and has a diagnosed mental illness. Her boyfriend is beating her very badly, has started forcing her to hand over her government check to him, and has choked her to unconscious on several occasions. He is 17, turning 18 on Christmas Day and plans to move in with her. He was arrested 4 months ago for one the incidents of choking her unconscious and there was a temporary order of protection but once it expired she went right back to him. Is it possible to report this to APS since she is currently off medications, unable to make healthy safe choices for herself, and this guy is taking her government checks. Those of us who know her are just waiting to here he finally killed her, and our local PD has given up trying to intervene since she always goes back.

I feel bad because I’m the husband. My wife has been continually physically abusive to me. I took at first but I just recently lost a finger nail because of her and I getting in a fight. She literally throws canned food at me sometimes. I’m confused if I am the one at fault somehow. I do touch her her and tickle her sometimes, but it is never aggressive, however sometimes she tells me its my fault, and to remember how aggressive was. I’ve never hurt her. I just don’t know if I should ever touch her. This is not a facetious or purposely ridiculous post; I’m a real dude. I’m in central coast Cali (SLO area).

Hello, I am at a point in a 15+ year on and off relationship, where I am mentally, emotionally and verbally abused almost everyday. Even for just asking How his day is going. Names called, basically there are rules for when and how I speak to him. Anyways, my problem is that even though I know I am being abused I still beg for him to not leave and that we can work on it… while at the same time knowing he wont change, and I deserve way better My question is can WEAVE help someone like me who seems so mentally ill, that she wants her abuser still? Thanks

I live in North louisiana. My bf of around 2 years (off &on) came to my house acting like he was ready to be friends now because he “missed his best friend”. We’ve known each other since I was around 8, I’m 44 now and he’s 49. Anyway we got along fine until I told him we weren’t getting bk together and reminded him that he said just friends. Long story short, he ended up holding me hostage in my home for 2-3 nights, taking my phone from me as well as more physical altercations than I can count. I’ll be the first to admit that I have hit him first on many occasions (previous & this incident). And Im pretty sure I hit him first everytime during my being held hostage this last time 3 days ago. He has held me as well as many other gfs hostage on many many occasions. This is not a first for him. When I tell someone to get out of my house I expect them to get out of my house, so when he wont, and laughs in my face telling me he will leave when he gets ready to, yes I punched him, many times. I do not plan on telling any lies, unlike him. So, he starts telling me the only way I’m getting out of my house is in a body bag with him. Says he’s going to kill me then himself, I’m going to take that seriously!!! So, thursday night, I suddenly got the opportunity to run out of my house and get to my car and lock the doors before he caught me. I started my car and he tried to punch my window out then tried to get in bk door. Then he starts trying to stop my car. I back out and drag him thru some bushes. I put my car in drive and take off down my driveway which is about a quarter of a mile long and gravel. I live way out in the country and n9 real close neighbors. Almost at the end of my driveway I realise he is hanging onto my Sideview mirror of my car. As I get to the blacktop road and take a left out of my driveway he decides to finally let go and I ran over him. His leg or legs is what I’m hearing. He’s a diabetic. Uncontrolled & noncompliant!!! Now he is hiding out somewhere and refuses to go to hospital for medical attention. He has two warrants for his arrest he’s been avoiding for very long time not related to us. I’ve been told that he has an open fracture of one of his legs! I reported the incedent to sheriff’s dept but they can’t find him. His son has sent word to me threatening me if I keep pushing the issue with the law that he will see to it I do 20-25 years for attempted vehicular manslaughter!!!! I’m only trying to forsee his daddy to get medical attention. I’ll always care a great deal about him but I know we can NEVER be together again!!!! It gets worse everytime!!!! This is way worse than I ever thought it would go. I did not hurt him intentionally. I didn’t mean to run over him!!! I feel horrible and I’m worried to death about him. My question is can they charge me with anything and if so, what? Also, several months ago, during another hostage situation, before he took my phone I texted my daughter that he wouldn’t let me leave to come do her hair. My 2 daughters showed up with 4-5 cops and he ran out the back door and got away. Where I live is a small town amd nobody here is hard to find but the law stopped looking for him when they left my house it seems. If they would’ve kept looking until they found him he would be in jail rite now and this other much more serious ordeal wouldn’t have happened. PLEASE HELP ME!!!! WHAT SHOULD I DO????

My ex-husband refuses to move out. He has a violent temper and is verbally abusive. I feel unsafe in my own home. What are my rights the house is mine through our divorce.

My daughter’s ex boyfriend is like poison to her the other night Bob he doesn’t do anything he does drugs stays out all night they can do what you want the other night he broke the door down through here across the room and then said if you call the cops I’m a kill you bitch and he broke the door wouldn’t lock so she had to leave because she scared him and I am terrified that he is he’s going to come back and something’s going to happen so why did she would our Bersouth and he would come in and Anna fora bug me with her don’t come if we what hit him like Bridget need with a baseball bat is that sub the beds

My boyfriend moved on with me and we got into it t he put a rock through my car windshield and they also found 2hits of acid hr got nothing?

I don’t know what to do….. my boyfriend… well I told him I didn’t want to be with him anymore because I am tired of him pushing me, hurting me & calling me names and drinking so much alcohol. Over the weekend when My little boys were at their fathers for the weekend my bf ( we will call him Ben) started acting really scary, he was hiding in the pitch black garage with a gun… I got scared and left, Ben called me and told me he was going to kill himself and that he’s glad I am not there because he doesn’t know what would happen. Then yesterday he called me and told me to stay on the phone and listen for the “end” he kept repeating it and I hung up and I called 911. Ben left before the police arrived and no one heard from him for over 24 hours. He told me that if he didn’t have me, no one would. My question is this, is it the alcohol taking? Do you think he would harm himself… or do something horrible to me, or

Worse my babies?

Can i get full custody of my son if he is only 2 months old and I have charges pressed against my ex boyfriend? My ex boyfriend has hit me for months, even when i was pregnant, and i recently pressed domestic violence charges against him as well as a restraining order. I recently moved out of California because my family lives in Texas. He would hit me while holding our son and i wanted to try to get full custody. I have an audio recording of him hitting me that i wanted to use in court. I was hoping that it would help my case. I also have documentation of him stating in court that he hit me while i was pregnant on a restraining order he got on my mom after she threatened him. She was mad about him hitting me. I’m unemployed because i was on maternity leave and quit my job to be a full stay at home mom and im living with my parents. Hes threatening that i cant get full custody but he has a big drinking problem and smokes weed. The only things he has over me is that hes working and has his own apartment that his parents help pay for. As well as a car.

My 17 year old son got into an altercation with my husband (stepdad). He was cussing and yelling because we took his phone because of being disrespectful and my son stood up in front of my husband yelling and cursing in a challenging way. My husband put him on the floor of his bedroom but once held down he started choking my son and I had to push him off of him. My husband and I have been married 8 years. My husband has started taking citalopram a few months ago for anger/depression issues and lisinopril for blood pressure. Husband only had anger issues starting 2 years ago when my father died. I never know when he will lose his temper. Usually it’s he and my son fighting about chores or something that sets husband off. What is the legal term for what my husband did to my son and what are my options? I’m contemplating divorce but question if I’m making a big deal but don’t think I am. What angers me is I am questioning the right thing to do because I think his temper has flared so many times that I’m almost used to it but I don’t want my children in danger and tired of him having outbursts and walking on eggshells. Usually when he gets angry someone indirectly gets hurt. Deep down I believe he is a good man but can’t control his temper. I’m scared and don’t know what my options are. I have 5 kids that live with us aged 20, 17, 7, 6, and 4. I have no college degree and no job and no savings. I don’t know what to do. I feel that choking he has taken it too far. I did kick him out but now wondering if I should divorce. Need advice. I live in Mississippi.

I am trying to help my cousin. She is trying to divorce her abusive ex. She is currently living in Oregon with her mother, so her ex cannot get to her. Her home is in Orange county. Who can she contact to get legal help? She has exhausted all her funds hiring attorneys in Orange county, who take the money and do nothing. He has sold off all their business and home and keeps postponing court dates. She has been living in Oregon for 3 years, but her divorce is in Orange county.She can no longer afford to drive back and forth because she lost her job.

My bf and I have been together for 4.5 years and have lived together for 3.5. Our relationship has always had some levels of control, in the beginning of our relationship, he was mean and invasive towards my privacy he would go in my room and secretly read my journal from the year before. Eventually he asked if I’d allow him to read it and at first I said no because my journal was from when I was a depressed teen and was really embarrassed but he was very persistent and even described how his ex let him so I should too. This made me mad but I said yes from which I had censored some things I’d written because they were too personal. Anyway he found out because he had read my journal beforehand and instantly got mad at me for hiding things. I didn’t know how to explain myself because the information I had censored was sexually aggressive completely not like me but I wrote that originally because I was angry depressed and confused. He’d also do the same with my facebook and other social media. Was I wrong for keeping that from him or am I allowed some level of privacy? I thought I was wrong. Years later and we move to a new state. This is where he starts breaking my belongings he first broke my phone and laptop because I wanted him to talk to me calmly. Later he would break my phones for talking to friends of the opposite sex but these were the only friends I had. This scared me so I started feeling alone and even though he didn’t like me talking to them I did it anyway and he broke my phone again (2 so far). Then I made anothr friend who was gay but was just a friend at the time. He didn’t want me talking to her either and would constantly get mad when I did but I needed to feel like I had someone like someone cared about me. That’s not a good excuse to betray someone like that but he terrified me. Anyway he keeps snooping thru my phone and misinterpreted all of my texts saying they were suggestive and forbade me to talk to her. When I said no and led to another argument he broke that phone too.I still didn’t stop talking to her and she quickly became my best friend. I loved having her in my life but he hated her. One day she kissed me and I really enjoyed it but this terrified me because I knew that meant I had feelings for her and my bf would be angry. I never told him for a while because I got scared. I understand this was wrong and I should’ve been honest. Anyway he found out because he was being nosy again and I confessed. He seemed okay and promised he wouldn’t be mad in the future about it. We moved on and one day he kept blowing up at me. He’d spend all day yelling about her and made me call her to tell her I could no longer talk to her. She didn’t answer the first day – he made me call like 10 times – but he didn’t let me leave his sight until I did. Eventually I did and had to lose my first real best friend. About a month later and he’s more verbally aggressive. He yells at me when we don’t have sex saying that since I kissed someone else I need to be more open to sex with him but hearing this made me very uncomfortable. One day after yelling at me all day he grabs me and gently takes my clothes off which scares me again because I’m scared to give in and then see him be mean again so out of reaction I bite his lip because I’m scared of what’s gonna happen. He yells at me from which I leave to the living room. I fall asleep and next thing I know I’m awake and covered in cold vegetable broth so I get mad and he throws a bowl into my new TV which breaks. Now everyday he uses the kiss against me for everything. If I get mad he says he won’t calm down until I yell at my ex bff (the one I kissed) the same way. He tells me that I should treat her as shitty as I treat him. He constantly threatens to break my belongings if I don’t treat him better and even threatened to beat “her ass” if I’m around her again (both of which I have recorded). The problem is I’m so far away from family and had to leave the one person who could help. I’m constantly scared work and go to school full time so I’m not home often which scares me cause I never know what I might come home to (I had to replace my TV which I use for school to watch online lectures). He controls every part of my life and won’t even let me take my own car to work. This also scares me because I’m so paranoid he’ll show up because my ex bff works with me. What if he decides to beat her or me or something? He’s not recently hit me or is usually violent but what can I do? Should I be scared? Could I have changed something or did I deserve this for yelling or being friends with people he didn’t want me to be friends with? I want to leave him but we have a lease in our apartment. Plus I’m scared he will follow or harass me

In August my husband put his hands on me. I had just got home and he had drunken a whole bottle of Jack Daniels, a 24 pack of beer and when we went to get dinner he had a pitcher of beer all to himself. We were planning on going to the movies after dinner and we got in an argument in the car. He wanted me to sneak beer in my purse to bring into the theater. He was really drunk. I got mad and decided to return our movie tickets and go home. As I was walking to the ticket booth he grabbed me by my pony tail really rough and dragged me back to the car. He kept calling me these aweful names in public. Nobody helped. I was crying and I got away from him and returned the tickets and got our money back. I called a friend and they talked to him and calmed him down. I took him home and I couldn’t stop crying. The next day he didn’t remember. He apologized and promised to get help and go to AA or private counselling. He stopped the hard liquor but now he drinks more beer. He has really bad mood swings and I’m always afraid that I’ll say something that’ll make him mad. I want to leave but I have no money or family out here. I have a therapy dog and I’m worried he might hurt her if he gets too drunk.

My husband thinks he can touch me between the legs anytime he feels like it, randomly in the house, throughout the day, and in the car. I hate it. I say stop. HE doesn’t listen. He says because he is my husband he is allowed to touch me whenever he wants. What is the law in California on this? I just want to know so I can tell him. I doubt he will stop. It is demeaning and makes me feel powerless. THen later I have a hard time when he wants to have mutual sex or intimacy. I tell hIm his hands can’t violate me one hour and turn me on the next.

Hi ,I have a 2 month old son and a month ago my mom kick me out for the weekend and my ex baby daddy smack me all the time but it’s because I told him to help me with him and told him to get off his butt and take care of him and be a dad and he’s a man child,he told me that he’ll drag my boyfriend mason who wants to adopt my son in the middle of a street and beat him to a bloody polp if I sign his name on my sons birth certificate including me as well not to mention he has records of murder and he death threaten me my boyfriend and my son, what should I do?

my husband slaps my disabled son what should I do?

I had an ex boyfriend who was obsessed with me to the point where he threatened to kill himself if i would leave him. He emotionally abused me for over 4 years. During our whole relationship he was in prison and somehow managed to secretly call me everyday to see where and whom i was with. It has been almost 4 years since i have cut ties with him, i have a completely new life. I got married and started a family. My concern is he still to this day hasn’t stopped trying to get in contact with me: either finding out my phone number or having acquaintances show up at my previous jobs. He was able to somehow contact my husband recently and advised him he wasn’t going to let us be together. He is very irrational, and dangerous: I’m scared he will figure out a way to hurt my husband. What can i do? I’m desperate

My abuser has been arrested and taken to jail 3 times last DA has charged him with impeding breath police photos show there’s no doubt it occurred time before police photos show my eye swollen shut huge bruises on my body. Got out on bound for impeding breath by signing judge enforced protection order violated it by coming to my work police report was filed with witnesses he’s still out showed up at my 90 yr old mother’s house where I reside now she’s scared to death shows up at my new job but Hunt County TX won’t do a thing what do I need to do to enforce this.

Is it wrong to want to leak my surveillance video of my ex fiancé attacking me in order to be heard. He has gotten away with this two times. The DA doesn’t even seem to care.

Let me start by saying that my husband and I are faithful Catholics. Our faith is very important to us as is our marriage and having a family. My husband has been known to yell when angered enough or to hit walls, but we just recently had a son who is now 4 months old and I’m worried. Since he was born, he’s continued to show more aggressive behavior than before. Initially he blamed it on lack of sleep while the two of us were taking turns waking up for the baby in the middle of the nights, but now that my husband is back at work and it’s just me waking up, he doesn’t really have that excuse. He picks our son up roughly and very abruptly, and hits walls or kicks things if the baby cries when he’s trying to get him down to sleep. That’s half the time. The other half of the time he freezes. Doesn’t make an effort to comfort the baby. When asked about it, he says he’s “working on it,” but as someone who suffered at the hand of her own father for much of her childhood, I’m worried I won’t draw the line until it’s already too late and he’s done something we’ll both regret. I don’t think he would intentionally hurt our baby, but I’m worried he doesn’t care that that might result from the things he does. And I’m also worried about how he’ll be when our son is older and does things like not go to bed or throws tantrums. If it’s frustrating now, it’ll only be worse later. I love him, I love our son, and he loves us both, but it’s like he loses his senses in those difficult moments.

I have a history of DV with my sons father. I have file a TRO but he couldn’t be served because he would cease communications each we tried to serve him. For a while there was neutral meeting place to exchange our son but when he doesn’t get what he wants starts to send me nasty text messages and emails my husband’s belittling me and calling me bipolar. idk what to do because by law I can’t keep my son from him because it’s would be parent alienation. I’ve tried TRO and every time he just disappear…This last time, we had a neutral place he agreed and the night before emails my husband stating that we are to come to his house if I want my son back after we already agreed that we would meet the neutral place…He has since then threaten over the phone and has message my husband calling us name and has text my phone calling me names and belittling me. I have ask him not to contact me and I am filing court papers, however I don’t know if I file a DV TRO or DV TRO with custody

I just got out of a mentally abusive relationship and was never hit, but I’ve been having triggers while learning self defense. Is it normal to have fear/triggers even though I was never hit?

My ex boyfriend and I always got into fights because he would always hang out with girls or play games and I would get jealous. I always made him take me somewhere when I didn’t want to go I was just scared another girl would take him from me. He now always says I’m ugly or I never wanted to date you, and tells people about private things I told him. I have to see him every day in college what do I do? I now have a boyfriend who supports me, but I don’t know whether to tell him about the situation because he loves me and I’m his world, and he would go and beat up my ex. I don’t want anyone to get hurt I just wanna know if this is domestic abuse. Thank you.

My dad used to abuse me as a child. I once had a asthma attack because of it and my parents didn’t take me to hospital. My Mum recently got out of hospital after 2 months and my Dad hasn’t abused me since. Is his mood changing because he missed my Mum, and is happy she’s back?

I’m  a victim of domestic violence, he was convicted of felony domestic because it was strangulation. he is now divorcing me. he abused me financially, verbally and physically prior to this arrest for more years than i want to admit. We have 3 kids and a dog. For the past 4 years since this has happened the kids and dog have been in my custody. He has paid very little child support so I have financially supported everyone including the dog on my part time job. He came in the house while I was at work and told my son he was taking the dog for a walk and never returned with her. We are heartbroken, especially the kids, because they are so bonded with her, she was a gift to my daughter. she is also therapy for my son who has health issues, the dog isn’t a registered therapy dog. He is saying that I told him to take her or I would take her to a shelter not true . He is refusing to bring her back not even for mediation. How do I get the dog back. If the court goes with who has the most money I will lose. How do I show that we are better to keep her. I don’t have a lot of vet receipts and it had my name as the primary but the office added his name. He paid for a lot of her checkups and food. the city dog license has always shown my name as owner as well as the registration for the microchip. What are the chances of us getting the dog and how to not make a long drawn out court battle? any suggestions or advice to help us get our beloved pet back? I don’t know how many more nights I can listen to my kids cry themselves to sleep. The kids are teenagers so you know this bothers them. Thanks

I received a call from a number that I did not know. I answered it and nothing was said just noises were being made so I hung up. The same thing happened a few more times. I texted and asked them to stop calling me but they called again. However this time I didn’t answer it and the person left a voicemail. I couldn’t make out everything being said but it sounded like someone was in trouble. There was a man doing most of the talking. He sounded angry. I made out a few words but they were vulgar. He sounded like he was yelling at someone and it was just really sketchy to me and I don’t know what to do about it.

I am in a relationship that is verbally abusive. I am on disability and can’t afford a lawyer. Plus I have animals I can’t leave

HI, I am writing in regards for my son in Florida. He was in a relationship with a woman (never married) for 10 years. They have 2 kids together. She bought a fixer upper house. He rebuilt the house by himself using his time, money and 10 yrs of hard labor. He traded his truck in so she could and did get a brand new car.After the house was done, she threw him out on new year’s eve. She gave him no warning about anything. For awhile he slept at friends houses and then 3 months ago, he got a room. Now, he was slammed with an 1100.00 cs order in florida. He is scared that he will not be able to make that much money. She works at laser spine institute in Tampa. She is a nurse in the operating room. Can someone out there help me? Thank you Sc

Ps, she would not allow his name on the house

My wife of 6 years and her step son, who is 17 beat me up last night and I was forced to leave. I pay ALL the bills. All that I have in were mine prior to the marriage. I have marks on my face and I fear a concussion. Among other things. I have taken photos.

My abusive ex keeps emailing me and will not leave me alone and i told him to “let me go”, in a response email. Is this considered harassment? And can i get a peace order to have him leave me alone. I kept all of the emails just in case something may happen. He has come to my work twice unannounced over the summer. It’s been 6 months now and I really do not want him bugging me anymore and I am sure if i send another email saying leave me alone, he will just respond. What can i do?

A supposed ‘friend’ and his family pressured me into joining his church when I was a teen. This church is run by mostly old white men who claim to talk to god. These men oppose the ERA, gay marriage, and really are misogynists. I should have never joined but my ‘friend’ at the time and other church members put heavy guilt on me. After a year and a half of joining I was sent on a church mission. I was expected to pay my own way. It was like being prostituted for a religion. I was sent overseas. When I arrived overseas the church took my passport. I was forbidden to telephone home. I was told when to eat, sleep, and even pray. I was not permitted to be alone. I was expected to speak a foreign language they required me to learn. I was often typically pressured throughout my mission to be up every day at 4:30 or 5AM, recruit all day or do chores, and could not stop until 10:30 every night. I was essentially a prisoner again. I secretly cried. I was really just kidnapped in another way. The third world country I was in was dreadful. I had to boil water to drink. Toilets were sometimes just squatting over a hole. There were all kinds of parasites to avoid getting. I was often bitten by countless mosquitoes and bugs. Sometimes I was out in the countryside and jungle living alone with my unpicked-by-me periodically-changing ‘church companion’ controlling my every move. I felt abused, afraid, and alone. I was expected to recite memorized introductions and speeches to non-church people to trick and entice them into joining the church. Beyond my church members I rarely saw another foreigner. It was a rarity beyond my church-given changing ‘companions’ to hear anyone speak English. There was no one to ask for help. Local residents generally regarded church missionaries like me as American invaders. Sometimes my local church leaders would search my few personal belongings. They would also read my letters, journal, and look at any photographs I kept to ensure I was remaining ‘obedient’. Church leaders would ask me if I was keeping myself sexually and spiritually ‘pure’. Because of ‘spiritual cleanliness’, sometimes I was asked if I had done anything sex-wise or what I had been sexually thinking. It was mind breaking what they did to me. Tacked on with my earlier childhood abuse and captivity I fell into a severe feeling of despair and depression. After more than a year into my religious captivity I was sent back to the USA. I was forced to keep working as a missionary in the US since I had ‘failed to finish my agreement with god’. In the last week of my final year as a missionary I was told there was a plane ticket for me to return to California. I was permitted to go home. I broke down and sobbed for hours. I returned to California penniless. I was emaciated and starved to what most people would probably think I was an anorexic. But I returned to Sacramento. I cried for days and was frozen up for years afterward. While WEAVE does not focus upon religion and cult trafficking, and I feel my church missionary experience was not as horrendous and evil as some of my earlier childhood abuse and captivity, is it possible I can at least talk about my spiritual abuse too when I get my sessions with my WEAVE counselor?

Hello, my situation is not that bad just need unbiased advice. I dated this guy for about a year & half on and off. It’s been a very volatile unhealthy relationship. We are both jealous & controlling. I am a 24 yr old female & he’s 37 yr old man. Our relationship began to get physical with me putting my hands on him maybe 3 different times. He never hit back until one time we were out he accused me of flirting with guys & called me a bad name so I pushed his face away & he pushed my face back hard. He immediately left the bar & we broke up. He apologized for putting his hands on me & even bought a trip for us to go to Mexico. I decided to get back with him mostly because I should have never put my hands on him in the first place. Fast forward 8 months we just got back together after being apart for 2 months. He came over we had sex and started working on our relationship again.2 weeks later he came over we has again he goes to throw away the condom and sees another condom in the trashcan ( his condom from 2 weeks ago) & loses it. I told him it was his condom but he pushed me on the bed got on top of me and started slapping me across the face. He even tried to choke me. I pushed him off he was calling me all kinds of names I tried telling him it was his condom he hit me multiple times again … Left Marks on my face. He left he text and said I better not tell the police on him … Since then 2 days have gone by & he has continuously called & text me from random numbers apologizing blaming some medicine he’s taking plus he was drunk. I’m completely done with him but should a restraining order on him? I feel like I don’t know what he’s capable of now & I don’t want to deal with pressing charges. Or for him to think he can get away with this.

My boyfriend, who is also the father of my unborn child, got physical with me the other day in front of my son (age 2). I went to the hospital and got checked out and was pressured into filing a report. Once I filed the report they informed me they had contacted DHR. They did a safety plan with me and my sons father bc I don’t want to press charges, so for the time being I only get to see my son during supervised visits, even though I made my boyfriend move out. My boyfriend has never been physical before. I’m torn bc I want my child to have his or her daddy in it’s life, but if that’s going to affect whether or not I get my son back, I don’t want that. I don’t know what to do, and I guess I could just use some advice and guidance.

I asked my husband of 26 years for a divorce after he had decided to fall back into taking drugs again. I was then told if I went through it he would take me for 1/2 of my wages because he has not worked since 10/2012 and is awaiting his SSI disability. I left the home, due to escalating arguments and threats to financially take me down if I go through with it. I rent my mother’s home, and I pay all of the bills. I allowed him to stay there while I found a place to go, but my living situation is only temporary. The separation has escalated to where my husband has become hostile, and threatening. I filed a restraining order because he decided to stalk me and then approach me, pushing me, in front of others. I requested the court evict him, but they did not grant my request. I am in limbo waiting to get back into my home. If my name is the only one on the lease, and his is not, and he has become hostile towards me, does the owner of the home have grounds for evicting him?

Without a home in NM

I need to find the names of the life insurance policies my ex daughter in law took out on my son. See my son was a victim of emotional abuse by his narcissistic wife. She was extremely controlling too. Soon after they were married he started wanting to kill himself. She constantly was bashing and belittling him he would tell me but then finally he put up a wall and she isolated him from family. It was no secret she wanted out of the marriage. Anyways she knew he was suicidal and she took him off his meds. She keep dangling the I’ll leave you if you don’t do as I say. Although he needed to be under a doctor’s care she refused to let him get him. Then finally he came to me and wanted me to help him so I did I got him to emergency room at nearby hospital and he got treatment. Once his wife found out I was helping him she dumped on him told him our marriage is over. Why would she do that when I was helping him? Well then I got the dreadful phone call. My son killed himself . She never shed a tear over it either. I just want to know what policies he had I have a strong feeling she set him up to collect and benefit of his death. There’s lots more details that point at her also. I’m sure there’s at least insurance fraud here. I’m reaching out for the abused men who get overlooked. Thx

Hi i’ve never been in a situation like this and i need help… My ex has had domestic charges on him before from previous relationships but he was taking classes and i thought he was getting better then i saw for the first time that side of him the other day because he said i disrespected him cause i wouldn’t get him a glass of water and he just blew up on me i am 3 months pregnant by the way so i left his house that day ever since then he’s been acting like everything is fine and i should get over it but he told me if i wasn’t pregnant that he would of beaten my ass already…and he said that he’s not going to change his ways and that he’s warning me to stay on his good side or he will put hands on me so i broke up with him and blocked him from fb and he just went crazy again i told him we only need to talk about the baby and so he kept texting me all this other stuff and said if i didn’t answer him back he was going to come to my house i told him if he did i would call the cops his response was call the cops i’m not scared to go back to prison i’m not scared of no cops i have a 6 year old little boy from a previous relationship and i’m scared for mine his and my unborn childs safety what do i do please help

Hi, I am from Brazil, I met and got married with my husband among 6 months, we fall in love and he dosen’t wanted leave me go back home. But soon that we got married he changed completely and start scary and abuse me. He knew I needed my paperwork done for be able to drive and work. But I was thinking this things was work fast, but was not like that. And he start be mean to me, insulting, humiliating, blaming me for anything. He left me in a strange and dangerous place without phone or car. He start says our marriage was a terrible mistake, and then he avoided me completely, days and days without talk to me. He can be angry for anything, and scary yelling and driving very fast on propose. He touches my intimate parts when I am sleeping, I already wake on middle of night when he did that. He said everything of bad in his life is my fault because we are married. He want me leave the house, but he knows I have nowhere to go, I depend on him for everything. He said he is not gonna file my paperwork, and then if I don’t do what he want he is gonna call the immigration for deport me.

I really don’t know what to do. I looking for help, because I feel sick and alone. He knows I am in his hands, because that he does whatever he want with me. This is not fair.

For 10 years I was abused by my husband. We had a high profile life and he threatened to destroy me if I ever told anyone or left him. Finally I had the guts to have him arrested, he served a year in jail. He was released and fighting me in divorce for the money. During that time I took the help from a man ( I was left homeless with everything I owned moved into storage) during this time. Our relationship ended when the fight began with my ex over money. Apparently this man thought he was going to get everything my money & my storage he claims is his since he made payments on it? is that true? can he take my storage? His true colors were seen when he took the truck back he bought me and started to abuse me. telling me I deserved it for what I did to my husband. can this man leave me homeless and without transportation ( even if I made the same amount of payments as he did on the truck) with no money and threaten me to take my things from storage ?

I was beaten by my boyfriend at a public storage unit we had rented. three employees and one manager witnessed the attack and did nothing I ran to the office and they locked the doors. I was screaming for them to call 911 but they would not. by not letting me in the office and not calling 911 they caused more beating to me. are there charges I can file against the business and/or the employees.

Okay so i have been getting threats from my 3 month old fathers girlfriend. Saying i best be ready for a whooping weather or not i have my f***t child in my arms or not.Can i press charges on her for harassment and child endangerment?I literally have not left my house without my fiance because i’m scared i’m going to be holding him or pushing his stroller and she attacks me. And mind you i have done nothing to her or have said anything to her except please leave me and my child alone bye.

I am running from my husband who has a past of being physically abusive, he still remains mentally and emotionally abusive. He threatened me and said if I leave he will slit my throat from ear to ear, he’s always threatening to physically hurt me and do to the seriousness of the abuse in the past I believe he will fall through with it. He is now mentally abusing and bullying my children, he tells my son he’s gonna knock him out and try him like the bitch he is. My son deals with major anxiety attacks. I have had to escape and flee back home from Hawaii to Sacramento where two of my kids were born and where I was born and raised. I feel like I have to get as far away from his as possible because I fear for mine and my kids safety and really feel like he will kill me. He has kept me from working the last two years, doesn’t give me access to any money. So I don’t have any money and know support from family and friends. I want to start a new life for me and my kids but know that when I go back to California I’m going to have to hide because he is from there as well and he will send friends and family to hurt me or take my kids. I know he’s gonna come looking for me and if he finds me he will either hurt me or kill me or hurt my kids. My kids are ages 14, 15 and 2. My kids are so scared and fear for their safety as well. What options and resources do I have. We will be homeless?

Im 26 yrs old from NJ and my bf has gotten physical with me on 2 occasions and both occasions he was drunk. I’ve since come to the conclusion that he had/has a drinking problem. The first time was about 1 yr and 9 months ago & he choked me up against the wall but someone that was there intervened and stopped it. I almost broke up with him and should have then but we had never fought that bad and i felt in my heart that he would never do it again. I didn’t make it easy for him and we were not living together at that point so it was easier to kind of “heal” if you will. The second time was 5 months later and he broke a ceramic plate on my face causing me a partial broken jaw, missing teeth, and thousands of dollars in repetative surgeries. I don’t know why but i had seriously believed it was an accident (he “threw the plate to scare me and didn’t mean to hit me”) In my heart of hearts i figured that this guy needs some serious help and i wanted to be the one to help him through it. So I decided for me to help him I was going to move in with him. We have been living together ever since, he hasn’t gotten physical again but it was a tough battle getting him to stop drinking because that was obviously when he lost all self control. Instead he has resorted to mental abuse. I had to delete all of my social medias (including my business promo page) yet he has every single account on the web, instagram, facebook, snapchat, twitter, whatsApp. I cant go even go to my hometown to see my family without him throwing accusations that im going there to cheat on him. Im apparently supposed to be a rude b****h to every guy in the world. If i take too long to do something or go somewhere, he leaves without me. If i don’t drop whatever im doing to tend to him when he says so, im useless. People who used to know me (friends he made me leave behind) will tell you they know me as strong minded, outgoing, independent, outspoken and confident. Now, i don’t feel that i’m any of those things. I feel like i’m losing myself and i can’t take it anymore. I can’t talk to him because when i tell him, hey i feel like you’re not being fair to me when you call names and it’s not right that you condescend me about everything. He will just reply with “well i don’t like when you etc. etc.” so it turns into a petty back and forth we get nowhere. I have seriously thought about leaving him and moving out but i cannot afford it so i’m basically stuck in this endless cycle and i don’t know how to get out of it. Recently i let him know that i am not happy and i don’t see this working out, and of course, he makes me feel guilty and like its all my fault and I have to work on changing even more things than he has already made me change, but he doesn’t have to change anything. I know i need to get out, what suggestions can you give me to do this so that i’m not homeless. Even if he moves out I can’t afford the rent on my own.

My ex husband assaulted me and on the final assault he was arrested and charged. His family has a lot of money and paid good lawyers to prevent him going to jail. We share a son together and he keeps taking me back to court. After years of battling and not knowing what I was doing in court I decided to settle and gave up a lot of my rights to my son. He now has him plus his older son full time (whose mother also told me was abused by him). I miss my baby boy so much. Now my husband is remarried and he refuses to let me meet his wife who is basically raising my son. They live a 24 hour drive away from me and I’m on disability due to also having gone through cancer. He used my cancer and mild clinical anxiety and depression against me in court. He litigated me for years. Now he is taking me back. I’m afraid he is going to try to get his wife to adopt my son…which is what he tried to do with me and his first son when we were married. He told me he wanted me to adopt him because he wanted revenge against his first son’s mom. Now I’m scared he will do this to me and possibly succeed. He spent hundreds of thousands on his lawyer to get the results he did in court. He refuses to let me speak to my son now and won’t help pay for him to come see me. He won’t even give me an outline of dates I can see my son. I wish I never told anyone he was assaulting me and had just calmly left the situation… now he is so angry and seems to be only into cutting me down to nothing. I can’t work and am so stressed from all he keeps putting me through. I haven’t even had a relationship since I left in 2012. I’m so scared he will find out. I don’t know how to make him stop bothering me. Can I ask for a cease and desist order in court? I’ve been going to court with him for 4 years and I’m so tired. I have two other kids and I just want my life back. Is he allowed to just take my son like this and not allow me to talk to him or see him? It’s been over a month since I’ve seen him at all. I am not a criminal, don’t have a criminal record and I am diplomatic with him whenever we speak. I don’t have money for a lawyer and my experience with legal aid was terrible. The lawyers don’t seem to have enough experience to go up against him and the high paid lawyers he can afford. I feel like I can’t live with missing out on my son.

My roommate (my EX husband) us mentally abusing me yelling at me leaving the door open when i asked him nicely not to to it disturbs me he put the oven on 400 shut all doors didn’t turn on cooler i was sleeping while he was baking me! He won’t let me sleep & he won’t clean up after himself. I’m ready to have a nervous break down he harrassed all day in front of our 4 yr old granddaughter she was scarred & upset the whole day!. I want him to realize that he is a heartless person I don’t want to move but will NOT pay rent again to live with someone who feels free to mentally abuse me! I want him to leave be much easier for him to move but he won’t leave unless I do!. I feel as a roommate I have a right to a safe quite place to live. Is my only option out of this for me to move? Or can I get him out somehow?

My boyfriend/ then fiancé moved into my home in January 2016. He has blacked my eye 3 time and slung me around pushed me down and this past week he punched me in the chin so hard I still have a knot and I took pictures every time! He gets his two kids for a week every other week and still goes to court after 5 years of divorce! I’m afraid he will kill me if I go to the police and he loses his kids! I need these people out of my house! How can I legally do that without getting killed? I live in the state of NC! Any advise you can provide would be great! Trying to stay calm and stay low until I have a plan!

I am afraid that my ex husbands fiancé has gone to a domestic violence center, but she is afraid of him so she won’t come forward and press charges. I am afraid for my children. Is there anyway through the court system we can get that information that she has been seeking help to help my children and her?

My wife was arrested for spitting on me but I don’t want her in jail

Hi. I’m 16 and two days ago I went to a party and got pretty drunk. I also tried weed for the first time, which wasn’t a good idea in hindsight because of what happened, but I did it anyway. This guy that I’ve been friends with for a long time started to ask me if I wanted to make out, make his ex jealous, and I kept saying no. Eventually he stopped for a little bit and we sat down, him next to me. He touched my boob and I told him to stop but because I was so high and drunk I didn’t do anything else about it. He did this three or four times until he finally said “sorry, that one was an accident” and ran his hand along my side getting reeeeaaaallllyy close to my vagina. I thought it was over until he started rubbing my thigh and I told him to stop but he didn’t? Eventually a girl at the party saw and made him stop but I’m really scared at what could have happened if she hadn’t. He denied it all the next morning, that it was an accident that he didn’t touch me, but I don’t know what to do. I feel dirty and gross like it was my fault for not moving away from him after he did it. Is it? I just want to know if it’s sexual assault or if I’m overreacting, which is very probable. Thank you.

I went to the court to seek help. In my final protective order I asked the Judge to put my abuser out of our apartment. Because I admitted to breaking his tv and a gaming system she implied there was violence on both sides. He told the judge he has nowhere else to go and because he was smart enough to get an updated lease without my signature the judge put ME out. Now I’m homeless!!!!!???? What do I do? I’m a legal co-tenant in the unit and it is a HUD unit. I thought VAWA protected victims rights.

My roommate and I have not been getting along for awhile. She screams, slams doors, ect. It continuously escalates. Since we are on a month to month lease and our landlord is her family friend, I have received a notice to vacate. I found a place and will be out before the end of my notice. However, in the meantime, she has harassed me-calling, texting, screaming in my face, making physical threats to beat my ass, hurt my animals, destroy my things and even proceeded to shove me into a door to “wipe the smile off my face.” She’s trying to push me to move out sooner-unfortunately I don’t have that ability right now-I am able to move into my new place in a few weeks. What are my rights here? How do I ensure my safety, the safety of my things and my pets? My landlord had placed locks on our doors for our stuff but my roommate claims that she received a key to my room from the landlord and can come in at anytime to hurt my animals or my things. Can I be protected until I am able to move?

I filed charges against my abuser. 
The same day he was able to get my case number from a police officer.

Is that legal?

Is there an online schedule of group counseling meeting times/locations?

I would like to know in florida if I got arrested (turned myself in) for domestic battery but when I went to the advisory hearing in jail and my girlfriend came to the hearing and told the judge that this was bad mistake and that I did not hurt her ( I did not) in anyway and that she is not afraid of me and that she wanted me to come home. the judge asked D.A. lady if she had a problem with that and she said no and so I was released on ror with supervisor condition. my question is will the state still charge me. I have not yet talked to a public defender yet.

im not sure if this is considered domestic violence. but my girlfriend of almost 2 years, her ex girlfriend is showing up places and attacking me, soliciting other people to attack me. she showed at my house on 3 different occasioning and attacked me. the last time she called 12 people over to my house and they jumped me and while her nephew held me down she tried to pour bleach in my face. my girlfriend had to pull a weapon to get everyone to leave. i want to file for a restraining order but i dont know if this is considered domestic or civil? plus this woman has a right to be at my house because she is my girlfriends chore worker. i am afraid that the situation is a kill or be killed type of thing. please help

I cheated on my girlfriend with this trashy girl. My girl kicked me out and I started seeing the trashy girl. Well one night she started attacking me and I pushed her off. She called the police and I went to jail and she got a protective order. So she kept calling and calling and I went to see her. She got mad because I told her I loved my girlfriend. Then she called the police. I went back to jail (violating the order) I know I’m an idiot for cheating and im
an idiot for continuing to see her. But while in jail she stole my phone got into my emails and used it without permission what can I do if anything?

I have a domestic violence restraining order against the father of my kids. The court has ordered us to use our family wizard to communicate about the exchanges of my kids and any important information about their wellbeing. He keeps accusing me of harassment because I keep stating the abusive things he did to me in the past and why I don’t believe or trust him now. He also won’t let me meet his new girlfriend so that I can feel more comfortable with her being around my kids, after I authorized her to be a monitor during his parenting time. How can I make his girlfriend meet me?

I’m scared my boyfriend want to kick him out of the house he is not on the lease I live in Oregon how do I do that and do I have legal rights in does he

My ex boyfriend has mentally abused me for years, making me feel bad for going out with my friends, telling me I’m a bad mom, no one is going to love me like he loves me, when I tried breaking up with him he says he can’t live without me and will kill himself and makes me feel guilty.. 

This weekend we had a fight about not being together and things got physical, this wasn’t the first time it got physical but, it was the first time I was really scared.. Now he’s in jail and might be doing serious time because the same day I got an order of protection he violated it, and I’m sitting here crying feeling bad.. Is this normal? Am I going crazy?!

My “boyfriend” and I have a 6 month old baby. We’re constabtly fighting. He’ll get mad and put her on the ground to yell at me or hurt me.
He’s kicked me, smacked me, pulled me by my hair, held knives up to me, chocked me, trapped me in the house. 
It’s almost everyday.
I’ve tried leaving to my dads and grabdmas but he finds me and forces his way in and takes me and her back. He said next time I leave or if I try to call the cops, he’ll kill me 
I don’t have a lot of proof, but planning on running away with our daughter without telling anyone in fear he’ll follow. 
My biggest worry is him using the legal system to get her back or to find us. Is there anyway I can prevent that? Can I keep him away without proof of what’s beens happening?

My mother-in-law lives in another state but verbally threatens me over the phone that if something happens with my husband’s Health that she will have her relatives come after me and they live in the same state as me what can I do as far as restraining order

My sons father is incarcerated and when i was with him i went through domestic violence but i was scared to report it. My sons father’s mother got temporary custody of him and i want him back. Can i use domestic voilence when we go to court or not since i never filed a report?

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I’m not even sure where to start… My current roommate and I have been living together for years and it came about when his former landlord and roommate, passed away suddenly while I was staying with them. We realized my roommate had been drinking.

The drinking continued to become more and more of an issue. It got to the point that I was chasing him outside wearing only his boxers in the middle of winter and at one point he even came into my sleeping area, completely naked and sat on my bed refusing to leave!

I’m female and have survived tremendous trauma in my past. What he was doing put me off heavily, and I talked with him again and again since we’d been friends for years before this all started happening. I thought he had stopped drinking, or severely cut back on it and made it more social than hiding in his ‘room’ and drinking.

Our new apartment was bigger, I got my own room (whereas I slept in the living room before) and initially things seemed really great. After a bit, I started noticing some really gross habits. He would pee in the kitchen and bathroom sinks and the back yard.

At one point, with my health having gotten really worrying, and the tension with my roommate, my dog was sick and needed to go to the vet and he said he’d help me pay for it. He had to work that evening and if he kept putting it off, he wouldn’t make it to the bank before he had to go. Well, it turned into a fight, and I accused him of not wanting to spend his alcohol money to help my dog.. I was angry, y’know a lot of other family issues which just stacked on top of the problems I was having with him). He used the fact I was sick, taking medicine and on government money against me and I snapped… In my entire adult life, I have never been physically violent with anyone, and I blacked out and punched him. He got me arrested. Monday night I ended up extremely sick as well… But to add salt to the wound, my dog had gotten loose while I was in jail, and had it not been for a family finding him and trying to care for him since he was /still sick/ I would have probably lost him. They found my number through his tags thankfully, and I was able to get him home.

I’ve been finding the front door unlocked when I know I distinctly left it locked, I’ve been finding the lights left on in the bathroom and toilet seat lid up (a minor gripe compared to others) and he swears I must have done it because he doesn’t remember going into the bathroom.

It makes me worry what else he’s doing! And I’m in a financial situation that I can’t afford to find a new roommate because I’m not working and only getting enough from the state to barely survive month to month, and the programs for elderly or disabled people (I also have mental disabilities which I’m on medicine for) are closed, and have a huge waiting list.. And subsidized apartments make me weary because I’m not sure if I’ll have more to deal with like people blaring their music, and the pot smoking which makes me sick, despite getting away from my current roommate.

He has ruined our friendship.. and I’m just… not sure what to do anymore… I’ve self harmed to try to relieve some of the stress.. I don’t want to keep living like this.. The fear of him doing something after drinking, which he does nightly I’m almost certain, just keeps getting worse. I know I could fight him off, but I don’t want to have to worry about that. No I don’t have family I can stay with.. no local friends as I’m generally reclusive so I don’t physically socialize much. All of my friends are basically online and out of the state.

What do I do? What /can/ I do?

I wanted to cuddle my toddler to sleep downstairs tonight. My husband didn’t want him to fall asleep downstairs, so he prized my arms and took my son from my arms. I didn’t resist too much as I didn’t want to frighten my son. Is this abuse?

My ex boyfriend is trying to sue me over his lawyer fees after he went to court For assaulting me. Can he do this? its a Minnesota case and the state pressed the charges

I am goong through Divorce with three minor kids and my ex husband is very verbally abusive but has a cop as a best friend who says that if he touch me slaps my body and it doesnt leave a mark it will never hold the charges as long as he makes the same vlaims of me being violent back with no matka on his skin. He always say “it will never hold up, here go on call the cops.you grabbed my privates and rapped me or did you force me to kiss you. Dumbass bitch you cant report what I contest and there isnt any proof!” Is he right?? I have told my attorney doing the divoce he said I have to get a report but if he is making the same claims how will my accusations hold? He does have a felony for domestic violence that he was to lazy to get removed from his records it happened the year we married. I tried to leave but reluctantly he always gets me pltrapped by kids or money or injuries me to the point if being to scared to leave. He makes me so angry I freeze up and feel like a helpless child locked in a cage.

For over 3yrs, my son’s father has been getting angier during disagreements (hitting walls furniture, stopping me from leaving by taking my cell or yelling in my face backing me into wall corners or keeping in bedroom separate from son) Since last April 2015, has pushed shoved and restrained me by the wrist and arm. When I say stop he doesnt. He only does if I give in by shutting up…say i will call for help. This summer, I called 911 because he pulled me down hall then shoved me into out bedroom away from my son (luckily cell was in there charging). I have never been raped or beaten but we never know when he will lise hus temper at home or public. HELP Is this abuse???? If so, I am a caretaker for our son who is Autistic and a toddler…I can not work right now and have NO money so how do I leave asap?

Very tired scared!

i got in trouble and when i left my room to go to the bathroom they yelled at me, so i peed in a water bottle in my room, my stepdad found said bottle today and poured it on my bed, he has also taken things i bought with my own money and thrown them away, attacked me and threatened me,should i call the cops? the assault was over a year ago but everything else is recent

I have a big sister who has a husband he treats in a horrible way.He makes me lose my self esteem he also sits on me like he doesn’t care.He starts fights with me then my sister joins along and breaks my stuff I tell then to stop and they don’t listen help me I’m 12 they make me cry everyday I dont do anything because he also bites me sometimes

My daughter is married with a 5 year old and lives in a different state from us (were in FL, they are in SC), he mentally and verbally abuses her and almost gets to the point of hitting and now its in front of the baby. She wants to leave but has no money, no transportation, no family in SC what can we do? If she leaves and takes the 5 year old with her to Florida with her family or, is this illegal. We of course would start filing for custody and divorce in SC. Her threatens her everyday with taking the baby and throwing her out.

I left my abusive marriage one year ago… He promised if I left I left with none of my belongings money and he would make sure I never got a dime.. So for last year he made sure I’m broke and homeless. Everytime I step one foot ahead he screws it up now my family support group has decided it’s been a year I should be working full time n living in a place times up so they turned there backs and said don’t call us. Now I was stay at home mom so I have no skills I went on a few interviews

I am bedridden due to a 1999 back injury that put me in a wheelchair and has gotten much worse over the last 17 years, partly because I had to do things my doctor told me not to do but I had to care for his children when he went out of town several times each month for several days at a time. In 2008 we had a home fire where I was left home alone but fighting the obstacles I managed to crawl out under the flames in -16 degrees snowy weather (without my wheelchair as it was blocked in from stuff stacked behind the doors so they did not open wide enough). The aftermath stress was pretty high and really took a toll on my physical and mental health. my husband does not hit me but he has destroyed personal property, withholds food, and ruined my car and then forced me to sign it over to him and he used it as a trade in and bought an expensive car we really cannot afford and expects me to pay for it out of my disability. He does not allow me to go anywhere without him and refuses to leave the car home when he goes out with his buddies. I have never made it hard for him to use my car even when mine was the only serviceable vehicle. A year ago he left me alone for a week while he went to stay with his dad. Before he got this car he would take mine I brought with me to the marriage leaving me with no way to go anywhere, even to the doctor and I had to cancel numerous appointments and physical therapy. I have only left the house about 10 times in the last year for appointments but I am not allowed to go anywhere by myself and certainly never allowed to even use the car that I am contributing finances to. But, he does not hit me at all.

I have an unspecified brain deterioration and an abdominal aortic aneurysm, both are being monitored. I have to schedule my appointments well in advance now because he refused to allow me to see the vascular surgeon for 18 months a year ago. I see her now every 6 months for an ultrasound to monitor it. I am just so tired to being treated like I am worthless once the kids grew up and left home he had no more need for me except to take my disability as his own because he said I am not allowed to have ‘personal’ property it is all his because we are married. He is a government worker so I fee very threatened because he is well known where he works and nobody knows me at all after we moved from home. Of course he is nice to others at work but not at home and with not being allowed to go anywhere I am unable to meet people let alone make friends.

During one argument he slammed my arm in the refrigerator door and I reacted and smacked him so I am the guilty party so I feel like I am sentenced to life with this person. I just wish I would hurry up and die (I do have 2 life threatening conditions) because I don’t know how much more I can take of this.

I don’t know if anyone can help because of my physical condition and mobility issues.

My husband has been beating me for years and the beatings are escalating very bad. He doesn’t hold back at all… I’m afraid to call the police because I have a warrant from another state that is 16 years old. Will they arrest me to ?

I’m overwhelmed and at a loss and DMV will be my breaking point. I left abusive marriage one year ago I am on assistance and live in my car. Welfare approved food stamps but not cash aid because I own my car .. I have no money! I walked in to store to get my spousal support which is wired – store refused to give to me I was told my license expired. O didn’t any mail or renewal info but my ex keeps changing my mail to his house.
So in last week I started calling and found out yes license is expired. A fix it ticket I got for registration last year and had signed off and went to courthouse where officer asked before I went through metal detector why I was there today, I said turning a fix it ticket which I fixed he told oh u don’t go there see that box outside as long as there is no cash just stick it in there – I did. Somehow now they say they never got I have a triple fee n possible warrant because fix it or not I guess u still have to show in court . My registration will expire next month no way to pay n I have no insurance ex canceled when I left n he knows I don’t have a job so can’t pay – so my home being my car is at risk everyday. If I get pulled over it will be impounded I will go to jail (which scared to death never thought that) n I will get out and have no car no personal affects just me. I’m 50 and I’m to old n not equipped to make it out there. I don’t know where to begin fixing if I even can! Please help I already lost everything I regret leaving.. I don’t want to go back but I don’t see an option. Hell vs hell… It should never be this hard to leave a domestic violent relationship maybe that’s why it took me over 9 years to go!

Help help and what other help can I find

This girl refused to get out of my car after about a hr and a half of yelling at me over and over. I ask her over and over to get out and go in her place but she doesn’t. So I get out and attempt to pick her up out the car so I can leave but she starts grabbing things to hold onto. So I grab her by her waist and pull her out and she cuts her leg and finger. Is that domestic violence on my end

My brother is in a tough relationship he has 10 month old baby with his girlfriend she has an 11 yr old son from someone else. The woman is very unstable. On several occasions she has tried to kill herself and she physically abuses my brother. He feels that the kids are in an unsafe environment but he is worried that if takes both kids out she’ll report him for kidnapping her son. Is this a possibility?

My 19 year old daughter lives at home and has a job. She will attend college in August. She has a family that loves her and will keep her safe. Basically safe options to get out of this abusive relationship she is in. She finally admitted to a peer about the abuse but not to me. I’ve talked to her, told her I will do everything to protect her, that there is nothing she could tell me that would make me believe she deserves this treatment. BUT she keeps dating this guy. He has no job, no education, no goals…So there is nothing tying her to him, no excuse. Could she possibly like this treatment? She has never seen abuse at home and has a loving extended family. I can’t hold her hostage or follow her 24/7. I don’t know how to be ok with her accepting this type of treatment. Please advise me what I can do to help her see the light!!!

My Husband threatened to kill me at Christmas and I didn’t report him because he promised he would go to Anger Management-He never did of course. He also threatened to punch my eldest Autistic adult son in the face for using his vapor in the house the day before in front of my younger 2 sons-Can I still press charges?
This is one of many scenarios where he has abused us in the past 7 years

He is a Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde-

Hi, i need to know once enrolled in program if its counceling I or more is it absolute that one must come each week? Reason i am asking is i am no longer in relationship today but need help also may need to miss a week gas money is very difficult as i lost my job, 2 in fact which always excelled in my work. Also possible car trouble, cannot pay my rent and not sure of anything at this point. I was fraudulently taken out by my boyfriend now ex who is in prison now but not for my issues i never turned him in. I may need to miss at times so i apologize for the long explaination attached to my question. Thank you

Can my ex sue me for rent he has had to pay on his new place for the past 3 years. He has a restraining order against him by me and was physically removed from our property and placed under arrest by the local Sheriff Department . The order is effect until 2019. As a result of his violent behavior, I am forced to immediately sell my dream home of 12 years as I cannot afford the mortgage alone. He has placed a lien on the property along with the lawsuit for his rent. The court date is set for September of this year. Please advise.

My son’s father used to stalk me and brake into my apartments and beat me up. I was forced to move twice because he kept finding me and we faught so often and he would run before anyone could call the police. There were a lot of damages to the apartments and I was forced to move with not enough money to take everything or the safety to even go back to the apartment being that I lived alone with my 3 year old son. So both times we were forced to move to shelters and start over. I could’ve sworn I was told in court that they would make him pay the fees however I’m not sure if I would need to get a lawyer to take him to court to pay or simply go on my own? He isn’t stable so it would take sometime to find him but I’m trying to remove these things from my credit so I may move on with my life. Doesn’t really seem far that I had to go through all of that and still pay for it too.

So I was in a relationship for about 8 months, which after the 3rd month he became very violent and abusive. Choking, hitting,slapping,and verbal as well.I even got stabbed once in leg, which he would not let me go to dr. I finally had been hit , stomped, and kicked in the head and body so much one day that I decided to go to ER. My finger was broke, and I had concusion.not to mention all the bruising.they tried to get me to tell them at ER who did it, but I wouldn’t. I was scared to. So to make long story short, I was able to get alot of the bills covered by charity that the hospital offered.but one is now going against my credit but I don’t have money to pay. Not to mention, have the time he wouldn’t let me go to work, he held me hostage in the house. He punched my windshield and it is cracked and only slowly getting worse. And I’m afraid I am going to get a ticket. He broke a 700 dollar new iPhone I had, I had to pay that out of pocket because I was on a device payment plan w verizon. Then I got a galaxy note phone for around the same price and on payment plan and he has hit me with it and had external damage and I don’t know how much longer I will be able to use it, and im screwed. I had to move out of my sisters because she was scared of him. I moved in w friend , I have no money.he has stolen from me so much that it is around about 15,000 dollars. He made my life hell. The law was called out several times by neighbors and friends and they would never do anything because I wouldn’t press charges, or take out papers which is because I was scared to, he threatened me. He pretty much ragged out my car. It was so nice and now almost junk. He showed out at my work.he literally made my life hell, and I stayed upset and in a tizz for months. Lost weight, lost hair, so much because of this guy and he has just moved to another state and has another Gf and basically gets to have a wonderful life, while I am struggling because of him. It messed me up mentally , physically, only a small scar from stab, and a broken finger that still is swollen and kept me from performing my job as a hair stylist to the best of my ability. I was suppose to see a bone doctor and couldn’t afford to go. Being stressed that bad really affected my OCD, now i am having yrouble finding a job because of the ocd.but i guess one of the worst things was, he raped me twice. I would like to see a counclor but im broke and my savings are gone.my savings is gone now.He kicked the door in twice at my friends house that I moved into. Is there any kind of action I can take to make him pay something back? I’m not trying to rip him off or take any money not owed to me, but I feel like I have really been put through the ringer with this guy.and surely there is something I can do to get some of it back.

My husband has hit me during arguments in my head, not closed fisted but hard and has pushed me around. He says he hit me because I pushed him. I think I pushed him back because he was yelling in my face. We have only been married 3 months. 
I left when I was driving my car and he had his 3 little dogs on his lap and I was pulling the car out and stopped abruptly to tell him just to drive and it caused one of his dogs to fall on the floor. When this happened he grabbed my face and said he hated me and wished he could punch me in the face. 
I was so upset I packed and left to my families home.
He has been begging me back for two weeks. Telling me he misses me, needs me , how he loves me and it won’t happen ever again. And tells me I should forgive and come back with only love in my heart.
Should I go back. I love him but was so unhappy. Can things change? We are in our forties.

Sincerely,
Confused

(Edited Due to Length) My ex and I cohabitation together for over 10 years. Over those years he has physically assulted me. Finally, just recently I got enough courage to leave with my son, (not his, I’m a widow) n get help after being beaten, in front I’d my son. He has also threaten to kill me and has destroyed my property with a hammer, cane, etc. So, finally he beat me for the last time. I got my son and 2 dogs n left. Went to hospital, filed an assist report to police. Well, this time since police wont/can’t help, I go get an emergency pfa to have him removed, it was granted, n then 1 week later at court date, I was granted a 90 day pfa. My son n I moved back into home, but only was temporary. Well, now hes back, he manipulated me into believing that we could work this out. Since he still has apt, he has nothing to contribute to mortage, bills, food, anything. C, he had alteriour motives. He’s not he to fix this, but to antagonize me. Once he gained my trust, he turned n stated since I put him out, now I’m gonna c 2hat it feels like. It’s his home, n he don’t have not only leave, but don’t have to contribute. He wants 2 c me homeless, I have no family, since I did it to him. So, when n if mortage does forecloses, n we r forced out, that’s when he will go back to his apt. Ge don’t care he’s put me in debt, n I’m under sever duress, stress, he’s hurt me agaun, pushes me around n threatens me if I don’t do his bidding. He’s very controlling n if I defy him all hell breaks loose. I’m falling apart, almost out of resources, n physically mentally n emotionally being abused n used. I’ve invested alot of money into this home, my son is adhd n autistuc. This is the only home he’s ever known. I’m scared of him n what he will do next. He has a terrible temper, never accepted responsibility for his actions, n justifies abuse, I made him it do, I was warned of consequences if I don’t listen. I can easily afford this home, he cant. He had every opportunity to take back home after 90 days, but didnt, he’s spiteful n wants revenge. but refuses to give it up or help with bills or mortafe, can I have him legally removed? N if so, how n what do I need 2 do. I live in bucks county pa.

My boyfriend, sons father(not biological) his actual father left a year ago & have never had contact since. Anyways (name omitted)’s father who I’m with got arrested two days ago for domestic battery, it got very physical just ugly in general we were fighting. My question is am I aloud to contact him in regards of our baby? I didn’t want charges pressed, but it hhappen because its apparently the law. I live in Illinois. Can I send him a few pictures of his son? Its very hard our son is 2yrs and is looking for him constantly.

If you where in a violate relationship but he got not guilty in court but few months later he was found guilty of murder but he told me I was next can I have police protection when he gets out of prison

I just now saw a man make a threatening move towards someone who looked like his girlfriend/wife, but no actual violence occurred. However, I’m concerned from the raised voices that I may have just seen some domestic violence. What should I have done?

I am bi-sexual and currently in a relationship with a female (I am female). The other day I regretfully pushed her when I got frustrated that she was out of control. She immediately punched me multiple times in the face and left plenty of bruises. We’ve been together 2 years and never laid a hand on each other before. My question is…in most states, legally can we both be arrested for domestic violence? Since I pushed her (it was a push not a shove or anything hard)? I am going to see a councilor tomorrow and I’m kind of worried if she she’s the bruises on my face that one or both of us will get in trouble. Does she legally have to report it?

I am a single parent ,live in contra costa county ,My son is bipolar 23 years of age still living at home. He wont take responsibility for getting his own medicine and keep doctor appointments also currently verbally combative and is physically abusive
i have asked him to leave and get physically abusive 

I’m 22 years old. I’ve been with the Man i married 5 years….we’ve both had really rough up bringings and have been through Alot. We both have anxiety and depression.lately….my husband has been lyi to me about stupid crap….but that’s not all. We fight. And when we dominated Alot of yelling. I get super anxious and I stand up for myself but don’t always shut up either…but he gets aggressive…..lately…he started hitting me. I have cuts from his nails on me.bruises.bumps on my head, he pulls my hair, drags me by my hair, throws me, I’ve fallen into tables, he hurts me so much. I don’t understand.but it’s not him.this isn’t the person he is, he has never been this way . I want o help him. I want to work on all of this.he can’t cope with anything.he started a new job.his boss treats him badly. He halls bad depression and anxiety. He smokes Alot of pot to try to cope but I fear it’s not enough to help him but he refuses counseling….I have bruises. All over me. My body hurts like ivw been hit by a car. one time he said he’s sorry. for the first time. he tells me it’s the on thing that I understand which is why he does it (I was abused growing up so I learned to be obedient to abuse)….I’m terrified of this. He’s pushed me intovthw ground and put pillows on my head. I don’t know what it all means.or what’s he’s trying to do. I knowwwwe he dosnt want tovkill me.and I know he loves me…as strange as that sounds.we’ve been best friends for along time.through Alot but always get high it and we have more good times then badmouth whencthe bad happens, it’s really really bad.what do I do???:? I don’t want to just walk away I want to help him too. But can I? What should I do? I’m scared of who he’s turning into but at the same time I know it’s not him. I don’t know what’s going on.but I don’t like it.dosnt he care? Does he feel guilty? does it faze him afterwards? Or is he just numb to hurting me???? During our bad bad fights, hell threaten to hurt me more.I know these are super red flags. but I can’t leave him and I don’t know why. I know insure no don’t want to. But I don’t know what to do. I’m starting to blame myself…..my depression…is coming back.my ptsd is getting worse.I’m scared. But I love him so much. :’(

I live with a man that is VERY verbally abusive on a daily basis, he drinks! He scares me and my daughter SO MUCH!! In the past he has tried to choke me and I called the law! They made him leave. We after that got back together because, me being a person that believes people change, let him back in my life and we live together. Now he drinks every day or every other day and is VERY VERY verbally abusive sometimes 8 hours! Now he threatens to burn my home camper car etc. I told him 2 and half months. ago it was over, I have even called local sheriff’s dept, and they said he has the same rights I do to live there when he lied to the officer about paying rent. Has never never paid rent or anything else. My daughter and I live on a check from the passing of husband, that’s how I pay my bills right now till I find a job. Anyway they want make him leave and just the past two nights he wants and said he would burn, destroy everything even if he went to jail! When he gets out he said he would find me and make me pay. But I cannot make him leave and scared EVERY DAY HE COMES HOME!! What can I do to make him leave? Please, Lord someone help me!! Thanks for this website I came across!!

i have been physical and mentally abused but when the cops asked me about i lied because person i was with only hurt once a while when i really upset-ed them and we have a child together and didn’t want my child to see their other parent in jail and the person who hurt me told that they love me but now i have saying that they hurt but i’m scared to go to the cops because i lied and they might come after me, i still love them and what to be with them but i don’t know why they always emotionally abuse me. i don’t want to do and i have text massages of them saying that they did it and they did rape me a couple of times but they amended to that

Hello, I’ve been abused by my boyfriend for almost 5 years. One night recently he lost his temper once again and he hit me this time I called the police, before they came he left. We live in a small apartment with my 2 year old daughter. They still haven’t arrested him its almost been a month the only reason he hasn’t come back is because the cops helped me file a restraining order on him. But my boyfriend was the bread winner he was the one that made enough money to pay the rent. While I work a full time minimum wage job and go to school full time. The problem is I can’t pay this $980 rent a month is there somewhere I can call or some help I just need to pay the rent until my lease is up in 2 months and I can find an apartment that I can afford.

I be a certified dental assistant in 2 months, the lease ends in 2 monthsI just need financial help for rent for just 2 months.

I have been physically and emotionally abused , been bullied for over 8 years. It’s very difficult talking to anyone about this abuse because it was/ is my wife. Should say soon to be ex wife. Now that we are getting divorced she has run to our kids friends parents, my friends, friends we had as married couple, pretty much anyone that will listen and had told them what a bad husband , person I am. She barely knew people that she has told things about our marriage. She has done this to manipulate the situation and she knows that I would not go out and tell anyone about our marriage. How do I try to get the truth out since she has already told lies about the situation. It is also embarrassing the my wife has bullied me.

I have been in a relationship with my husband to be an we have a son together who is 5 yrs my problem is that he is very abusive towards me which make me to be afraid of him i cant even talk about him coz always he is angry so that one dae another guy approach me an he tell me everything i needed to hear is i started to cheat an i forget how my hsband to be used to treat me he found out that i was cheating an he almost kill me an said if i leave him he will kill me an my family an i believe coz he is dangerous so this year i came back home coz i was wanted to study he buy me an engagement ring i knew that he jst want to put it on my finger so that guys wont approach me when he left for job in other country and he always tell me why dnt u put me on your whatsaap pp i did that an this month i ask him put me on your whatsaap an he refused an i suspect he is cheating coz he told me i should leave other women husband coz he said am cheating which is nit true an i told him to stop calling me am worried coz he promise to kill me please help me

So me and my daughters father live together and have been for about 2 years. He has always made me feel as if my opinions on everything are wrong because his are right. He has since our daughter was 6 months old, she is now 13 months old, kicked me very hard a few times over and over to get me off the couch or off our bed, he has smashed my 32 inch smart tv, threw a bottle at me missing me and hitting my son’s picture and breaking it’s glass everywhere, he had pushed me in our daughters room trying to keep me from leaving and when he pushed me my first reaction was to grab onto something which was the neck of his shirt or I would’ve hit a dresser really hard hitting my back and possibly hurting something, he has thrown my end table at me twice, the first time it didn’t break but a week later when he threw it at me it broke, this last time he charged at me and put on hand around my throat for about 10 seconds or so. So, hard that I couldn’t breathe and I lost my voice 2 days later and I had no marks or bruising, just soreness where he had put his hand. Everything that he has done, he has done either holding our daughter or with her standing right next to me. All holding her except for the second time he threw my end table at me, kicking me out of the bed and when he pushed me in her room. The other incidents he was holding her. He was holding her when he charged at me and put his right hand around my throat and we were both standing up. I did press charges on him. We have court this week. He got a lawyer. I just have the courts attorney I guess. I’ve never had to do this so I’m kinda lost. We still live together but I have a protection order so that if he hits me before court he will go to jail till the court date. But, he seems to think that he didn’t do anything wrong and that he’s not going to jail or anything. He has always made everything my fault. If I don’t let him use my vehicle it’s not right, or if my opinion on things like having other unknown females in my vehicle, he doesn’t see that as disrespectful. When he’s hit or thrown things at me he tells me it was my fault and that I should’ve just shut up. I’m not aloud to speak my feelings at all about anything. He’s always saying that everything I get upset about is stupid and that his friends think so too. I’m always wrong. My question is because I don’t have a job and family to help me get away. Is should I be afraid of saying these things in court? Will I get justice? For the sake of mine and my daughters lives? Should I feel scared that the courts won’t do anything and he will win? Also he is a good speaker and can make anyone believe everything he says. Thank you in advance. I just need someone to tell me to not be afraid and have faith in myself to be strong enough to say what needs to be said to get justice.

Q: I had a domestic abuse charge out on my boyfriend last summer after he drug me out of bed at 7 am and yanked me down the gravel road as he told my best friend on the phone that “he couldn’t get rid of me. He had to hurt me enough to.make me go away.”I have been with him since and have gotten into many physical encounter since where I have been physical as well as him. I am 9.months pregnant with our child now and just recently found out he ran over and killed my dog 5 days ago and has been hiding it from me. Telling me that someone picked her up and nothing we can do about it and I have reason to believe he shot and killed my cat as well 4 months ago. I believe he is a perpetual liar and has an extreme obsession with guns and bullets. He isn’t allowed to have them and tried to get me to buy one for him even. It’s really hard to know what to do at this point. Does he need help? I can’t pay bills while I have to be on leave for 12 weeks and feel like I am lost right now.

Q: My brother has been in and out of jail for a LONG time, recently, he had a breakdown at his girlfriends moms ( where they live) and threw a pot through the window. In the lot where they live, a man has some stuff to do with drugs and the police have issued a no-contact between my brother and his girlfriend because of the man that shares the lot with them. They both love each other and I really want to help my brother be happy, please send advice.

If an adult child assaults their mother does this fall under domestic violence

I’ve had several ofp against ex abuser yrs ago and have moved alot because he finds us..20 yrs later he is working across street and attempting to enter bldg..I was upset to remember that he had Order For Protection (OFP)records SEALED that basically means HIDDEN as if yrs of horrible life threatening abuse didn’t ever happen..Does law enforcement have access or power to have those records UNSEALED and REVEALED somehow..? What should I do..? He is a HUGE threat to me and my son..! I have paper copies of ofps and dr n police reports etc..THANK GOD..I am hoping to meet with local police to allow all records I have to be reviewed so that they know I am telling the truth and not crazy..! His past record being sealed has allowed him to get away with abusing other women too..I feel like a sitting duck..please give me the best advice in this situation as to what I need to do in list of priority..Thank you..I AM A SURVIVOR OF THE MOST GRAPHIC N LIFE THREATENING ASSAULTS AND EXTREME LIFE OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AGAINST ME AND MY CHILD THAT THIS WORLD HAS EVER SEEN..I NEED THE POLICE TO SEE HIS PAST DV REVORD AS HE IS AN IMMINENT THREAT AND GOD FORBID HE GETS AWAY WITH IT..God bless and protect us all..! .signed..SOS

I’m afraid to stay in my home with my daughter who is always fighting with her boyfriend. The law says I can’t put them out so where can I go with my 14 year old? I fear for my own safety. Please help. Thank you.

Asking for my daughter. She is married with two small children. Is belittling someone and treating them like badly considered abuse? Her husband is a control freak. He will not give her money to go to the grocery store. He stops on his way home and buys what he wants. Yells at her calling her disgusting names. She receives Social Security Disability and so husband says he will get custody. She contributes all she can paying $500 of $1200 mortgage, her own car and insurance and all medical co-pays for kids. For the last year he has been getting testosterone shots saying his “t” count is low. These shots are only making him more angry and verbally abusive. Tells her she “has” to do her wifely duties. Sleeps on couch when home. She wants out but I do not have a place for her to go to. Is verbal abuse considered Domestic Violence or should she just as he puts it – “suck it up” and quit acting like a “sensitive Cindy” –I look forward to your response. Not sure if this is domestic violence or not. She does not have money to get her own place. I’m torn with what to do. Don’t think she needs a shelter but — the verbal abuse seems to be bringing her to an all time low.

this question isn’t for my well being but for a family member of mine. He is married to a woman who has threatened to kill herself because he went on a road trip without her. She has sent threatening messages to my mom. That add up to paragraphs about there “true love” and how my mom cant ever take that away. This lady even has a child that is ten-ish stuck in the mix. He feels this is all his fault he said he wont ever leave because he couldn’t handle the guilt on his shoulders if she did kill herself. Im just a kid and my mom told me not to contact you but he was my favorite person and now im not allowed to see him. I just want him to be happy again can you help?

What if I can’t call or get away?only able to access the phone quickly and quietly help

My husband is back on meth and is becoming more violent by the day. He almost ran me over yesterday. I have one baby in the nicu and 6 other babies 15-2 and he has been to jail for hitting me before but I dropped the charges and I cannot take it anymore. How do I leave? He told me he would kill me and all my family. He is also has schizoeffective disorder and is medicated but refuses to get help for his mania? I don’t have any family who can house or help me and I am a student and disabled. How can I leave? My mom owns a house in another state and I can go there if I can get there.

Hello. My brother, in his late twenties, is living with my Mom, in her early 60s. He has issues with rage, paranoia, stealing and verbal abuse when he doesn’t get what he wants.If she doesn’t give him what he wants, when he demands it (rides, TONS of money, things, etc), he screams at her until she runs away or gives in, threatens to beat her up or comments on past abuse, and he has destroyed her self-esteem. He threatens suicide. I am afraid the next phone call I will get is from the police, saying he beat her to death. She won’t tell anyone what he’s doing or get help for herself, please help me help her.

Hello, me and my girlfriend have been fighting for a few months and she attacked me multiple times. My question: I originally filed order of protection 6 months ago and she filed one on me last week but she never answered the door to be served. Things were great for a while, I moved back in but we got in an argument and the police arrived…… I called the city of _____ and asked about the restraining order and there’s nothing registered. I want her out of my apartment. We are not getting back together. I’m moving back to ______ but for now sleep on friends couches and live on the streets. Any legal advice would be great, let me know thanks.

Hello, me and my girlfriend have been fighting for a few months and she attacked me multiple times. My question: I originally filed order of protection 6 months ago and she filed one on me last week but she never answered the door to be served. Things were great for a while, I moved back in but we got in an argument and the police arrived…… I called the city of _____ and asked about the restraining order and there’s nothing registered. I want her out of my apartment. I’m moving back to ______ but for now sleep on friends couches and live on the streets. Any legal advice would be great, let me know thanks.

Is isolation, verbal and emotional torment considered domestic violence? Is family trauma and sexual violence due to childhood trafficking considered domestic violence if I am still harassed by family after 20 years of no contact policy in place? I am not unique, is there a safe place for someone like me to start over with my new name, social and sealed records? My police reports are related to stalking and family violence. The stalking has subsided and I am planning to leave an emotionally tormenting partner of many years. Are there services for me? Shelter? I remain hopeful for a better life by breaking this violent cycle I have been in my entire life. I am a strong courageous woman and can help others, too.

I am in a violent relationship and my children go to the same school as my partner’s children. Can you help me find a safe place to live?

I have escaped an abusive relationship. I was married for 18 years. My husband continually assaulted me, rape. When I told people, mainly my Mormon bishop, my husband tried to take the children away from me. The Mormon bishops know everything, even my children have spoken to them, they refused to do anything, saying it was a legal matter for the courts, even though my children told them what was going on.

Please help me get my kids away from this man. They will not talk to me in fear of retaliation. My parents are residents here in CA. My children are in another state. Where can I turn?

I AM THE VICTIM OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AWARDED SOLE CUSTODY OF MY CHILDREN FOR FC 3044. I HAVE TWO OVERLAPPING CLAIMS APPROVED BY CALVCP AND A CIVIL TORT IIED FOR DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AND ASSAULT. THERE IS NO DEFENSE TO THE ACTION. THERE IS ABSOLUTELY NOTHING FOR THE TRIER OF FACT TO DETERMINE. FILED IN PRO PER BUT PARTS KEEP GETTING REJECTED. NEED HELP ON CONTINGENCY.

I’m needing help bad my ex raped me multiply times then took my kids but he lives in another state he has been looked at for child rape and raped his little brother how do I get my kids from him???

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My husband is abusive both physically and emotionally. We have been living together for almost 3 yrs now but only married for 1.5yrs. I have been unemployed the entire relationship. I brought nothing of value into the relationship. We haven’t made big purchases together except one. He does very well for himself and he was already established when we met. I moved into his house that he’s lived in for a decade.

I have pictures of bruises from the aftermath of one of the assaults but no police report from that incident. I also did not go to the doctor or hospital. There were witnesses to the bruises, but they are his family members and they told me it was my fault. He assaulted me in the shower.

I am unsure of my legal rights and I may not have the money for a divorce attorney. He has access to top lawyers and friends in high (and low) places. I live in Texas and he has guns in the house. I am afraid that if I came into the relationship with nothing that I will end up with nothing, except emotional scars and the burden of starting my life over from scratch. I have a degree and I’ve been searching for a job ever since I got my work visa. I have no family in TX and the one friend who still talks to me, after all the drama he causes, is going through her own divorce (online, uncontested, no kids, no assets, no lawyer) and is relying on the kindness of people she barely knows for a place to live. I feel very isolated and scared of what he could do to me if I leave, while making it look like an accident, and I’m worried he will lie and twist everything in his favor so I will be left in the dirt. I’ve been terrorized, traumatized, physically assaulted, verbally and emotionally abused but how would anyone believe me when his family, friends, and coworkers all think he’s such a wonderful man? We don’t have kids, thank god! I need help planning my escape. I will probably need therapy too but I don’t have the means right now. And I need to know how not to get screwed over.

I am angry at myself for trusting this man so completely and for not protecting myself better, thinking that this exact position I’ve found myself in, couldn’t happen to me. Please help.

  My ex has violently and sexually abused me even during pregnancy. I have a restraining order in place until 2017. He presently was released from prison and has been leaving me phone messages, which I ignore. Because of my abuse I suffer from anxiety and sometimes stutter. He moved to the county were I was in, so I ran away with my toddler. I am now in Galt and homeless and without a car. What can I do???

I just found out that my brother has physically abused his girlfriend and my younger brother. He is a heavy drinker and they both live with him. There are 3 instances that I am now aware of:

1. At Christmas – my abusive brother and girlfriend showed up and the girlfriend had a noticeable limp, She told us that she tripped and injured herself. She just let us know that this was due to a fight my abusive brother and her had.

2. A month ago – my younger brother texted me and told me that the abusive brother and him got into a fight. He minimized was happened and said that they were “good” now. I just found out that the fight was worse than he said – and that the girlfriend had to jump on my abusive brother and pull him off as he was strangling and punching him. I believe that my younger brother minimized it because he does not want me to react and he wants us all to continue to be “bros”.

3. This week – my wife got a text from my brother’s girlfriend saying that they got in a really bad fight. He was also drunk. She said she was screaming out for help, but no one came to her aid. Also, he was strangling her – she said that her chest was also swollen. She said she is tired of the treatment but still loves him. (textbook victim) When he leaves (next week) to go to a funeral – she says she is going to leave (and we have encouraged her to do that). Yet, I have a weird feeling that she will not.

From what I understand – he always starts crying and saying he is going to commit suicide after he has these violent breakouts. He is highly manipulative of both of their feelings.

To compound everything – I am going to a funeral next weekend to someone who was very special to me. The abusive brother, at the last minute, has decided to go and wants to share a room with me and is insisting on it. I want to go to this and am trying to keep my mouth shut as I want to celebrate the person who passed. What’s really disturbing, the abusive brother called me the next morning to ask to stay with me and acted like nothing even happened the night before. I am conflicted and absolutely sick about this.

Further, the following week, I am suppose to fly out to attend my younger brother’s high school graduation and stay with the abusive brother and his girlfriend. (I am cancelling this trip.)

I want to confront him – but I do not want him to retaliate on my younger brother and his girlfriend. That is why I am have not yet said anything and it is making me sick. I am really conflicted on when I should confront him – as I do not want anyone to get hurt. Any advice?

My husband and I had too much to drink. I said something to him at the bar and he stormed out. I took a cab home and when he returned 1.5 hours later, he was irate, screaming at me at the top of his lungs. He then slammed the front door 3 times with all his might, and the door frame was pushed outside by 2.5 inches and I was unable to lock the front door. This frame was encased in concrete.

The next morning I went upstairs the next day and found a bullet on the bedroom floor. He was highly intoxicated. He will not tell me what I said to get him so irritated and violent. I am unsure what to do. Would this be considered domestic violence since he did not physically harm me?

I am a woman who works Stockton Blvd. A group of men I refused services to came back and later broke my jaw. I am a patient at UC Davis soon to be released (in minutes in fact). I have nowhere to go and they just now told me they can’t find the $72 savings I came in with. Can you help? I am worried about these guys finishing the “job” rather than have me identify them.

Me and my boyfriend live together an apartment and we’re both on the lease yesterday we got in a fight and he bit me on my shoulder I’m thinking about calling the cops on him but I was just wondering will they let me have the apartment if he goes to jail

What time and day does the 15 week course begin? I’ve done triage and orientation.

My husband and I have a 5 month old son and just bought a house which is soley in my name because of his bad credit. 

The last few days we have been fighting for various reasons after a stressful move to our new house & he has grabbed, pushed and choked me. I don’t know what to do, because he pays all the bills so I feel like I’m stuck and cannot leave. I have no family or friends close with whom I might stay. Should I just pack up my child and leave for a shelter? 

Any helpful answers will be greatly appreciated. I just know how difficult it was for me to get approved for this house and am afraid that, if I leave now, I will destroy my credit and with it any chance of being able to provide my son a safe home in the future.

My husband and I got into it in the middle of the night. The kids were in the house but asleep. My husband left before the cops got there but was later arrested. I had a few bruises and cuts from his nails on my hands and they took pictures. They weren’t very noticeable. Will cps get involved?

My husband has a history over the last 10 years of our relationship of abusing me. He hadn’t hit me until yesterday. He was just released from a psych unit 2 days prior and finally diagnosed w/ bi-polar. He beat me yesterday. I called the police and didn’t want him arrested because I don’t know if I should be protecting my husband because he is mentally ill or protecting myself. I can barely walk today because of the beating I took yesterday with his son on phone encouraging him to keep it up. When the police came I protected him because of his illness situation. What do I do? He has full control financially over me because his family is paying for us. Can I file paperwork to have him readmitted to the hospital? Should I have him arrested again to “save” him (if he gets arrested this will be his 4th arrest on me and they said 5 years ago they would put him in prison). I feel victimized by him, his family, his son, police..totally abandoned. And oh, the son used the “she had a drink” on me. I had two glasses of wine prior to him showing up. We were relaxing on a Saturday afternoon watching a movie 10 minutes prior there was no anger. I need help. I got to get answers….I don’t know if I should let this beating go because of the mental health issue and help him because he begged the hospital to not let him go Wednesday. Or, do I say heck with that and have him arrested. Please advise, please.

I just wanted to talk to someone about this – its just there is no one I can talk with. Lately, I’ve become more negative and snappy because the abuse is getting worse. It’s happening every few days now. He is a good person deep down and wants to improve his life, and really this only happens because he feels disrespected and that I’m always mean to him. I’m just scared because he is at the point where he doesn’t care anymore – he feels its the only way to get me in line. I feel like I can’t do anything right but if I say how I’m feeling, he feels like I’m manipulating him… and maybe I am. I never thought it would get so bad… and the violence isn’t crazy bad, just occasional bruises or chucking things at me, or threatening to hurt my pets – I’m more upset about that. I still really love him – and when he is calm, he is an amazing man. But I’m acting strangely all the time because I don’t know that if I don’t control my emotions, or if I get a little negative, it’ll get bad again. I’m not sure what to do and I do not want to give up on our marriage, I’ve already made that choice. And I would never want to shame him by talking about it to family or friends. I just don’t know who can help us with it. I got him to see a counselor once… but he won’t go back ever again. If anything does go bad, there was someone who heard what happened once and I have messeges too just in case he gets too violent and I need proof. They always say to have a kit ready to run away with, but last time I tried to run away just to somewhere to stay for a few hours hoping he would settle, he was even angrier. And when its happening, I can never get out of the house – so there is no point. But yea.. its not that bad yet.. I just don’t want it to escalate… but I just don’t know what the best steps forward are for our relationship. Thanks for listening.

Hi. I stay in California and my husband and I got into an argument that resulted physical. It happened in front of some businesses and our baby was with us. The baby was taken by DCFS (Department of Children and Family Services) because of the physical abuse. DCFS took my son because I failed to protect my son by “covering for my husband and not admitting he picked me up and through me”. I went to my first court hearing and the judge ordered that the proof of a video that was said be on the report be shown for the next court date. Do they really have a video or do they just say things like that for me to talk? What should i do? Me and my husband have a court ordered restraining order from the criminal court for us to “cool off” until trial but now our son is taken. What should we do?

I have a restraining order against me from an Ex. I recently went to church and when I realized she was there I was already within the 25 yards stipulated. I told her I didn’t know she was there and that I’m leaving. She then contacted an officer and told him I had violated my restraining order and I was issued papers to go to court. I want no trouble and my question is what could be the outcome of the court date?

I am 6 months pregnant and my husband just slapped me in my face, and strangled me with his xbox power cord. I don’t want law enforcement involved, as I am ashamed of having married this type of person. He had never hit me before but I knew about his temper. I feel so stupid and stuck. I am in the army and the last thing I need is people finding out about this. He did all of this because I told him I can never look at him the same way because of his cheating. He was saying how me and my unborn child are the only thing he has and I told him to stop lying because you don’t destroy the things you love. Anyway I just need to know what will bring the swelling down before someone notices tomorrow at work.

How can I fix my violent marriage?

I don’t have any money and I need to get away. How do I do that?

My boyfriend punched me in the shoulder very forcefully three times because he was angry that I wouldn’t sleep in bed with him tonight. I had shoulder surgery about six months ago, but the surgery failed to relieve my intense pain. He left and went home right away, and I called 911. They didn’t arrest him. They did take me to get a Temporary Order of Protection. Why didn’t they arrest him? I live in Nashville TN. He deliberately punched me there because he knows my shoulder is very painful. I am very afraid of him now. Please help me.

I live in Michigan and my husband got arrested for domestic violence. He is currently out on bail and is not supposed to come around me at our house. His mother told me that he is planning to give me an eviction notice so that he could come home. What can I do?

My husband of 3+ yrs. was extremely verbally and mentally abusive, jealous, and controlling. He went to jail for corporal punishment on a spouse but I didn’t want to see him in trouble with the law so I was able to get the charges dropped. Big mistake and now he’s worse. He keeps our small son from me and says things like ‘ if you give me a “bj “then you can stay and see him.’ I want my son and I want away from him. How can I do this legally? or is it too late?And how do I prove the abuse?

How do I get someone to visit my niece in the Sacramento County jail?

Hi I’m 24 years old and will be 25 at the end of the month. My boyfriend is 23 and have we been together for 6 and 1/2 years. We have a 2 year old baby. My boyfriend abuses me by not only what he says to me but he has to control me. The abuse is physical also if I say something he doesn’t like. He’ll throw me off the bed, pull my hair, and drag me all over by my hair. He’ll push my face into the floor, push me, throw things at me, punch me in the leg and arms, choke me till I can’t breath, slap me in the face, throw me into my daughter’s play yard. I get physically and emotionally abused always and he does it in front of the baby. I scream and cry to get him off of me and he doesn’t. She’s screaming, crying, and calling me as soon as he puts his hands on me and he doesn’t care. He screams at my daughter,he has no patience, he smacks her butt all the time. He’ll force her to drink the bottle even if she doesn’t want it. He doesn’t work and he has no money. He steals everything that’s needed for the baby. He was on drugs and heroin until a month ago. He’s taken all my money for drugs. Can you help by telling me what I can do? I want to leave him and I don’t want my daughter being with him at all. I don’t want him to have any rights and I want him in jail. lease help me.

Can evidence from another state be used when obtaining a restraining order in CA? Is forcing someone to live in an environment hazardous to their health legally considered abuse?

The police are trying to accuse my boyfriend of spousal abuse. We had loud verbal argument but nothing physical. I filed a statement stating that he has never struck me. They will not give me a copy and they still want him to go to the police station to “discuss it”. We are worried that they will arrest him. Doesn’t the law require them to give me a copy of my statement upon request?

I am a married mother of three kids. I left my husband for good after only a year. During that time he was abusive to me, then he moved onto our son, my first child. I never made a report, I just ignored him for a year. Now my son is 9, he has never payed child support and we are not divorced. I want to make a report now and I wish I would have sooner. But I was just happy to be rid of him. What can I do about past incidents? He wants joint custody of our son and says because there is no proof of abuse that it never happened. Is there any hope that the court will believe me? Or will they grant that monster custody?

How can I find free counseling? Can you give me referrals? 

My boyfriend owns guns (legally; with the required licenses, permits, etc). I’m afraid he will try to use a gun on me or threaten me with one if he gets angry. He told me not to tell anyone that he has guns. This is very concerning to me. I would appreciate any suggestions or information. 

-If my ex boyfriend has assaulted me and I want to move out so he doesn’t know where I live, can I break the lease?

Is it still domestic violence if my husband hasn’t physically abused myself or our children in years, but continues to have a short temper, yell and cuss at us, and particular berate me in front of them. For example he will call me a b**** in front of them regularly and now that they’re all adolescents & 2 out of the 3 are bigger than me, I’m beginning to feel similar treatment from them. My oldest, a 16 yr old girl, cusses, and frequently tells me to f*** off or shut the f*** up; incidentally something they also hear their dad say to me a lot. The one I’m most concerned about right now is my 12 year old son; who was recently hospitalized on a 5150 due to property destruction and threat of violence to myself, my husband, and himself. I’m almost at my wits end and I don’t know how to continue to cope with this. I honestly didn’t even need to ask if this is still domestic violence, I know it is. I’m just afraid of what that means, how I can stop the cycle, and how we can make the changes we so desperately need. I need help!!!

My sister called me at 4:30 a.m. yesterday morning 11-26 crying that she had left her abusive boyfriend and he and his friends were looking for her. She was on the street. She called me from a strangers house and the cops showed up. I hung up with her and haven’t heard from her since. I looked in Sac jail and she’s not there. The hospitals won’t tell me anything. Like she’s just gone and I don’t know what to do. I’m her brother. I don’t even want to know where she is and if she’s with you guys I just want to know if she’s okay.

I am looking for my friend. She met a guy and the last she texted me she told me that he hits her. She said that he doesn’t let her leave the room and that she is not happy. She will not try to leave him since he will then hit her and she does not know anyone in Sacramento. I do not know where they are at but know she needs help getting out. When I call the phone numbers, they do not answer or say it is the wrong number. I would like to have an officer check on her and see if she is alright. 

I’ve been with my husband for 10 years and he’s never hurt me physically but in the past few months I have opened my eyes to some emotional abuse. I have been trying to work that out in my head because it is so subtle. Last night I stayed out late with a friend and came home around 3 am. Not an unheard of thing for me to do and he has done it himself so I didn’t really think much of it. However about an hour after I fell asleep I woke up feeling very cold. When I came more to my senses I found that my husband had poured a cup of ice cold water all over my back and bed. I knew this because he left the cup laying beside me on the bed. I didn’t know what to do. For the first time I felt fear of him coming back into the room and doing something else to me, but he didn’t. I guess my question is, is him pouring the water on me considered physical abuse, and could it be a sign of physical abuse starting in the future? I need to know. I do have support if it is but I’m afraid to say something if I’m over reacting.

I have been a victim of parental abuse and teacher/student abuse. Both of which were occurring simultaneously at one point in my childhood. I have committed acts of abuse towards my own children and am deeply remorseful and regretful of it. I am also involved in a marriage with an emotionally abusive man who on rare occasion will resort to physically abusing me, in which case I have also defensively reacted by throwing things at him to keep him away from me, which I know is still domestic violence nonetheless. None of this is acceptable or right. I don’t want to be an abusive person and don’t want to be abused any longer, and most of all I have failed my children, by subjecting them to physical and verbal abuse in the first place, and allowing them to witness the shocking display of toxic behavior between my husband and I. I don’t want to lose my children and I really just want to break this vicious and horrendous cycle. Any advice for me?

What kind of shelters do you provide? What is the duration of time one can stay in one of those shelters? Do you provide childcare? Do you help/assist victims of domestic violence in finding their own places to live, like an apartment etc.?

I was recently assaulted by my ex boyfriend and a lot of my hair was ripped from my head, mainly on the top. No matter what i do with styling it, nothing covers the large area without any hair and it’s effected my life tremendously. I’m insecure and can’t ever enjoy doing anything because I feel like my hair is being looked at. I’ve seen a hair professional and she told me my scalp is traumatized and my hair shouldn’t have any chemical treatments or extensions put in for a while so she recommended that I find a nice wig to wear while my hair grows back. But wigs that look natural are so expensive and I can’t find any that I can afford. Does your retail store carry any? Or do you know of anywhere I can go to find one I can afford?

Can I still get a restraining order if I am trying to leave my husband and he is stocking me

After reading your definitions of the different types of abusive relationships I believe that 3 of them are present in my own relationship with my husband and our two children. Financial,
Spiritual, and verbal abuse. The biggest obstical in me getting out is the financial side. I have little to no access to any of our finances. I’m often denied the chance even to purchase basic necessities for myself and our kids until he decides to go and by them later usually after going without for several days. He refuses to let me get a job as he wants me to watch our kids while he works full time and when he is home he wants me to be home. One of my children is already in school and my other one will be going into pre k this year so that will free up roughly 4 hours a day for me to work despite his best efforts to prevent me. I do not believe I will be able to obtain a job to make enough money to support myself on a max of 15 hours a week as I will still be responsible for picking up and taking the kids to school daily. What would you suggest I do here? If I file for divorce and I am forced to leave and take shelter do you have any idea how long it would take for me to be awarded some alamony or child support so I can afford to live and support my children on the weeks I have them? Any ideas on childcare or emergency low income housing help?

I need to know where I can get a dissolution of marriage (divorce) packet for free in South Sacramento?
I have no cash to print it off at the library and no access to a printer.
I’m leaving a emotionally abusive relationship and want to file immediately.
Where can I get the packet? Thanks.

While using your services to obtain information and forms associated with a summary dissolution, several items became assocaited with child support; my paycheck and health benefits. 

What do you suggest individuals do so that this does not happen to them over and over again?

I am 43 years old, with 2 boys. I am in a 5 year 2nd marriage. I have 2 kids of mine from the previous marriage. Because I had partial complex seizure and went through brain surgery in 2003, I have not been able to hold down any job passed the probation period! 
My current husband keeps putting me down and says I need psychological help, that I need to speak to my psychiatrist. Not only that, he keeps bringing the kids into all our fights, calling the kids into witness our fights and told them that I ‘need help!’ That’s the reason I send my kids away to my parents as much as I can.
I cannot afford to keep sending my kids away because my Ex husband will take them away from me even though he houses a girlfriend, her two kids and three foreign exchange kids over his house. 
I really miss my kids, and I don’t want to lose them; yet, I don’t want them to hate me if I bring them back home here.
Right now, between all my debts and housing and everything, I cannot afford to leave this relationship. However, we get into verbal fights every day! My friend said that verbal abuse will lead to physical abuse??? Can you please help?

I have a friend who is in a domestic violence situation. She says that no one will help her. She has been arrested and charged 4 times with domestic violence. Her husband beats himself up and then calls the cops and she gets arrested. She does not always tell the truyth and both are heavy drinkers. She blames me for calling the cops but I have never been home when the violence hapens so how can it be me? I guess I need some help to. I do not like being accussed.

I have been beaten by my girlfriend for months. I started the restraining order process but didnt follow through because I wasn’t on the lease and would have to move if I did. So I decided to wait it out until I had enough money to move out.Today she turned a knife on my son so I called police. I felt victimized by the officer more than my abuser. I was told all the things a victim fears they will hear when they call…why do you stay? Just go to a shelter (which isnt an option because I have an 18 yr old son and 2 cats), She’s entitled to be here too…and so on. I will never call the police again. He shamed me. Maybe they’ll listen when she finally puts me in the hospital or kills me.

Is this considered Domestic Violence?: I am observing this happen to a relative.
No physical violence to the best of my knowledge, but emotional abuse and a lot of angry behavior. The husband only complains angrily about what is wrong with the house, his wife, the kids, but never what is good. The kids are afraid of their dad and say they don’t like him and want to live somewhere he isn’t, or go on vacation without him. He yells about any behavior he doesn’t like and spanks very hard. It is a house of stepping on eggshells and being afraid of questioning anything. Other people observe this behavior and his temper too and once he was yelling so severely at the kids in a parking lot that someone called the police who later came to this home to question the husband and wife about it. He leaves for long periods (hours not days) when he is in a bad mood or something has upset him and he will put everyone including the little kids subject to the silence treatment for days. He hides the finances from the wife. He won’t let the wife go for an evening with girlfriends, comments on how she is dressing (“too sexy” but it never really is), and got them into tax trouble that she didn’t know about. I am very worried but the wife doesn’t seem to see this the way I do. She does get frustrated about it though.

On Saturday June 7th, I was fighting with my finance’s sister and it turned into us scuffling on the ground. Next thing I knew my head was being held and I was being punched in the face by her daughter who is over the age of eighteen more than 5 times (I lost count). We were on my property and after all said and done my glasses were broke and the left side of my face automatically swelled up and bruised and my right side was also bruised , Cops where called and the cops said this was not a domestic call and they can’t arrest her cause I’m not married to my fiance. It’s now Monday and I’m still in a lot of pain. I really would like to know my options and why the cops really could not arrest her when I was the one with blood, bruising, and swelling?

Can I get out of a lease because of domestic violence and fear of the abuser coming after me?

I don’t like talking about it or thinking about what happened to me. But sometimes I have so many mixed emotions I tell my self it never happened. I am ashamed that he is my child’s dad. He’s currently in jail but not for that what he did to me. It happened two separate times and he told me that he was sorry and that he would never do it again. I don’t believe him and I plan on running far away from him, which means leaving my close family members. There are other things as well that happened to me when I was younger that made me feel so uncomfortable. My stepdad would rub my back and his hands would go on the side of my boobs and my butt. He would also watch pornography movies in the same room as me. He thought I was asleep because I kept my eyes closed. I told my sister several years later and she said it was nothing. I try to keep all this inside but I’m thinking something could be wrong. I have been very forgetful of where I put things or go in a different part of the room and not remember what I was doing. I have no friends and I don’t have family I can trust. I’m having trouble sleeping most of the time and have presure in my chest. How do I make all of this go away?

I’m 30 weeks pregnant. My husband of 14 years has a short temper. Normally it only involves loud yelling/bellowing, but about a week ago we were having a disagreement and he completely lost it. It should have just been normal husband/wife stuff – Me telling him I felt hurt about something, and him explaining himself and hopefully acknowledging my feelings. But he has trouble with me disagreeing with him. This time he blew up at me, and when I decided to retreat up the stairs, he came up behind me near the top of the stairs, and grabbed my hot mug of tea out of my hand (spilling tea all over the place). I’m not sure whether he was thinking about throwing it at me, but I was scared. Our son was sleeping upstairs and I didn’t want him to wake up with his yelling, so I convinced my husband to go downstairs but when we got down there he just kept screaming at me and then picked up a chair over his head, threw it in one direction, and then picked it up again and threw it at me. I was able to move aside quickly enough for the chair to miss me. Somehow I managed to get downstairs to our first floor and locked the door behind me, but he kept yelling and pounding on the door. I was afraid he’d find a key and get in. I called my neighbors, who are good friends. When they came over, he totally calmed down and acted concerned about me. I was so hysterical I was afraid I might go into labor. Anyway, I’m a mess. I can’t stop thinking about the incident, I can’t look at my husband the same way, I feel depressed, scared, upset. I told a friend about the incident, but he wasn’t the most appropriate person and I feel like I’ve been bugging him and that he thinks I’m a lunatic. I need to get more help with this. I saw my therapist last week, but he wasn’t very helpful. There’s no way I’m leaving my husband. There is way too much good about our relationship, but I’m feeling really traumatized right now. I don’t know how to get past this. Maybe part of the problem is I’m really hormonal. But I need to calm down. I can’t think straight. I’m so distracted and overwhelmed and ashamed of being this way – I’m checked out from life. What can I do to help myself cope?

My ex-husband beat me throughout our 14 yr marriage but mostly verbal. He had found out I was trying to leave so he stole our children by lying to the court saying I was an abuser.  It took me a year to get them back which during the year he abused our children and was up for child abuse charges but the DA dropped it saying there was not enough evidence. Then 2 months after we were divorced he beat me unconscious in my front yard. During the divorce I produced police reports where they would make him leave for beating me and produced pics of the abuse the children suffered but he is extremely well off. He got everything in the divorce.  I started noticing that the Judge is always going his way in Family Court that’s when I found out the his Lawyer actually helped put the Judge in office. When we got to court she did not give me a permanent restraining order- gave him back his visitation after he finishes his probation. My children are 19, 16, and 12 they do not want to see him.  They are very fearful of him. My ex also was shot in the head with a pistol when he was 11 yrs old and is very mentally unstable. I called the circuit judge he said there is a way for my kids not to have to visit him but that he legally could not tell me so my question is can you tell me how to legally get a restraining order and how to get out of the visitation legally? We have even moved 2 hrs away to be safe especially after him and his dad testified to stalking me every day. I am so very tired of being beaten! These past few months after we moved have been wonderful for me and my children but the visitation is going to start soon and I feel someone will not survive him either me or the children.

My daughter was recently assaulted by her now ex-boyfriend and this is not the first time and even while the baby is in my daughter’s arms. She called the Sheriff and was placed in jail until the parents bailed him out. She filed for permanent RO. He’s 5 day RO is up while my daughter awaits for the court regarding the RO and when he wThe abuser claimed his sister is FRIENDS with the DA.

ill be served. In the meantime, the ex-bf parents has taken home the baby from my daughter to see the father. While I am for parenting, in this case because of the abuser’s temper, a long with excessive drinking habit who did not care whether a 2 year old is present and witnessing the behavior and assault her father does to her mother worries me that my grand baby is now exposed to emotional abuse. In the State of California/Sacramento what are the chances of a woman victim getting full custody of a child to protect from an abuser when filing for RO. My daughter has now left the current place she shared with the ex-bf and has found a decent home for her and my grand baby. It is not her intention to take the baby away from her father but to protect herself and the baby until he gets help.

My friend has been married to her husband for almost 18yrs- today he spit in her face and grabbed her face.  They have 2 kids together and her husband told her he was going to get kicked out if she didn’t give him her check.  What can she do?  Her mom is in Texas and told her she won’t help her if she doesn’t have her kids
 

My daughter has been in an abusive relationship (now marriage…same person) for approx 4 yrs now. He is not physically abusive but is in almost every other way.I have watched him gradually strip my daughter’s self esteem away. It has been heart wrenching for my husband and I to watch and has made us feel very helpless at times.He will undoubtedly do this to their children also. If not, at the very least, their marital example will show these precious girls what type of man to look for. One that is hateful, manipulative, angry, completely incapable of reason and insane.She left him once (along with her 2 babies) and he sweet talked her back home after just a few days of being gone. Once she arrived home utterly and completely emotionally spent, he told her that he’d just lied about all of the “nice” things he’d said and had just said them to get her back home. Even after him telling her that, she stayed there. I was furious and begged her to come back. She wouldn’t listen to me so I backed off about it. Now, months later, she and babies are here with my husband and I again. I am so glad that she has left. She has been away from him now for approx 3 weeks. His true colors have only intensified during this time. He is literally crazy… seems genuinely psychotic. He will tell her one thing one day in apparent “kindness” and then the very next morning tell her that he NEVER said that and he doesn’t know WHAT she is talking about. He is seriously off of his rocker. My daughter, for the most part, has maintained her respect by allowing him to see their girls whenever he wants and trying not to give him any hassle about that whatsoever. She knows that despite everything he really does love his girls. I do believe that he loves them, but still think that he is a very dangerous influence for them to be around as well as the fact that he is so unstable that his judgments in every day life decisions are just really really off. This, in my opinion, puts my precious grandbabies at risk/ danger. She, however, seems to overlook this. I believe in order to maintain peace so that he doesn’t go crazy and do who knows what. Try to get them taken away from her….run away with them?? As the days have gone on, my daughter’s head seems to be clearing more and more and she has begun to see just how genuinely messed up her husband really is. How desperately he needs Psychiatric help. However, day before yesterday after she picked her girls up from there…she talked to him on the phone. She asked him if he was starting to get sick (as his voice sounded funny). It was at that point, she said, that he completely lost all composure and started crying. The crying became totally uncontrollable. This is the very first time ever that she has heard him cry about anything. She said that it was very real and he was genuinely heartbroken. Even through his breakdown, he still couldn’t see clearly. He did say that he knows that he has been a bad husband and that he really misses their little family, etc., but that he just could not understand how she could “take” his children from him (he has said this over and again, all along). This episode has completely flipped her attitude towards him from one of disdain and shock to one of compassion, though she saaays she still sees his insanities and does not want to return to him until they’ve gotten alot of counseling and she sees alot of change in him. I hope that she really means this. Since this crying episode, she now is saying that she really is wondering if all of his insanities have been caused from the intense stress that he is experiencing as a result of her and the girls having left. I told her to remember back to being at home and to tell me if any of those insanities were there THEN. She said yes she sees that they were, in fact, there, but still wonders if the extremeness of how he’s acted since her having left is because of the stress. Scares me that she is starting to justify his behavior. I wonder if she even realizes that she is beginning to “excuse” him. Very frightening that she is somewhat dismissing these things. The entire time she’s been here she and I have had very open discussions about him and his crazy behaviors. She is not not allowing me to be free in my speech. She is defending him and not letting me say what I want to say. Not a good sign.If I could have MY way, he would be completely healed in the head and heart and that they WOULD be able to get back together and raise their precious girls together in a loving home. It is very VERY hard for me to ever see that happening, but with God all things are possible so I won’t give up hope, however I will continue to be a realist and look at this all with my eyes wide open.I fear that his crying and showing his emotion and hurt will cause her emotions to override her head and reasoning. I hope that this will not happen. She says that it won’t, however, as I said, she is now defensive about him. Is there anything that you recommend that I say to her or have her read, for eg.??Not sure what our role is, exactly, except to keep confronting her with the realities of what he has done in the past.Please feel free to give your input.
Thank you.