If I hit my girlfriend and no cops were called and then a few days later she spit in my kid’s face and then the cops were called would I still get in trouble still I think yes someone else said no 

Wondering what would happen

My son moved to his grandparents house and is getting straight fs and heard he’s in another town getting high on heroin and I have no way to find him and I don’t want to contact the police because gangsters will hurt or mess with me if I do. He blocked me on Facebook and I have no one or hardly a place to live as it stands. How can I get him outta where he’s at without causing more problems. I’m a single mom who’s suicidal and lost all hope, being taunted by individuals and being made out to be crazy. 

I miss my son, I want him to be in school and to be with me in my own home where we can start over and make our own life better than we’ve ever had, and make a difference in the world and what we believe in our hearts is the right way to be. He’s been through so much as have I and we deserve to make a life with each other together. 

What do you do when you are feeling so down that you want to cry but at the same time you don’t know why? 

Additional comments: I also feel like I hate myself in some way 

I’m 15 and whenever I get too frustrated over school work, sports, my image, etc, I can get really upset. I end up pulling my hair, kicking, crying, and even scraping my nails on my arms and legs. It’s more than just an urge, I can’t seem to control my body. I can’t seem to find any information to help me with this problem, and I would like to be able to solve it. It’s similar to temper tantrums, and for some reason I never stopped having them after my toddler years, they only evolved to happen at more understandable times. If someone could help, it would be appreciated. 

I been in a relationship sense july and just found out I have HSV2. Idk who had it 1st or if he even has it. How do I tell him and what way would be easier? Text, call, in person? 

I’m 17 on October, close right? Well, my stepdad is mentally abusive to me and only me out of 3 girls. I have a friend with an apartment and want to move in and get away from my stepdad. Am I, a 17 yr old, allowed to make that decision on my own?  

I have a dad but don’t want to live with him right now. His place is too crowded. 

Hello, my boyfriend of two years just told me that he feels if he doesn’t “shut himself down” he would get violent in a way of breaking things but not violent towards me? i just need help understanding what this means.

Should I stop talking to my internet girlfriend or what can I do? Well she’s like very typical girl(Boujee, sociable, and have a snap score of over 100k thus Spanish) but likes memes. The problem is that she flakey and would make accuses to not play gta nor call me. We called a few times but after that she started being flakey thus taking long to respond to my messages. Should I forget her? what should i do? What options I got? Advice and word of wisdom would greatly help me. Thank you

When I was 11, I gave oral sex to a 17 year old. It left me in a very bad mental state and only this year am I almost over it. Was it rape? Was I even old enough to understand what I was doing?I hurt myself thinking that I was disgusting for being persuaded into doing something so dirty. I didn’t know the years of pain that it would bring.

So my friend was a victim of sexual assault close to a year ago. We recently went for
vacation to the beach and she had a breakdown one day because a man was following her while on the beach which I guess triggered memories from the assault?

This confused me because she would wear very short shorts (up to her butt cheek) and tops that revealed her bra when going out. Mind you, there’s absolutely no problem with that but it’s like she was purposely dressing to attract male attention. Well any attention at that.

We would also go to clubs and one night I noticed that when she saw me get approached by a guy to dance she immediately took a guy to dance with her. Then she told us (while laughing and shouting) that the guy tried to finger her. I was very confused how she didn’t get triggered by all that, but got a mental breakdown when that man from the beach started following her. She was also telling me at the club how a guy tried to grab her and tell her to grind with him but the story seemed very far fetched and made up.

I truly think that she makes up or exaggerates these stories to make herself feel like she’s being desired and getting male attention when she’s not. She especially does this when she sees that I’m getting attention and she isn’t and it just seems like she has to make up stuff to feel better about herself and make things be about her.

Does my friend have issues with self esteem and male attention? Or am I being too hard on her?

Me and my friend, who I have a crush on and really want to see again, were supposed to hang out soon but he said he couldn’t and he couldn’t do anything until August. It breaks my heart and idk if it’s because of me, or if he just can’t.

Which is the best way to tell this guy to leave me alone?

1.Look, I’m sorry. I’m not ready nor old enough to actually be in a one on one relationship. I’ve found that if I follow my feelings, then I usually do the right thing. Although I really love, and care for you. Something feels off. Somethings not right. I can’t put my finger on it, but it’s there. Im not looking for a boy to be my forever. I want to be able to slowly get to know someone. Become friends first, and then go on a couple of dates before I start holding hands and all that Jazz. I’m flattered you like me, I really am. But we’re 15! I think we deserve to live a little, date some people, enjoy life. Before giving everything to one person. I want you to be able to move on, to find someone with the same morals and same values as you do. We don’t have that. I’m sorry.

2. Okay, I really like you. And I think you’re amazing. But I don’t think that this is going to work out. Not now. We both have different morals and values, and they… well they clash. I want to be able to date and have fun. Not feel like I am with one person and feel like I’m cheating when I’m doing what I want and am expected to do. We’re both so young, and we should be allowed to meet others. It’s not that I’m not ready, it’s that I don’t want to. I don’t want to be in a one on one relationship. I want to be friends first. And thats it. And you’re not that type of boy. I’m flattered that you like me, but I think it’s time we split paths. And you go on to do your football and wrestling, living your life. And I go on to school and volunteering. Please don’t get yourself hurt by thinking about me. Make this a memory, preferably a good one. And move on. I’m sorry. But this is goodbye

Hi. I am a 16 year old heterosexual girl. I am very interested in exploring and having new experiences but I have never been attracted to girls or women in my life. I find the idea of me with another girl/woman a turn off and very unlikely. But still, for some time now, I have started to find lesbian couples very sexy and exciting. What does that mean? please help me.

My 15 yo daughter tells me that her mom smokes weed in front of her, drinks in front of her, emotionally abuses her, and last week I had to rescue my daughter because her Mom beat on her. I secured an ex party hearing, the court is minimizing the issue. They ordered me to go to mediation to try to put together a parenting plan.

How do I establish a parenting plan with someone that has harmed my daughter. My daughter does not want to even talk to her Mom.

Additional comments:

We have been divorced since 2008 and coparented our child successfully until now. My daughter has opened up and told me that this abuse has been going on for the past 4 years.

I have an ex I wanna report I don’t want him to know and he’s very scary I’m 17 n he’s 46 what do I do I need help I messaged the hotline they are not accepting any messages I guess and I need help I wanna put him where he belongs back to prison. I had a rough situation he said if I work for him he’ll give me alot of money he’ll buy me things but then I got involved with him like love and he had me living with him every other day cause I didn’t live there permanently he would hit me when he thought I was staring at a guy he’ll hurt me until he’ll get my phone from me he made problems he would make fake accounts and say I did this and that and I didn’t . I wanna report him help

I am 16 years old and last year me and my mom got into a big fight she got in my face and screamed at me. I was up against the wall at this point now I put my arms in front of me so I can go to my room so she can calm down, she told me if I tried to push her she would hit herself until she gave herself bruises and call the cops and say I did it. This was in 2018 the most recent incident was with my dad my sister had accused me of eating the rest of her cake and called me fat for doing so and I told her to shut up ( which I now know I shouldn’t have said.) my dad called me into his room saying I have no right to be talking to her like that and I told him in a calm tone that she didn’t need to call me fat and accuse me of eating the rest of her cake he got mad and said if I disrespected him again he would grab me by the neck and bash my face and would let me call the cops on him. I have recently thought about calling CPS so nothing serious would happen but my mom has always called me selfish and I realize that my brothers and sisters could be taken away, and I don’t want that because them don’t have that happen to them. But I feel that if I don’t do something now something bad could happen. What should I do? And I had recently came out as gay to them on my 16th birthday in May of last year but they are fine with it so I know it has nothing to do with that.

I been married for almost 2 years and my wife has a son that’s 13 yrs olds and ever since we got together and married he has changed to worse. He smokes marijuana punches walls on our home and has pushed her mom and has kicked me. He is super aggressive tours everyone including police. He is trying to become a gang member and is doing every thing that’s is wrong. He don’t come back from school unless we call the police and report him as a run away kid. He has told police and a juvenile detention officer that he is going to do anything that will put him in Jail for life. He has no regret of what he does and I’m afraid he will hurt or kill someone soon..

Does my friend like me? We have been friends for over two years and I think he is starting to gain feelings for me. I’ve asked my friends already and they think yes he does. I’m a very quiet person until you get to know me, once I get comfortable enough with a person I hug them, pat their heads, and hold hands. I do this to EVERYONE, no exception of race, gender or anything. But lately he’s been acting differently than he use to, no he goes for holding my hand and wants to hug me more often. I don’t decline because I’m okay with him and my certain friend adoring that, but the energy around him is different now. I told him that some of my friends (that he doesn’t know) thought me and him were dating, and later he said he wouldn’t mind, but at the moment I thought he was just teasing me. Now I’m not sure because he showed me a pic of a girl he likes from his church and said all these great things about her but he hold still likes to be with me and my hand and hug and pat my head too. I’m just confused is he just using me as an outlet for affection or does he have deeper feelings?

My Dad is unable to think correctly.
I’m not allowed to walk down 40 meters to the stop sign most of the time unless I’m walking my dogs or have someone with me. My mom calls me repeatedly and yells at me if I don’t answer, threatening to take my phone. Any time I do anything wrong, it seems, she threatens me somehow and yells at me. Makeup? Gotta look natural, nothing expensive and nothing that’ll show much. Stay in my room? That’s bad. But leave the house? That’s worse. I went out with a friend, barely, after a whole week of asking, giving his phone number to her, and was only allowed to go because his sister would be there and we thought his parents would. His parents drove off, and when my mom heard of this, she gave me an eye that meant “Explain everything or I’ll yell at you.”……..[Edited for content]

I’m 17 and my dad threatens to hit me and kick me. I don’t want to live with my mom and dad anymore because of the constant threatening, but I still have 7 months until I turn 18. What should I do?

I’m a 17 year old high school girl and my ex boyfriend is harassing me. He has been violent one time previous to me. He hacked into my instagram account and read all my dms. He keeps texting me with other numbers. I spoke with my school and they said it was a police matter not a school matter. They did take copies of his text messages to me. I know he has driven by my house before and he has also threatened suicide before when we broke up. My question is how do I file a police report and what info do I need to give them? If it helps I live in Houston, TX but not in the city limits.

Hi, this might not be serious but I’m not sure how to go about this and no one has answers for me. Next year I’m moving in with my boyfriend, his younger brother, and my best friend (we will call her Sarah). We are moving in together because we all are going to college nearby..my boyfriend and his younger brother at a community college and Sarah and I at a university there. The plan was my boyfriend and I only, but then his younger brother and Sarah jumped on our bandwagon, and I thought hell yeah this will be great! Then, Sarah’s dog came into the picture…bought a few months ago a puppy (now massive) labradoodle. I thought her puppy would be fine moving in too. But now it seems like TOO MUCH. The puppy is needy (of course) loud, and still aggressive in some ways. I feel like it’ll be extra stress and allergies. The dog wakes up at 530 am each day. I feel like Sarah won’t control it well enough. My heart says tell her bluntly my concerns. But how, and am I even in the right? Because I said yes, and now looking at apartments and the facts setting in I’m very stressed. What do I do, because my friend Sarah means the world to me but I don’t want my boyfriend and his brother to be stressed or allergic or for their parents to be upset with the arrangement by including a dog [edited for length].

My 17 yr old decided to punch holes in the walls last night and throw my radio/cd system and her laptop down the steps. threatened to fight me and her 15 yr old brother. I have a 8 yr who has on prior occasions been hurt to. I am in NM and tribal cops just removed last night and icw cant place her because we had voluntarily placement home and she said she was being abused. I am as scared of her as her sibling, what do I do? Can I get ofp she has literally attacked me over cellphone that was mine.

I have been friends with someone for more than 5 years. We’re in a close group of friends. Lately I have been having unnecessary drama with her. Last time she was hurt because I was hanging out with my crush. I decided to give her more attention after that but now she’s starting a different kind of drama. I have strict parents so I can’t hang out with my friends unless it has to do with my clubs, school, or academics. She told me that I didn’t hang out with her because I don’t want to hang out with her. I’ve been apologizing and taking responsibility in this relationship every time something she doesn’t like happens and I can’t always tend to her needs. I have my own life. I’m starting to get tired of her and her petty dramas. She always just says to leave her alone and that she doesn’t want to be friends with me anymore. I’m the only one trying to maintain our friendship. What should I do? Should I stop being friends with her?

My girlfriend and I took shrooms. I had a bad trip because I thought about my rape which had happened the year before. I don’t remember anything from that night. The morning after, she said I sexually assaulted her but played it down to make it sound like a misunderstanding and not a big deal. Ten months later, she told me I raped her and she just repressed it. I don’t want to invalidate her accusation, especially since I was a victim myself, but I can’t imagine ever doing something like that. Would it be considered rape even though I don’t remember it and we were both severely intoxicated?

I told some people at my church I was going to be a speaker at a church sacrament meeting. I wanted to share how I was taken from my family, forced to do many terrible things, including sexually exploited and prostituted. The hurt I lived for many years changed me spiritually, eventually leading me to God. The church members advised me against speaking about my life so personally. They said my being stolen, abuse, and violence experiences are not appropriate for a family church program. Why can there be all kinds of stories in the scriptures of violence but my violence is “too sensitive?” Are my friends just too protective of keeping secrets or are they right? Do you think I should talk about it in a church congregation meeting? [edited for length].

So this all started a couple years ago. I think I was domestically abused by my brother when I was from age 8-12. My brother is 6 years older than me and he was obviously a lot stronger and bigger than I was. There was this one time when I was 10 we were in a verbal argument then he punched me and pushed me to the ground and I started crying and I started hyperventilating, he didn’t care. Then there was another time that he was threatening me verbally so on my iPad I set up a voice recorder and I recorded everything he said and he is very manipulative and got me to delete the recording. He had threatened to hurt me all the time if I did or didn’t do certain things. This I don’t think is domestic abuse but probably sexual assault or something. Anyway when I was 8 and he was 14 he would touch me and make me touch him. He forced me into it. If I didn’t do it he threatened to hurt me. I didn’t even know how wrong this was until I was about 12. I have never told my parents about any of this I’ve only told my best friend and my cousin and that’s it. The only reason why all of this stopped is because he moved out of the house when I was 12 and he was 17. Thank you for reading my story and any advice is greatly appreciated. (Btw I’m 13 now so it hasn’t been that long.) [Edited for Length]

Hi, I recently had sex with 23 men, and i am noticing some changes.

I like this boy… but he told me face to face he likes a younger person. I feel like he’s just saying that… but he kind of bullies me. Does he like me??

My dad has choked me twice and hit me in my face. The 1st time it was because someone gave me a ride home and I tried to lie to him. The 2nd time was because I tried to run away from him when he found my phone. He also twisted my arm and made me hit my head 3 times against the wall. He has also threatened to kill me before. But it’s been 2-3 months since he last did it. Does this count as child abuse and can I make a case with it?

What’s worse suicide or choosing to live a life knowing you are and always will be unnecessary?

What do u think I’ve experienced counts as, it is it abuse or am i totally overreacting and making mountains out of molehills.my father grew up experiencing abuse, physical and sexual. he’s kinda just a weird dude. sweet, sensitive, but my mother divorced him because he was emotionally abusive when i was about 3. i used to go see him every other weekend. about 2 years ago i stopped because i was feeling really stunted and we fought a lot. lately i cant stop thinking about some small things. See I’m overanalyzing everything!!!my grandma says he treats me more like a wife than a daughter. he’s explicitly told me bc of his past abuse he’d never do anything to hurt me, and i don’t think that was his intention, but i still feel so dirty and used and i dont know what do do but i feel scared and mad and unsafe in my own head. do i stay in touch with him? should I be mad? [edited for length].

My friend told me she was high. She then began using a vape. We are 13 and I’m super stressed about what to do. The weed and vape came from her older sister’s boyfriend who comes over often and smokes without their moms knowing. Me and my friend’s moms are friends so I really want to tell mine so she can let my friend’s mom know what happened, but that will most likely get her in big trouble and her sister’s boyfriend who is close with my friend will probably never be able to come over again. I don’t want my friend to be mad, but I don’t want these to become habits or worse.

I have a crush on someone, and when I wink they wink back, How can I tell if they like me?

boy meets girl. boy and girl text. boy and girl go out. boy and girl make out before he drives her home. boy never texts…2 days and counting. is boy just a f*** boy? should girl wait for a text or text him?

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I have been in a sexual relationship with a 40+ man and I am 16 and I want to get out of it but I am very attracted to him, what do I do?

 I love being alone, it help me breath and think clearly. Sometime to achieve this I have to distance myself from friends and family. My question is how do I keep having this independence but also make sure my family still knows I love them. I don’t want them to think I don’t want to be around them,I just enjoy solitude.

So, I have a massive group of friends (like 8-10) but I only feel like Three or four will really stay with me as I grow up. My childhood friends live really far away, and while we still keep in touch, I feel like I can’t really rely on ANYONE except those few four. My question is, how should I meet new friends? I’m in a homeschool community, so should I play games and people online? Or should I stay something else?

Hey… No ones been able to help me and I don’t want my parents to worry, so here I am. I have this friend who I really love. He made me feel happy when I was depressed, but then something happened. We began talking online. This led to us discussing more serious topics. What a mistake. He told me he was suicidal. Just like me. I tried my best to tell him he was worth it, he was worth it, he needed to live, I loved him, our friends loved him, I stayed up until ungodly hours of the night to talk him into loving himself. I wish I could say he did the same for me. I wish I could have been comforted by him, just once even. That would be enough. But no. Whenever I tried to convince him, he turned all his problems back on me. Suddenly his depression was all my fault. He went around school telling people I saved his life, then that same night fought with me over a text site that I had promised to always be there for him (I forget why it was a year ago.) When I confided in him I was cutting, he encouraged it and told me to join his cutting club. For some reason, everyone I get close to confides in me with their problems. And I hate it. I help them, and help them, and help them, but sometimes it’s not enough. And they blame me for it. And it kills me because I love them so much yet they let me go.  I just don’t know what to do. I’m so tired. It get’s tiring. Always caring for everyone. always making sure no one cries, resulting in yourself looking stupid and crying in front of everyone else. Even when I cry no ones there like I am for them. And just why? Why? The one who hurt me knows for a fact I was just as bad as him. I chose to help him. He chose to break me. If I had chosen that he would have walked away and bad mouthed me to everyone on this planet (which he didn’t anyway while I helped him) just why? Why me? It hurts so much and it makes me wonder why I’m like this. What the heck do I do? I know how to take care of other people, but hell, what do I do to myself? [edited for length].

If my mom calls me useless, pathetic and Immature/Childish on a weekly basis, and calls me bratty, rude, mean, ungrateful, and spoiled on a daily basis, Am I being verbally abused?

She also calls me desperate if I text the guy I like for more than an hour, and makes fun of things I like, for example YouTube, the guy I like, video games etc. My dad calls my mom a bunch of names too, like a**, b*tch, id***, lazy, annoying and more. Btw I’m only 14. She also will say she loves me at least once or twice every two weeks. My mom has been getting worse lately and called me b*tch, b*tchy, a**, and jack a**. I tried to tell my parents about me not liking them calling names and yelling yesterday, but my mom started saying “then how do we explain how you are acting?”and my dad said “b*tch and a** is kinda mean, but the other stuff is better, imagine what we could be calling you.” They did say they would try to do it less though, idk how that’s gonna work out though and I’m worried for my little brother because he thinks all this name calling is ok.

I’m 16. I had sex with my boyfriend. it was unprotected, but we are still worried if I am pregnant. please help. is there anything I can do to figure out [edited for content].

Why do I always loose interest when someone I like likes me back? I can obsess over someone all day and night but once they show interest in me it automatically goes away I’ve been in 5 relationships and I’m only 16 and they all never lasted over a month cause I always end it half are from me saying yes from being to guilty to break up with them or say no and the other half are guys I actually really liked but once were together it’s gone. Sometimes I feel disgusted with myself if they even hug me.. I’m not lesbian or anything like that and I’m not traumatized by anything and I don’t completely hate myself or anything. I can’t talk to anyone about this cause I feel like they just wouldn’t understand.

My boyfriend has been arguing with me and lately has been throwing me to bed / grabbing me , pinning me to bed to face him. He tells until I give him a certain answer. Its been going for a while now & Today he grabbed me from behind, if I didn’t answer or didn’t “listen” he’d squeeze my stomach hard until he wanted to. I am not pregnant & I’ve only been with his for 3 years. I’ve seen some red flags ,but now with this I want to know if I should let him go if it’s considered abuse.

legally, if you have video evidence of what happens when a woman is abusing a guy and trying to get physically violent and making threats, are they then allowed to start fighting back just to stop her? or would the whole ‘guys can’t hit girls for ANY reason’ bias still screw them legally speaking?

So I’ve been talking to someone who I met on Facebook. He’s turning 17 soon and I’m 16 and we’ve been talking for a year now and it’s obvious that we have mutual interest in each other. I have very strong feelings for him but it’s a bit weird considering we have never met each other in person because he lives in a completely different state, a 7 hour drive from me. I have considered moving down to his state in 2 years time to study University to be closer to him as I generally see a future with him but now I’ve been thinking twice because of his history. He is pretty much a criminal. He was locked up early last year for robbing a car and that wasn’t for too long but all of last year he kept getting into crime and he now has a lot of charges. Like I’m not one of those stupid girls that I become so blinded by how much I like someone, I see too many dumb and unhealthy relationships around me and I’m always the wise one giving advice but so now I’m stuck between waiting to see whether he gets locked up and being constantly worried about all his other crimes or waiting for him do time so we can be together [edited for length].

I’ve been listening and reading about famous Olympic gymnasts sexually assaulted by a doctor. It’s reminding me. In high school I’d go to this gym by Sunrise Mall. I’d lift weights, cycle, run, and keep in shape. One day I was at that gym showering. This man I knew walked into my shower stall naked. I was actually worried he’d get in trouble. It’s like I was used to his molestations. I just quietly did what he wanted. I never screamed. I never fought him off. I never even said no. I was like a willing participant. I remember being only around 115 pounds and 5′8″. Why would a man do that in a public gym? It still haunts me and has me feeling confused.

I saw a boy attack a disabled student in a public school classroom. During the attack the attacker smeared mayonnaise from a sandwich on the disabled boy’s face. The attacker said something like “You like cum all over your face don’t you.” Even though it was wrong I and a bunch of students laughed. I couldn’t stop laughing. At school I never hurt anyone. I never said anything mean I can even remember. I never even said a curse word. But I did laugh and couldn’t stop that day. I was made the school principal’s scapegoat. I was forced to sign paperwork. I was forced to leave the school at the end of the school year. What makes a person laugh when something bad happens? Not everyone laughed. Only some of us.

My family belongs to a church. It doesn’t allow masturbation. About everything I read says masturbation is safe, healthy and normal. I like the convenience. No worry of pregnancy or disease. You would think God would encourage it. I can’t go on a mission or get married like other church members. My church is asking me to be clean to do certain ordinances. My friends will soon know because I can’t go. I don’t want to lie. When I was young I didn’t know. I thought it was a way God showed he loved me. I’m having big trouble. I’m going to be questioned again. My leaders are on me to stop. It’s not easy. I wake up with dreams and tempted. My body sometimes does it’s own. I was squeezing my legs crossed in a class at school before. It happened. I used to put my electric toothbrush backward on a location. It happened. I was pressing one night kissing a boy. We were dressed and standing. They call it grinding. It happened. I could tell many stories. My body feels like an enemy. Is it sexual abuse if I am told I can’t masturbate or orgasm? Please don’t say talk it out. The church won’t change. My parents say do what I am taught in church.

In some ways I don’t know who I am supposed to be. I was abused. He would sometimes make me watch porn. It was confusing because I was curious about sex as a child. He would make us act out things. Sometimes I looked forward to it. He made me feel special. That’s how sick I was and am. The last three days and nights I was in my bedroom doing sex things on myself. Enough is enough. Today I feel like I have this hangover. I am sad and ashamed at what I did the last three days almost nonstop. Its embarrassing. All my wasted life too. Now I can’t even cry. I’m in shock. ptsd. Headached and drained. My life is falling apart [edited for content].

I was riding SacRT today. Someone left an unopened bottle of Gatorade on the train. The drink rolled up and down the train. I became obsessed on that drink. When everyone exited the train I grabbed the drink. At work or anywhere there is free or unlimited food I am obsessed on eating as much as I can eat. I always max out at food buffets. The strange thing is if you look at me I am thin, fit, and look healthy. I get lots of exercise. As a child I was a stick figure. My ribs even showed. I keep thinking my food obsessions are because of my childhood. It was abusive and violent. I sometimes scrounged for food. I ate scraps and leftovers, even old food tossed in outside garbage. I really didn’t care. It was food! At a pizza restaurant recently where it was all you could eat I ate nine mega-size pieces of pizza where everyone else ate two or three. I would have eaten more but a female coworker embarrassed me. It’s always females who notice and complain. How do I become normal? I am not going to Thanksgiving this year because I don’t want to be embarrassed and ridiculed like last year.

I made a false statement to the police about being beat up an having sexual relations with an adult.

I know this sounds stupid but I never had real parents. My parents died. They were self-centered alcoholic chain smoking losers who never did anything for anyone. As a child I never received the help I needed. I have college degrees but I don’t know how to parent my children. I am lost. Is there a book you suggest or a website? I can’t talk. I was sexually abused and exploited for many years. I am 3 hours late for work today. I called Kaiser mental health, my provider, for assistance. They promised to respond within 48 to 72 hours. It’s now past 92 hours I’ve waited. F*** them. I can’t go on like this [edited for length].

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I’m 15 and was very drunk due to peer pressure and it’s never something I want to do again but a 17 year old boy took me to his care and made me give him a handjob when he was completely sober, I don’t know if I’m over reacting or if this is serious

This has always been on my conscience. I was with this extremely attractive classmate. She was taking classes in fashion and photography. Sometimes she would show me her work. She was very creative, mixing bright and moody colors, designs, fabrics, vibrant art, and photos. She was showing me a new practice photography portfolio. It contained photos of mostly her sisters, especially one sister. The sister was around 14 years old. A few were of the sister in her school cheerleader outfit. There were bathing suit photos. Some were her sister topless exposing her breasts and in see-through and revealing lingerie. I went into shock. Others left nothing to the imagination, and extremely visible nude disturbing photos. All I thought when I saw them was this can’t be happening. I felt sick to my stomach. Inside my soul cried for her sister. My girlfriend then didn’t seem embarrassed at all. I never confronted my girlfriend. I felt very guilty seeing. Being a guy I was confused why she showed me pictures like that of her sister. We eventually split, I think in good part because she just wasn’t right in the head. She was great with art, but not right emotionally, like a van Gough. The nude photos I saw are still seared in my mind and have messed with my mind since. Her sister she photographed naked later became a drug addict, attempted suicide, rebelled against her family and religion, drove drunk, went with troubled boyfriends, and had all kinds of problems until I didn’t ask after our split. I often think I am responsible. Should I try to hunt my former girlfriend down and tell her to apologize to me and her sister. Is that crazy? I have long wondered why a female would take and show pictures of her sister like that and later show to her boyfriend. What does it mean? Would I open a can of worms talking to her family now? I still feel lots of shame at feeling like a pervert and want to resolve my uneasiness [edited for content].

My dad and his wife split a few years a go and we now only get to see my little brother about once a year. For this visit my little brother (9) gave me a peck on the lips. It was weird because we’ve never been a family who does that. However, I brushed it off as harmless and would let him give me pecks on the mouth. Then he started to repeatedly do it like one peck after the other. Again I brushed it off as nothing. But he seems really into it, he’ll stare into my eyes and it makes me uncomfortable. So I decided to tell him only kisses on the cheek now. Could this new behavior be a sign of sexual abuse? I don’t know if I’m over reacting. My dad said he’d report it but there’s nothing to go off of.

Can I send my father to jail if he left my mother at a gasoline station at one in the morning due to marriage problems

I live close to my brother who IS a pedophile who had sex with his own daughter. I know that, he knows that, his daughters know that, and every other family member knows that, even though he plead guilty to a lesser offense and only spent 10 years on the sex offenders list. Now his youngest daughter who he drugged and raped and had 2 boys by (she doesn’t know about that) also has 2 young girls (10 and 12) and she routinely brings them to his house for sleep-overs, swims, etc. My problem is, I’m not willing to be the one who has him locked up for life, but I cringe every time I think of what’s going on at his house, and his daughter is there at least 4 or 5 days a week with her young girls and her 2 boys who are actually her boys AND her half-brothers. What can I do to stop what is happening without being the “Judas” in the family and sending my brother to jail for the rest of his life?

This family I know lives in this historic gold mining town. Their mother is my mom’s best friend. I’ve known this family since I was a baby. In summers, weekends, and school holidays my mom regularly had me stay with them. Because I am the same age as two of her sons we three would go play basketball or explore in the woods. We’d fish or put on our riding gear and helmets and race our off road motorcycles and mountain bikes. We would go to the theater, walk around town, play in the parks, or do something. Because the three of us grew up together we often saw each other naked. We started skinnydipping as early as I can remember. Our parents and people would take all of us children to a river or lake and said take off your clothes and jump in. When I got older the brothers and I would often on hot days go skinnydip and sunbathe nude by ourselves. This one time when I was 16 we three were at this local river. The brothers took their clothes off and went swimming. I stayed on the shore to suntan with this other girl I met. This girl acted unusual. She was constantly trying to position, rub, touch, oil, and kiss me. We did some kissing and more personal things. I think it was a trick for her or others to film or photograph us naked having sex. I finally realized it when she kept moving her three daypacks because they probably had cameras and sound recorders in them. Another time I was tanning and had this uncomfortable feeling like I was being watched. I put my swim shorts on. When the boys returned they thought they’d be funny. One grabbed my hands and the other pulled off my swim pants. Being forced to be naked I really lost it. I cried really emotionally. The brothers apologized and handed me back my swim shorts. I’ve noticed in the past couple of weeks with the warming weather I’ve been really emotional and traumatized feeling. I think it has to do with knowing that soon hot summer days will be here when I often skinnydipped and sunbathed nude. There was this time I was at the river when these older guys went up to this teenage girl my age. They pulled off her bikini top and tried to pull off her bottoms. A group fight almost started because some other boys told the guys to give back her top and leave her alone. Guys were cheering to see her assaulted. Another time I was at this other swim place. There were a lot of teenagers smoking tobacco, marijuana, and drinking alcohol. There was this really pretty girl my age swimming. Some boys said she couldn’t swim there unless she was naked. She ignored the boys and kept swimming. Three boys dived in to the water to undress her. Luckily she swam to the other side and climbed out before they got her. When I was young skinnydipping and sunbathing nude seemed so easygoing, natural, and innocent. Now I feel worried and terrified about it. There are perverts and rapists and people with drones and cameras. Places we went before now have people hiding in the woods waiting with telephoto lens cameras to take pictures. It’s just not safe anymore to risk taking off clothes outside. I’ve experienced it. People will even undress or try to undress you. I remember many times on the river when men and even some women would offer me free alcohol and drugs so they could basically get a chance to take nude pictures or rape me. It’s very scary. Why any teen or other person would even risk taking even a drink of liquor or a hit on a pipe is beyond me anymore. I’m feeling really terrified. I know this summer innocent teens will end up raped and hurt trying to swim and sunbathe naked like I once foolishly did. What should I do to ease my anxiety? I feel like teens don’t know like I do because I never read, see, or hear anything about this public nudity violence and abuse that happens. I didn’t even sleep all night because I’m worrying about it.

Should i quit my job because of how my boss is/ i don’t how he treats me ?

So a couple years ago, I kind of hoped to put this behind me but I don’t know if I can until I know how to label it, I was driving home from a vacation with my parents. I was about thirteen I think, and had a math packet I had to do over spring break but I was allowed to simply have fun while we were actually at our vacation destination. The deal was I had to do it on the ride home. So I did, only problem was, I couldn’t focus for long periods of time so I had to take frequent breaks. We got up early to leave so these breaks either consisted of me napping or reading the book I had brought along. My parents seemed okay with me napping, they didn’t stop me at least, but apparently reading was out of the question. I tried to explain that I couldn’t focus for long amounts of time, especially not on math, and reading helped my mind relax so I could work on it efficiently again. I really was trying to get stuff done, I just needed to do it the way that worked for me. But that way didn’t work with my parents. So my dad threatened to come into the back seat and make me do my homework if I didn’t stop reading. Well I knew that reading was helping me and I only read one chapter at a time so it wasn’t like I was wasting a ton of time on reading instead of working. So I continued my little process and my dad did as he had threatened. He came into the back seat then proceeded to pinch, smack, poke, and prod me all the while saying I needed to get back to work. I was trying to ignore him but he was actually hurting me. Soon enough I stopped reading but didn’t get back to work right away and apparently that’s what I had to do to get him to leave me alone. I started crying and kept telling him to stop and leave me alone but he didn’t listen, instead just grinning and continuing, saying all I had to do was start working on my math again and he’d stop. On some of his little “motivations,” he got quite close to parts it would be extremely inappropriate for my father to touch in any way. The only reason he stopped, as he had completely ignored me telling him to stop, was because we for pulled over for speeding. See, during this time my step mom was driving but she didn’t do anything, even when I was crying. She simply said the same things my dad was. “If you just do your homework he’ll stop.” When the cop walked up to the window I was incredibly tempted to jump out of the car and tell him what happened but I stayed quiet in fear of my parents getting angry at me. Then the cop drove away and my dad finally moved to sit back up front, not touching me again. I don’t know what to call what happened but for some reason I need to know if it’s classified as harassment or assault. If my dad has abused me in more ways than calling me an arrogant selfish brat and a burden to my face. I am none of those things, but after that incident I can’t love my father the way I used to and I can’t trust or respect him either. Yet he still demands that I respect him then gets angry when I tell him I only respect those that deserve my respect. He seems to think I should thank him every chance I get and respect him unconditionally just because he helped create me and puts a roof over my head. But I can’t. Not after what happened and what he has called me. But, I need to know because I am 16 and can’t say I’m completely educated on these types of things, so I was wondering, is my father truly abusing/ harassing/ assaulting me in anyway or should I let it go?

One of my roommate friends is a big believer in what she calls ‘healing arts.’ She is into things like massage, aromatherapy, candles, and other things. It sometimes feels to me like a mystical imaginary belief system my friend and her friends follow. They believe in stones and gems that release energy and reading peoples energy levels. To me I don’t really know what it is all about. All I know is I worry if she is getting tricked by some people. She was telling how she sometimes goes to these sessions where she takes off all her clothes. She gets under a sheet and she lets different men masturbate her in these certain ways. They have to follow certain rules to do it. Sometimes the men wear gloves to demonstrate there is not a skin to skin contact with her, like that makes any difference. It all sounds so strange to me. She got in with this other group of people who I would call just having sex orgies basically. She gets all offended when I call it that, saying it is ‘mutual understanding’ and finding ‘insightfulness.’ I tell her I think it sounds to me like a bunch of balogna. She is just getting basically screwed and used I think but she feels it helps her find serenity and understanding of the universe. How do I help my friend? She is like she is sucked into her beliefs so strongly she is just doing really dangerous and disturbing things. A few nights ago I saw the television was on in our family room but in the darkness didn’t see anyone in there. I went to turn it off. I found she was on the carpet in our living room, totally naked, masturbating, with headphones on. I have seen enough females so it wasn’t that. But I unplugged her headphones and she opened her eyes. I asked her what the hell she thought she was doing that sort of thing on our living room floor. She was like I was just about to cum and how dare I intrude upon her when she was timing the orgasm to a tape to she was listening too. Should I just write this person off as just a nut or do you think she needs help from Weave? How do people help someone like her?

My sister inlaw got smaked around by her boyfriend i dont know i havent seen her .im just curious why wont she go to the hospital or go to the cops .i think theres more to the story

When I was younger like around 16 I was a very friendly polite young person but now that I’m almost 22, I have grown to hate myself so much for my mistakes that I:
A) find it difficult to sleep at night
B) Have attempted suicide three times. (Once during school and twice after I left school)
C) constantly think about disappearing and or running away
My self hate is so threatening I’m almost always in a bad mood the night before and in the morning and during the whole day. Even if I’m around friends, I don’t talk as much as I used to and instead think about how much I hate my pathetic existence. No one in my life knows about the 3 suicide attempts or about my self hate. I have kept all of this a secret for the past 13 years. (2004-2017). Please someone tell me what’s wrong with me. 

I am feeling terrible what I let happen to my daughter. I thought this could never happen to my child. I was a child care provider for five years. I was trained to look for all the warning signs. There was a neighbor girl who is five years older than our daughter. We had no idea she was a child molester. This neighbor girl preyed upon our daughter for many years. We let our daughter stay overnight and even entire weekends at her house on numerous occasions. We unknowingly handed our daughter over to her to be abused right under our noses. We just didn’t know. Not only that, we permitted this abuser’s family to take our daughter on trips to Disneyland and other places, on ship cruises, on weekend getaways, and even vacation trips outside the United States. I feel awful I used to encourage my daughter to go take trips with this family. There were many times I’d find my daughter playing alone and encourage her to go play with this girl. My daughter has always been academically advanced so I thought they were a great fit. Had I only known…. What makes the situation a bit of a challenge is I didn’t know about my daughter’s abuse until my daughter became an adult. My daughter is very smart. She, like many very intelligent children, was wise at also knowing how to hide her victimization very well for so long. I knew something wasn’t right only when our daughter suddenly stopped all contact with this other girl. I could tell by the way my daughter became angry whenever I mentioned her abuser’s name there was possible abuse. My daughter was on edge and angry, unlike her usual happy disposition. In time she was cracking. I could just drive past her abuser’s house and my daughter would get upset. It was simple math for me finally to tell this was something more than a normal friendship gone wrong. My daughter went to counseling. She received medical care and was put on medication for depression. We even moved so she didn’t have to feel trapped into being so close to her offender’s family. What I find especially sad is because my daughter is now an adult, she has to be the one now to come forward to press charges. California laws are just not up to the times, just like children under the age of 18 are still permitted to marry child predators in California given the appropriate consent. I think my daughter is holding back from pressing charges because she still feels some loyalty to her abuser. I am proud she did write a letter to her abuser and told her abuser to never contact her ever again or she would go to the police. Some progress is being made. But does WEAVE ever think of holding group support meetings for survivors? I know you provide individual counseling. But having my daughter hear from other survivors in a group setting is the empowerment I believe my daughter really needs to hear.

I am no longer with this person I want to ask about. She sometimes had me to do things sexually I didn’t feel comfortable doing. I can’t really talk to people about it because people I have talked to about it don’t take it serious or understand… People I talked to laugh and think its funny I’m upset and not calming down. I’m not laughing. I’m crying. Girls tell how they were abused and people cry and say how awful. I tell what happened to me and people ask me to tell them more sex stories and smile and want to high 5. What am I supposed to feel when a girl totally stalked me and used me for herself until I was dumped for her next victim?

Question:Is justified for me to move out?

I don’t want to stay at home with my brother who has ADHD and lashes out at me. I get scolded by my parents all the time because I’m the older one and my brother has mental health problems. I would always argue with my family because I get emotional and whatever I do is always wrong eventhough I’m tasked to take care of my brother. He scolds and blames me for whatever he does. I was in the toilet washing my hands he wanted to shower before going for tuition, he would blame me for that brief moment of washing my hands as to being unable to shower and cursed me to die. He could have used any time before his tuition to shower but he just blames me. My parents berated me and said I was hogging the toilet. They are always pulling me down for simple mistakes. Few days ago I had to accompany my brother to make a new transport card for him. I reminded him that he is already 17 and should do his own work like paying attention to the counter calling his number and going up to pass the papers. He always waits for me to nudge him and move. So he yelled at me in front of the public like I’m a maid to him and said he knew what he is doing. His number got called three times and I nudged him slightly on the second time telling him to check the monitor displaying his number. After that I told him directly that his number was called many times before the next number and he freaked out. Just because Im his sister doesnt mean I have to suffer because of him. I dont mind if he make mistakes but he never admits them. After the number incident he grudged at me saying I never told him what number and he didnt know there was a number on the paper and things like it was your fault not mine, it was the stupid paper not me. My parents spoiled him enough to not even think of me as human. I have scars on my right elbow and knee. He used to beat me up after school when I started middle school and he was in primary school. It was embarassing and the security guard had to come over and chase him off. He wanted to show off his taekwondo skills. I came home crying n telling mom I was beaten up by my brother and my mom never bothered until the security guard came up to my mom once and I was bleeding profusely. I cried and cried helplessly eventhough being a 13 year old. I had been put down so much and my family never supports me ambitions. They kept forcing me to study something else and made excuses that other subjects were not good for me. Then they’d tell others that they gave me freedom to make my own choices. I’d come up to other people when my family says that and tell them straight up I prefer being a vet than an actuarist. My family would glare at me and shake their head and say no. They would restrict me and bully me so much that Im going crazy I want to kill myself or just run away because everything I do here is so wrong. Im never right. Please help me.

I started talking to this guy that I meet on Snapchat and I told him I didn’t want to be with him and so he’s been threatening me over the phone and texting me nonstop and I’m so scared (im 16 hes 19) (he lives in a different state) is there anything I can do?!?! Please help me

There is a boy at my school I had a crush. We were together for eight months. We met in cross country. Saturday a month back I was with him. We were alone at his house. We kissed and were doing make out. I never did all the way sex. I was nervous. My boobs felt like frozen rocks. My privates felt strange. I told him I wasn’t ready. Because we had run and were sweaty I told him we could shower together. We washed, kissed and made out in his shower. It was great for me but he said it wasn’t enough. He was rubbing I’ll call his ‘thing’ on my skin and against my personal ‘places’ on me ‘entertaining’ himself and trying to get me to do more. He washed me (and I mean ‘all over and in’) with the soap. It ended badly because I wouldn’t touch ‘it’. I told him l needed time for me to know him first. He said l had gotten enough time and quit being a ‘tease’. He broke up with me that Saturday because I didn’t ‘do it’ with him. Some of my friends say it was my fault because I led him on by showering with him. I made it worse because we had kissed and made out in the shower. I also let him soapsuds and wash me the way we did. Now he has a new girlfriend. She is a runner too. What’s also upsetting me too is some of my friends tell me he and his girlfriend have already had sex. They’ve only been steady for two weeks! I know its over for me and him but should I tell his new girlfriend how he treated me?

I get different answers I ask. Is it against the law in California for juveniles to take naked selfies? I trimmed and streaked parts of my head and pube hair with Kool aid. I want to keep some pictures what I did and look like now. I took pictures naked standing and on my bed and with my closet mirror. They show how I looked natural before and what my body looks now with trim, added hair colors, jewelry and makeup looking up, down, from sides, front and back. I want to compare to later when I get older and see how my body ( esp. butt, boobs, private region, face, legs ) change. Some people said I can get arrested and charged with sexual offender megan list for taking the selfies if anyone sees them.

I have a friend she just turned 18 today Jan 25 and she wants to move out because her mom and her step dad beat and they neglect her she told a social worker but the social worker talked with her mom and the social worker doesn’t believe her anymore. She was trying to move out and live with my family but her mom threatens to call the cops on her what can I do to help her? Or what can she do ?

I’m 16 to soon be 17. I’ve been in ballet since three. Ballet is much of my life. I also practice technique, lyrical, jazz and tap and hip hop. I want to be a professional dancer. My current GPA is 3.82. I’m enrolled this semester in two honors and two AP classes. I have secrets. I was four. We lived in another state. My parents put me in military base day care. A man came in sometimes. We would be sleeping. He would touch me and have sex with me. I never told anyone. Telling my parents or sister or friends would only make them sad. I want them to be happy for me. I have other secrets. I’m 5′9″. I weigh 113 pounds. Sometimes I starve myself or eat little. I try not to get too thin. I have also plucked every hair I have on my body except my head and eyebrows. I hate body hair except those two places on me. I read I do it because it makes me feel in control. I sometimes borrow my sisters car license. She doesn’t know. I used her ID to get tattoos. I have three tattoos so far. One is a small tree on the back of my neck. It represents life and nature. I have a body message to me on my torso. ‘Never Surrender your Dreams.’ The third is a big dancing dragon that wraps up and across my right breast. I love them all especially my big dragon. I got my navel, nipples, hood, and one inner labia pierced. Getting inked and pierced makes me feel I am someone special. It makes me feel no one can stop me. I do it for me. Sometimes when I am alone or lonely I watch and read XXX. Seeing and reading XXX makes me know I am a sexual, sensuous person. I am not alone and shouldn’t feel ashamed. What age do you think I should ever tell my parents or someone my secrets?

January 15 me and my girlfriend live with her mom tell she finishes high school we live in merced.so my girlfriends mom came into our room and asked what I was doing and I said packing to go to Fresno and her mom’s so is this going to be a every weekend this and I said idk and then she asked my girlfriend if she’s going to and she said yes then her mom said see you guys when you come back and she left a few seconds later she comes in and ask why I keep minexpensive and my girlfriends baby in the room like it’s a dungeon and I said I don’t I just don’t want the baby to be out of the room because the house is dirty no one really cleans up but me they let a dog in the house with the baby the floors are dirty and gross the livingstone are dirty the dogs goes on the couch pees on the carpet and the mom doesn’t do anything p.s her mom lets her sisters dog in the house and go everywhere and anyway in the house.then she says that it and I said yes and she said she talk to her kids bUT she always says that and she never does. After her family leaves someone and she calls my phone and says why I don’t do chores and I said I do I’m the only one that does and she said Adrianna said you don’t do any dishes and that you don’t clean your dishes and I said I do I keep my dishes in the room and then I go wash my dishes after I’m done. Then she says I need to start doing stuff around the house since I’m a grown assume adult but I’m taking care of my baby while my girlfriend finishes school. She is 16 turning 17 soon and I barely turned 18 and her mom is fine with us. But I tell my girlfriend about what her mom said and she said let me see the phone and my girlfriend messages her mom this message”The reason why we don’t go out there is cause Adrianna always had to say something or blame something on else ,that’s why we stay in the room.And we’ve been doing our dishes so tell Adrianna to stop that’s why we’re always going to Fresno.” And i told my girlfriend to also add this message “Also it’s Chris baby too and that’s why we go see his family.”my girlfriends mom calls and says to my girlfriend “did you just threaten me” my girlfriend says no and her mom said “it sound like you just threaten me” and my girlfriend said no I was telling you why we don’t take the baby out of the room and that why we go to Fresno too. And her mom say this” don’t make me call the police everything you go to Fresno because you know I can do that to you since you’re underage” and this isn’t the first time she threaten her she threaten me also because I didn’t let her see the baby her mom said” let me see the baby” and I said no and her mom said “let me see the baby” and I said no and the her mom says “let me see the baby chris” and ” don’t make me get the cops involve” her mom also threaten us too about baptizing our baby because we said we wanted to wait and her mom said” you better call or I’m going to say I’m you” and this is where I need help her mom is a racist too so I don’t know if it a factor in his but I need help she trys to control me and my girlfriends baby saying we can’t take her outside cause it cold even though we put warm clothes and plenty of blankets with our baby.  I can’t say anything because she can kick me out. And my girlfriend is afraid to say anything because her mom threatens her that she’ll beat her ass because my girlfriend miss school because we were running low on breast milk and her mom comes in the room and yells at her saying you miss school and my girlfriend was like year because the baby didn’t have a lot of milk and her mom says ” if you miss school again ima beat you ass” I need help I don’t know what to do?

Back in 2012, My Dad, Mom, and one of my close friends went to palm springs and stayed at a hotel. I remember i was asking them because we bought an Xbox and one of the days me and my friend wanted to stay inside the hotel and play on the X box and apparently that made my dad mad and he picked me up and dropped me on the floor my foot hit the door stop and started to bleed, now again in 2017 my parents limit me on my computer (As to i can’t use it unless for school). I paid for the PC im 14 now so i stayed up till they were asleep and got on my PC they found out and took my PC away, Then the next morning i woke up to my dad pouring water on my face i got up and tried to change out of the wet shirt when i started to close the door my dad rushed back in and picked me up and threw me on my bed saying that i was “Trying to slam the door on him” but i was not i was angry but not angry enough to try slamming the door shut so i closed it without slamming it. All i am wondering is if it is normal because i have had thoughts of running away on several accessions i’m home schooled online i haven’t done anything like call the cops because i think that would be a bit overboard but i don’t know anymore, please help.

I was at friends house two nights ago. We were in her bedroom. She asked if I wanted to watch movies. I thought she meant something like Netflix. She opened up her laptop and went to a porn site. I’m 15. I never seen porn movies before. She is16. She asked me what movies I wanted to watch. I told her I didn’t know for her to pick. We were watching. She asked me if I was horny. I was but didn’t tell her exactly yes. She put her hand in her pajama. She said I must be excited too because she could tell my nipples were hard. Said I must be horny because I told her I was feeling really wet and sexual. She pulled off her pajama. I told her maybe we should go to sleep. She said in just a minute. She sat on her bed naked beside me and fingered to orgasm some times. It was interesting in a way but I was too afraid to masturbate with her. She asked if I wanted to come. I said I was ok. Is this considered a sexual assault or consensual?

A guy recently told me he likes me, but i dont like him because im not a replacement for his girlfriend that he broke up with and not even a week passed? he’s also being very strict, telling me to wake up, do this , do that, eat lunch , dont stay up late, go to bed, etc. It’s getting annoying i saw him as a friend but now he’s ordering me around and i dont even like him. i even told him “I don’t like you” as plain as that, all he replied was “i know”. what do i do to make him stop?

when i was 16 one of my older sisters had her csus dorm roommate live at our home for the summer. my sister was away working at a camp that summer so i was left alone with this roommate a lot. sometimes this roommate of my sister would braid my hair or paint my nails. one day she asked me if i wanted a massage. she helped me take off my clothes, she braided my hair, and she applied massage oil on me. she had me rub oil on her. we had sex on a blanket on the carpet in my bedroom. i had never been in a lesbian situation but she hummed and sucked when she did oral sex on me, things i couldn’t do on myself. i can only describe it as something i never expected. i can only call it as exploding when i had orgasms with her. after she molested me i stayed in my bedroom and i masturbated alone for a couple of days trying to get the same feelings of sexual joy. i finally went to my sister’s roommate and told her i wanted her to eat me again. she said no. i said if she didn’t have sex with me i was going to tell my sister what we did already. we had sex and she ate me out and i had some more of the most intense orgasms i ever had in my life. it was something about her beauty and how her mouth, lips, and tongue sucked and vibrated as she touched me. for the rest of the summer i kept going to her and telling her she was going to have sex with me. it really was i was the one hurting her back. she cried, said she was sorry, and told me to stop being mean. i think i was paying her back for what she did to me. i really was mean to her because i was angry how she made me feel so sexually pumped. i am 18 1/2 now in college and while i prefer guys i find i am always fantasizing about using females for just sex and the summer when i molested my sister’s roommate. i still find myself going over in my head the things we did together. because i was a perpetrator as well as a victim, how do you recommend i forget the memories? it bothers me how the best sex in my life was with a female who started out to hurt me and then i did it back to her.

My father physically and sexually abused me for ten years. My parents are now divorced and I have to see him on Sunday, he threatened to kill me if i ever told anyone and I am now seeing a counselor to deal with some of the issues arising from the abuse which my mum had alerted my father to. I’m concerned he is going to kill me but in the eyes of everyone else don’t have a reason not to see him What should I do?

I am 17 years old (18 in 3 months), my brother is 16 (17 in 3 months.) He is a bully, he bullies our two little step-brothers- calling them fat and stupid. This isn’t normal teasing, it is bullying. He is demeaning and he tries to bully anyone and everyone into submission, whenever he feels like it. This evening I was trying to ask my mom about something for dinner and my brother comes into the room yelling at my mom and getting into her face because she brought the wrong scent of deodorant. I stopped talking because I wanted my mom to handle the situation with her son, but it soon escalated. I told my brother to stop yelling in our mom’s face, he turned around and bent over into my face, he started telling me to shut up over and over again, getting louder and louder, closer and closer into my face. At this point I was pissed- I have a thing about how people treat other people- so I told him to step back, get out of my face. This proceeded for about 15-30 more seconds. I then pushed him out of my face -it made him step probably one step back. By then my mom tried to get in the way and my brother swung on me (for pushing him out of my face) and his hit landed on my eye (our mom was in the middle of us at the time)… the rest of it got seperated by my older brother and step dad. Everyone in my family is saying that I could get taken to jail for this, I need to know if this is true.

One of my (at the time) friends kept poking me in the neck and I would flinch. He put his face really close to me at one point and poked me again and when I flinched I accidentally hit his face but I didn’t realize I had at the time. He decided that instead of talking and saying anything that he would punch me in the arm hard enough that I cried and it left a bruise. Is it abuse though? I haven’t been able to look a majority of guys I know in the eyes since this has happened but I don’t know what to call it and what to do

I wrote weave earlier asking how to get hugs. I’m too afraid to call or talk to anyone. I hope you can help me if I write. I want to know how you can know if someone really loves someone if they don’t say it. Like how do you tell them you love them without saying? My parents have never said I love you to me. I already mentioned we never touch or hug in my family. There is no affection in my family. My parents are alcoholics so they don’t know how to listen or understand me as it is. Is there someplace on the internet that teaches people who have never had any love to understand what to do? I just feel unloved and I really am unloved.

I do OA work (copy papers, errands,) for a firm my mom once worked at. (I’m 18 first job.) Last week I went to L.A. to help at a conference. At the hotel I set my suitcase by some shuttle vans. When I came back my suitcase was gone. A 23 yo paralegal who I work with loaned me some clothes and shoes. The second night she invited me to see L.A. This L.A. lawyer she knew had a new Mercedes. He took us to Beverly Hills and Santa Monica. We walked a pier and ate at a restaurant in Santa Monica. Her lawyer friend paid for dinner. I thought something was not good because after we left the restaurant and were walking back to his car he put his arms around me and my coworker but my coworker wasn’t pushing him away? We rode in his car to his house close to the ocean. He asked if we wanted something to drink. My coworker reminded him I was 18. He said I could get some soda from his refrigerator. He left to let his dog outside. I poured some pepsi but my coworker said to add rum. I shouldn’t have but I did. When he came back in he asked if we wanted to go in his Jacuzzi. My coworker said we would. I never Jacuzzi naked. We were talking and my coworker kept swimming in circles in front of us. When she swam she touched his and my arms and legs and things. She kept jumping out of the Jacuzzi to get us more drinks. I could feel the alcohol. I went into the house to use the bathroom. When I came back my coworker and him were kissing. I keep wondering why I was stupid and didn’t just stay inside his place or just put my clothes back on. I went and jumped into the Jacuzzi again. When they swam over to me I felt my heart pounding in my chest. I should have jumped out but I was too afraid? My coworker was doing everything. He just watched. I kept thinking this is not good. She had me up on the side of his Jacuzzi. I kept thinking at the time he was going to rape me but he just watched. That is what I don’t understand. He didn’t do anything but watch. It wasn’t like rape too in some ways because I had undressed myself?She never put her fingers or tongue inside but only outside my vagina. I never said to her no stop that’s enough or don’t do that? She never had me do anything to her besides kiss and tongue her mouth. When she went down my body and later went down on me I never resisted which I guess on my part would have been ok had I been a better communicator? I didn’t jump up or say I didn’t want it or why was I even letting her do this? After I finished she swam over to him and gave him a blowjob and some sex while I waited and rested. After he took us back to the hotel. It was over. I have to see my coworker tomorrow. I don’t know what to say to her. On the plane ride back to Sac she didn’t even talk about it. Now I’m feeling feelings like maybe it’s ok but shouldn’t I say to her it was wrong how she used alcohol to get to me and kind of forced me to Jacuzzi naked?

When I was 17 I work as a security guard in the guard shack at a warehouse complex. An old cop was the sergeant at the guard house and there was a little bathroom there a guy who had a roach coach who came by and threw firecracker in the bathroom under the door while I was in there. it startled me and I was angry I thought it was the old man so I grabbed him by the shirt and yelled at him. He freaked out and got pissed off at me. and he pulled a gun out of his desk he pointed at my head and start screaming at me I can’t remember what he said but he did push me down to my knees and told me to suck him. He said something like that wasn’t working and he’s pushed me onto the desk and pull down my pants and raped me the other guy just stood there and watched when he was finished he asked other guy if he wanted to climb on and he just shook his head no. That day I drove into an intersection as a truck was coming it T-boned me but I didn’t get hurt I wanted to die. It is so confusing I had been A sex toy for a scout leader for years. And it was kind of consensual. (Cut graphic content)

I was with a friend and she invited 2 boys over. i was laying in bed and one joined me. i didn’t think anything of it until he started touching my breast then soon stuck his hand down my pants. i don’t know what to consider this. i think it’s molesting because he only touched me. he did not put his penis in me at all. please, can you inform me on what this would be considered. it was not consensual but i didn’t say stop. my best friend was right next to me , that would’ve been super embarrassing

My family and my relatives know I was raped by a grownup. Its our big family secret no one talks about. I notice no one wants to touch me anymore. It’s like I’m dirty or contaminated. How do I get hugs when I am too afraid to ask? I haven’t been hugged by a family member in years.

My uncle assaulted me 3 years ago and I forgave him the morning after when he said he was sorry the day after but occasionally I have moments when I think back on it and I start crying it’s happened randomly at school and at night and it ruins my day. I look up articles about assault and it doesn’t make me feel any better. I wanna tell someone but I feel as if I’ll be re-opening something that is better left alone and then I’ll be ruining his life and no one will believe me. Why do I felt this way and how can I tell someone

 I’m a 12 year old 7th grader and I live with my baby sister, mother and step dad. For the past few months, they’ve been fighting alot and in the fights my step dad (Joe) would mention how he “never gets laid”. Since this started, he’s been starting to make suspicious comments about my body that make me very uncomfortable. I told my mom but she said not to worry about it. Then he started touching me inappropriately in my sleep , grabbing my butt and boobs and sometimes lightly touching my crotch. My mom doesn’t believe me when I tell her. At this point, I have no idea what to do. Help please.

hi,my mom wont let me go to a therapist and I need to what should I do?

I read in your stalking article that stalking can be contacting their family members or friends? When me and my ex boyfriend dated we were happy and his Mum was like a second mother to me. She got me birthday presents, albums, and I bought her stuff for her birthday. But, now we broke up and she knows about the problems I’ve had in my life and says she will always support me. Is it stalking my ex boyfriend if I’m friends with his Mum?

My dad used to abuse me as a child. I once had a asthma attack because of it and my parents didn’t take me to hospital. My Mum recently got out of hospital after 2 months and my Dad hasn’t abused me since. Is his mood changing because he missed my Mum, and is happy she’s back?

Can a teen be a sexual addict? When I was 4 (pre-K) I played hide and seek with other children. I tried to hide under my bed and for some reason the pressure of me squeezing under the bed and my legs tightening I had my first orgasm. I didn’t know what it was called but I immediately felt a feeling of incredible warmth, goodness and pleasure. I tried later to get the same feeling again under my bed but it never worked. I knew the feelings were somewhere in my body so I started experimenting and touching my self. I quickly figured it out. I called orgasm my ‘magic powers’. I thought I was the only one in the world who had this magical power. I never told anyone what I was doing. I think I became a sexual deviant. I put myself under the faucets in bathtubs and showers and orgasm super strong. I even put myself naked under sinks to feel good. My mother caught me pushing myself against the washing machine to feel good. I just cannot get enough masturbation but I didn’t know what sex was yet. This may sound perverted but nearly every morning in my life since 4 I go 1-2-3 or 4 orgasms before I start the day. Its like my morning wakeup ritual. I pee, undress, lay on my bed, make up a fantasy, and pleasure myself to orgasm. I work my schedule around my times to masturbate. I can also masturbate to orgasm standing up and sitting in chairs. I have orgasmed in sometimes just two minutes. I think my body is just sexually sensitive. but I think I am obsessed on sex. I used to masturbate everywhere when I was younger. I had my parents get me pants with pockets so at school I could touch myself. I still laugh how in 5th grade a girl sitting next to me looked over when I was climaxing. She could see me coming and had this puzzled look on her face. I didn’t know it was wrong but I’d use to put a sweater in my lap and cover myself at church and orgasm there too. At home all the time I’d sit on the couch and put a blanket over my lap and finger myself while watching television with my family and others. No one ever caught me masturbating and orgasming or said they knew what I was doing. It’s like I couldn’t get enough. Even now when I am home alone. I take off my clothes, open the curtains to my bedroom, let the sun shine on me, I fantasize, touch my body, and pleasure myself to orgasm for hours. I can go like all day enjoying myself sometimes. I was heartbroken and depressed in 7th grade when I learned what masturbation was. I actually got depressed. I think that is when orgasms started changing for me. I know this is going to sound stupid and pervie but I really get off seeing naked women in magazines like playboy and hustler. I once had my own secret collection. As I get older my sex obsession is changing. I have people my family knows who live in the mountains. When I’m there and alone I go to certain private places. I skinnydip. I lay on a blanket and sit in the sun and masturbate for sometimes an hour or two. I’m starting to worry because some of my friends realize I don’t really date. I’m even a cheerleader and I don’t really want to be with others? I think I’m obsessed with my own sex pleasure and fantasies. Am I normal or do you think I have a sex problem?

about 2010/2011 i met people that i still consider to be my best friends. there are 6 of us and only one of them is my age. about two three years back our relationship became somewhat flirty…my friend has always been flirtatious to everyone just not to me until that time. he has practically lead me on for the whole time and then recently about a month back we went to a families cabin with some friends and our parents, ect and he was his normal self until about Sunday night when he started touching my leg under tables or when i layed down and i didn’t think anything of it. i assumed he was just kidding around and at night i fell asleep next to him. usually i’m an extremely heavy sleeper but i woke up in the middle of the night to find that we were cuddling which was kind of normal..until he felt me up..again i thought nothing of it because i assumed he was asleep..until he did it again and again. at this point i was petrified. i tried to pretend to still be asleep to see if he would stop and i was shaking and my heart was beating so fast and not in a good way. he then continued to try to kiss 4 times but i moved a little/covered my face each time so he couldn’t. i did not want this at all. i was too scared to say anything AND then he proceeded to literally get into my pants but i tied them too tight and he eventually gave up and went back to sleep…i couldn’t go back to sleep after this and my nerves never calmed down..again i dismissed it until a couple of days ago when i told my friend what had happened and she said it was assault… i don’t know where to go from here..i feel sick all of the time like nauseous and weak.. i feel disgusted and i’m baffled that even happened. i don’t know what to do. im 15.

My mother hits me with all kinds of items and Calls it “discipline” this time she yelled at me and threw her phone at my head and now I have a lump on my head i don’t know if I should call the police and report it or not

I hv a friend.. I guess we like each other. We had few good moments together. it was all good until den he was asking for more.. which I felt was too much n to fast to go for it. I wanted to know him more. Den aftr few days he used to get close but I always made him understand that this was way to fast and I was not ready for it. I always kept telling to take things slow ..He understood. Dese instinct made me feel not right about him.. . but after some days he would repeat again. I hated the fact that I have to keep on telling him that I wasn’t ready were on the other side I was losing trust n doubting my instincts.. he also once told me that I was overthinking n also use to say dt these things weren’t new for us..

I started to avoid him by giving him some excuses. later he convinced to meet him.. trust me we seriously had a good time.. he really asked me what bothered me..I told him Frankly what bothered me the most..which I apparently think I hv told him many times. I told him dt he would leave me. we did tok alot in detail. I said I want to know you more. wen we wer about to leave.. he gave me a hug n got his face closer.. I knew he ws trying to kiss me but I said no. he pulled me again. he dint leave me at all.. I kept on telng him to leave… Den I had to push him hard. I walked off. guys I jus want to know .. m I wrng. Should I give him a chance or tok to him… we did hv few moments.. but wen he started to force things up.. my instincts says dt dis ws wrng.. I feel lyk crying wen I think about this… please help me

Was I wrong for putting my son’s father in jail after 6 years of mentally n physically abuse? Why did I wait so long? Could this been prevented from him not beening in jail?

I’m scared I’m pregnant.

My parents are married but I found something online. I found that my dad has several dating site accounts that he has not told any of us about butc claims to be happily married. He also does not work while !y mom works full time in the army. I feel like he is living off of her. He is also rude to us and has threatened to leave bfore but never left. Is he cheating on my mom? Should I tell her myself?

I’m 16, female. My boyfriend who is 17 does prescription pills and it really bothers me. Both of my parents were drug addicts, I grew up in foster care because of this. My boyfriend knows I hate drugs, I don’t mind him smoking weed but o don’t want the pills to escalate and lead to something worst but he doesn’t listen to me. What should I do ?

He’s also a very nice boy who comes from a good home…he loves me and treats me great. I wouldn’t want to leave him but I refuse to put up with addiction in my life ever again.

I’ve always told my boyfriend that I can’t stand the idea of anal and how painful that would be for a girl. I even once went so far to say it would be like rape for me. We were on the couch when he pulled it out and started rubbing it on my butt. I was ok with that but then he started to push it in. I’m confused he stopped half way and asked if I was ok with this which I said no. He stopped immediately and said sorry. He cuddled me and all but I feel violated. He knows how I feel on the subject. Why would he do it? He’s a good guy but I feel scared of him. I don’t want to be. Was this unintended assault and if so how do I heal these feelings so I can continue our relationship. He really is a nice guy

Please please please help I can’t sleep anymore and feel gross. I don’t know if I’m overreacting or what.

Me and a bunch of people were sleeping at someone’s house after a party and a boy started touching me (and yes I mean everywhere but over my clothes). I was still drunk and wasn’t completely aware and I was scared so I pretended to be asleep. I didn’t say no, he thought I was sleeping, but I also didn’t give my consent. Is this sexual assault even though I didn’t do anything to stop him?

I’m terrified that I might be pregnant. I switched period tracking (I’m on a 35 day cycle) and I’m so scared. He switched condoms halfway through because he was embarrassed that he had already … so he didn’t tell me during that time idk if the condom slipped or anything but he got another and again, I don’t know if it was clean. It was spermicide but still there are failure statistics. I have 8 days until my next period and my left boob just developed this pain that goes away but comes back in one pulse every once. I can’t remember ever feeling that before. I’m a college freshman and have no money, the guy is a friend who I shouldn’t have slept with but obviously that’s too late. And my parents would eternally shame me if told them about this. I don’t know what to do if I am, maybe I just need someone to tell me to calm down. But I’m freaking out.

Let me start by saying that I’m not typically sexually attracted to guys. (message edited due to content). I just don’t know what to do.